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How to Kiss a Girl for the First Time

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Kissing a girl for the first time, whether it's your first kiss or just the first time you're kissing a new girlfriend, is an exciting prospect for most guys!

However, if your first kiss does not go well, there is a good chance that first kiss will also be the last. You see, many girls decide right after their first kiss whether they will ever kiss the same guy again.

For many guys, kissing a girl or getting to "first base" is often just a step towards getting more intimate with a girl. Girls, on the other hand, will often judge a guy by the way he kisses. It will often determine their opinion on whether or not he will be a good partner.

Your first kiss does not have to be perfect from a physical standpoint. If she has had other boyfriends in the past, you don't need to kiss her like she has never been kissed before. It does not have to be a long and passionate kiss, either. What is important, though, is that it has to be a positive and memorable experience for her. It should not be easily forgettable.

The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a great deal longer.

— Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

What Should I Do Before I Kiss a Girl?

Here are some things you should do to prepare for that big moment of the first kiss.

Have good breath. Nothing will kill a first kiss for a girl more than the taste of something like onions or cigarettes if your a smoker. Before going out with a girl, brush your teeth and tongue. You should also use mouth was as well. If you go out to eat somewhere, you should pack some type of breath freshener.

Avoid having chapped lips. Dry and cracked lips do not make for a pleasant kissing experience. Use any type of remedy to for treatment, such as a topical cream.

Make sure she is interested. If you are explicitly on a date, then she likely has an interest in you. Even so, you should still make sure she is comfortable with you. Try to get a good read on the mood and how she is feeling. If she leans in a lot when she speaks to you, or touches you a lot and seems to stay close, she will probably be receptive to your advances. If you are really unsure, you may have to directly ask her if you can kiss her. This can be very awkward and isn't very romantic, but it is better than making her uncomfortable with a kiss she doesn't want.

Be in a private spot. A first kiss can be awkward, and it can be worse if it occurs in a crowded place. You should ideally find a quiet and private place for your first kiss. A good place and time would when you are out for a walk, when you're leaving a movie, or when you part ways at the end of the night.

Be on the lookout for dilating pupils and extended eye contact. It could mean a girl likes you.

Be on the lookout for dilating pupils and extended eye contact. It could mean a girl likes you.

If you kiss on the first date and it’s not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it’s better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else.

— Jennifer Lopez

How to Know If She Wants a Kiss

Here are some cues a girl can give you that says she is interested in kissing. Knowing these clues will help you know when the mood is right.

  • Flared nostrils: A girl does this when she is taking in extra air to prepare to do something physical. She can do this when she feels excited or aroused. This sign may not mean much on its own, so look for it in combination with other types of body language.
  • Dilating pupils: Eyes will get wider and pupils will dilate when people look at things they like. If she is holding strong eye contact with you and her pupils are dilating, she is likely very interested in you.
  • Touching: The touch barrier has to be broken before you even think about a kiss. There is a good chance she is interested if she touches you frequently. You can give her some lights taps to see if she is comfortable with you touching her.
  • Preoccupation with lips: If a girl is thinking about a kiss, she may start licking or rubbing her lips. She also start staring at yours. This is not a sure sign that she is interested in kissing, but it should be kept in mind if you notice these things with other types of body language.
  • Body position: How a girl positions herself around you can tell you if she is into you. There may be strong interest in you if she has open body language. This can be her face, chest, and feet directly facing you. Her arms can be at her sides as opposed to being crossed, which can be kind of a barrier. She may also be close to you when she doesn't have to be.
  • Communication: You should pay attention to how a girl is talking to you. Is she asking you questions that try to uncover you on a personal level? Is she the one keeping the conversation going? Is she laughing at all your unfunny jokes? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, she is likely into you.

Here is some more advice on figuring out if a girl likes you.

Holding hands is a great way to break the touch barrier. Any type of of hand touching is a good way to tell if a girl is comfortable kissing you.

Holding hands is a great way to break the touch barrier. Any type of of hand touching is a good way to tell if a girl is comfortable kissing you.

We are all mortal until the first kiss and the second glass of wine.

— Eduardo Galeano

Tips for Kissing a Girl for the First Time

Here are things to keep in mind when you are finally making the moves for your first kiss.

  • Make sure she wants a kiss. This can't be repeated enough. You have to be sure your girl is interested in you. If you're getting along well, she is laughing at your jokes, and she is fondly touching you,you are probably in the clear. You don't need to ask her directly for a kiss, just use your best judgement.
  • Position yourself in a strategic manner. The best way to approach for a kiss is to sidle up next to her. It can be awkward if you try to lean forward if you are facing her. Approaching from the side can be more smooth as well as feel a bit more intimate.
  • Touch her hands or back. This is basically a physical way of asking permission for a kiss. If she is receptive and wants you closer, you are in the clear for a kiss. If she backs away, then she is not in the mood.
  • Make a smooth approach. Try to avoid leaning in awkwardly for a kiss. Being next to your girl can help alleviate this issues. You also don't want to be too forceful when going for a kiss. You should try leaning in over halfway to your girl and let her be the one to make the final move toward your lips.
  • Use your hands. Your hands shouldn't just be hanging limp during a kiss. Use them to raise the intimacy. You can try holding her hands or cupping her face. You should definitely stay on the tentative side in regards to touching. You should certainly not be groping. You should give her some space to allow her to touch you.
  • Lay off the tongue for now. A first kiss should mostly be lip contact. You certainly should not be fulling extending your tongue in there. Stick to small probes here and there for now.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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I had a sleep over with my friend tim we are ten both boys and he knows I hav girlfriend and he was like u need to lern to kiss and cors he told me to practice on him an I sed no but then he kept coming up with ecscuses like dirty truth or dare eventually I gave in an we made out he sed I wud kiss her fine but then I felt terrible cos I kinda cheated an I dunno about being bisexual I mean I used to be gay but then we decided to just be friends bc being gay is weerd then I got a girlfriend 2 months later this happens so I'm kissin my gf tomorrow I just don't know what to do the tips were great though thx

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Aiden Roberts on July 07, 2020:

Those tips were good now alls I need to do is use them thank u so much for every last tip u shared especially the tips to know when she is in the mood I loved all the tips I can't wait for my kiss now my first aswell thanks so much

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Really dieying to kiss her lips but very nervous

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i tried this strat after 2 months of intimate hand holding and we have kissed many times afterwards

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kjt on January 25, 2020:

too much scary to kiss a girl but i did it .........

Sebastian on January 17, 2020:

Soo.... scary tho nervousness can kill a kiss

Kennedy on January 13, 2020:

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baba on January 07, 2020:

I want to try but I fear to

Oushhh on January 03, 2020:

How to kiss? Just lip-contact?

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I have a girlfriend to kiss buh shy

Help me cuz I'm a coward on November 11, 2019:

I dated my gf for about two months we never touched hands or backs but she stares at my lips alot but she also doesn't ever fully face me and it sometimes feels perfect but she backs out or sometimes I stupidly back out will I ever get this kiss?

BG on October 30, 2019:

i like this girl but i don't know if she likes me too

horatious on October 27, 2019:

Thanks, tomorrow i will do that

ace on October 17, 2019:

I really like this girl but i don't know if she is into me. what should i do?

ThatOneEmo on October 12, 2019:

But what if she kissed me on the cheek twice and we only dated for 3 days?

APersonYouDontKnow on June 07, 2019:

I'm not a guy...

Any tips for people who aren't guys too?

Dat Boi on March 31, 2019:

Does sitting on your lap and rubbing your hand and saying I love you every night mean that she likes you

Xexen24 on March 25, 2019:

@Imagine I know I’m a girl to and my gf has never kissed anyone before. I think these tips would still work but since we girls we should know what the other one wants. Good luck!

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So useful. Way to go.

But,I have another problem that I need answers to. What can I give to my girlfriend as birthday gift.

Celestin on January 03, 2019:

I think if i use the tips it will work for me

Hogan on January 01, 2019:

I will try it on thrsday, we dont have school. And do ppl not know how to speak English.

Talk right. Please

Ryan Howarth on December 31, 2018:

Thanks,I’ll try them when I have the chance

NotARealName on December 15, 2018:

Thanks this was helpful. Wish me luck!

Peterson on December 06, 2018:

This has helped a lot like I now know how to do it

Bubba J on December 03, 2018:

Ok my girlfriend is anti social but has never kissed a guy before I want to be her first and last everything should I go for the tongue or no

notahomosapean on November 23, 2018:

Thanks for the advice hope she likes it

Imagine on November 22, 2018:

I can't wait to kiss my new girlfriend it's just this page says for men, what about girls I'm a girl and this page was kinda useful

ReedStone15 on November 05, 2018:

Thanks for the advice, I hope she likes it.

david ghaley on July 26, 2018:

thanks for tips tomorrow I will follow this tips and I will kiss my girlfriend this is also my first girlfriend and first kiss and I don't lose her I really love her

Baby Boss on May 27, 2018:

Thanks

Kefass on May 13, 2018:

Thanx

drew on May 05, 2018:

thanks

Chris on March 26, 2018:

Thank you for the tips and advice on the do’s and dont’s for kissing a girl I know what to do and not to do when I kiss my girlfriend for the first time

ACE on February 24, 2018:

Thank you for the tips I will make sure that my first kiss with my girlfriend is great.

connor on December 07, 2017:

I have been dating this girl for almost 2 months im 13. we were texting and she said she wanted to kiss me so i felt it was right to kiss her thanks i will try this tommorow

ornella on October 10, 2017:

wooow this is soooo great i will definitly try this

Philip Philbent Bentil on October 27, 2014:

tnx am gonna try

meeee on July 24, 2014:

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Thanks, I will try this on the the girl I like at camp

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iguidenetwork from Austin, TX on May 10, 2013:

Hahahaha. My first kiss was awkward. This article should have come at an earlier time LOL. But interesting and very helpful points there. :)

A on April 14, 2013:

thanks i m kiss to my gf at tom...

Afsah on November 15, 2012:

I hope this works and thanks ayway!

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Oscar on November 01, 2012:

Haha noticed this only works with people you just met otherwise its extreamlwy hard!

smarika and satish on October 20, 2012:

its so funny and feel very nice

nervous first kisser on October 14, 2012:

seems cool hope it'll work

Traci L Golden from Texas on October 10, 2012:

Great romantic suggestions!

like a boss on July 30, 2012:

wtf i have had a girlfriend last year and she promised a kiss and after about $50 and a really expensive neckless she dumped me and right before my b-day too. and i know it too because the first thing she said to me when we got to school was happy b-day. and i never even told her my birthday. dude i got used to being bullied and i know how it feels but that was just wrong

Ethaan on July 09, 2012:

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obsidian on July 06, 2012:

This is how u survive the first night. After takin her to your house after a nice dinner, nock her out with a glass bottle and proceed to wipe your nutsack on her face. Have fun.

Johnny on July 03, 2012:

ok I'll try it hopefully it works

nate on July 03, 2012:

Ty Ill try;)

Donaldson.jr on July 01, 2012:

Tne guys i will try with my girl frnd

Josh on July 01, 2012:

Thxs u guys! This info is perfect!! I will try it w my new gf on Tuesday, ill let u guys know how it goes thxs ;;)

dash on June 30, 2012:

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luke on June 26, 2012:

thanks man it helped a lot(:

Yung Tashy on June 19, 2012:

I will try my best

henry on June 14, 2012:

thnks my girl was lovin it

Ghost on June 14, 2012:

Thnx bro this helps

Vicy on June 13, 2012:

Nice one

Good one on June 12, 2012:

Thanks a lot

ipointoutmisstakes on June 10, 2012:

lol dimming lights and playing music makes her feal uncomfortable cuz it looks like you wanna get it on (you know what im saying?)

ipointoutmisstakes on June 10, 2012:

lol dimming lights and playing music makes her feal uncomfortable cuz it looks like you wanna get it on (you know what im saying?)

joey on June 09, 2012:

thx man ill try tht

zairy on June 08, 2012:

your stupid >:o

Snoony on June 07, 2012:

Good advice I wil try it tomorrow

me on June 05, 2012:

good advice... now i just need a girl

Drake on June 04, 2012:

Thanks for tips:-)

Kululali on June 03, 2012:

Hpe it works

RJ on June 03, 2012:

Awesome man! This is great.. And i'll try this.. Tnx for the help!

blake on June 01, 2012:

Needed the help thank u

Jason on June 01, 2012:

I will try tomorrow.hope that it works man

Blah on June 01, 2012:

Haha it's funny how these people talk. Speak English please.

b-man on June 01, 2012:

im only 13 but it did help i got a g-frind now