Everyone reacts differently to someone else’s actions, but the hardest part is reading someone’s reactions to a kiss and trying to ﬁgure out what they mean. With the good responses also come the bad. These are the hardest ones to read but are also the most important. You won’t want to carry on if you know someone is uncomfortable.
Pulling Away: If someone keeps on pulling away every time you go to kiss them, then this is an obvious sign you need to put the brakes on. They don’t want to kiss you at this time. There are two reasons for this. The ﬁrst is that perhaps they don’t feel this way about you and don’t want to kiss you. The second is that perhaps they don’t feel ready to kiss you and you are putting them in an awkward position. So deﬁnitely don’t try to kiss them again. If it’s the second reason, then they will kiss you when they are ready because they already know you will kiss them back.
Using More Pressure: If they start using more pressure when they kiss you, then this is a great sign. It means they really enjoy kissing you and really getting into it. They are also a compatible kisser with you because they feel comfortable enough to take a little control over the situation.
Feel Their Head Pulling Away: If you are kissing them but can feel their head pulling away, stop because for whatever reason they don't want to continue and you don't want to embarrass yourself. Even though they were also kissing you back, either they realized this isn't what they want and don't feel omfortable kissing you, or they feel you are moving too fast. Whatever the reason, respect their feelings and don't push it. It may ruin whatever you have together.
Kissing But Pushing You Away: If you have both been kissing for a little while now and you can feel them slightly pushing you away a little with their hands, then read the sign as it was intended. They obviously need a bit of space. You are probably moving a little fast for them, or they need a breath. Whatever the reason for the push, don't stress, as it is nothing bad. If they really didn't want to kiss you, then they would have stopped kissing you altogether.
Kissing But Not Touching: If they are kissing you without any body contact and keeping a little distance, don't be offended. Don't worry, especially if it is your ﬁrst kiss together. As long as they are still kissing you, they are still enjoying themselves. They may just be a little nervous so their body will be a little tense and things aren't ﬂowing for them naturally just yet. They may also be thinking more about the kiss and making sure everything is going right.
Pull Away But Then Want More: When you are kissing someone and they pull away and maybe come back ﬁve minutes later for more, don't read into this too much. Obviously, they were in an uncomfortable position. Maybe they were going to lose their balance, or maybe they felt that it wasn't appropriate for them to stop kissing, get into a more comfortable position, and then carry on. It may have seemed a little unnatural to them and even a little embarrassing. So they may have stopped then started again later so it would be less obvious they were uncomfortable.
Rubbing You While Kissing: If they start rubbing your hand, leg, arm etc., then they are really enjoying themselves and feeling comfortable. Unless you didn't already guess, they really like you and obviously think you are a great kisser. If the kisses start getting heavier, and they are more adventurous with their touches, they probably want more. Don't rush into it, though. They will let you know now that they have taken a little control.
Noises: Noises are deﬁnitely a good sign when it comes to kissing. They probably don't even realize that they are doing it, but they are deﬁnitely enjoying themselves. They are so into the kiss that they have forgotten what is going on around them and have started subconsciously making noises. When I say noises, I mean things like "mmm" and "ahhh." Anything more is a little over the top and may even be fake.
Kissing Then Stopping: If you have been kissing for a little bit, then all of a sudden your partner slowly pulls away, don't worry. It doesn't mean that they have changed their minds. The best bet is that either you have slightly bad breath or they think they have. That is why they kissed you for a little bit anyway because they do want to kiss and they don't want you to think otherwise. Rather than acting offended, take the time to give your mouth a little freshen up. There is nothing nicer than kissing a fresh mouth.
Climbing Kisses: If they start applying a lot more pressure and pretty much start climbing on you, it is pretty obvious they want more of you!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
John on July 14, 2019:
I hate kissing. If you try to kiss me I'll dump you immediately. If you don't like it that's too bad - it's my choice whether or not to let you kiss me. Women just need to leave me alone. You've been warned.
Kiana on September 06, 2018:
Me and ny boyfriend were walking in the halls at school and out of no where he tryed to kiss me and i pulled away from it even though ive been waiting for a while
Drunk and high on June 05, 2018:
So me and a guy kissed for the first time and his response to our first kiss was passionate and couldn't stop doing it ( even though he was a bad kisser )
Next time I initiated but he acted like he didn't have a clue and the moment our lips touched , he pushed himself back
I havr no idea why he did that
Deb on February 25, 2018:
I don't like kissing. I remember an awful first time french kiss I had with my boyfriend then, my husband now. He initiated it but didn't like my response and pushed me away saying my tongue makes him puke, "Disgusting!!! " It really hurts me and never ever kiss him on the lips, anyway he is always after sex. He can have it just no kiss. I think he never notice I don't kiss on the lips anymore, whenever he tried I averted my head. A kiss is always a emotionally hurting experience for ever since.
HULIE on April 14, 2012:
WOW THANX ND U JST MADE ME THNK OF MY BF'S LIPS
Curlycorndogs on March 24, 2012:
Great hub ^_^ thx. Man, I just love reading other peoples comments.
rob macenthol on August 26, 2008:
you guys make me wana go put on clown shoes and rob a liquor store!
Merle Ann Johnson from NW in the land of the Free on March 17, 2008:
oh dear funride...I will accept it pleasurably (is that a word?) and send it straight back to you my dear. How are you doing by the way? Think about you often and hope you feel it. G-Ma :o) hugs
Ricardo Nunes from Portugal on March 09, 2008:
This hub made me run to my wife and kiss her :)
Kisses for you Roxana and also for G-Ma :-»
Merle Ann Johnson from NW in the land of the Free on March 06, 2008:
Great Hub..You make kissing fun again..thanks. G-ma :o)