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6 Signs He's a Pathological Liar

Isabella shares dating tips and advice from the perspective of an American woman.


While women are certainly capable of lying and manipulation, they tend to do it a bit differently than men. For example, your typical run-of-the-mill, no-good female may lie about how much she loves you—when it's really your money she wants.

Yes, the gold digger may lie about being faithful and sneak out with a man on the side. These things are wrong, of course, but they're not necessarily pathological, and they are rarely based on insecurity or delusion.

Nope, it's usually men who concoct bizarre stories that are so grandiose one thinks they just have to be real. Sadly, I've met a few of these men and have heard more than my share of BS. While the men in question are best forgotten, I have, at least, learned the tell-tale signs of this behavior.

Here are the six you need to be wary of. And before you say they should be obvious—the truy pathological are usually quite adept at making it seem otherwise.

1. The Chemistry Is Too Perfect

Does the man know exactly what to say and when to say it? Is he more charming than George Clooney? Does he make you feel super special from the get-go, as though he's known you forever? Yeah? Guess what. Sign number one. MAYBE it's chemistry—but it probably ain't.

Truth is, he's probably got his routine down pat, and no surprise there, as he's probably doing this to several other women at the same time. Don't panic or tell him to piss off yet, but do be wary.

2. He's Too Perfect

Did he go to LSE and graduate at the top of his class? Did he go to the finest prep school in the land? Is he the perfect age? Has he never been married because he's holding out for love? Is he really 40 and childless? Does he really bank loads and loads at his fantabulous job?

Does he really want to take you around the world in his private jet? Yeah. Sure he does. It is amazing how many women fall for this kind of thing. Wake up!

3. He Constantly Breaks Dates Without Giving You Notice

Not just once but repeatedly. Yes, he has an excuse, and yes, you can buy it if you're of a mind to do so. In reality, the reason is probably simple—he forgot. And you can't really blame him, can you? It's hard work, keeping track of five or six women at the same time.

(Note: The man who breaks dates all the time, but does give notice, is not a pathological liar. He's an insecure prat who is trying to manipulate you via your emotions. Just so we're clear on that.)

4. He Sucks at Keeping in Touch

Good at promising to call you later in the evening, but sucky at actually following through on it. Hey, you can't hold it against him. He probably thought he'd be able to get a free minute, but the wife and kids have insisted he take them out to Bob's Big Boy for supper. Eh, what can you do?

5. His Excuses Are Incredible

Instead of simply forgetting, working late, or even dropping his mobile phone in the loo, this guy's phone was confiscated by a policeman whilst in pursuit of a highly dangerous criminal. Your man, of course, was glad to be of service to his country. Whadda man, eh?

6. Something New and Major Happens Every Day

Your first date was cancelled because mummy had a stroke. The second date was cancelled because she had another. The 10th date was cancelled because he was dutifully looking after her in the hospital. The 40th date was postponed because mummy passed away.

Naturally, he will now be unavailable for the next couple of weeks as he plans the funeral and ties up mummy's loose ends. Never mind the fact that mummy was never ill and certainly never died—you'll just have to wait a month or so until you've had time to catch him in that lie. At which time, he will simply say he misspoke!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.