What Makes a Man Good in Bed?

Updated on January 23, 2017

Sex is an important pillar in any relationship. Without a great sex life, what fun is it? Some couples are just blessed to have great chemistry in bed, while others have a bit more of a struggle. But what exactly makes a man a good lover, and is there anything he can do to up his game in the bedroom? I've compiled a list of the key attributes I believe make a man great in bed.

He Enjoys It

Well, duh. Anything you love doing you're going to be a lot better at.

Almost all guys really, really, really like sex. It's just hardwired into their DNA. But there's something special about a man who is always enthusiastic about getting intimate. It makes a woman feel special and valued when she can get him excited and ready to go at a moment's notice. It also just makes it a lot easier to get down and dirty because when you're in the mood, you can almost guarantee he will be too.

He's Open To New Things

Sex is a lot like ice cream. Both are super delicious in vanilla. But would you really want to only eat vanilla ice cream for the rest of your life? Just like ice cream, "vanilla" sex can be amazing. Sometimes, though, you just have to switch it up. I'm not necessarily talking about anything super kinky, although if you're into that, then go for it. Just changing up positions, or location, or the time of day can make a huge difference for your sex life. This is why having an adventurous and open minded partner is so great.

He's Caring and Gentle

When a woman become intimate with a man, there is a tremendous amount of trust. She is giving him everything, and expecting him to treat her body, mind, and emotions with the utmost of respect. This is why it is important for a man to be gentle, not just physically, but emotionally too. As a man, it is vital that you treat her with care and compassion. On top of that, I'm sure most ladies would agree that there's just something unspeakably sexy about a man that genuinely cares for your overall well-being.

He's A Good Kisser

Why do humans kiss as a sign of affection? After all, locking lips to show affection is a trait rarely, if ever, observed in other mammals.
Who knows? All I know is that great kissing is a key to great sex. I'm sure all of you ladies out there would agree that copious amounts of kissing just intensifies your time in bed and makes it all the more steamy.

He Wants YOU To Orgasm

This is huge. Any man can do the deed and get himself off. The men who are on another level in bed are the ones who understand the importance of you climaxing as well. They are willing to compromise and even sacrifice some of their own pleasure to help you enjoy the experience as much as possible. And this works both ways. The best sex is always when both partners are striving to it as pleasurable as possible for each other.

I get it. Some women just don't orgasm from penetration alone. Still, it an incredible turn on to have a partner that strives to maximize your enjoyment. A man who is great in bed understands that sometimes a little more will be required for you to reach your peak, and he is willing to do whatever that is, be it oral or manual stimulation, to help you get there.

He Enjoys Foreplay

This ties right in to a man who is concerned with getting you off, too. See, when it comes to preparing to do the deed, men and women are very different. Men are capable of going 0-60 extremely quickly, while women often times need some more time to get warmed up, so to speak. This is why foreplay is so vital to great sex. Lots and lots of kissing and touching always make for great sex. What's more, if he makes the effort to get you started before sex actually starts, he has a much greater chance of getting you to the O zone.

He Takes Care of You After

I think we can all agree that nothing is a bigger downer than a man who shuts down after sex quicker than a politician being asked a tough question. To complete the full experience, the men who are the best in bed will take great care of you after sex. Cuddling? Of course. A snack? Why not. Kissing? Duh

Round 2? Maybe

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


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      12 months ago

      I can honestly say I have a these traits at a 101% but my girlfriend still says she doesn't enjoy sex with me, honestly don't know what else to do cause it's getting frustrating

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      Justin W Price 

      15 months ago from Juneau, Alaska

      I always ask my girl what makes me good in bed. She says I'm amazing. I found this article, and she said that I have all of the traits listed here. So, there I go. (Not to brag, lol)

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      16 months ago


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      16 months ago from Wisconsin

      Hm, the hero in my story Spark into Flame has all of these qualities. Guess I instinctively know how I'd like to be treated.

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      16 months ago

      Having a good stiff rod and plenty of juice to pump her full!

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      said hassan 

      2 years ago

      irealy enjoy

      have a nice day

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      2 years ago

      I think it should be at the same time

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      2 years ago

      It is a requirement for me to get my lady to orgasm before I get off, men need to care about the woman first... Women deserve more than a wham bam, thank you maam ! They deserve to orgasm FIRST, via any way that will make them, even oral


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