Are You Being Cheated On? Check For These Signs . . .
Are Your Suspicions of Cheating Real?
So...you have that sneaky suspicion that your partner is cheating. It's been eating at you and making you absolutely crazy! The very thought that the person you love and trust is being unfaithful can stress you out, make you mistrust every move your partner makes, and force you to have to know the truth...no matter what it takes. In sorts, you become an investigator...questioning his/her every move. So how do you know for sure if your suspicions of cheating are real without being possessive or sounding psychotic? You look for the warning signs and trust your gut instinct using some of the tips below.
Hint: these are not foolproof steps! There is a chance that any unusual behavior from your partner has an explanation. However, using these tricks may help to bring you to a place of peace if you are having multiple warning signs of cheating from your partner.
Does It Seem Your Partner is Never Home?
One way to find out if your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating is to recognize if he or she is staying out late, not coming home on time, or spending overnights elsewhere often. Many people use the excuse that they are working late, have to go out of town for meetings, or are doing something for a friend, family member, or anyone else they are close to.
When excuses start arising often for reasons a partner is not staying home a lot, you may want to worry about him or her being unfaithful. A cheating partner will not want to be home much, either out of guilt or to spend time with the person they are cheating with. If your partner is leaving home four or more times a week, is may indicate that he or she is having an affair.
Have Your Found Strange Numbers or Names Laying Around?
When a partner is cheating, he or she will usually have numbers or unusual contact information on them that you’ve never seen before. Your partner may also slip up easily and leave this information laying around if he or she is cheating. Trying to live a double life isn’t easy and when someone is cheating, they are unable to keep up the constant charade without accidentally leaving a trail. Check your partner’s pockets in his or her clothing or wallet. Check their cell phone for numbers or contact information that may look odd to you.
A word of advice: you need to be cautious when doing this so as not to get caught, and yes…it is sneaky. But, if you have a real concern that your partner is being unfaithful, you may have to go to extremes to find out if you are truly being cheated on.
Does Your Partner Act Cold or Distant With You?
One way to tell if a partner is cheating is by how he or she acts towards you when they are home or out in public. An unhappy partner who is being unfaithful will usually show signs of pushing you away. Notice if your partner is acting different, being less affectionate, or snapping at you over little things. Another way to tell if your partner is cheating is to ask him or her "what is wrong?".
If you get the cold shoulder, they get upset, or they act defensive, your partner may be being unfaithful to you. Though there is the possibility that something else could be wrong, a cold shoulder is a pretty good indication that there is trouble in your relationship. This is especially true if you are the only one showing affection and appreciation and receiving little to nothing in return.
Are People Who Know You Well Telling You Your Partner is Cheating?
Hearing stories that your partner is being unfaithful is never easy, but these "rumors" should be considered if you are being told by more than just one person or a reliable source. Sometimes people on the outside see things that we don’t recognize or want to believe. No, gossip is not always true and doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner is cheating. However, if the people telling you your partner is being unfaithful are those that love and care about you, you may want to consider the stories and confront your boyfriend with them.
Often times, we love someone so much that we don’t want to see the bad in them and this makes us oblivious to the truth. But, if you want to know if your partner is cheating, you probably should be open to the stories you are hearing if you trust the people who are telling them. When friends or family tell you that they are hearing your partner is cheating on you, they just might know more than you because they are seeing things with non-biased eyes.
When All Else Fails...Ask Your Partner Straight Up!
The most daring of things you can do it to ask your partner point blank if he or she is cheating, but you may be surprised at their reaction. You will either get the truth out of guilt or see their defensiveness heighten. Beware, however, when taking this step to find out if your partner is cheating because it could start a fight. If your boyfriend or girlfriend becomes defensive, avoids the question, or walks away, you may have your answer about their unfaithfulness.
A partner who is cheating will have an unusual reaction to the question of cheating. He or she will either yell and get upset, become nervous and antsy, or avoid the question altogether by talking about something else. However, if your partner talks about your feelings with you and is understanding about your concerns, you probably have nothing to worry about and can feel safe knowing your partner is being faithful to you. Sometimes, the best way to find out if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating is just to talk to them about it. Trust your gut feeling about their reaction and you can usually tell if something is wrong or if you are getting the entire truth.
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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.