3 Mistakes Women Make When Men Cheat

Updated on February 2, 2019
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Cheaters Cheat — End of Story

When your man cheats, it feels like your entire universe is crumbling around you. Most women dealing with a cheating husband or boyfriend start thinking of ways to fix the situation. We wonder what we've done to drive him to the arms of another woman. We struggle to think of ways to bring him back.

STOP!

Cheaters cheat. That's it. Cheating is not about boredom or dissatisfaction. Cheating is the result of a psychological flaw that allows men or women to rationalize cheating and breaking vows. Affairs are not normal, healthy reactions to uncommon relationship struggles. Rather, they are unhealthy reactions to trials and tribulations that are common to most relationships from time to time.

Don't torture or embarrass yourself making the same mistakes millions of women make when they know their man is cheating. Save your self-respect, dignity, and time by cutting your losses and freeing yourself for a better relationship with a more functional man.

Mistake #1 — The Investigation

When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact-finding mission. Spying, calling around, and interrogating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken.

You don't need proof that your man is cheating to know that something isn't working between the two of you. Whether he's actually cheating or you're just seriously paranoid, evidence isn't required to know something has to change. Driving yourself mad trying to catch him in the act of cheating won't deliver the peace of mind you are looking for. It will only make you look and feel crazy.

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Mistake #2 — Blaming the Other Woman

Yeah, she's got to be pure evil to steal another woman's man, but that's really not the point. She's not the one who committed to you and promised to be true to you, and then cheated on you. More importantly, if it wasn't her, it would be someone else.

People cheat because they are cheaters. When a man cheats it's not because he was innocently seduced by another woman's wicked charms. It's not because she offered something you didn't. It's not because she's better than you. Cheaters cheat. They don't need temptation to have an affair.

Let go of your anger towards the other woman. It's misguided. Focus instead on the fact that the partner you were in a relationship with violated his commitment to monogamy. If it wasn't her, he'd have found someone else. Even if she leaves the picture, there are millions of women in the world for him to cheat with.

Mistake #3 — Changing to Keep Him

First of all, if your man is cheating, the last thing you want is to keep him around. Cheating is a pattern of behavior that won't stop no matter how many promises he makes or how many changes you make to keep his attention. If he has cheated on you, it's time to move on. Cheaters cheat . . . and cheat . . . and cheat.

Second, you didn't drive him to cheat. If your man is cheating, it's not a reflection of your worth, but an indication that he is incapable of handling the responsibility of maintaining a relationship. He is lacking mature adult coping skills. The problem is his, NOT YOURS.

Because you didn't cause your man to cheat, you can't stop it either. There is nothing you can change in yourself to make a cheater be loyal. Stop thinking that if you were thinner, prettier, wilder in bed, or more exciting he would be faithful. If your man is cheating, he's not thinking about you one way or another.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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        Cindy Swartz 

        2 weeks ago

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        MsTree 

        4 weeks ago

        42 years of marriage and he had an affair. I would never have thought twice as a younger woman to divorce this man, As an older woman, it's much harder after that many years together. I know he'll do it again or keep on with the affair he's in now. Of course, he's saying and doing all the right things now but it isn't real. I know that. It's been torture for me deciding where I will live etc. We built our paradise together from nothing. I can't live here and I won't allow him to bring another woman to the place I made a home. I don't want to be alone and I don't want another man but I don't want him either. It's crazy that I don't know what to do because of fear.

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        Yara 

        6 weeks ago

        Hello

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        CelesteCrome 

        8 weeks ago

        Move on when he cheats. Do not ask, do not investigate, just move on. I did. We are married. Something happens to him? My lawyer will contact his very protective mother to take care of health issues or funeral, protective mother not available, the lawyer will contact the mistress. Mistress not available? We will contact the county to dispose of the body. Maybe... I will be out of 3K. I will keep millions. Never complained, played dumb. You should too!

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        Dnarra 

        2 months ago

        I am a young girl and haven't gone though a relationship yet being only 16 years old. I feel like if someone cheated on you men or women that you should not try and fix a broken relationship. I would feel dirty thinking i'm in my bed with my partner after they were with someone else. Cheating is not OK and getting back with them show them that what they did was not that bad if you stay with them and try to fix it. If you been together for years, got married, have kids together then you can forgive them but don't get back together with them. Showing you can forgive them is OK but you can't just with them because of the lost trust. Not all Cheating can be justifided with the same excuses everyone uses. You are showing your kids that its OK that your partner hurt you. You might love them to death but you have to do whats best for you in the end. I may be young but this my advice for anyone in that situation.

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        Rita 

        2 months ago

        i have been married for 9 years. We have a 8 year old boy. I recently found texts on my husband phone and found that he has been sleeping with his coworker for at least 15 months. Some of the texts was bad mouthing me, saying he loved her and missed her when i was home. Many gifts hasbeen gave her.Now that he has been caught, he is so sorry and says he knows he did a stupid thing and wants to prove it to me that he loves and wants to be with me. My question is, how do i ever get this out of my head! Its killing me while im in home. Im not office to see what he is doing so how do i ever trust him ? Please how do i get this out of my head?

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        Chris 

        2 months ago

        My life is super crazy, and its not as easy as you thing. I am married only by law for over 10 years. I have been unfaithful since the relationship started. I always did a good job at covering my tracks up until about 2 month ago. I have always been the type to just look for a quick affair but this time is different. I have devolved feeling for this other person. We are know dating and i care for her. I am confused because I care for both. I love both of them and its hard. Well about 2 month I got cought red handed. So come to find out my wee ife in revenge texted

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        Foxyt2 

        2 months ago

        Ladies I know it hurts ..: however I’m in recovery as we speak .. and yes it’s hard to just walk away from dysfunctional relationships .:: however if u don’t We as women are saying it’s Okay that they cheat when we keep accepting this behavior ... and once they know it , they will continue !!! We as woman have to think more of ourselves and walk away .... start planning how to remove yourself... sometimes we can adapt to dysfunction and it seems functional cause we have accepted the crap for so long .. Start a Get out plann!!

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        Catalina Hernandez 

        2 months ago

        There are different stories with different backgrounds, I'm not in support of disturbing privacy but when it affects my life and decision making the truth is the reality that we all need and I'm glad I did what I had to have my life back, my ex is an example, credit to this site http://spytec.s3-website-us-east-1.amazonaws.com he helped me overcome my fears with proof, now I'm with my kid having a happy time again.

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        EB 

        2 months ago

        Your point about a man cheating and not blaming the partner is atrocious. Or that she is not better, or you're not the one to take any blame sister. Reverse the genders, and see if the same happens in this article.

        Often, men don't cheat because they are cheaters. You say it in the article, something is wrong with the relationship!

        So maybe she needs to ask herself why they are estranged!? No! I'm not condoning a man who cheats. I am also claiming that a woman who cheats with him KNOWING he's married is a textbook hoe! If she didn't know, then she is also not to be blamed.

        I'm sick of articles written by women for women denouncing women's own personal agency for what happens to them!

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        Cindy Swartz 

        3 months ago

        Bella I have been there, If you get to a place when you know what is your self worth and you know what you deserve in life and in love it will come to you because you will know that is what you want and deserve. Self love is more important than a negative love from a partner.

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        Bella 

        3 months ago

        It came out of the blue. He started being mean to me not wanting to talk at all stayed away for days not coming home. Started a new job lost weight not that he was fat just a little belly. Started shopping buying new clothes told me many things like he wasn't sexually attracted to me anymore. He didn't have to love me to fuck me. Said he thought we might work 20 years from now. I stared looking around in his car found condoms in there when I confronted him about it. His response was that he knew I would over react and that is what he thought when he bought them for us. He was strongly against wearing before he wouldn't even consider it. We have been together since 2006 married when I was 22 he 21. We have two boys 8 and 15. That was two years ago I started working and that is when he stared trying to be the best husband again. Doing little sweet things telling me he loves me after a year not saying it at all. He hurt me telling me he never loved me. I feel like nothing meant anything in my life or marriage. Now he wants me to forget and move on. He won't talk to me and I feel like I'm done. I want to end the marriage and move on. He wants to try I don't have it in my heart to try with him again. He left me for a year not just me but our family. He moved forward without me now he wants me. I just don't think it's fair. Am I wrong for not wanting us to work again?

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        4 months ago

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        2sweet 

        5 months ago

        i fall in love, i married the love of my life 9 years of up and down so much of helping him we had nothing.he cheated on me with a next woman she had her husband and 1 kid. i move out but i cant get over him 4 month now i call every single day i message him all the time most of the time no answer...i don't know what to do ...every time someone tell me he is with her my heart hurt my body pain i cant eat cant sleep ...someone please tell me what to do

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        Lynn Stephens 

        5 months ago

        I could no agree more. I am an older woman not married long but my husband just keeps cheating. I am in the process of working my way out of the marriage. Just get out of there. If your a younger woman you have advantages like being able to work, services are out there to help old and young woman move on. It will not get better, do what's best for you---get out of there. Men do not seem to realize how much they stand to lose but that is the chance he took. Divorce can devastate but your mental health is so much more important. You will respect yourself.

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        5 months ago

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        6 months ago

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        7 months ago

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        8 months ago

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        8 months ago

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        8 months ago

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        Aislene 

        8 months ago

        this post is so dumb! didn't help me at all, hacker or no hacker checking his phone or not , calling, investigating WHATEVER. I

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        take it from someone who's been there. it never leaves your head I got cheated on before marriage after marriage,pregnante TWICE, cheated on while having his child. DO NOT IF YOURE READING THIS DO NOT MARRY A MAN OR WOMAN YOU DONT TRUST TO DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THEM, COST OF LIVING IS SO HIGH DONT DO IT. I REGRET HIM EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE

        the only thing that keeps me going is my children and my career, in hopes I might finally be blessed and get an amazing job to where my mother won't have to work and she could take care of my children while I work. to make enough to provide and send his ass to hell.

        but believe me, it won't ever leave your head. I tried everything, for working out so I could be sexy and would want to fuck me to being a stay at home mom and wife, supportive wife, cooking cleaning laundry, couponing, to forgiving him and giving him chances ... he will never change.

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        8 months ago

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        9 months ago

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        Julzzz 

        9 months ago

        I’ve been seeing this guy for 8 months but I’ve known him for 18 years but there was a gap of 18 years before we started seeing each other for 8 months so you can say we’ve only known each other for 8 months.

        He’s Muslim & I’m Christian he would always try and convince me that his religion is legit well better than mine, and if I was to be Muslim he’d marry me.

        I’ve refused to convert so even tho that was the outcome we continued to see each other for 8 months I would see him sometimes once a week sometimes once a month he’ll be very warm with me when he sees me but he won’t see me that often.

        This went on for 8 months hot & cold but he’d text me everyday all day long never calls me tho. I’ve been over his house many times but we’d only hang out at home even tho we’ve only been to dinner and movies maybe 4 times..

        So I created a fake Instagram acc and added him and followed afew of the ladies he was following only to find the same video and pictures he’s posted on 30th of July on snapchat was posted by one of the girls he was following.

        I confronted him he didn’t deny it he told me I wasn’t his gf and that he’s been straight out with me that he wasn’t going to marry a Christian coz he didn’t want me to bring his kids up as Christian. He said it’s so hard for me coz I’ve never met anyone like you before, even tho your amazing I’m willing to take the risk and be with a Muslim ;(

        He has only mentioned this once before meanwhile we continued to hook up and he was acting all overly protective over where I do and come and how I dress but claims that I’m not his gf when he was caught cheating.

        I have now blocked him on my phone and he has also but I’m so heartbroken right now. I Donno why this has happened to me. Can you guys pls advise me what he could be thinking right now? Would he contact me? Coz he’s unfollowed that chick on Instagram now but she’s still following him. Not sure if they in talking terms as she’s overseas now on holidays.

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        Anonymous 

        9 months ago

        I recently found out that my boyfriend of almost 5 years had been cheating on me our entire relationship. I found out a week ago after I went through his phone while he was asleep. I confronted him about it and he told me that he didn't do anything with the other girls that he had been texting. He asked them for pictures and even saved pictures of them to his phone and he had his friends list on facebook private and I didn't even know that you could do that. He told me that he thought that we wouldn't last as long as we have now and told me that he won't do it ever again but how can I be so sure? I want to find a way to look at all his texts and his social media to see if he is still doing it or not without having to go through his phone again. I read a lot of the comments that you guy hired hackers. How much were the hackers that you hired to see all of your boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, or wives texts and social medias?

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        9 months ago

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        9 months ago

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        donnad wiles 

        10 months ago

        I was really at peace . I thought my spouse was cheating and I had yo contact hackerfrank001 at g mail dot com or text him on +18648320518. he did what he had to do and told me to be on my phone for a while. Then every detail came in on my phone .. It was surprising.. What I was suspecting about my wife was not true ..Thanks to spy way , I could have taken another step due to suspicion

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        Charles Winfry 

        10 months ago

        How to confront a cheater, is to confront with undeniable evidence. if you can do that like i did, you give the cheating party little option or even non, when i found out my wife was probably cheating, i took the advice of a colleague at work and i hired internetwebport737 at gmail dot com, he hacked her phone and i saw exactly how she had been meeting up with her boyfriend, internetwebport737 at gmail dot com provided her emails, facebook and whatsapp messages, instagram and alot more, the evidence was indeed undeniable.

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        Shanni Meek 

        11 months ago

        First, I don't care what article says about factfinding. DO IT!! Youll have less reason to doubt facts when he attempts to deny his actions and call you paranoid. It will also galvanize your determination to expect better than that. (2) DO CHANGE SOME THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF. BUT ONLY THINGS YOU WANTED TO CHANGE FOR YOU. Work on your self confidence and self esteem. You'll be so irresistible he'll hate himself for being stupid and the skanks for being substandard holes. (3)Don't wonder if youre not thin enough or pretty enough. Wonder about your sanity when you probably knew deep inside you could do much much better all along. And despise him for classifying you in the same SPECIES as the canines in heat he and the grunters so clearly represent. (4) Be THANKFUL to know before he drags your self worth down to their level.

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        lily 

        12 months ago

        Here are my 5 basic RULES for a guy that I want to be with.

        Rule 1. Don't Kill,

        Rule 2. Don't steal.

        Rule 3. Don't cheat.

        Rule 4. Don't lie.

        Rule 5. Don't use drug, smoke, or abuse alcohol.

        I don't date guy that like to hunt or kill animal. Don't get too greedy and have legal jobs. Don't date guy that cheat, such as married guy, guy that flirt and have many girls talk.

        Guy that lie

        Guy who smoke, or drink too much alcohol or gamble.

        Of course I take time....a lot of times to understand or get to know about the guy before anything else. I have to check his background, his family, his education, and it takes time to get to know a person. With time I can sense and have feeling or "smell" if he is a nice, honest guy. If he is generous, he is genuine,

        My first boyfriend is totally in love with me and he won't let me go after several years of dating - he wanted to marry me but I said NO and then he still waited for me. I got introduced to a new man and I told him I am dating a new man. He then accepted the fact and moved on to get married and have a family with someone new. Good for him. He is a good man, 100 % being faithful to me when we were a couple.

        My new boyfriend of 17 years also 100% being faithful to me. I am a very confident woman, I know how to make my man happy and I am 100% know he is loyal to me. If he ever cheated on me I would say GOODBYE and no regret. I would not give a second chance. It just that simple for me. NO EXCUSES. Although, I know he is totally loyal to me and I am to him.

        I feel very sorry for the women or men that have their partner cheated on them.

        My sister dated a guy he has a way with the ladies, but she married him and he cheated on her during their marriage. She cried and asked me for advice. I advised her to leave him for good, but she is too weak to do that and decided to stay and then she got one kid and second kid and of course he still cheated on her. He has a mistress of 10 years and still with her. My sister told me and she said she stays for the kids. They don't really have sex, they live like a companionship. For the kids, for reputation as a family. She told me not to tell anyone about he has a mistress.

        I am sorry Cindy Swartz for you to find out about your bf of 16 years cheated on you. Now that you know, he is a cheater and nothing can change about the past. I don't know what are you going to do?

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        Megian 

        13 months ago

        You should be careful

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        Cindy Swartz 

        13 months ago

        My world fell apart this week. My boyfriend of 16 years had been cheating with his employee. He owns his own business and its just them two. I found out quit innocently he left his computer open and I was looking for any recent pictures of our kids he may have loaded and I found naked pictures of them together and other naked woman. He cheated on me 11 years ago when I was 6 months pregnant with my daughter and I forgave him and he was so sorry for what he had done and we moved on. Now its seems its is true once a cheat always a cheat I have just lived in denial of his ways. My world is crumbling at the moment but I know I have to be strong for my kids.

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        Rose Harold 

        13 months ago

        He seems like the perfect guy during the first month we started dating, treated me like he was never gonna cheated on me, promised to be always there whenever i needed him. I thought i have found my Dreamed Husband until 3 months after we started dating, He ignores my call, replies my text late without a good reason on why. Then i noticed he has changed his phone password and his always glue to his phone and sometimes smiles whenever he's chatting on his phone. This was when i know i had to do something to be sure of our future, then i was referred to COMPUTER.SURGEON (at) OUTLOOK. COM, He helped in providing all the text messages and chats of 3months between my guy and his newly found mistress turns out they are planning to move in together. This was when i realize i need to end the toxic relationship before it gets the best of me....Thanks to COMPUTER.SURGEON (at) OUTLOOK. COM, Feel free to contact him and tell him i referred you

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        anna 

        14 months ago

        Why if married guy can't leave u alone. U move to new place he is after u ..ask neighbours..why I he tell u can't leave u alone .. should I call police tell wife .. my boss left his wife for mistress .. wife was materialistic money money wanted exclusive life style .. after divorce daughter had no contact with biological mother for 10 years ..after fathers death Fist wife wanted money money .

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        peterson atkinson 

        14 months ago

        Most women who think their man is having an affair will immediately ask to see their phone to scroll through texts and incoming/outgoing calls. Do not get fooled if he lets you to check his phone.A friend of mine was also in the same situation so I advised her to contact cyberwebkey484 at gmail dot com, cell phone monitoring that helps you to track every record of the target phone. After contacting this hacker she found that her partner was cheating on her. So she left him. In my opinion you can also use this hack pro.

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        Martin 

        14 months ago

        Flaws with this post:

        1. You should absolutely investigate what is going on. After all it does concern your life and you should have been informed. Although you were not and this post wants you to stay in the dark. Stupid idea.

        2. Other woman is not to blame? Another dumb idea of this post. Well did not she know that he was in a relationship? 99 % of the time she does and still pursues him. It does not matter to her. The predatory woman. Woman with very little comprehension and no intelligence.

        3. He cheats once, dump him. You will save yourself lots of heartache. But do it in a smart way. It means that you may not need to have dump him the minute you found out he cheated. If money is at stake, prepare yourself. Have plan, save money, talk to attorneys, many consultations are free so talk to 2-5 people to get perspective. Take your time. And in a meantime be nice to the cheater, DO NOT reveal you will leave. It will be the ultimate FUCK you when you do it the smart way And boy, those horny little American dicks will want you back soooo badly!

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        aleina 

        14 months ago

        Ha! The first thing is to know that it's not you that caused the cheating. I just left my scumbag of a boyfriend.

        I am an intelligent woman and he doesn't seem to realise that he is the total opposite. I recognise behaviour patterns, particularly with social media use.

        Call me crazy, but it seems I had good reason to 'stalk' his online activity.

        There was a period we broke up due to his constant nagging at me for his insecurities. This is when I started noticing his behaviour. He moved from a different country for me and all of a sudden all these girls were being added from local areas (the way this social media platform worked, you couldn't just *find* people in the area), he'd like several of their pictures straight off (yeah weird) so I worked out that he'd found them on a dating app and these girls that he was adding had their other account linked to it, so he could access and add them. This behaviour stopped when we got back together. 2 weeks ago he went back home to visit, and I noticed the same thing happen friday night. A girl got added, 7 of her photos got 'liked' and then he tells me he's going out on a friday night, alone. *alarm bells*. So I check out her account and she's posted some live videos. She's on her way to a bar and at the end of the video she arrives and I see what looks remarkably like my boyfriend stood outside, alone, waiting. Ok, could be anyone, whatever. Later on in the night she records another live video, she's alone. (At this point I had called him to ask how his night was and if he'd managed to meet up with any friends, he tells me he's still alone) anyway, at the end of her video THERE HE IS WITH HER. He arrives back from what I presume is the phone call with me. That's proof enough. If she was a friend, why would he lie about being alone still?

        So I broke the unwritten law. I messaged her the next day asking why she was with him and did she know he had a girlfriend? The answer was 'don't worry, we aren't in a relationship.' This was weird but anyway I let it go. Next day, she messaged me asking if it was normal for him to get angry if he was refused sex. WELL I heard enough. She told me everything, he'd met her on the dating app, told her he was single etc. I've heard enough. I presented him with the evidence and he still denied it. How can he deny it when the evidence I have is as good as me damn well being there?! I didn't need to hear any more. Done.

        It wasn't that our relationship was unfulfilling, our sex life was incredible, and I am definitely far betting looking, intelligent and witty than he deserves. Beats me why men jeopardise a future when they have the entire package already. Oh well, on to bigger and better things! Have fun being a little guttersnipe, you rat. :)

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        peterson atkinson 

        14 months ago

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        Jibaro 

        14 months ago

        To anonymous:

        Usually a partner will let you know his or her needs. However, the other side will dismiss it and will continue as if everything is fine.

        The alternative? Look someplace else!

        Usually the one who cries foul is the obe that commits the foul first.

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        lorna 

        14 months ago

        i am have a problem, my boyfriend cheating on me for the first time and i felt my world is falling a part he cry and beg for my forgiveness, this happen this week on Tuesday, however in the heat of emotions we ended up having sex and now i feel so bad what should i do.

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        wow.. 

        14 months ago

        yes people cheat; and while it is wrong, there are sometimes a major factor involved: The relationship is broken. Sex is either not happening or hardly happening, even when one tries to get it going... communications is broken, all you do is bicker.. you want to feel 'alive' again. I had a FWB when this stuff in my relationship was going on - i felt guilty at first but it made me realize I am a strong person; and my spouse and I talked and we realized we are better divorced. You can't save a marriage that is already 98% broken. When that happens, time to divorce because chances your partner/ spouse is unhappy as well.

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        A nony mouse 

        14 months ago

        O the spellcaster strikes again. Never mind casting a spell to get their guys back, I think half of these women should be casting spells to turn their cheating partner's manhoods gangrenous, so that they drop off. Sad to say, this is the only way that some guys will stay faithful.

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        Anonymous 

        14 months ago

        Hi Jibaru,

        Cheating is never good, and there is no good reason to cheat. If your partner has not given you something you need, tell your partner about it. Do not cheat.

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        A nony mouse 

        14 months ago

        Dear Anonymous,

        sorry to say that your guy is the sort of person that thinks when you forgive him this means that you are a walk over. Part of being sorry or remorseful is being contrite enough not to repeat the behaviour that has caused offence in the first place. If he was truly sorry, he would not repeat this behaviour. If he truly loved you, he would not want to hurt you in this way. Your husband does not value your 20 year marriage or he simply would not behave this way. If he does not value your relationship, why should you? You also have a right to be happy and secure in your relationship. This is not happening with this guy, nor will it happen, because he is happily getting away with his affairs.

        Record what material evidence that you can, it may be useful to prove either to a court 'just reason' or to your children that you are not the villain of the piece. Frankly, I would go lead my own life and have my own affairs and have some satisfaction and excitement in my own life. Your husband is investing time, money and emotions away from your relationship, why should you be the one that is miserable?

        Good luck

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        Annette 

        14 months ago

        I do agree with this after giving him another change after the first woman he cheated with for a year. But then found out he has been 'giving attention'(his words) to many, many other women, but says he 'loves me'. Always says, when found out, that he is a changed man now(always the same statement!). I told him that he is simply a cheater and I have ended it with him. His problem...not mine anymore.:)

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        anonymous 

        14 months ago

        dear friends i need an advice..

        my man cheated on me 4 years ago and later when i got to know about it i confornted him .things settled between us when i trusted him back and everything went normal again .in this time i was talking to a man who liked me but i always rejected him saying that you're like a friend to me .but recently ive found out that my husband is again cheating on me .and now ive made up my mind to ask for a divorce but my husband wants me back .and taking a divorce for me is not easy as we had a 20years relation and 3 children .what do i do

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        A nony mouse 

        14 months ago

        Forgot to add a comment about blaming the other woman. No, I do not blame the other woman.She did me a favour, I am now free to have the sort of relationships that I want. I would also concur that there may well be people who are simply wired to cheat. In couples counselling, my ex claimed not to want our son. (not what he said when we were making him!) However, his mistress had 2 children and wife number 2 had 4 children (neither lot his), not that either relationship has worked out for him. You would have thought, that if he genuinely did not want children and that was the reason for his affair that he would not entertain relationships with women who already had children. I do not want to be cheated on again, so I do not entertain monogamous relationships, that way I do not invest so much in relationships and I am not so easily hurt. Common sense really.

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        A nony mouse 

        14 months ago

        What most people on here fail to realize is that people are fallible, both men and women. Cheating is not a particularly healthy way of dealing with relationship problems, chiefly because it is very easy to idealize someone we are not with 24/7. Real life is full of tiresome responsibilities, paying the mortgage, going to work fixing the car, doing the housework, paying bills etc, which do not tend to feature in affairs. Affairs are like holidays, not real life. Having an affair takes time and money away from dealing with the root of the problems, which is what is really needed.

        Some people do change after being caught having an affair, but I suspect that most do not. I would disagree on monitoring your partner, it is is a fair way to confirm your suspicions and secondly, in the UK under the matrimonial causes act, adultery is a just reason for divorce, but has to be demonstrated. Personally, having been in this position and my ex-husband went with me to couples counselling just to string me along. Whilest I was making every effort and giving him the space he wanted, he was online to his mistress, signed himself upto match.com and was happily misbehaving, blissfully unaware that it was being recorded.

        I told him that I knew of his behaviour and that I wanted him to go, but he stuck around, so I told him that as he was not monogamous that I would not be investing so much in our relationship in the future. And I did not. He soon left when 3 course meals, sex on tap and wife in slinky lingerie dried up. He went after the mistress, but things did not work out with her either. Came back and begged and I refused to take him back, he had had his chance to be faithful and been forgiven once for his infidelity, I was not about to repeat the mistake.

        He tried to run me over for starting divorce procedures, but I divorced him never the less.

        The police contacted my parents in December 2015, worried about my safety. After establishing that I was OK, I was asked to contact another police force with regard to my ex. When I did so they told me that he had remarried and he had attacked his new family. They had arrested, charged and bailed him. Later, new evidence came to light and he was remanded into prison. Unfortunately, the new wife withdrew her statements and the Crown Prosecution dropped the case.

        I do think that people need to be more realistic about relationships and both parties need to work hard to maintain them, as they are the responsibility of both parties involved. Jibaro sad to say you come across as extraordinarily misogynistic. If I was in Elaine's shoes after forgiving him the first time, I would be holding the door open for him to go hoping that he took the hint, but if he did not take that hint, I would hope that a lack of attention in the bedroom would work, but in the event of that not working time to find a lover.

        Why should a woman continue to invest in a relationship where the guy is cheating, unless it is an open relationship and she is able to do the same. Frankly, I have personally been through so much, I no longer look for monogamous relationships and think that polyamory is a much more honest way of being, it is a lot less hassle to as I do not invest so much in those relationships.

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        Taylor 

        14 months ago

        I support all the mistakes woman make 100%

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        Jibaro 

        14 months ago

        Elaine:

        Righ away after you checked my phone you would have been gone baby. Gone!

        No ifs, buts, or thens or sos. You are gone. There are a lot more women than men. The probability of getti ng a new one are way high. Specially if you make a good living. For you it is way harder to land a wimp that will tolerate you. Such is life!

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        Elaine 

        15 months ago

        I was with a guy for 2years and I found messages in his phone that he has been sleeping around.. also with a girl he claimed was his “best friend” they’d go out to lunch together because hey they’re childhood “best friends” right.? I forgave him the first time.. He cried so much, I cried too. It was soo convincing that he was gon be a changed man. Guess what.. homeboy cheated on me again

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        Jibaro 

        15 months ago

        Lia, you have an ideal view of what a man should be. If I do not fit your ideal view, you denounce me as not truely being a man - somebody that is not worthy of calling a man.

        Fine, that is your point of view because you do not have the honesty of looking for your faults first and fix them. Yes when you point as the "cheater" remember that you have 3 fingers poubting at you.

        Every action or non action has a response. Usually the victim is not really the victim. A woman that neglect her marriage is no victim and that is the reality of most cases.

        But I know that you will not accept that neglecting your marital resposibilities is another way of cheating. Also, you will not acept the human nature because the wife happiness is what matters and the husband happiness does not need to exist.

        So I think that no matter whatever science tells us you will not accept it becausr it is not what you want.

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        15 months ago from New York

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        Lia 

        15 months ago

        Jbaro! Man who cheat, will always cheat! Even when a relationship is perfect. Your view of blaming the women because she needs to reflect and find what flaws she has that led to her man cheating are completely wrong, and can only come from a man himself trying to excuse his actions. If there is a problem with a relationship then there should be communication and couples should be opened to trying to fix whatever the problem is. That is no excuse to go off cheating! A man should at least give his women the respect she deserves and if he has the need to be with another then he should break up with her. But no! It’s easy to have someone safe to always go back to while you stick your dick in another place. There is no excuse for cheating! It is just wrong and a man should be man enough to take responsibility and learn how to control themselves and their thirst for sex. Women should never feel guilty! If you are lacking something then he should had told you before going off and doing things behind your back!

        no ! There is no excuse for cheating , first reflect on yourself before blaming your partner . There are other things more important in a relationship than sex.

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        CHELLE 

        15 months ago

        With no due respect to my spouse, I need to vent, entirely on the fact that In the 20 yrs that we’ve been together I’ve always found little reasons and findings that’s led me to believe he was no good or trying to cheat! However, I’ve found out more about him in the last 3 yrs of being with him than I’d thought I’d ever want to claim knowing! In the past 3 yrs, I’ve found evidence on his very own cell phone that he personally was looking up escorts in our area. On occasion has had a couple stray texts in his phone with whom had no names saved as a contact, and to think everytime I’d confront him on it, I’d never get the answer I was hoping for, at least an admission of guilt or remorse...NOTHING! He’d say he was sorry after planting the blame on myself for looking in his phone, claiming I was looking for a reason to fuck around on him and blah blah blah, whatever the fuck their excuse is for why on earth they were caught. At the end of the day I know it’s nothing I’m doing wrong, I’m VERY ATTRACTIVE and I know I deserve better and In fact he’s only been spared because we share 3 kids together!!! !!! !!!! If it weren’t for that, he’d be expecting a damn escort to pay his ass for sex PERIOD POINT BLANK!!! There are numerous and countless things he’s done to me that has me in my feelings for wanting to pour some HOT BOILING WATER on his black ass right now as we speak! But you know what’s stopping me??! The act of god and his voice within me at this very moment is what’s stopping me! In my heart, he deserves the worse, but in my heart the worse he could get is to lose me to a much better man than he is and will ever be...and that is the voice I here in my head at this very moment!!! I wanted YOU...THE WORLD to know this! Thank you all for your time and reading my hurts and truths in written form!

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        Sue 

        15 months ago

        I just recently found out that my husband cheated again and he just expects me to pretend that nothing has happened he did the same the first time...and I thought that we could work things out but once a cheater always a cheater... I know for sure that I have to leave ... I cant stand being around him at all

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        Kim 

        15 months ago

        A guy might make a mistake one time. And regret it. After that it’s no mistake. Once a cheater always a cheater

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        rosa 

        15 months ago

        My partner of 4 years cheat for one year

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        Stacey 

        15 months ago

        My partner of twenty years has cheated on and off throughout the entire relationship. And I’m pretty sure I don’t know the half of it. It’s true if your gut says they’re cheating, they are.

        All the chances I’ve given him to change for me and our children have all been thrown back in my face. I’m sick of chasing him and begging him to change. I did the worse thing and kept everything to myself. I told nobody as I was so ashamed. It’s taken it’s toll on me and I’m so thin and unhealthy looking.

        Finally last week I opened up to my mother and sister in law as he has obviously been at it again, he’s been home maybe twice in two weeks. It has been a huge relief. They are so supportive and they truly love me and have gone out of their way to help. My mother has offered my children and I to move in with her till we get back on our feet. She has enough room for the three of us. I’m finally leaving the dirt bag.

        Maybe if your partner cheats the once and is truly sorry things could work. But, if like me, they continue to cheat, are blame you rather than themselves then PLEASE get out now. Do not waste twenty years of your life like I did on a selfish, self absorbed pig. They will not change, why would they when they can keep getting away with it. And please talk to someone you trust, family or close friend. There is help out there, just wish I’d asked for it sooner.

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        MJ 

        16 months ago

        What should I do when I found out that my husband cheated on me for 4years? We been married for 15 years and had 4 kids. He is asking for a second chance just to save our marriage. Is that a good enough to accept him?

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        16 months ago

        Thanku

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        Jibaro 

        16 months ago

        I have one single advice, go and do some research about Sociology and Biology! Maybe then you will be able to understand the natural mechanisms that are involved. Also if your other half have gone astray, male or female, please take a hard look on you and your home and see what it lacks that it is been served someplace else! Usually 99% of the time the real guilty party is the one crying foul! Every action is a reaction to something! As all humans if there is a lack or a necessity, the natural course is to cover it!

        If people do not find there erroneous behaviors and correct them there is no healing and after they divorce Larry or Marjorie, they will marry another Larry or another Marjorie. So please love yourself and be honest to yoursel; take a hard look on you a see what is wrong with you. Even better, ask the other party, where did I failed? It might be hurtful but will heal you and you will be able to move on under your own terms.

        We are not perfect, we grow in different ways and some grow too fasto while other too slow. Let's recognize our failures and correct them. Then we can move on and maybe be happier with your new, better and enhanced you. Whoever is at your side is your decision and not anyone else's decision. Maybe letting the other side have a lover or going poly is the answer to some and not to some. Let's respect people life and stop hating others for our own doing.

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        sap 

        16 months ago

        how can we grow up.....we feel bad to whom we love...they're cheating us

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        Tasha Niles 

        16 months ago

        I respect the reasons behind the cheating. To be in a relationship and unaware or aware that your man cheats is difficult to phantom but its real and it happens every day, and if your man cheats there is nothing wrong with you but him and you two should both sit down together to find a solution. Having read this article about unable to stop the cheater and they basically goes on to cheat is hopeless but all relationships differ and maybe for some thee is still hope yet.

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        17 months ago

        Out of numerous articles I've read about men cheating, why they do it etc, with the onus often being placed on the woman, I felt this article was a breath of fresh air. Rational and straight to the point and in hindsight very true. While there are two people in a relationship that can contribute to relationship breakdown, it's no excuse for cheating.

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        Smow 

        18 months ago

        My bf of 11 years cheated on me with another man! I'm devastated.

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        Moon 

        18 months ago

        My H cheated on me with my “friend”.. we hung out as couples all the time, I would have never thought anything was going on between them. She was not attractive whatsoever.. so it just proves that it can happen anytime anywhere, you can’t trust anyone. And you are left with all this pain regret on being a stay home mom and dedicating all this years to something they break. And you have to be the one who struggles even tho you did nothing but take care of your family. In my case I can blame the other woman too and I can’t go back to him because at least some of these men are dogs outside their house in my case I will always be wondering if he has anything to do with the women close to us.

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        jk 

        19 months ago

        My dear sister married a cheating husband - they have two children. She does not like it but she accepted it.

        My mom and dad have 7 kids together and my dad cheated on my mom with many different women during their life time.

        My other sister dated an NOT available guy for years and finally he left my sister to stay with his primary girlfriend.

        My oldest sister married a loyal and faithful husband and she almost cheated him with another man and my family got involve and it never happened so she still live with her husband for many years now.

        I have a loyal and faithful boyfriend of 16 years and at work there was a married guy who ALMOST got me but I was strong enough to walk away SAFELY.

        it seems cheating has a trail or it is in the blood or genetic or something.

        Cheating destroy and hurt so many relationships.

        It's sad but it's happening....ONLY you and YOU ONLY can decide to be monogamy or to cheat. But if you cheat on someone causing them pain - what comes around goes around some days someone will cause you triple the pain. So believe in bad karma. Don't do it. and of course DON'T stay with a cheater NOT even ONCE. TOO MUCH emotional distress.

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        jk 

        19 months ago

        Ayanda,

        Let him go, and let yourself free. Chasing after love - Love will run away from you. Let it goes and it will come to you.

        Don't live your life being afraid, and holding on. Be independent, be generous, be strong, you need to find your own happiness before you find someone to share the happiness. "happiness is do it YOURSELF project" I wish you with success

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        jk 

        19 months ago

        Jay,

        Your husband said all men cheat before his death. Well, he lied and he was wrong. Not all men cheat. Forgive him and move on - you can't change the past. live and enjoy your blessing in present time - look at the bright side - you still have a lot of nice and good things going on with your life -Good luck to you.

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        Liteoverdark 

        19 months ago

        Amen to that. That is the truest most wise advice ever. I dont care if my husband has or hasnt cheated. My husband can't tell the truth and you can never try to talk to him about what he does that hurt you. He cant ne told anything. So that means accept less than I deserve or walk. He just cares about making people like bim for who he isnt. I cant count on him. And he isnt trusted in so many ways. Theres no point in continuing the. We both need to be set free. marriage

        Can be a

        great thing but mine for way too long now has been a disaster and it's time to move on.

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        Cece 

        19 months ago

        Thanks for this post. My boyfriend cheated on me and now we aren't together. Now I'm at a point where I don't care about him anymore. Hate that he drove me to this point but working things out with him isn't going to happen.

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        Stephanie14 

        20 months ago

        cheating spouses often exhibit noticeable changes in behavior. Catching a cheating spouse may be difficult and even require the use of a private investigator. Private investigators may use personal surveillance techniques, video taping, or photography to obtain proof of the infidelity. In some cases, a private investigator may do a background check on the individual to obtain information of their past. You have to note that not all comment are real most of them are spammers and from what i have been made to understand, this job doesn’t come cheap. In the case of mine I requested for the service of this private investigator (captainspyhacker2 AT gmail DOT com ) who helped me gain access to my husband phone remotely using his techniques he did the job with no traces. up to this moment I still monitor his phone because I need a strong proof for divorce. Thanks Captain for this wonderful service you offered me

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