13 Signs That He Doesn't Love You Anymore

Updated on April 8, 2015
Signs he doesn't love you anymore
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If my boyfriend stops replying to my cute texts, is it a sign that he doesn't love me anymore? If he says he wants more space, does it mean he wants to break up with me? If my guy has stopped saying, "I love you," does it mean he doesn't have feelings for me anymore?

Stop assuming and read this article, which discusses some of the everyday signs that show that he isn't interested in you or the relationship any longer.

1) Your Boyfriend Suddenly Starts Demanding Space in the Relationship

Your boyfriend really shouldn't be asking for more space in your relationship if there have not been any changes in the way either of you behave. His demands to be left alone could be because he doesn't enjoy being with you the same way that he did before.

Calmly ask your guy why he wants more space. If he says something specific, deal with it and get it over with. But if he says something vague and has no clear reasons why he suddenly wants you to take a step back, his love for you may be fizzling out.

2) He Starts Comparing You to Other Girls

A guy should never say something to a girl that makes her feel less beautiful, less talented, or less of a woman than someone else. The slightest hints of comparisons made between you and any other girl should be a warning sign.

Comparing your behavior, looks, or any other aspect of personality with another woman suggests a deep-rooted resentment driving a sense of frustration. Here are some examples of how a guy's cruel words may mean that he is falling out of love with his girl:

  • Why can't you dress like her?
  • She carries such a lot of confidence when she speaks, why can't you do the same?
  • Maybe you should learn a thing or two about style from her.
  • You are such a jealous girlfriend, why can't you be like my best friend's girl? She is always relaxed and calm.

If your guy does this once, let him know that you will not tolerate being compared to another girl. Ask him how he would feel if you compared him with another guy. And if he still continues to do so, it may be a sign that he doesn't love you the same way he used to.

3) He Stops Replying to Your Texts or Takes a Long Time to Reply

Has he stopped replying to your texts? It could be a sign that he's not that into you.
Has he stopped replying to your texts? It could be a sign that he's not that into you. | Source

One of the first signs that your boyfriend is really beginning to lose his feelings for you is when he stops replying to your texts. This is the moment when he is out with his friends, he gets a beep on his phone, and he makes a dirty face when he sees that it is a text from you.

You will immediately notice this twist in his behavior because he will suddenly start taking longer than usual to reply to your texts. In the beginning, he will have all sorts of excuses for taking such a long time. But after a point, he will simply get irritated and lose his temper every time you ask him why he took so long. This is the moment when you must realize that the love in your relationship has been taken down a notch.

4) Your Boyfriend Starts Spending Most of His Time with His Friends

Everyday relationship problems, fights, and arguments often drive a couple apart to the point where they stop hanging out with each other. But usually this distance is temporary, lasting only until the silly arguments have been sorted out.

If your boyfriend has cut down on the time he spends with you and increased the amount of time he hangs out with his buddies, ask him if something is bothering him. If he is doing it unknowingly, he will do whatever he can to make you feel that nothing is wrong.

On the other hand, if he is deliberately avoiding you because he doesn't feel the same way about you anymore, he will fumble for a reason. Take this as a sign that his love for you is on the decline.

5) He Starts Becoming Extremely Selfish in the Relationship

Does he only care about his work/routine and refuse to recognize that you need attention as well?
Does he only care about his work/routine and refuse to recognize that you need attention as well? | Source

When a guy starts losing interest in his relationship, his behavior will likely take a very selfish turn. He will become more inconsiderate and self-centered in his interactions with you. Here are some of the classic signs you should watch out for.

  • He starts becoming extremely selfish in bed.
  • All he cares about is his routine, his studies, his work, and his friends.
  • He stops asking you for your opinion on where you both go out on dates.
  • He doesn't acknowledge his self-centered behavior even after you have pointed it out to him.

6) He Gets Irritated When You Start a Mushy Conversation

Mushy conversations and cute names are a playful part of a couple's love life. These things slowly taper off as the puppy-love effect wears off, but they still remain deep-rooted in everyday behavior.

Your guy's annoyance may be justified if you overdo it by calling him cute names all day long. But an overall aversion to anything lovey-dovey can be a sign that he is no longer invested in the relationship.

7) Your Boyfriend Has Stopped Saying "I Love You"

A guy and a girl usually start saying "I love you" to each other once they move past the first phase of dating. If your relationship developed into the "I love you" stage a long time ago, there is no reason why your boyfriend should suddenly feel averse to saying these three beautiful words to you. As cheesy as it sounds, if he stops saying them, it is a strong sign that that he isn't as into you as he was before.

8) He Doesn't Bother to Comfort You, Even When You Are Sad

If he doesn't comfort you when you're feeling blue, he's not reacting as a boyfriend should.
If he doesn't comfort you when you're feeling blue, he's not reacting as a boyfriend should. | Source

A man who is in love will always recognize when his loved one is sad or in distress, and will do whatever it takes to bring a smile back to her face. This is true regardless of how much a couple fights or argues. No guy can call himself a boyfriend if he does nothing when he knows that something is bothering his girl.

Hugging a girl when she looks sad and rubbing her shoulders when she is down should be a boyfriend's instincts. If your guy doesn't do any of that and turns a blind eye even when you are feeling blue, it can be a sign that he doesn't love you with the same intensity that he did before.

9) Your Boyfriend Digs up Regrettable Incidents from Your Past

Everyone knows how painful it feels when someone reminds you of memories that have scarred you emotional and psychologically. It takes a person many years to forget someone, let go of bitter memories, and move on from the regret of doing stupid things.

Your boyfriend has no reason to dig up painful memories from your past and fling them at you when you have an argument. This is one boundary that partners must not cross, because it can be very damaging to someone's confidence.

If your guy has recently started slinging your past regrets at you with a hurtful intent, his feelings for you may have already bottomed out.

10) He Doesn't Flirt with You Any More

Flirting speaks volumes about the chemistry a couple shares. No matter how long you have been in the same relationship, your boyfriend should typically be flirting with you by:

  • Giving you compliments when you wear something new
  • Picking random moments to tell you how beautiful you are
  • Staring at you and looking into your eyes when you are both alone
  • Make you feel sexy by telling you how attractive you are

Of course, your guy isn't expected to be Prince Charming all the time. But he should be taking the initiative to start such romantic conversations every now and then.

11) The Spark of Physical Intimacy Fizzles Out in Your Relationship

Snuggling and physical contact is normal in a relationship. If you find yourselves maintaining your distance from one another, that's a sign something is wrong.
Snuggling and physical contact is normal in a relationship. If you find yourselves maintaining your distance from one another, that's a sign something is wrong. | Source

When a guy starts falling out of love, it will reflect in his hugs, kisses, and cuddles. The chemistry of physical intimacy that you share with your guy says a lot about your relationship. Ask yourself these questions if you think that your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore:

  • Do you still share those long hugs that you used to when you started dating him?
  • Does your boyfriend cuddle you when you are all by yourselves?

Thinking about these things will immediately give you a fair idea of whether your boyfriend is still totally into you or has gotten bored in the relationship. Another sign of a lack of emotional connect is when your sex life is either non-existent or it has gotten to the point that it feels mundane.

12) He Gets Angry and Loses His Cool without Any Reason

People lose their tempers for any number of reasons, including doing poorly at school, having rough times at work, feeling bullied, or going through family problems.

If your boyfriend seems to be edgy all the time and loses his temper at non-issues, try to find out the reason for his anger. If you can't seem to pin-point any specific causes, his random flare-ups could simply mean that he is irritated by you and the relationship.

13) Your Boyfriend Suddenly Starts Getting Annoyed by Some of Your Habits

Has your boyfriend recently started pointing out little stuff in your everyday behavior, claiming that you annoy him endlessly? Ask yourself these questions if he suddenly feels that some of your habits are driving him crazy.

  • Did you have these habits before you met him?
  • Had any of those habits created problems in the relationship before?

Make a mental note of whether you have had those habits since the beginning of your relationship. If you did, then why is your boyfriend suddenly becoming averse to them? Ask the same question to him. If he doesn't have an answer for you, the real answer probably lies in his heart, which doesn't beat for you anymore.

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        Chloe 17 hours ago

        It hurt so much reading these all of them are right except from 1 we’ve been together a yeah and a half and we’ve got a 15 day old baby together and I love him ever so much my first love and i can only see a future with him in it I don’t know if it’s because we spend everyday together except from when he’s in work and don’t have any space or he’s doing it because he likes to get to me or he actually don’t love me

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        Javia 2 days ago

        I really felt like this helped me because I currently i broke up i feel like that anyone who's going through this it is okay just take this advice and move on and be happy with yourself

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        Franchesca 11 days ago

        This is great

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        Laurie 12 days ago

        My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We finally moved in together 2 months ago. He has friends over a lot, which I don't mind. He seems so happy and in high spirits with his friends, but when he's alone with me, I feel like his energy goes way down. He always has this tone of annoyance or disagreement with a lot of the things I say. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to bother vocalizing what's really going on my mind because I know it will instantly turn him off and spark an argument. I feel like I'm a super chill girlfriend and I can't figure out why he's acting this way towards me. For the first 2 years, and even before we moved in, he was an amazing boyfriend. He was always there for me, and my relationship was the last thing in my life that I had to worry about. His only big turn off is that he does not strive professionally nearly as much as I do. He doesn't have any professional or personal plans for the future, and we're both in our early/mid-20s. Before, I didn't mind being patient or looking past his lack of professional ambition because he treated me SO well and truly made me feel happy and loved. But, now that he's treating me as if I'm annoying, or a nuissance, I'm questioning if this is still the right relationship for me. I feel so guilty because he's been so great up until about 2 months ago, and I'm not sure if I'm a bad person for leaving him because of this "phase." Basically, I'm not sure if this is just a phase/slump that he's in - or if he's really over me? Either way, I feel so lonely because of it. And it's even worse that I don't feel comfortable vocalizing these feelings to him at this point.

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        Kellie 13 days ago

        What if your man doesn't want to touch you any more does that mean he not in to me

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        thembi 2 weeks ago

        my boyfriend don't love me anymore don't knw wht to do

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        Nikki 5 weeks ago

        I habe been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he has grown disten just here recatloy and i dont know why

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        quin 6 weeks ago

        how about looking right at you everytime

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        Lexi 6 weeks ago

        So my bf and I started dating we have only seen eacher 3 times in the past due monthse due to our lives being busy and we are both teens and go to different high schools he used to always message me now he doesn't unless I message him sometimes he leaves me on read and he doesn't say I love you anymore or compliment me even though I compliment him all the time

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        Britt 2 months ago

        10 out of 13...

        My boyfriend and I had only been talking for a week when I told him I would be moving for college...then he asked me out and we tried to do the long distance thing. But some family stuff went down and he convinced me that moving in together after only dating for 3 months was a good idea. Now we've been together for almost a year and all we do is fight. When I try to talk with him he tells me I am too intouch with my feelings. And that when he makes comments about wishing I was skinny or had smaller boobs that he's just joking...however I have told him many times that I dont think those jokes are funny...its got so bad that I did try to leave however he just kept telling me how sad that made him and that I needed to come home. But I feel like if we only fight then why should we be in a relationship. It is obvious that neither of us are happy...

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        Deb 2 months ago

        My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. He is the first guy to ever give me a promise ring but yet he seems so distant. I'm not sure if he loves me anymore. The last 3 times that we've tried to had sex, it was difficult and we didnt even finish. One of the times, i even cried before we started because it just felt like a hookup more than love. Tonight we just came back from a movie and went to chickfila. I wanted an ice cream and he just wanted tea. He said i couldnt have ice cream in his brand new car, even the one in a cup because i didnt plan on eating it in there anyways. Long story short, it ended with me getting an ice cream, paying, him yelling at me because he said he was finally happy with me today and yet i managed to screw it up by throwing a fit about not getting my ice cream, which i really didnt, me crying, and now after being here for over 20 minutes and him on his phone, he just asked me what im doing as i type this. Not an "i'm sorry" not an explanation or anything. I just dont know if he loves me anymore

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        Cam 2 months ago

        Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months. It started off like any other relationship. Fun, loving, and lots of attention. Along the way in our relationship there were clear signs tht he was cheating. Like my brother telling me tht he's seen his messages with another girls name with hearts and kissy faces. I adressed him and he made up a lie and said he doesn't talk to her anymore. I just went along with it because I love him tht much to deal with his bullshit. But it started getting worse. At lunch he'd shut me out in his own world on his phone, texting back like 3 hours late or even days. But the whole thing is that I'm a homebody and he always gets cout and about. And when he does he cant help bu to talk to other girls, he's pretty aproachable to other girls so yeah. No the 3rd month in the relationship when he sees me walking his way, he turns around the other way avoiding me completely. I asked him what was wrong and he said its just family problems tht he doesn't wanna talk about, but "he loves me". I thought to myself yeah right you do. But it's been 2 weeks and he's still doing the same shit. Family problems couldn't have lasted that long. Especially if my brother is telling me tht your talking to other girls in class. He's perfectly fine and i know tht for a fact. I feel like he's just waiting for me to break up with him. But idk how to approach him with it. What really bothers me now is tht he doesn't even hug me anymore, kiss me. No love or afffection is shown or felt. And he calls me names tht he'd call his friends now like "Wassup G" an just throwin up the deuce.

        Wow now tht im reading all this, he definantly wants to break up. I have love for him an all but i cant deal with boys tht wanna act like the bitch in the relationship, seriously! After this im not wasting my precious time with anyone else thts on my mfkn life.

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        Dani 2 months ago

        I'm seeing a lot of these signs with my boyfriend...it's a long distance relationship though. He's told me he doesn't know if he feels the same way about me that he used to and I'm confused and hurt and he doesn't tell me that he loves me anymore and I don't know what to do because I care about him so much...help me please

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        Jennifer Herrera 2 months ago

        Okay so my boyfriends very very distant from when we first met.We've been together 2 yrs and Im not feeling Loved like before I guess maybe Its time to break up.He is into Porn way more than me and he is just plain Rude and Just ignores me. Ya Im not feeling or getting any attention or Love

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        Asia 3 months ago

        My bf and I have been together for 2 years we have a 6 month old and I’ll just say before I met him he was very “free spirited” if you know what I mean talking to handfuls of girls at a time & etc. when he met me I definitely changed his life. Helped him focus more on his ambitions and let him see that there are still good females out there with morals. Needles to say when I was 7 months pregnant I did snoop through his phone because he was becoming so distant and I knew something was was off to find out he was on a dating app talking to multiple women (‘none of which he’s never met in person) once confronted his reasoning was he wanted to see if he still had it. After his mom talking to him about How he messed up so bad with me and disappointed her and months of him being in the dog house and me threatening to leave when I was son was finally born he changed forever he was so much for affectionate. We talk everyday like best friends and soulmates staying up late nights playing games cooking together it’s amazing . My best advice would be communicate with ur partner and give them time to change. My bf was never affectionate to anyone he’s ever dated with (due to being hurt in the past and nothing having a great relation ship with his dad) until he met me because I stood my ground and demanded nothing but the best from him. And we have lived together for over a year now I wouldn’t change it for the world. But if you have explained your concerns with them and nothing changes that’s when it’s time to go. Believe me my bf has stated several times his life has been better since he’s met me and he couldn’t see his self with anyone else.

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        Rain 3 months ago

        My boyfriend and I has been together for 11 years. Most of the time he has no work and would be dependent to me. I would always tell him to find a decent job so that we can get married and start a family of our own. And whenever I open this topic he would become disinterested and refuses to find a job of his own. He has many plans, but he would always say that I can finance all of his plans. Whenever I would like to talk something serious about our relationship, he would not listen or would turn away from me. He never gave me any gifts nor any flowers and would say I am too materialistic even if I told him I just want to be given appreciation. He never made an effort to be close to my family. I do all the chores in the house while he just plays all day long on his computer. He never helps and would be angry if I ask him to. We seldom have sex, and whenever I would like to do it, he becomes angry with me. And whenever we do it, he will just be the only one to be satisfied in the end. He never kisses nor embraces me, he just turns around after we have sex. He gets angry whenever I cannot do something for him. And whenever he gets angry he always threaten to break up with me. I love him with all my heart, but I think I'm just getting tired. In the long years we've been together, he never asked me if I'm ok or if I'm doing fine. He never told me to eat my meals or simple gesture of saying good night. Whenever we fight, I was always the one asking for forgiveness. Recently, he's always hotheaded whenever I commit a mistake. Once, he was cursing me and telling me that he will hurt me because of a petty mistake. People see us as the perfect couple, but I am not truly happy because most of the times I know I am crying inside as I am the only trying to maintain this relationship. I want a way out, but thinking of losing him drives me crazy.

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        Kristal Morris 3 months ago

        I was in denial i guess because when i seen this it truly thru me i thought he loves me but to see it writing tore me in two.I read this article to him while i was crying and he said do i have to hear u cry about this all night now.I NEED TO LEAVE i just don't want to be alone.I cry every day because im feeling like crap because he makes me feel like I'm crap.He always is saying shut up he never says anything nice and when he does something nice he throws it my face he. Dont love me i know it now.

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        Birch 3 months ago


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        jazzy 3 months ago

        i still don't get if my boyfriend loves me

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        Flossy Jane 3 months ago

        My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in months. I finally confronted him about it and he said he wants "to cut back on sex because too much of it will ruin our relationship." ( Umm... Why couldn't you have talked to me about that MONTHS ago? )

        I asked a couple friends of mine what their opinion of his answers was, they said he is either no longer interested in me, or he has already interested in someone else or already seeing that person.

        Usually we are pretty close and tell each other everything. But work and life has gotten in the way and I feel like it's really taking a toll on our relationship.

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        A Person 3 months ago

        Today, my boyfriend said to me " I think you are taking it too far when you kiss me" for some reason the flagged up the alarm bells in my head. I feel really upset now. :(

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        Nelia 3 months ago

        I think that he doesn’t live me anymore. He is always irritated when i talk to him gets annoyed by every little that I say doesn’t reply to my texts and barely spends time with me. Over a whole year we went only on one date and since that never again. We didn’t even talk about it though I tried to bring the subject on the table. He no more tells me that he loves me nor does he hug me and this is tearing my heart and I feel so alone. I tried to speak to him about what i’m feeling and he just ignores what I was saying and move on with a new convo. I love him dearly with all my heart and will accept it if he wants us to break up cause I can’t do it anymore but he never talks about breaking up, he never talks about anything anyway.

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        Baby 4 months ago

        I just died again. I am not talking about the boss. I have spent over 2 weeks trying to level up one time and now I have to do it all over again

        I hate you. You are bad luck. Don't talk to me ever again. I don't care about you anymore

        That what he said just now it everyrtime he at work or playing games he gets so mean to me.

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        Mermaid 4 months ago

        I really want my boyfriend to just look at me like he use to and tell me I am beautiful...but he never does any more. He says I can’t make him do something he doesn’t want to do. Never thought I was asking for a lot. I also find he is all about him now and the hell with me. Meanwhile, I am dying to just have him love me and it really feels deep down that it’s not me who he wants.

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        Pride 4 months ago

        I had a missed miscarriage and the day we found out that our baby was no longer alive, I was a mess.. kept up a tough appearance at the clinic but broke when we got home. You would think that if anyone could relate to your grief.. it would be your other half (we were both wanting this child) but he left me on my own, left me swimming in my tear drenched pillow, to see his best friend.. who tf does that? I needed surgery to have the baby removed. He told me he had to work, even though his boss is his dad, who knew of our situation.. who tf does that? I went to the hospital with my mom and had to hold in the tears when I saw other women being held by their men. I knew we were done after that. I will never forgive him and have kicked him to the curb.. even after being together 4yrs.. who tf does that? A woman who refused to be treated like a rag, that's who

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        Rose 4 months ago

        I understand so many of you

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        Sue 4 months ago

        Been through so much of what I have read, and ladies I have some advice. Fuck 'em. Seriously. If they don't love you, love yourself enough and move on. I know this is hard. I have had to do it myself and it can either allow it define who you are, or you redefine your own damn self and move on. After my husband left me and our 12 year old 3 months after I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, I found in the years that followed a strength I never knew I even had. I've always unconsciously leaned towards abusive relationships (yep -a residual from a dysfunctional family) and somewhere along the line this past year, I just decided I don't have to do that anymore. I deserve to have some one love me and I don't have to settle for someone, or twist myself into someone I barely recognize to please a man who just makes me feel bad. I don't have to. I'd rather be alone than settle. I don't say this lightly either - I'm pushing 50. I deserve love and happiness - and so you all of you.

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        Kirsty 4 months ago

        Hi, I've been with my partner 5 years now, everything was OK at the start of our relationship, we've got a 2 year old son together. We are with our child all the time and we never get any time together. He dosent talk to me or admire me he's never nice to me anymore, he will sit on the room for hours and not say one word to me. Everytime I ask him does he love me he gets angry and says I'm not all there and that there's something wrong with me. We ha entirely got a sex life anymore we never cuddle or anything. We ha entirely been out for a meal for about 2 years. He always takes his phone in the bathroom and says hes having a shower but he watches porn and has wank. Im really frustrated and don't know what to do anymore. I love him bit I don't think he loves me anymore and I wouldn't dare ask him as he gets very angry with me. Help me please.

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        leelee 4 months ago

        i asked my bf if he loved me and he said idk i know he knows im hurting and he said i broke our trust i didnt do anything to him

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        4 months ago

        Hi I been in my relationship 14 years all four of my kids is his. He calls me names such as bitch or fat cause I gain weight since I had his kids. He done hit me multiple times he brings up my past bout me being molested as a young teen when he get mad. He tells me he loves me but I know he on cocaine bad could that be part of it or is it just him he can be sober and be hateful to me.

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        Brandy. Yea m** 4 months ago

        Yes brent i see how i was right ....u do exactly and

        Each and everyone of those ...now i know thar i can actualy be at peace n ...i love yo

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        Colly Thuso Makhubedu 5 months ago

        Communication is the only way to make it work also honesty. When a person doesn't want you anymore. He will hurt you in every chance he get it will even get to a point where he will insults you. Once a man calls u the Bitch (B) word know that it is over and sex is very important no sex no love. If u wanna save your relationship or marriage communicate and give it to him or her . Learn to more on forgive and be happy because happiness is a choice. Have a indirect girl or a guy talk. Do whatever it takes if she or he is the one u will know. Keep those P down. And don't forget to show and give TLC.

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        kb 5 months ago

        my BF has went from " I love You " to treating me ice cold, no kisses, no sex, no long talks on the telephone. all because he told me that he loved me after 3 weeks of dating i told him how could he loved me in so short time. I don't understand i thought asking that question was harmless. but i guess i have to suffer for asking.

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        Aura 5 months ago

        My bf ignores most of my text and he doesnt want to hang out with me anymore I feel so lonly ;-;

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        JJ 5 months ago

        Most of the above sounds like what I'm going through. Also, he said if he ever got me back, he'd never let me go. Obviously those were just pretty little words. His "boss", his best friend, my parents, his friends,.... even the dogs come before me!!! He makes up excuses for cancelling every plan he makes with me to be with someone else. Heck recently I left home over night and he never knew I was gone or didn't care. He's become an alcoholic and a pothead. We live with my parents who have so far stayed out of our relationship. He thinks he should stay and that he doesn't care what I do but he's not going anywhere. Our dog might be pregnant and he said we should kick her in the stomach so she doesn't have them. I cry and he doesn't comfort me. He has stopped saying I love you. I feel so alone. My friends don't talk to me outside of school so yeah I feel alone.

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        shivan soni 5 months ago

        My girlfriend has a past that i knew after 3 month of our relationship i have dought that still she is in touch with past and whenever i used to ask she becomes angry and fighting with me how will i come to know she will live with me upto end and how should i treat her so that she will tell me freely all the things or else i should break this relation. But i am unable to do this as well because i love her a lot more than myself i am in very tense please help me

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        skye marks 5 months ago

        My bf doesn’t kiss me cuddle me he dosor even touch me, I feel so unattractive to him, and lonely, he gets angry all the time a blames me for stuff that has nothing to do with me, I don’t know what to do, I love him, but I know the feelings not mutual any more

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        Anon 5 months ago

        My boyfriend has been really distant and has lost most interest into the relationship he doesn’t respond to my texts until like a day or two later he posts a lot of his girl friends on social media and saying how he’s so happy he has them in his life and when I’m upset he doesn’t take much interest

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        Amy 5 months ago

        my boyfriend doesn't talk to me anymore....i feel like the spark is gone

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        Puja 5 months ago

        My husband ignore me and left me alone at home all the time. I feel so lonely...i can't do anything..this feeling kills me..i even can't imagine anything beyond this.he has no Interest in me..even in small argument he threatened me of divorce. What should i do

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        Shweta 5 months ago

        My bf wants my expectations to be less now.. Do he luv me anymore or Not?

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        Mia 6 months ago

        I'm there

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        Bj 6 months ago

        I found a video of my partner of 12 years dressing up, i asked him about it but i didn't get any answers, 2 years on we are still together after 18 month break. Since than I've had a baby to a guy i had a short relationship with. My partner now won't touch me, he likes me doing things to him but i get nothing. He spends most his free time watching she male porn ....what should i do

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        Enna 6 months ago

        HONESTLY THIS IS SO ACCURATE I'M SCARED. My boyfriend has suddenly lost interest and has been spending a lot of time with this other girl that HE SWEARS he doesn't have feelings for. She's said she's had feelings for him in the past, so then he stopped being her friend. But now she's back.. And typically I don't get jealous.. But when he's spending more time with her than with me I get worried. And every time I look over at them she's tucking her hair behind her ear and batting her eyelashes at him. My god I hate her so much. But also in some ways I'm jealous of HER HERSELF. She's very pretty and kinda attractive. My head is shaved so I'm not typically an "attractive girlfriend". It just sucks that she can make him laugh and smile, while I can;t even get barely two words out of him. I'm terrified of losing him, but I feel like he's waiting on me to leave so that he doesn't have to hurt me. I've cried so much over this and, frankly, I honestly don't think he'd care..

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        happycamper10 6 months ago

        My question is what can we conclude if a woman exhibits these behaviors?

        What I'm implying/stating is that I see a lot of double standards here, where if a man exhibits the behavior it is a sign he doesn't love you where as if a woman does it she will get a pass.

        For example, is it not common for women to ask for space in a relationship, that you are smothering her and making her feel claustrophobic? So, the man is at fault either way. If the man wants space he is guilty of demonstrating that he doesn't love you. If the woman asks for space it is the man's fault that he is smothering her and of course he should provide her empathy and understanding.

        And what about #9: Your Boyfriend Digs up Regrettable Incidents from Your Past? My experience and the experiences of many of my male friends is that women, much more so than men, are guilty of this. They dig up painful memories from the past and manage to interject them into every argument you have - for eternity.

        And this one, 13) Your Boyfriend Suddenly Starts Getting Annoyed by Some of Your Habits. Really? Women are constantly annoyed by habits of their boyfriends, but I'm sure those feelings are all rational and just. But if a man has those feelings it means he doesn't love me.

        Seems like a lot of double standards here to me. No?

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        Linda 6 months ago

        Sometimes I feel as if he doesn't love me cause I'm an emotional disaster. He lies about talking to girls that he knows I don't like and yet I know he has messages and photes with her and when I asked him to see them he tried to delete them when I was in the same room. He is demanding more space and he says we hangout to much and this week I hadn't seen him for weeks and I finally see him and he says that we should spend more time with our friends as we see each other to much. I know it dosent seem so bad but these small things lower my self esteem even more that everything else. He has stopped giving me compliments as i respond with disagreement as I hate the way I look and he always tells me he finds all these girls really fit and it makes me feel ugly and ashamed of my body.

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        Sean X 6 months ago

        My bf and I were dating for a year now. We were long distance because we both went to college in different areas. Around the summertime things changed. He wasn't romantic anymore, he would get annoyed by me and stuff, and I knew this was not going to end well. This was our first relationship each and we did not know how to break up. We started out fast, because we had a lot of things in common. We were both Nigerian, in the closet, same tribe in Nigeria, and our moms were friends. I think us having that stuff in common made us want to date lol. We even said "I love you" a month after our first date! But, during Thanksgiving break, we finally saw each other after not seeing each other for three months. It was sooo awkward, because the relationship was dead as hell. So I ask him "do you still like me?", and he says "why would you ask me that?" and we had a little discussion, and we basically said that we should work on our relationship. So fast-forward to yesterday, I texted him telling him that we rushed into this and how the romance isn't there, but the friendship and humor is still there. He told me that he has been feeling the same way for months! When he told me that, I felt so relieved, like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders. I am so excited to start a new relationship as friends now!

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        6 months ago

        I know how you all feel

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        allyssa 6 months ago

        i feel sad my bf does most of these things, i try so hard and i get nothing i feel like shit cause he prefers to hang out with his friends and mother, he ignores me and rather plays on his stupid computer. he says theirs nothing wrong with our relationship but he always leaves, going to party's and wants to smoke weed and ruin his life. i love him but i dont think he loves me anymore.

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        Lyn 6 months ago

        My boyfriend did not meet me for six months already but he does messaging me. He says "I love you" in his text. All the sweet & comforting words he does say. Every time he is saying that he is just busy with the work that's why he cannot meet me. Just last 7 days he did not message me. After that he told me he was hospitalized due to a severe sickness. His mobile had been switched off for a week. He has always reason on everything. I don't know how to end up our relationship because I love him so much.

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        Elena 6 months ago

        Wow my boyfriend of almost 4 years does most of these, I know I have made mistakes in the relationship but I don’t know how to get back to when we were good. It breaks my heart he says he feels I don’t respect him I have been trying and working on myself but I guess he doesn’t see my effort. Sometimes I wonder why we even try to be with someone else for the long run anyways no one wants to stay or work on things anymore I feel like especially with my generation people see relationships as something that is so disposable. I love this man and I have wanted to be with him since I was 14 it hurts that he says he’s unhappy.

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        Lucy 6 months ago

        Dose it mean he still loves me if he dosent rlly talk to me and he hangs out with his friends more than me

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        Cleo 7 months ago

        But when he's showing that he actually still wants to be with a girl, could he just be pretending too? Because people do pretend

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        Tania 7 months ago

        LADIES! we all actually know exactly what we HAVE to do ... and that's to let go . because we deserve somebody that will fight for us not away from us . IF we FIGHT for them why cant they do the same? because we are not that important . because trust me! we ALL make time for what we really want in life,, unfortunately i am going thru this myself and it really makes me teary typing this because i actually needed it to hear it also :(

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        Dolce 7 months ago

        My boyfriend used to text me whenever he have a leisure time or a break time from his work he's in the army that's why I always understand his situation. And he always made me feel loved he talks about his dreams, goals, and our future. It just feel so good that he have plans together with me. But one day I was the one who stopped communicating with him because He changed like how often he text me before. And I get confused like does he really love me. I'm such an idiot...Well though it hurts a lot knowing that the person you loved just blocked you. I am still hoping that one day when the right time comes I will get to see him again and I hope whatever destiny would bring us ...what we have will work out.

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        Bre 7 months ago

        My boyfriend tells me all the time that he doesn't love me anymore, but then does things that make me feel like he does. Idk. We have a 1 & 2 year old and have been together for 4&a half years, but when I bring up marriage he changes the subject. I don't know if he loves me and it hurts me. I stay awake every night and think about the day I finally tell him that we are done. I feel like maybe we might meet up in our next life and it'll be the right time and we will both be on the same chapter, but unfortunately, I do not think this is the lifetime that we are meant to be. Breaks my heart.

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        Angie 7 months ago

        What if he shows these signs? Is there anything you can do?

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        Sihle 7 months ago

        My boyfriend is distant from me lately he says “I love you “ now n then. But he no longer stays at home , he doesn’t hangout with me his always out with his friends and all come back home late (mostly after 23:30) he comes back home moody doesn’t talk to me . He always snaps at me whenever I try to hold a conversation with him or ask him where is coming from. Most times he doesn’t come to bed , he sleeps on the couch. I feel like my presence annoys him coz whenever I seat next to him he moves away .even when I come to bed he moves out to the living room . His complains about everything I do and his always saying nasty things to me like I’m stupid , useless worthless hoe and an illiterate. I don’t know if I should just cut my loses coz I love him but his behavior is really affecting me , my confidence and self esteem. Please I need help

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        lilly cameron 7 months ago

        my boyfried does not hug me anyomore and he does not look at me in the eyes and he does not talk to me anymore it makes me really sad and does not say i love you anymore to me and he mad me cry in health today in 6 period

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        Mykou 7 months ago

        Hi. My boyfriend saids i love you but never look at me in my eyes and say it. He looks away and then say it. And it makes me really sad all the time. He never hugs me like he use to anymore and i just feel like hes losing feelings for me and i dont know what to do.

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        Zoey James 8 months ago

        My boyfriend shows all of these signs but I don't know what to do about it. I don't wanna break his heart.

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        Unknown 8 months ago

        Hello my boyfriend says he loves me but here's the thing. He is a drug addict he tries to fight his addiction but cant. We have been together 4½ years and we have a 1 year old boy. When he sees me upset he doesn't care. We don't get intimate as much as we use to. He always lies to me and expects me to be ok. I don't know if it's the drug or him not loving me anymore please help?

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        DawnM 8 months ago

        My boyfriend started doing 12 out of these 13 signs. This is such a good hub. I have learned a lot and said "yep he does that". I still love him and don't know what to do

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        c and s 8 months ago

        My friend s has a boyfriend, she and her boyfriend broke up about a couple of months ago. because she had feelings for another boy but was unsure about how she really felt. her and her original boyfriend got back together because she realized she still loved him. her boyfriend and her love each other, but he gets jealous often and gets mad at her for little things, we dont know if this is a sign that he loves her or that hes ready to break up with her. Please tell us what you think. thanks :)

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        sad 8 months ago

        my boyfriend always mad if i go out with my office mate, i explain to it that is part of my job to do some errand with my office mate at besides she is a woman. i cant see the problem why he is mad.

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        The truth 9 months ago

        1st of all, no one here knows who the other person who just commented is. You don't know what really was in people's lifes so what anyone here reads about anyone else ends up having information about half of the couple.

        2nd- there are way too many assumptions. "Can be", "could lead", "falling out of love represented by less kissing,hugging etc"(this one assumes that most of man living on this earth *a couple billion btw* will act like that. ASSUMING we act the same. ) =I pointed only few of the things a reader should be aware, not everyone is smart to think it for themselves and they are easily fooled.

        I'm not gonna go into who the article writer is and that a lot of this kind of suggestions make money to certain people, so marketing is quite important here as well; "everything/ anything can make money for certain people let's just keep it short.

        Now I'm not saying there is no good advice here, but for God's love, think people. This whole article is helpfull for some and not good for the rest. Use it, don't Believe it! Use it for what is beneficial! 80% of it refeers to high school type relationships and immature attitude. Plus the cultures and religiona of people from 160+ countries and thousands of different ways of speaking make things so much more complex.

        Think for yourself, use the right information combined with all your life experience and don't think there are two people the same !

        To be Normal is ABNORMAL !!!!!

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        Dwebber4285 9 months ago

        11/13. And 9 months pregnant!

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        Jessa 9 months ago

        5 years with my boyfriend and this is the only time im not feeling it...... Everything above seems to be all true. He gets angry for no reason, he doesnt say i love you , he replies to me super long, he always brings up my past, he compares me with other girls.... But yet i still think that he loves me and hes just like that cos hes used to me?

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        Adi 9 months ago

        Break up with him lena

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        Lena 10 months ago

        My boyfriend gives me stress pills because he doesn't have time to listen anymore, and he says painful things about my past everytime we fight

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        Emily 10 months ago

        if your boyfriend always request things from you like money and soon and if you don't give him he get angry what does it mean does he really love you as claimed.

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        kyra jericha alvarado 10 months ago

        this is right tsk.

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        fireballgirl 10 months ago

        idk if any are happening he just dont text me when hes at work any more. he has just stoped i have to text him first and he gives me aditude when i try to help him so idk

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        Steph 10 months ago

        0/13 but im still scared of losing him

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        Hannah 10 months ago

        8/13... now what?

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        hi im sad 10 months ago

        men are savage :((

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        Anonymous 10 months ago

        I'm young and I've already fell in love twice this may be my 3rd time but 2/13 are happening to me and idk what that means I've kept saying I missed him and he never said it back and I said I love you to him over and over again and he never says it back anymore he was the first one to say I love you he said he defiantly doesn't wanna break up but I have a lot of trust issues how am I supposed to believe anything anybody says

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        Leah 10 months ago

        3 out of 13 Is what he got right the problem is I love him too much to let go and are scared of being alone

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        Anushka 11 months ago

        Happens with me!

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        Lilli 11 months ago

        Two of those signs have me majorally worried. He doesn't speak to me or texts me, I send him a text on the 7th, he reponds on the 17th, saying he was busy or something. He literally NEVER says "I love you" anymore. He makes comments like "I wish I had never met you, or asked you out." or he'll say "I hate you." and all his friends assured me that he was "Joking" but he knows I can't take jokes. I don't want to give up on this, I've had such bad luck with relationships- I don't want this to be another "It's getting too rough, bye." sort of thing. I meet too many people who want to end it the second something happens. I'm done with relationships.

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        Kendra amos 11 months ago

        5 out of 8

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        Erika 11 months ago

        OMG yay he definetly still loves me!!!!! 0/13

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        sarah 11 months ago

        sadly I don't want any to be true but I quess he doesn't love and is trying cause of me

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        jessica 11 months ago

        oh no that is what is happening :(

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        Amanda 11 months ago

        Yes it's a scary thing to think of that your other half is bored of you and wants to move on. But do not get butt hurt if he tells you that he wants to move on respect his decision, yes it will hurt due to the fact of all the good Memories you guys had together, but you would also want him to do the same for you, and as time goes on so will your heart it's just a matter of time.

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        Sajida 11 months ago

        it's sad..

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        Ashley 12 months ago

        4/13... It's not terrible but I'm still unsure.. please help!

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        Saman 12 months ago

        0 out of 13

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        Someone 12 months ago

        5/13.. I dunno

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        Chantal 12 months ago

        I guess I'm the one who has fallen out of love..

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        Anon 12 months ago

        I love my man to the point I'm losing myself. We started talking last year and in a couple months time we became an official couple. He was the sweetest, most romantic guy initially ... That lasted for a few months and then there were days he wouldn't say much at all to me. The contrast really really hurts me and when I bring it up he denies it. He says I make it up in my head or tells me to stop complaining. The reason i speak up and tell him that it makes me feel like he's not into me anymore is because I want us to always show eachother mutual love. Relationships are hard work and take daily dedication. I will continue to pour my heart out to him, even if he doesn't reciprocate ... But when do I draw the line?

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        tia 12 months ago

        7\13 i feel real bad.

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        kemi 12 months ago

        10 /13 awww so bad but do difficult for me to let go cos I love him with everything, I can't think of letting go but inside me am tired, don't know what to do anyways, I guess patient will do the miracle

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        Kylie 12 months ago

        I'm surprised... I know something is wrong with my man, but when I ask him he says " I'm fine " or " nothing is wrong " and I'll even ask him again. When I was sad he'd always ask me what's wrong. Now when he sees me crying he just rolls his eyes and continues playing video games. The last time he said " I love you " or " I love you more " was 3 months ago... He has even stopped smiling when he talk so to me. I've asked him if he still loves me and he just gives me a 3 lettered word "yes". Our sex life was great too even when we were apart. The last time he every sent a pic was 4 months ago... I still love him, but don't know if I should leave him.

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        TheStupidFool 12 months ago

        13 for 13.

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        Natalie 12 months ago

        I want to feel like this isn't the case... but it might be...

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        Sally 12 months ago

        Yeah I totally relate to all of this. My boyfriend loves to hang out with me but if I initiate anything intimate he says no thanks I perferr men? Like : wtf!?!

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        Sushmitha Nagarajan 12 months ago

        8/13. I don't know what to think of this. Maybe it's me.


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