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13 Signs That He Doesn't Love You Anymore

Updated on April 08, 2015
Signs he doesn't love you anymore
Signs he doesn't love you anymore | Source

If my boyfriend stops replying to my cute texts, is it a sign that he doesn't love me anymore? If he says he wants more space, does it mean he wants to break up with me? If my guy has stopped saying, "I love you," does it mean he doesn't have feelings for me anymore?

Stop assuming and read this article, which discusses some of the everyday signs that show that he isn't interested in you or the relationship any longer.

1) Your Boyfriend Suddenly Starts Demanding Space in the Relationship

Your boyfriend really shouldn't be asking for more space in your relationship if there have not been any changes in the way either of you behave. His demands to be left alone could be because he doesn't enjoy being with you the same way that he did before.

Calmly ask your guy why he wants more space. If he says something specific, deal with it and get it over with. But if he says something vague and has no clear reasons why he suddenly wants you to take a step back, his love for you may be fizzling out.

2) He Starts Comparing You to Other Girls

A guy should never say something to a girl that makes her feel less beautiful, less talented, or less of a woman than someone else. The slightest hints of comparisons made between you and any other girl should be a warning sign.

Comparing your behavior, looks, or any other aspect of personality with another woman suggests a deep-rooted resentment driving a sense of frustration. Here are some examples of how a guy's cruel words may mean that he is falling out of love with his girl:

  • Why can't you dress like her?
  • She carries such a lot of confidence when she speaks, why can't you do the same?
  • Maybe you should learn a thing or two about style from her.
  • You are such a jealous girlfriend, why can't you be like my best friend's girl? She is always relaxed and calm.

If your guy does this once, let him know that you will not tolerate being compared to another girl. Ask him how he would feel if you compared him with another guy. And if he still continues to do so, it may be a sign that he doesn't love you the same way he used to.

3) He Stops Replying to Your Texts or Takes a Long Time to Reply

Has he stopped replying to your texts? It could be a sign that he's not that into you.
Has he stopped replying to your texts? It could be a sign that he's not that into you. | Source

One of the first signs that your boyfriend is really beginning to lose his feelings for you is when he stops replying to your texts. This is the moment when he is out with his friends, he gets a beep on his phone, and he makes a dirty face when he sees that it is a text from you.

You will immediately notice this twist in his behavior because he will suddenly start taking longer than usual to reply to your texts. In the beginning, he will have all sorts of excuses for taking such a long time. But after a point, he will simply get irritated and lose his temper every time you ask him why he took so long. This is the moment when you must realize that the love in your relationship has been taken down a notch.

4) Your Boyfriend Starts Spending Most of His Time with His Friends

Everyday relationship problems, fights, and arguments often drive a couple apart to the point where they stop hanging out with each other. But usually this distance is temporary, lasting only until the silly arguments have been sorted out.

If your boyfriend has cut down on the time he spends with you and increased the amount of time he hangs out with his buddies, ask him if something is bothering him. If he is doing it unknowingly, he will do whatever he can to make you feel that nothing is wrong.

On the other hand, if he is deliberately avoiding you because he doesn't feel the same way about you anymore, he will fumble for a reason. Take this as a sign that his love for you is on the decline.

5) He Starts Becoming Extremely Selfish in the Relationship

Does he only care about his work/routine and refuse to recognize that you need attention as well?
Does he only care about his work/routine and refuse to recognize that you need attention as well? | Source

When a guy starts losing interest in his relationship, his behavior will likely take a very selfish turn. He will become more inconsiderate and self-centered in his interactions with you. Here are some of the classic signs you should watch out for.

  • He starts becoming extremely selfish in bed.
  • All he cares about is his routine, his studies, his work, and his friends.
  • He stops asking you for your opinion on where you both go out on dates.
  • He doesn't acknowledge his self-centered behavior even after you have pointed it out to him.

6) He Gets Irritated When You Start a Mushy Conversation

Mushy conversations and cute names are a playful part of a couple's love life. These things slowly taper off as the puppy-love effect wears off, but they still remain deep-rooted in everyday behavior.

Your guy's annoyance may be justified if you overdo it by calling him cute names all day long. But an overall aversion to anything lovey-dovey can be a sign that he is no longer invested in the relationship.

7) Your Boyfriend Has Stopped Saying "I Love You"

A guy and a girl usually start saying "I love you" to each other once they move past the first phase of dating. If your relationship developed into the "I love you" stage a long time ago, there is no reason why your boyfriend should suddenly feel averse to saying these three beautiful words to you. As cheesy as it sounds, if he stops saying them, it is a strong sign that that he isn't as into you as he was before.

8) He Doesn't Bother to Comfort You, Even When You Are Sad

If he doesn't comfort you when you're feeling blue, he's not reacting as a boyfriend should.
If he doesn't comfort you when you're feeling blue, he's not reacting as a boyfriend should. | Source

A man who is in love will always recognize when his loved one is sad or in distress, and will do whatever it takes to bring a smile back to her face. This is true regardless of how much a couple fights or argues. No guy can call himself a boyfriend if he does nothing when he knows that something is bothering his girl.

Hugging a girl when she looks sad and rubbing her shoulders when she is down should be a boyfriend's instincts. If your guy doesn't do any of that and turns a blind eye even when you are feeling blue, it can be a sign that he doesn't love you with the same intensity that he did before.

9) Your Boyfriend Digs up Regrettable Incidents from Your Past

Everyone knows how painful it feels when someone reminds you of memories that have scarred you emotional and psychologically. It takes a person many years to forget someone, let go of bitter memories, and move on from the regret of doing stupid things.

Your boyfriend has no reason to dig up painful memories from your past and fling them at you when you have an argument. This is one boundary that partners must not cross, because it can be very damaging to someone's confidence.

If your guy has recently started slinging your past regrets at you with a hurtful intent, his feelings for you may have already bottomed out.

10) He Doesn't Flirt with You Any More

Flirting speaks volumes about the chemistry a couple shares. No matter how long you have been in the same relationship, your boyfriend should typically be flirting with you by:

  • Giving you compliments when you wear something new
  • Picking random moments to tell you how beautiful you are
  • Staring at you and looking into your eyes when you are both alone
  • Make you feel sexy by telling you how attractive you are

Of course, your guy isn't expected to be Prince Charming all the time. But he should be taking the initiative to start such romantic conversations every now and then.

11) The Spark of Physical Intimacy Fizzles Out in Your Relationship

Snuggling and physical contact is normal in a relationship. If you find yourselves maintaining your distance from one another, that's a sign something is wrong.
Snuggling and physical contact is normal in a relationship. If you find yourselves maintaining your distance from one another, that's a sign something is wrong. | Source

When a guy starts falling out of love, it will reflect in his hugs, kisses, and cuddles. The chemistry of physical intimacy that you share with your guy says a lot about your relationship. Ask yourself these questions if you think that your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore:

  • Do you still share those long hugs that you used to when you started dating him?
  • Does your boyfriend cuddle you when you are all by yourselves?

Thinking about these things will immediately give you a fair idea of whether your boyfriend is still totally into you or has gotten bored in the relationship. Another sign of a lack of emotional connect is when your sex life is either non-existent or it has gotten to the point that it feels mundane.

12) He Gets Angry and Loses His Cool without Any Reason

People lose their tempers for any number of reasons, including doing poorly at school, having rough times at work, feeling bullied, or going through family problems.

If your boyfriend seems to be edgy all the time and loses his temper at non-issues, try to find out the reason for his anger. If you can't seem to pin-point any specific causes, his random flare-ups could simply mean that he is irritated by you and the relationship.

13) Your Boyfriend Suddenly Starts Getting Annoyed by Some of Your Habits

Has your boyfriend recently started pointing out little stuff in your everyday behavior, claiming that you annoy him endlessly? Ask yourself these questions if he suddenly feels that some of your habits are driving him crazy.

  • Did you have these habits before you met him?
  • Had any of those habits created problems in the relationship before?

Make a mental note of whether you have had those habits since the beginning of your relationship. If you did, then why is your boyfriend suddenly becoming averse to them? Ask the same question to him. If he doesn't have an answer for you, the real answer probably lies in his heart, which doesn't beat for you anymore.


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    • rosa 22 months ago

      9 of 13. Not that I needed the confirmation.

    • lucy 22 months ago

      Awww i feel same rosa

    • penny 22 months ago

      5 out of 9 are happening :(

    • Emma 21 months ago

      7/15 are happening :(

    • Nicole 21 months ago

      Yea I guess it's true then.

      Almost all these are happening

    • kali 21 months ago

      10 out of thirteen. Ouch

    • Michelle 21 months ago

      11 out of 13

    • Ashley 20 months ago

      7/13 Wow. I guess I just am not ready to give him up yet.we have 3 beautiful girls together. I can't just kiss 6 years away.

    • HushbBY 19 months ago

      Wow. 9/13

    • Sarah 19 months ago

      10/13... I guess it's over for us :/

    • Unknown 19 months ago

      13/13 wow! :(

    • Hana 19 months ago

      2/13 but I still feel so unsure. He doesn't say I love you as much but he said he absolutely doesn't want to break up. Am I just over thinking?

    • Eve 19 months ago

      9 out of 13. Thats not good.

    • AngelHeart 18 months ago

      12/13 I thought it would work between us. Maybe I'm wrong. I feel so empty I don't know what to do. Should I ask him about e feels about me??? What should I do?!

    • Maria 18 months ago

      1/13 I feel a little better

    • Nicky 18 months ago

      7/13.... Uh oh

    • never mind. 16 months ago

      10/13 nd we are done with this now! Its been only 5 months... But its ok! Im strong enough to let him go! a vacation... Nd im ok

    • Someone 15 months ago

      4/13 idk i'm so confused

    • no name 15 months ago

      3, 5 through 13 are happening to me but I have been the same since day 1 and we have been together for a year now

    • Shiela23 14 months ago

      Number 2 happens all the time. I feel so down but I love him

    • anonymous 13 months ago

      7/13.. I feel my son is going to blame me when hes older for his dad leaving. ):

    • Anon12/25/15 13 months ago

      8/15 but im done too so its really a non-issue at this point

    • Suz 10 months ago

      8/13 so sad

    • Emma Murphy 10 months ago

      All are happening oh nooooooooooooooooooooooo

    • Maya 9 months ago

      10/13 i feel so alone and like there is only me in this relationship i have to beg to cuddling and sleep he start telling me he fed up of hugging up

    • cindy xie 6 months ago

      everything.... and we been dating for 3 and half years already.

    • Viv 6 months ago

      Almost all happening with me..Whatever mentioned above..But the difference is that in my case it's SHE who is doing everything and being a Boy i still want that she should come back in my life

    • Fray 6 months ago

      All are happening and we have been together for almost 3 years and i still cant believe he turned out to be this kind of person :(

    • Aliq 5 months ago

      I'm so sorry all of you are going thru such painful times. I am really sad too. Idk what's gonna happen.

    • Mouse77 5 months ago

      I started questioning myself "wats wrong with me"... "its like i've got the plague or something".. deep down inside i know it's not me but that's the way he has got me thinking..

    • Raw 5 months ago

      11/13. The one that says he doesn't comfort you when sad. Hit me hard. I cried in front of him he looked at me like I was talking about shopping. Then asked what super market are we going to. I'll never forget that day. It hurt me so much.

    • Otey 5 months ago

      Are the all happening ?

      Oh my God I just can't take this I keep on asking if am still his girl because we hardly talk and he doesn't reply

    • Otey 5 months ago

      Are the all happening ?

      Oh my God I just can't take this I keep on asking if am still his girl because we hardly talk and he doesn't reply

    • bean 5 months ago


      i tried to ask him but he doesn't want to give any answer. instead he told me that i know what i should do if i'm tired of the relationship.. we're dating for 3 years now. and 6 months in long distance relationship. i really feel hopeless cause i thought he was the one i'm going to spend the rest of my life with. i think i have already lost the love of my life.

    • Slay1 5 months ago

      Same in a long distance relationship for 2 years now, we argue for no reason & he doesnt say "i love u" as much as before :'( don't know what to do..I really love him

    • Evy 5 months ago

      All of the above!! Smh

    • Kate 5 months ago

      Well that seals that.

    • Mellisa 5 months ago

      1/15 are happening

    • Shez 5 months ago

      5 to 15... Can't be arsed anymore so fed up with it all. It's starting to make me ill

    • hamna fayaz 5 months ago

      13 out of 13 :(

    • Anna 5 months ago

      11/13 :( guess it's time to give up, but I love him.

    • 5 months ago

      All of the above happening

    • Molly 5 months ago

      Happened to me all these signs

    • Anonymous 4 months ago

      All are happening.

    • Katherine 4 months ago

      Help me I love him beyond my wildest dreams and have done dpr 17 year but it's turned uncomfortable between us, like he need to say sumic but says mists wrong when I ask, I imitate sex cuddles kisses goodnight txt as he works nights, I just want him to want me, am I pathetic ?

    • Goat 4 months ago

      Xx all

    • laceface83 4 months ago

      All of them...7yrs still working to repair it i can't give up on him!

    • Leorah ross 4 months ago

      2.7.8..11 he doesn't love he hardly looks at me I should take control of my life... I'm tired of feeling this way alone sad and miserable.

    • Tam 4 months ago

      All are happening;(

    • dd 4 months ago

      all of them. but he is trying to work on them which is even worse coz i can see its something he is forcing on himself to make this relation work but not something that comes naturally to him. or am i too sensitive to accept the fact that he really does need space?? confused ..

    • imma 3 months ago

      It seems like you know but thank you because atleast I know where I stand.

    • Sad 3 months ago

      My bf doesn't really talk to me as much now he talks to my friend way more than me.

    • CeCe 3 months ago

      6 :/

    • Jaz 3 months ago

      12/13 - We lost our baby in July and I am still mourning but he doesn't comfort me in anyway. He tells me it's my fault. Now he tells me he's sick of me, tired of this, doesn't love me and doent care about me. 4 months ago he asked me to move to Perth with him so we have 2more days in this house before we have to move out and sell up and drops this on me! I'm so broken and torn apart!

    • lavanya 3 months ago

      13/13 great.... I wish if u write this article 11 yrs before...u knw what's make me more frustrated that from a very first day I know this, he is just taking an advantage never ever loves me..if I have a wish to be come true I will generally say I want to move back to that time and kicks that bastard out of my life I want to erase him permanently from my life from this world too...

    • lavanya 3 months ago

      13/13 great.... I wish if u write this article 11 yrs before...u knw what's make me more frustrated that from a very first day I know this, he is just taking an advantage never ever loves me..if I have a wish to be come true I will generally say I want to move back to that time and kicks that bastard out of my life I want to erase him permanently from my life from this world too...

    • beyskey 3 months ago

      13/13 whoaa it was so hard for me to believe that he doesnt love me anymore, like i need to talk to my friends and parents to reassure me about that..but i think yeah this is it, he just scared to lost me and taking an advantage from me..whoa

    • sony 3 months ago

      actually the article is very write but i have a question that i luv my best friend how i propose him ...................................

    • NaTalia 3 months ago

      13/13 I'm considering killing myself

    • Shirley Caesar 3 months ago

      I acted so badly I am ashamed of myself. I never thought I would see the day where he would be fighting to get me back but that is just exactly what happened once I ordered a spell from ALFRED HEALING HOME. After following the instruction of Dr. Alfred which was very simple for me, my ex boyfriend came back asking to be with me faster than the time i thought this was gonna take . Furthermore our relationship is now on a more honest, firm and committed footing. Thanks so much ALFRED HEALING HOME.................alfredhealinghome(@), is the email to contact for help. My name, Shirley Caesar.

    • Ana 3 months ago

      wow 11/13 i guess it over then. didnt think it would fuzz out so soon. oh well

    • Morenita 2 months ago

      5/12 :-(.....

    • Tania 2 months ago

      I don't know what to say. I'm just dying. All those r happening. I just him god

    • Sandy 2 months ago

      7/15 wow

    • Melodie 2 months ago

      Women love so hard and take so much from NO good ass men. I'm in the same situation as most of you all... But i'm starting to realize my worth even when my man doesnt. I know now that I love myself more than I love him. Sometimes the very thing that we try to hold on to.. GOD is trying to tear apart. I'm gradually winging myself from this unhealthy relationship even though its ❤ breaking.. But my mom always told me that... Its best to hurt a little now than hurt much more later.

    • Abby 2 months ago

      7/13... wow...

    • RAUL 2 months ago


      I still fear ..

    • Kazumie 2 months ago

      13 here!

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    • Brittney 2 months ago

      A lot of these are accurate... Today was his birthday and he made plans without me. We haven't been intimate in a long time... I had to force him to eat with me on our two-year anniversary - and I had to pay for both of us since I inconvenienced him. But I love him... I don't know what to do - I give him space - let him make fun of me until I cry. Let him laugh at how sensitive I am since he's only joking... But it hurts. He tells people I meet embarrassing things I've done and humiliates me.

      but I can't do it without him. I know it's foolish of me but I'm selfish... I want things to work out so badly I'll turn a blind eye.

    • sad girl 8 weeks ago

      noooooo he dosent like me anymore and he only using me for the attention he only listen to music when i am around and he stop notice me when i have an sexxy outfit or something he starting texting my bestfriends sister a lot i just want to cry but i cant live him he is my everthing and he only say i love u once a day....

    • a loving person 8 weeks ago

      it is happening,

      it hurts so much than i was expecting, didn't know that he can do this.

      now i realize he didn't love me after all.

      its too sad but i have to move on.

      he changed the way he wanted to be and now everything is falling apart

      all the promises and those sweet angelic words. i wish it was never too late, but now its all gone. :'(

    • Deimafi K. k 8 weeks ago

    • Kelly 7 weeks ago

      ive been dating this guy for a month so I'm good none of these are happening to me. I love him with all my heart and some day I want to marry him and have kids!

    • Ray 7 weeks ago

      6/13, 5, 6, 7, 8, 12, and 13. Is this a bad sign? Did I really just move in with someone who might not love me anymore?

    • So sad 6 weeks ago

      All of the above just gotta let him go and let him be him and find someone that will make me happy but until then I'll just wait so so sad

    • Michelle 6 weeks ago

      True I already knew the love was no longer there he actually told me me he don't answer my texts or calls cause he don't care if I get mad or what iam doing i should've excepted the hurtful out of love then now it's just worst his given me every sign possiable that he doesn't want me anymore n to go ahead n move out n I keep thinking we'll maybe but he doesn't come to bed with me anymore he stays at work tell o get up the goes to bed I need to open my eyes n go

    • Majestic 6 weeks ago

      0 outta 13

    • ashi 5 weeks ago

      my bf is doing all of these things. should i break up with him now? what should i do? i feel that he doesn't want me anymore all the time. what can be the resons for this?

    • jass 5 weeks ago

      This is really sad how we look for love and it all worked out at first and then things shifted. Like now what you ask yourself should I leave but yet still love them. Also it sucks how that person gives you fear to be with someone else simply because your afraid it'll happen again:'(

    • Summy 4 weeks ago

      What about if he declines or rejects on hanging out or facetimeimg whih we used to do all the time

    • christine 4 weeks ago

      thank you :'(

    • Summer 4 weeks ago

      7/13.. He usually is always flirting with me and calling me beautiful. He is usually the first one to say I love you. Now I say it and he never say's it back. We were skyping an hour ago and he said he had to leave so I said okay bye love you and he just sat there for like 10 seconds and hung up. I'm starting to feel he doesn't like me no more. Also I have been sad lately about my dad and I tend to show I'm sad when I really am. He just looks and me and doesn't even see if I'm okay :( And lately he has been spending alot of time with his friends more then me. I always ask if he wants to hangout and he just like idk. What does that mean? It just not like it use to be

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    • s. 3 weeks ago

      7 out of 13 .

    • bleh 3 weeks ago

      happen ;(

    • Kim 3 weeks ago

      Ouch! 13/13

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    • Taylor 2 weeks ago

      12 of 13 ;(

    • Teagan 2 weeks ago

      What if he starts going out more often than usual?

    • martha 10 days ago

      8 / 13 :(

    • linda 8 days ago

      10 out of 13

    • Mo 8 days ago

      11 of 13. But I kept chasing him...

      After a year, I let him go

    • TheLegend27 8 days ago

      14/13 how did this happen to me!!! :(

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    • Elizabeth 2 days ago

      5/13. We've been together for a year and 3 months but this whole past month he's been different. I've talked to him about it but he says it has nothing to do with our relationship it's his work. However he keeps taking hours to reply and hangs out with his friends more. Should I be overreacting if he has begun liking a bunch of girls pictures and following a lot of random girls that are hot?

    • jenz 15 hours ago

      9 out of 13 is happening

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