How to Deal With Narcissistic People
How To Deal With Narcissistic People And Protect Yourself From Them
Knowing how to deal with narcissistic people can be very difficult because their behaviors are often camouflaged very successfully as they pursue their obsessive interest in themselves, often by means of deception, pretense and emotional abuse.
Most of us, with our normal personalities, enter relationships hoping for a healthy, supportive, giving partnership where there is mutual love, respect, and long lasting fulfillment.
With two emotionally stable, healthy people who are truly committed to and who are willing to invest in one another, this scenario is very much within the realms of possibility.
However, there are other instances where a partner's behavior makes this almost impossible. It often feels as if no amount of effort seems to change anything for the better and that one partner's actions consistently seems hurtful, bewildering and emotionally draining, and seriously lowering the partners confidence and self esteem.
One possible reason for this phenomenon is a personality disorder such as narcissism. Certain people are psychologically "hard wired" in such a way that close personal relationships become very problematic. Therefore please take the time today to learn how to deal with narcissistic people.
Know the Signs
Here are 7 of the common signs of narcissism.
1. He / she displays a lack of empathy. As you spend more time investing in your partner, you may notice that he / she seems to be unable to put him / herself in someone else's place emotionally. This often leads to callous and self serving behavior.
2. Your partner will often show a willingness to exploit other people. You may see that your partner has little qualms about stepping on other people if it benefits him / her.
3. Idealized thinking is often a prevalent theme. Your partner might put others, including you, on a pedestal, only to completely discard or describe you as worthless later on down the track. He / she often fantasizes about the perfect love, beauty, or power, and feels he / she has a right to it.
4. Having a grandiose sense of self worth is very common. Your partner might exaggerate his / her accomplishments and expect to associate with other 'high level' people. This often leads to feelings of superiority, a haughty attitude and /or excessive expectations.
5. Your partner will often exhibit an excessive sense of entitlement. He / she may feel as if preferential treatment ought to come her / his way as of right.
6. Your partner will most often crave admiration and praise to the point that it becomes almost like a drug. This drug has been termed 'narcissistic supply' and a narcissist most often goes to excessive lengths to obtain it.
7. He / she may often be very jealous of the accomplishments of others, and even become angry at the successes of others who then take the focus away from her / him.
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Learn How To Protect Yourself
In order to protect yourself from people like this, use the signs of narcissism listed in this article to discern whether someone in your life may be narcissistic.
Then do whatever you have to do in order to protect yourself from being a victim of this person and their insanity.
Read as much as you can. Educate yourself. It's important to learn how to deal with narcissistic people! Then take the steps necessary to protect yourself and your children (if they are affected).
Sometimes this means getting away from these people all together, and sometimes you can have milder but distant contact.
The most important thing to remember in dealing with these people is that it is them who has the problem, not you.
All the experienced experts in preventing narcissistic abuse make two vital recommendations:
1) If at all possible, walk away (leave) your narcissistic abuser.
2) If that's not possible due to constraints of your employment, wider family, children or love, you must, repeat must, take advantage of the support and resources available to learn how to deal with a narcissist, and in doing so discover how to protect yourself from ongoing emotional, mental and sometimes physical harm.
Please take action TODAY to protect yourself!