I've been an online writer for over eight years. I love writing about relationships, love, romance, and flirting.
What do women hate about men? Which habits of a husband irritate his wife? Which aspects of a boyfriend's behavior does his girlfriend hate? Whether it is in a marriage or a relationship, inside of the bedroom or outside of it, in public or in private—here are some of the most common things that women hate about men in a relationship.
It should be noted that not all women hate the same things, and not all men do the things on this list.
15 Things Guys Do That Women Hate
- Hogging the TV remote
- Being completely unromantic and ignoring expressing love
- Zoning out and being a selective listener
- Not putting in effort to turn on their partners and taking sex for granted
- Still talking to his ex
- Ogling at other women
- Making a mess and leaving stuff all over the house
- Unwilling to compromise with activities and interests
- Turning into fitness freaks
- Women hate inflated male egos in a relationship
- Being disgusted by women's hygiene issues
- Slouching on the couch for the entire weekend
- Excessive burping and farting
- Comparing her to his mother or ex
- Obsession with gadgets and machines
1. Hogging the TV remote
Watching TV together can either be extremely romantic or extremely annoying for a woman, depending on whether or not her man is willing to share the remote.
Just as she tolerates the never-ending sports games and mind-numbing action movies, she expects her man to occasionally be willing to cuddle and watch a romantic comedy or TV show about fashion (or whatever types of flicks she happens to enjoy). Relationships are about trade-offs and compromise.
2. Being completely unromantic and ignoring expressing love
One of the main things that frustrates women about men is actually one of the most innocent aspects of a relationship. Women can feel resentful when the men in their lives forget to be romantic or take the romance in a relationship for granted.
Women don't expect men to constantly behave like bubbly teenagers in love, but regular expression of love and romance in the form of stealing kisses, sudden warm cuddles, unexpected flowers, and compliments is greatly appreciated.
3. Zoning out and being a selective listener
Selective listening is a habit that women despise in men. Women feel frustrated and ignored when their guys simply zone out during a conversation that does not interest them.
It's insulting when a guy has an animated conversation with his partner when they are talking about gadgets or cars but zones out completely when she starts talking about her new hairstyle or something else that's interesting to her.
4. Not putting in effort to turn on their partners and taking sex for granted
A woman can be upset if her boyfriend or husband expects sex even when she has had a terrible day at work or the couple has been fighting continuously.
Women correspond their sexual life with their day-to-day lives. Her sexual quotient is directly impacted by things that happen around her at work and home. This is why a woman will expect her boyfriend or husband to make an effort to turn her on, instead of just taking sex for granted.
5. Still talking to his ex
A woman hates it when her boyfriend or husband keeps in touch with his ex. She might feel pangs of jealousy over a partner's ex regardless of how secure and confident she is about herself and the relationship.
Does he still miss his ex? Is it possible that he still has feelings for her? Does he share chemistry with her that's stronger than their own? These questions are bound to resonate in a woman's mind if her partner continues to be in touch with his ex.
6. Ogling at other women
Women get really irritated when their men stare at other women. It is a direct insult to them on many levels. Men usually blame their stares on genetics and an odd glance, but women are well aware of the real reason behind their men's ogling ways.
A woman will have lots of respect for her guy if he keeps his eyes to himself when an attractive girl in sexy clothes walks by.
7. Making a mess and leaving stuff all over the house
A common cause of arguments between married couples is the man's messy ways around the house. Coins scattered at different corners of the house, dirty clothes hiding in sneaky corners of the bedroom, and messy bathrooms tend to irritate a woman.
Women tend to think of a guy's messy habits as a direct insult to her and disregard for her efforts to keep the house clean. It should be noted that there is usually one person in the relationship who's messier than the other—and sometimes it's the woman.
8. Unwillingness to compromise with activities and interests
Women hate it when a man expects his girlfriend to tag along to watch the latest Transformers flick but makes a disgusting face when asked to tag along with her to shop for shoes. In a relationship, a woman wants her man to show as much interest in her activities as she shows in his.
When a man fails to reciprocate interest in the things that his girlfriend or wife likes doing, she will feel unfairly treated. She does not expect him to come with her every time she steps out to do girly things, but accompanying her on a shopping trip or taking her to the theater once in a while is definitely appreciated.
9. Turning into fitness freaks
Women really appreciate it when their guys stay fit after the wedding, whether it is in the form of regular trips to the gym or taking time to hop on the treadmill at home for a quick cardio workout. She will herself be inspired by his ripped body, which can help her find the motivation to lose weight (if needed) and stay healthy.
But this source of motivation can easily turn into a source of frustration if her man takes fitness to an extreme level. Unless her man is a professional in the field of bodybuilding or fitness, she may see no reason why he should be spending thousands of dollars on fitness supplements, following crazy diets, and spending all his free time in the gym in an effort to try to look extremely buff.
10. Women hate inflated male egos in a relationship
Women want men to leave their egos behind when they are together because a woman's personal space has no place for her partner's ego. Sometimes men don't understand that their behavior toward their women doesn't need to be as macho as it is when they are with co-workers, colleagues, or friends.
A caring girlfriend or wife will lovingly stroke her man's ego. But she does that expecting her man to show off his inflated ego in front of others and not in front of her.
11. Being disgusted by women's hygiene issues
Women want their men to be more accepting of all women's hygiene issues, including hair removal and periods. Men typically like to steer clear of anything that has to do with these things, including hair removing tools and accessories, tampons, or special underwear.
It is common in relationships and popular culture for men to show disgust when it comes to women's hygiene issues. For example, if a woman doesn't make a face when her man shaves his stubble, why should a man make a face at the sight of a woman shaving her legs?
12. Slouching on the couch for the entire weekend
Monday morning to Friday afternoon is generally the boring part of the week. Work and studying can take the fun out of life on weekdays. But Friday evening, Saturday, and Sunday are supposed to be the fun days of the week.
Women absolutely hate it when their men just want to sit on the couch, watch TV, play video games, watch movies, and eat ridiculous amounts of home-delivered pizza. Women expect their men to strike a nice balance between relaxing like a slob and doing something fun over the weekend.
Of course, this isn't necessarily true for every couple. Some couples love to stay in every weekend and veg out to recover from the stressful weekend. Again, it's important to make compromises when it comes to your partner's interests and hobbies.
13. Excessive burping and farting
Girls expect their guys to excuse themselves and pass gas in private when possible. Women hate it when their guys unapologetically burp loudly or fart in front of them. It is gross and shows bad manners.
High levels of familiarity and comfort should not be taken for granted. A married couple or guys are girls who have been in a relationship for a long time may have been at the receiving end of an untimely burp or fart. But this is supposed to be a one-off, not a regular occurrence.
14. Comparing her to his mother or ex
A woman can feel devalued if her guy compares her to his mother or his ex. It can make a woman feel like she's not the most important female figure in his life. Women understand that a man's mother is important to him, but constantly being compared to her mother-in-law can be exhausting and make her feel like you don't value her as an individual in her own right.
Such comparisons are commonly made by men when they compare their woman's cooking with their mother's or point out an annoying habit that their ex-girlfriend did not have. Most of these comparisons may be made unintentionally or in a fit of rage, but the damage is done irrespective of whether or not it was deliberate.
15. Obsession with gadgets and machines
Men can be obsessed with gadgets, cars, and other "boy's stuff" to an extent that a passionate hobby turns into a gripping obsession that takes over their lives. For example, a man who is obsessed with tinkering with his motorcycle may be spending every second of his free time in the garage.
His obsessive hobby may also be draining hundreds or thousands of dollars. His wife or girlfriend will hate the fact that she, and the relationship, is the second priority in his life.
Ian Staj on April 30, 2020:
Another thing I wanted to add for both men and women looking for romantic relationships - hang in there! You WILL find a romantic partner. God put the desire for a romantic partner in your heart, mind, and soul. And guess what? God WILL see it through. No matter how bad your past relationships with the opposite sex have been, it's actually irrelevant. Keep looking for the romantic partner, and just don't get desperate about it. Much love to everyone here. Peace.
Ian Staj on April 29, 2020:
Human relationships are complicated in general, and they can be very complicated at times. With that said, I always appreciate advice from relationship writers about how to better approach relationships. The majority of my relationships with women haven't gone the way I wanted them to. Then again, there haven't been that many female relationships to begin with. However, I'm at a point where I'm honestly not sure whether I should give up completely on romantic relationships, or pursue them with more vigor than I have before. Yes, I do want a romantic relationship with a woman. But, at the same time, I'm tired of trying to get a girlfriend, and failing. Anyway, thanks for writing this article, and thanks for reading my post. Maybe it will help someone else who's going through similar things. Peace.
Mk on February 04, 2019:
Very well written, totally can relate to how annoying all these points to women..Additional 16. Women hates overly dominating men in a relationship too especially those who have wrong perception that marriage is a one men show and please ...husbands needs to stop involving their mothers and sister and friends in their marital private matters...
John on January 08, 2019:
There's a simple solution to this - avoid all women.
Osali on May 26, 2018:
my boyfriend dont want me to work what do i do
Lauren on September 29, 2017:
Yes and guys I might add that this isn't just limited to marriage and relationships it also aplys to friendships too your friends that are girls will hate it if you treat them like a second priority too I would know I'm in that situation right now and thinking about ending the friendship
JL on September 11, 2017:
I work and go to school and full time Dad of two 13 yr old I have custody of 3 yr old with my woman .so couch slouch is the main rift and she doesn't want me to work out or work my second job she is pregnant with my 1st daughter so I can't win for loosing .
Dub on April 18, 2017:
Well that list just written off 90 % of all men.
OMGirdle from United States on June 07, 2013:
You've highlighted some good points. We need to learn we are two different animals. Each breed, men and women, have their own make up which is why we are either one or the other. One of the biggest mistakes we make as women is we think men will change into what we want them to be. Not so. The man you experience before you marry or live together is the same man you will get once the union has commenced.
What we need to do is recognize the difference, discuss them for awareness and see what we can do to harmonize our differences into a healthy togetherness. It's really not about the remote. It's more about doing something we both enjoy. Just like it's not about the fitness club. It's about why aren't you spending time with me or why aren't you saving money to take me on a trip. We just need to learn how to better live with each other in respect of who/what we are. Good Hub!
Special Note: I think you duplicated the "sex" capsule.
Larry Wall on June 04, 2013:
Women are guilty of comparing husbands to dads and exes, so lets me fair about things.
I never forced my wife to go to any event and I have never gone shoe shopping with her. I have been with her when she has seen a pair of shoes, tried them on and purchased them. I have no problem with that. I do have a problem sitting in a chair while a woman tries on 10 pairs of shoes.
If you look at most of your points from the male perspective, you might understand problems men have with women.
I have purchased night gowns for my wife, the female customers in that department to not like men in their domain.
Women have "those times" that many men, especially young husbands do not understand.
Also, it is somewhat a cruel stroke of faith, a woman after passing her child bearing years may have an increase interest in sex, while men, hit their peak at a very young age and watch it recede much like their hairlines.
It is a tough world for all of us. Talking to each other is the best way to overcome all the issues you have raised.
Of course, what do I know. I a man who has only been married for almost 33 years to the same woman and would not have it any other way.
Fuller-Life from Washington, DC on June 04, 2013:
I think the "comparison with the deadly two" is the most damaging. All the points apply to men as well as women. If you take a man for granted, you lose him. Men are not just interested in sex, it's a myth that has been popularized by talking heads. If a man is disrespected and unappreciated his sex drive dwindles. Don't be shocked if he goes on a prolonged hiatus.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 04, 2013:
''Comparison with the deadly two: Mothers and exes'' and every other point mentioned here really is annoying to me.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 03, 2013:
Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. When it comes to relationships each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a "better shopper".
Not all men or women are alike. Therefore it's up to the individual to select the mate that is "right" for them. For every behavior one person may disapprove of another may not find it to be that big of a deal.
Ultimately everyone is looking for someone who will love and appreciate them for who they are. Instead of us trying to get others to "change" we are better off finding someone who (already) is the kind of person we want to be with.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. One man's opinion! :-)