How to Kiss a Girl for the First Time

Updated on June 13, 2019
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Kissing a girl for the first time, whether it's your first kiss or just the first time you're kissing a new girlfriend, is an exciting prospect for most guys!

However, if your first kiss does not go well, there is a good chance that first kiss will also be the last. You see, many girls decide right after their first kiss whether they will ever kiss the same guy again.

For many guys, kissing a girl or getting to "first base" is often just a step towards getting more intimate with a girl. Girls, on the other hand, will often judge a guy by the way he kisses. It will often determine their opinion on whether or not he will be a good partner.

Your first kiss does not have to be perfect from a physical standpoint. If she has had other boyfriends in the past, you don't need to kiss her like she has never been kissed before. It does not have to be a long and passionate kiss, either. What is important, though, is that it has to be a positive and memorable experience for her. It should not be easily forgettable.

The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a great deal longer.

— Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

What Should I Do Before I Kiss a Girl?

Here are some things you should do to prepare for that big moment of the first kiss.

Have good breath. Nothing will kill a first kiss for a girl more than the taste of something like onions or cigarettes if your a smoker. Before going out with a girl, brush your teeth and tongue. You should also use mouth was as well. If you go out to eat somewhere, you should pack some type of breath freshener.

Avoid having chapped lips. Dry and cracked lips do not make for a pleasant kissing experience. Use any type of remedy to for treatment, such as a topical cream.

Make sure she is interested. If you are explicitly on a date, then she likely has an interest in you. Even so, you should still make sure she is comfortable with you. Try to get a good read on the mood and how she is feeling. If she leans in a lot when she speaks to you, or touches you a lot and seems to stay close, she will probably be receptive to your advances. If you are really unsure, you may have to directly ask her if you can kiss her. This can be very awkward and isn't very romantic, but it is better than making her uncomfortable with a kiss she doesn't want.

Be in a private spot. A first kiss can be awkward, and it can be worse if it occurs in a crowded place. You should ideally find a quiet and private place for your first kiss. A good place and time would when you are out for a walk, when you're leaving a movie, or when you part ways at the end of the night.

Be on the lookout for dilating pupils and extended eye contact. It could mean a girl likes you.
Be on the lookout for dilating pupils and extended eye contact. It could mean a girl likes you. | Source

If you kiss on the first date and it’s not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it’s better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else.

— Jennifer Lopez

How to Know If She Wants a Kiss

Here are some cues a girl can give you that says she is interested in kissing. Knowing these clues will help you know when the mood is right.

  • Flared nostrils: A girl does this when she is taking in extra air to prepare to do something physical. She can do this when she feels excited or aroused. This sign may not mean much on its own, so look for it in combination with other types of body language.
  • Dilating pupils: Eyes will get wider and pupils will dilate when people look at things they like. If she is holding strong eye contact with you and her pupils are dilating, she is likely very interested in you.
  • Touching: The touch barrier has to be broken before you even think about a kiss. There is a good chance she is interested if she touches you frequently. You can give her some lights taps to see if she is comfortable with you touching her.
  • Preoccupation with lips: If a girl is thinking about a kiss, she may start licking or rubbing her lips. She also start staring at yours. This is not a sure sign that she is interested in kissing, but it should be kept in mind if you notice these things with other types of body language.
  • Body position: How a girl positions herself around you can tell you if she is into you. There may be strong interest in you if she has open body language. This can be her face, chest, and feet directly facing you. Her arms can be at her sides as opposed to being crossed, which can be kind of a barrier. She may also be close to you when she doesn't have to be.
  • Communication: You should pay attention to how a girl is talking to you. Is she asking you questions that try to uncover you on a personal level? Is she the one keeping the conversation going? Is she laughing at all your unfunny jokes? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, she is likely into you.

Here is some more advice on figuring out if a girl likes you.

Holding hands is a great way to break the touch barrier. Any type of of hand touching is a good way to tell if a girl is comfortable kissing you.
Holding hands is a great way to break the touch barrier. Any type of of hand touching is a good way to tell if a girl is comfortable kissing you. | Source

We are all mortal until the first kiss and the second glass of wine.

— Eduardo Galeano

Tips for Kissing a Girl for the First Time

Here are things to keep in mind when you are finally making the moves for your first kiss.

  • Make sure she wants a kiss. This can't be repeated enough. You have to be sure your girl is interested in you. If you're getting along well, she is laughing at your jokes, and she is fondly touching you,you are probably in the clear. You don't need to ask her directly for a kiss, just use your best judgement.
  • Position yourself in a strategic manner. The best way to approach for a kiss is to sidle up next to her. It can be awkward if you try to lean forward if you are facing her. Approaching from the side can be more smooth as well as feel a bit more intimate.
  • Touch her hands or back. This is basically a physical way of asking permission for a kiss. If she is receptive and wants you closer, you are in the clear for a kiss. If she backs away, then she is not in the mood.
  • Make a smooth approach. Try to avoid leaning in awkwardly for a kiss. Being next to your girl can help alleviate this issues. You also don't want to be too forceful when going for a kiss. You should try leaning in over halfway to your girl and let her be the one to make the final move toward your lips.
  • Use your hands. Your hands shouldn't just be hanging limp during a kiss. Use them to raise the intimacy. You can try holding her hands or cupping her face. You should definitely stay on the tentative side in regards to touching. You should certainly not be groping. You should give her some space to allow her to touch you.
  • Lay off the tongue for now. A first kiss should mostly be lip contact. You certainly should not be fulling extending your tongue in there. Stick to small probes here and there for now.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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      APersonYouDontKnow 

      3 months ago

      I'm not a guy...

      Any tips for people who aren't guys too?

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      Dat Boi 

      5 months ago

      Does sitting on your lap and rubbing your hand and saying I love you every night mean that she likes you

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      Xexen24 

      5 months ago

      @Imagine I know I’m a girl to and my gf has never kissed anyone before. I think these tips would still work but since we girls we should know what the other one wants. Good luck!

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      Hudson Odoi 

      5 months ago

      So useful. Way to go.

      But,I have another problem that I need answers to. What can I give to my girlfriend as birthday gift.

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      Celestin 

      8 months ago

      I think if i use the tips it will work for me

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      Hogan 

      8 months ago

      I will try it on thrsday, we dont have school. And do ppl not know how to speak English.

      Talk right. Please

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      Ryan Howarth 

      8 months ago

      Thanks,I’ll try them when I have the chance

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      NotARealName 

      9 months ago

      Thanks this was helpful. Wish me luck!

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      Peterson 

      9 months ago

      This has helped a lot like I now know how to do it

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      Bubba J 

      9 months ago

      Ok my girlfriend is anti social but has never kissed a guy before I want to be her first and last everything should I go for the tongue or no

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      notahomosapean 

      9 months ago

      Thanks for the advice hope she likes it

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      Imagine 

      9 months ago

      I can't wait to kiss my new girlfriend it's just this page says for men, what about girls I'm a girl and this page was kinda useful

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      ReedStone15 

      10 months ago

      Thanks for the advice, I hope she likes it.

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      MAGERA BRIAN 

      10 months ago

      Nice Tips Thank U 4ur Help. Top

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      48 year old teacher 

      13 months ago

      Thanks now i will use these tips to make out with my wonderful 13 year old student Alex, very sweet

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      david ghaley 

      13 months ago

      thanks for tips tomorrow I will follow this tips and I will kiss my girlfriend this is also my first girlfriend and first kiss and I don't lose her I really love her

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      Baby Boss 

      15 months ago

      Thanks

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      Kefass 

      16 months ago

      Thanx

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      drew 

      16 months ago

      thanks

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      Chris 

      17 months ago

      Thank you for the tips and advice on the do’s and dont’s for kissing a girl I know what to do and not to do when I kiss my girlfriend for the first time

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      Faggit part 2 

      18 months ago

      Good

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      ACE 

      18 months ago

      Thank you for the tips I will make sure that my first kiss with my girlfriend is great.

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      fag 

      21 months ago

      middle school relationships are way more simple. 9 times out of 10 if your dating her she thinks of you the same way and wants to kiss you

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      connor 

      21 months ago

      I have been dating this girl for almost 2 months im 13. we were texting and she said she wanted to kiss me so i felt it was right to kiss her thanks i will try this tommorow

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      ornella 

      23 months ago

      wooow this is soooo great i will definitly try this

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      Matt 

      4 years ago

      I've got a gf I'm 13 I've been going out with her just over a month and I'm meeting her tomorrow. I am going to try your advice if I have the courage haha! Hope it works.

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      Philip Philbent Bentil 

      4 years ago

      tnx am gonna try

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      meeee 

      5 years ago

      Thanks! I'm gonna try it soon but probably stick it in her the same night hahahahah

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      Me 

      5 years ago

      Thanks, I will try this on the the girl I like at camp

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      willy 

      5 years ago

      Wow!!dat abdication it xo nyce ed hppfu

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      iguidenetwork 

      6 years ago from Austin, TX

      Hahahaha. My first kiss was awkward. This article should have come at an earlier time LOL. But interesting and very helpful points there. :)

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      6 years ago

      thanks i m kiss to my gf at tom...

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      Afsah 

      6 years ago

      I hope this works and thanks ayway!

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      halo fanboy 

      6 years ago

      ty im going to try

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      tamal 

      6 years ago

      vere fine

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      Oscar 

      6 years ago

      Haha noticed this only works with people you just met otherwise its extreamlwy hard!

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      Steve 

      6 years ago

      Hey,

      Rejection doesn't really mean anything, a girl can refuse to kiss you and then the next minute be all over you. I demonstrated this on this video.

      I hope this is allowed :

      http://www.authenticpua.com/dating-articles/how-to...

      LOL @ wipe nutsack on her face.

      Steve

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      smarika and satish 

      6 years ago

      its so funny and feel very nice

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      nervous first kisser 

      6 years ago

      seems cool hope it'll work

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      Miriam Micheals 

      6 years ago from United States

      Great romantic suggestions!

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      like a boss 

      7 years ago

      wtf i have had a girlfriend last year and she promised a kiss and after about $50 and a really expensive neckless she dumped me and right before my b-day too. and i know it too because the first thing she said to me when we got to school was happy b-day. and i never even told her my birthday. dude i got used to being bullied and i know how it feels but that was just wrong

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      Ethaan 

      7 years ago

      that's great to here

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      obsidian 

      7 years ago

      This is how u survive the first night. After takin her to your house after a nice dinner, nock her out with a glass bottle and proceed to wipe your nutsack on her face. Have fun.

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      Johnny 

      7 years ago

      ok I'll try it hopefully it works

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      nate 

      7 years ago

      Ty Ill try;)

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      Donaldson.jr 

      7 years ago

      Tne guys i will try with my girl frnd

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      Josh 

      7 years ago

      Thxs u guys! This info is perfect!! I will try it w my new gf on Tuesday, ill let u guys know how it goes thxs ;;)

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      dash 

      7 years ago

      I will try this my girlfriend kara

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      Tosincruz 

      7 years ago

      Tanks man dis really wat girls nid

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      luke 

      7 years ago

      thanks man it helped a lot(:

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      Andy 

      7 years ago

      Hoping i do it right, i go up to her at school about to do it then p***y out :/

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      Yung Tashy 

      7 years ago

      I will try my best

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      henry 

      7 years ago

      thnks my girl was lovin it

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      Ghost 

      7 years ago

      Thnx bro this helps

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      Vicy 

      7 years ago

      Nice one

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      Good one 

      7 years ago

      Thanks a lot

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      ipointoutmisstakes 

      7 years ago

      lol dimming lights and playing music makes her feal uncomfortable cuz it looks like you wanna get it on (you know what im saying?)

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      ipointoutmisstakes 

      7 years ago

      lol dimming lights and playing music makes her feal uncomfortable cuz it looks like you wanna get it on (you know what im saying?)

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      joey 

      7 years ago

      thx man ill try tht

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      zairy 

      7 years ago

      your stupid >:o

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      Joseph 

      7 years ago

      Kisses ar swit those tips ar hot kep it up.

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      Snoony 

      7 years ago

      Good advice I wil try it tomorrow

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      me 

      7 years ago

      good advice... now i just need a girl

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      Drake 

      7 years ago

      Thanks for tips:-)

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      Kululali 

      7 years ago

      Hpe it works

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      RJ 

      7 years ago

      Awesome man! This is great.. And i'll try this.. Tnx for the help!

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      blake 

      7 years ago

      Needed the help thank u

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      Jason 

      7 years ago

      I will try tomorrow.hope that it works man

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      Blah 

      7 years ago

      Haha it's funny how these people talk. Speak English please.

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      b-man 

      7 years ago

      im only 13 but it did help i got a g-frind now

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      bart 

      7 years ago

      I am so hot girls stare at me will i am kissing them help!

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      Donty 

      7 years ago

      Thanks it really help me allot and resolve allot of mi douds

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      filippos 

      7 years ago

      tommarow i will try! thnx for tips :)

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      Monk 

      7 years ago

      Dats wat Girls would like for real! Thanx man

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      Ernest 

      7 years ago

      Perfect info

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      Joeythegrreat 

      7 years ago

      Very nice, I agree with everything you wrote, very informative.

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      Bullard 

      7 years ago

      Thx I'm going to try

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