Men Can Be in Love With More Than One Woman at the Same Time
I know what you are thinking. For a man to be involved with more than one woman at the same time, he must be utterly selfish. Men who do such a thing must be greedy, lustful losers with no consideration for the feelings of their female counterparts, right? These arguments are completely false: simply because a man falls in love with more than one woman, does not mean he has a black heart. It is possible for men to be in love with more than one woman at the same time, because no two women are the same.
Some are good listeners, others are great cooks, and some have strong supportive personalities. If a man finds all of these traits in one woman, he has no reason to look elsewhere. Not everyone is this lucky, though.
A friend recently told me that when a man in a relationship finds himself in love with another woman, he is falling into a trap of emotional infidelity. To him, a man can only love and share his life with one woman. He believes a man is no longer in love with his girlfriend or wife, or that there may be a problem with their relationship, if he is beginning to fall for another woman.
But this can only be true if the man tries to hide his feelings. How he decides to deal with his newfound love is what will constitute the concept of cheating.
Most men believe the best thing to do is to keep their newfound love as far away as possible from their girlfriend or wife. This is usually in an attempt to protect her from heartbreak, but it is a huge mistake. When a man does this, the newfound love becomes a secret affair, and secrets require one to lie–or to tell only part of the truth, instead of the whole truth–in order to stay secret. This can be legitimately considered cheating.
Many wonder why married people cheat rather than simply ending the relationship. This can be explained by the fact that the cheating partner still loves their mate, and, although they have found a new love, doesn’t want to lose them.
So how does a man go about loving multiple women at the same time without being considered a cheater?
How a Man Should Deal With a New Love
Love thrives on truth, trust, and communication. As crazy as it may sound, the right thing for a man to do is to disclose his new love to his mate. If he doesn't tell her the truth, he will doubtless be branded a cheating, self-centered jerk with no morals–not just by her, but by other men, as well.
The man should tell his partner that he is in love with a new woman who's constantly on his mind. He should choose the moment to break the news with care. When he does, he should explain his reasons without sounding lusty. The next step is for him to reiterate that his love for her has not been diminished by the new woman. If he doesn’t love her any more, he shouldn't waste her time. He must end the relationship right then and there.
A man should allow his mate the opportunity to give him her honest opinion on the matter. She is his first love, and he should value her opinion and her ultimate decision. If he has been genuine and honest, she is likely to listen and respond in kind. If, by the end of the discussion, he finds there is room for a third person without destabilizing your domestic harmony, then he can go ahead with his new love. This cannot be considered cheating.
However, if she is in disagreement with his proposal, it is time for him to reevaluate the situation and set his priorities straight.
If he decides to continue his liaison with his new love, despite the objection, he is a cheat and probably deserves every bad name and insult which will inevitably be flung at him.
If he loves her so much he is unable to fess up to his extracurricular activities, he is probably afraid of losing her and should give it up. This is an indication that he is only built for exclusive love. He should stick with that.
It is common knowledge that romantic relationships come with no shortage of drama and stress. Thus, a man who falls in love with more than one woman has an enormous heart. To think of a man who keeps up meaningful relationships with multiple women as selfish is to misrepresent the meaning of the word. He willingly gives himself up to more than one woman, and volunteers valuable resources such as time and money to look after each of these women. Without hesitation, he listens and offers a shoulder to lean on, and his big heart has room for all the drama that comes with relationships. He never yields, and on those very few occasions he does, he is confronted with insults rather than the tribute he deserves.
© 2014 Ian Batanda