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10 Subtle Signs He Doesn't Love You Anymore

Updated on September 17, 2017
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Have you experienced an unmistakeable nagging feeling that something is off with the way your partner behaves? If you are reading this article, your fear could have a bit of a basis.

No one can predict if a relationship will last or end. If it is the latter, no matter how hurtful it can be, one wants to find out as soon as possible if there has been telling yet subtle signs that once could have missed. It is but normal to analyze what could have gone wrong when a person leaves another.

Oftentimes, people chose to stay in a relationship no matter how hopeless it is for fear of being alone. However, if it is not the one for you, you may check out this list of 10 subtle signs your partner does not love you anymore.

1. He spaces out when you are together

When your guy suddenly ceases to be attentive, there could be a host of reasons why he acts that way. He could be preoccupied with work, stressed out or simply thinking about some things and not having to do with you. However, when this occurs way too often resulting to him spacing out whenever you are spending time together, you better know why.


2. He stops communicating

Communication is very important in a relationship and when your guy stops communicating, you may no longer be on his priority. Taking time to call or send an sms and even send a message through any social media just to ask how your day went speak volumes of a guy's care for your well being.

Unless he became totally maimed from the arm down, the current technologies have more than one channel to send any message to a recipient. Essentially, he doesn't have an excuse to not communicate with you in either way.

If he used to check on you at the end of the day via a call or text and suddenly stops doing it, that is one subtle sign he could be losing interest in you. Also, when you initiate communication now more than him when it used to be the other way around, it won't hurt to do a rain check to see if you are still seeing each other eye to eye on your relationship.

3. Your are no longer part of his future plans

If you are with a guy for quite some time, a discussion on where the relationship is headed is but a natural progress. He must be open to talk about things like when you are supposed to settle down, where to live and a lot of other things,all indicating he plans to be with you for the long haul.

Envisioning a future together is a sign of commitment to your relationship. It also signifies that the relationship is moving to a much deeper level. On the other hand, it is also a fact that a man who is not so serious with you would always avoid these kinds of talks.

In short, if your guy avoids mention of any future plans and turns evasive when you bring the subject up, this may mean he is not planning to be with you in the long haul.

4. He is now restless when you are around

When you notice your guy becoming more restless whenever he is with you that he seems to want to be in another place, perhaps because he no longer enjoys spending quality time with you.

A man who still loves you would find any excuse just to be around the person they love. This is but natural because being with that person makes him comfortable and at peace. This is true whether you doing an activity outside or just merely hanging out doing nothing and enjoying each others company.

If he seems to be out of whack and appears listless every time you two are together, that is never a good sign.

5. He hides his phone (or calls) from you

When your guy used to leave his phone around even if you are in the room but now hides it like a dark secret, or you notice that he no longer takes calls in front of you, something is definitely off.

People don't normally change their behavior without any reason behind it. Your guy could have another reason, unless he now works as a spy for CIA, hiding while taking calls raises a red flag that he could be hiding something from you. To love someone means being honest and open about things and him hiding his phone and calls is just the opposite of that.

6. He flakes out

If your guy now arrives late on your dates, forgets to pick you up and no longer bothers to explain why, treat this as another sign that signify his waning love for you. It seems that he could not care less that you need an explanation and that is never a good thing.

It could also that he flakes on the last minute leaving you hanging without much of an explanation or an apology, time to wake up sis! This is not the kind of behavior you would want to put up with. Clearly, this guy no longer value your time and your love.

7. Intimacy is gone

Intimacy is important between two people who care about each other. It brings a relationship to a level where two people can freely show their feelings and passion to each other without reservation. Understandably, it is hard to maintain passion over the course of a long-term relationship. If he stops being passionate about you and even avoids intimacy then clearly he has lost interest.

8. He starts avoiding people close to you

In a normal relationship, a boyfriend would often want to learn about your friends and family because he would want to be a part of the close circle of people who mean to you. When a guy starts to veer away from the same people, he is in fact signalling that he is trying to build distance ultimately with you. He does this to avoid the guilt because he knows too well that these are the same people who cares for you. This move will later on make it easier for him to walk away from your life.

9. He loses respect for you

Respect is very important in any relationship. If a guy no longer respects you, that is one thing you do not want to put up with or compromise with, it is either there or not. Once respect is gone, it means he no longer sees you as a person worthy of his time and effort. You should never let any man disrespect you. It is better to call him out to it and simply end the relationship if he does not step up to a plate.

10. He lies to you

If you catch him making little lies and it is becoming more frequent, there is a good reason that this guy wants out from your relationship. If lying is an unusual thing, then his behavior is not normal.

At some point he will stop making an effort to tell the truth and basically hopes you will get the drift somehow. It is an unfair way to end your relationship but staying in a relationship that is now built with lies will slowly erode your trust in him.

If this happens to you, do not be disheartened. Relationships may come and go but never lose your sense of self-worth and self-respect. It is better to end a relationship than allow it to go on where you run the risk of losing self-respect as well as respect for the other person. You deserve something better and if you continuously work on bettering yourself as a person, it would not be difficult to meet another person that is truly deserving of your heart.

In most cases, men avoid to tell us directly when they want to end a relationship. Instead, they just subtly exhibit certain behaviors that would lead you to end the relationship. Somehow, they think that this saves them from the guilt of breaking your heart.

When you see any of these disturbing behavior, it is best to find a way to clear things out by communicating with your guy. Who knows, he could just be having some personal problems or could have other justifiable reasons for his behavior. Open communication is key to clearing out the confusion.

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      honey 2 months ago

      so am just living a lie.

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      Amanda Jones 4 years ago

      Nice Article! Very informative and worth reading! Thanks!

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      Gei Moore 4 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi erorantes. I'm glad you enjoyed this hub! Please check out my other hubs!

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      Ana Maria Orantes 4 years ago from Miami Florida

      I like your article Mr. gmmurgirl.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi SavvySyi. Guys may have different reasons why they are not breaking up with you. So I really can't say why they do that. Thanks!

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      SavvySyi 5 years ago from Florida

      So why don't guys just break up then?!?! But yea the not answering why is the only clue that I have right now...he doesn't do any of the others.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Thanks, DDE. Distance between two people who are supposed to be in a relationship is always not a good sign. It could be both a waste of time and effort for both. I believe there are other signs but some of those discussed in this hub are often the most ignored.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      definitely the signs of distance between couples who lack interest of each other

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      Paige Hause 5 years ago

      huh, wasn't really my choice. :( still hurts.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi Paige! I'm glad you have made the right choice. Thank you!

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hello there Sylvia! You are so right. There just comes a point when you to be wise and know that something can no longer be fixed and that it would do you good if you just leave and move on. Each person deserves someone better. Thank you so much for reading.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi Elly! Thank your and you are very lucky to have recognized the signs and chose to get out of the relationship early on. I hope a lot of people would be as discerning as you! It would save a lot from heartbreaks and ugly break ups as well. Warm regards! Take care.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi there lovedoctor926! Thank you very much for reading. These are just some of the signs we tend to ignore in out partners and I know there are a lot more others. Have a great day!

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      Paige Hause 5 years ago

      Huh, ths describes my husband before we separated. Thanks for the perspective.

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      SylviaSky 5 years ago from USA

      Good advice. A lover who doesn't care about you anymore should be dumped immediately. Don't fool yourself that you can fix it.

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      Elly`Snow 5 years ago from Lake Stevens, Wa

      Your hub about 5 signs that he's not that into you is on the money! I've been in marriages and relationships where these signs and more are very evident.

      What generally happens is that I recognize it and get out, leaving the other person to ask me why and be upset because of my leaving.

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      This is good information.