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5 Reasons Some Men Disrespect Women

Why is it that some guys are just chauvinistic bastards that still, in this day and age, feel the need to disrespect women and express to the world their disdain for them? Why is it that there are still men who spend their time spouting all about how women are inferior, like anyone would care even if it was true?

Why would a guy do this?

There are probably a multitude of reasons, but here are a few basic ones to consider.


1 - He has low self-esteem.

He doesn't have a very high opinion of himself personally, when you get right down to it, so he gains something of a fake self-esteem from associating himself with a group (men) who he feels are superior to another group (women).

This happens all the time in other contexts, actually; people with weak egos tend try to connect themselves to some kind of pack or brotherhood and try to draw some kind of identity from it--be it cultural or religious or anything else that allows for an "us" and "them" mentality.

The hallmark of such a person is an odd preoccupation with the things he dislikes or disrespects (women), which is odd considering he dislikes them, a tendency to blame his troubles on the one disdained thing, and a lack of desire for actually working on his own self.

2 - One woman has crossed him, and now all women deserve to be subject to his fiery rage.

I've been there. I've been this guy, so I know. It's almost justifiable. Sometimes one woman (or a few) will seem to crush your spirit so much and so deeply, that you just don't want to have anything to do with ANY woman anymore. (And you wouldn't, if it wasn't for the fact that you desire intimacy and the only other alternative [other men] is too ugly and bearded.)

Eventually, though (hopefully), a guy gets over this and stops being so judgmental. One day, as it often happens, he'll find a woman who proves him wrong in this respect simply by the was she is.

3 - He likes women with low self-esteem, and disrespecting them is the best way to get such a girl's attention.

The only real solution to this is for women to just not tolerate his antics. This is unlikely, though, as some women, especially the younger kind, just get ten kinds of giddy over this kind of behavior. Unless they have been thoroughly brainwashed with feminist propaganda (which is not really a good thing, either), less mature women will often tend to interpret his bitterness as boldness and react positively.

4 - He's effeminate and it's easier to seem manlier if he's an asshole to people more feminine than himself.

Again, I have seen other guys be this way, but I can relate to it to some degree because puberty did me few favors and I looked like a young teen basically until I was in my twenties and actually started growing a beard.

It's often younger men who act this way, not yet totally secure in their masculinity, because they're under the impression that this is how a person asserts himself: By pushing others down who are weaker than him.

5 - He's just an asshole in general and has never met a woman who wouldn't put up with his crap.

It could just be that he's a plain old irrevocable asshole for any number of reasons, including but not limited to the ones stated above, and that he's never had reason to stop doing what he does because not enough women (or none at all that he has met) are disgusted enough by the things he says and does, plain and simple.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


Tiger on January 04, 2019:

Hi Dave

Do you know how many women goes into labour to have a baby everyday. Do you know how dangerous it is?

Women on December 14, 2018:

Wow.. i can't believe the comments from women here. Such arrogance and disgusting biased.

Truth Really Is on August 01, 2018:

Well first of all unfortunately the women of today have really changed for the worst since they now have a very big demanding list when it comes to us good men. Must have a full head of hair with know baldness at all, be in very excellent shape, have a lot of money, own a million dollar home, and drive a real expensive car as well. Well that is certainly one hell of a list that these very pathetic women have today for us men, considering that most women are very obese and not all that attractive either to begin with.

Kristen on June 12, 2018:

Relationships just aren’t worth it anymore for us ladies..marriage is basically paid servitude,and dick in modern society is abundant but low quality.Get a vibrator:).

meshia on March 20, 2018:

i just dont get it i have been disrespected on so many levels

Andy on January 06, 2018:

Fear is the key to this behaviour. Fear of rejection, fear of opening-up to another person, fear of femininity in himself, etc. Lack of self-assurance creates the feeling that women will reject him no matter what he says or does. Leads to anxiety and depression in some men.

Bonniewon on August 17, 2017:

I wish that there could be done about men whi disrespect woman.

Ripley on July 27, 2017:

In my opinion, it's never "almost justifiable" to treat someone badly because they belong to a certain gender.

dave dale on March 02, 2017:

What men are complaining about is a general disrespect for men in popular culture , like TV and film, while women are always elevated. If a man insults a woman, it is viewed as an insult to ALL women, yet men are put down all the time.

Men are usually portrayed weak and stupid, and women as competent and with they're act together. Men do the majority of the difficult , dangerous and unpleasant jobs (99 percent of people killed on the job are male), yet women want the same pay. Being and arch welder is not the same as finger painting, yet women want the same pay.

There are good and bad men, and good and bad women. Both deserve respect when they earn it, and both dont when they don't . This new world of it being illegal to insult a women, but not a man, is balony and is the reason political things are happening like they are.

Angie on March 02, 2017:

This is just a damn list of Fuckn excuses for people who need to get they shit together be it man woman or beast

betty watts on January 25, 2017:

i met a man 4 years ago .and he stop talking to me.

Leanna on December 04, 2016:

Who is the author of this

Andrea on June 07, 2016:

This is why I feel like relationships are a waste of time these day and unfortunately I dont want nothing to do with the men inthis world today. I am glad men do not flock to me because i dont need them. I would rather spend the rest of my life alone.

Lauren on March 08, 2015:

Lol just laughing to keep myself from crying, wish I would have seen this 4 years ago...

katy on September 20, 2014:

You seem like a good human being. Keep it up! The world needs more introspective men like you!

Aiyana on March 09, 2013:

I have met disrespectful men like this I don't talk to any of them any more and I don't put myself in situations where I have to tolerate it.

Also I'm not going to waste my time and effort in trying to build their self esteem that is really the individuals responsibility.

Fortunately for me I have so many abilities and talents I can work in an environment where they are not present anymore and I guess that is the reward for my efforts.

dione hickman on December 07, 2012:

iam marry

Dnation on July 18, 2012:

Looks like to me you nailed it. Great Hub

SanXuary on October 14, 2011:

Whatever the case might be these people all suck. I am a guy and I do not like guys like these.

asian lamps on July 19, 2011:

A lot of women allow it sadly

browneyes901 on November 22, 2010:

First of all if a man hads low-esteem, this is something that may have came from childhood and it's build up inside of him. When you get two people together that has low esteem it creates things that is not health for anyone.

Katie McMurray from Westerville on October 04, 2010:

very practical and honest facts on why some men disrespect women. I appreciate your insights and look forward to reading more of your work on relationships. Peace :)

susanmarion from Bunnell on September 29, 2010:

I have to admit, the reasons are the same for women. They might not always act like A-holes in front of men, although many do, women get together and bash men all the time. I think the main reason is to talk tough, sound tougher than we are. I have done all of the above things for all the above reasons when I was younger. Now, I sometimes still talk tough, but I love people and I don't tolerate disrespect. I simply say that something was disrespectful and walk away if it happens a second time. Depending on the vibes or the offense, I might walk away the first time.