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How to Kiss Like a Pro With Hot Kissing Techniques

The Initial "Kiss Connection" Can Get Your Romance Rolling, or Kill It Dead!

Your first date is nearing its end. The all too important kiss is on your mind. You walk her to the door; the uncertainty builds as she takes out her keys. She pauses, your eyes connect, this is it, the moment, now or never... leaning in you close your eyes and "BAM!" the connection is made. The warmth of her lips brush yours and you feel her kiss electrify and stimulate your entire being. This is the power of the perfect intimate kiss and the science within.

Kissing is an art, and in being so is fundamentally erotic. It is where everything human and intimate begins. If ever there was one moment in an intimate setting that makes or breaks us, it is the initial kiss. Are we ready with the best we can offer? Have we had enough lessons on the art of kissing? If not, then who will teach us the all important kiss techniques? Our best mentors have been our lovers and friends. They have taught us much of our intimate communication. And if the goal is to cause your partner to want more, then being a good kisser is the most important way to communicate what kind of lover you might very well be.

When we kiss or 'make-out' with one another we instigate toward deeper meaning actions. We tell our partner that we are compatible and desire them. It can be a most reassuring way to telegraph your true feelings without speaking a single word. (It can completely eliminate the, "What 'cha thinking" debacle all together.) And wouldn't that make for a wonderful evening?

The Science of Kissing (2 min. video)

A Fun Kissing Game to Connect With Your Partner

How about giving your partner a special treat. When kissing begins to escalate, gently slide your hands up and over the ears of your partner, forming a sound barrier, a temporary seal over the ears of sorts. By depriving sound, you increases the tactile sense or sense of touch. This causes the focus of their mind to zero in on your mouth and your kiss. That's right, their attention turns to your mouth where it becomes their entire world. It's simple and harmless and an interesting, if not passionate, study in intimate communication.

It is our human nature to do the things we ourselves enjoy most. This being the case, you should pay attention to what your partner is doing. What is his/her kissing style or technique? How hard does your partner press their lips to yours? Is the mouth closed for a while before opening to invite french kissing? Is lip nibbling going on? By managing to understand what your partner is offering, you can return to them the things they unknowingly are asking of you. By understanding our partners intimate communication, we might just make it past the front door to find something deeper and more gratifying waiting inside.

A Kiss can be like that of a lightning strike...

A Kiss can be like that of a lightning strike...

A Kiss Is Like a Bolt of Lightening

Kissing is the greatest most intimate expression of love, this is apparent by how often we find it within our literature, new as well as old. Nyrop offers a quite descriptive example within the love story of Daphnis and Chloe. In an act of appreciation, Chloe has bestowed a kiss on Daphnis--an innocent young-maid's kiss. The effect has an unexpected electric impact. The scene takes place as follows;

"Ye gods, what are my feelings. Her lips are softer than the rose's leaf, her mouth is sweet as honey, and her kiss inflicts on me more pain than a bee's sting. I have often kissed my kids, I have often kissed my lambs, but never have I known aught like this. My pulse is beating fast, my heart throbs, it is as if I were about to suffocate, yet, nevertheless, I want to have another kiss. Strange, never-suspected pain! Has Chloe, I wonder, drunk some poisonous draught ere she kissed me? How comes it that she herself has not died of it?"

As we can tell, to underestimate the impact of an intimate kiss is to underestimate the impact of a lightning bolt. Communicating with our lips goes well beyond that of our speech, entering into a world of communication that would seem unreal and most improbable.

Kissing Is More Than Kissing. It's Science!

A question we often ask our friends, "Is he/she a good kisser?" would seem to be the most important question of all. Kissing is so much more than just kissing. It is the pivotal point within our 'mate choice'. For most women, it would seem that kissing is more important than for men, making it almost imperative that kissing take place before any further sexual encounters occur.

When we kiss, we are retrieving information about the person we are in contact with. We can taste, smell, feel and hear everything about our partner during the kiss. This information is translated into how we think or feel about the person. Most interestingly, we will know in that very instance if we really want to kiss them again.

Some studies show that women tend to be attracted to partners that have a different immune system than there own. This is detected through smell while kissing. A research study managed by Professor Windy Hill, Lafayette College , determined that kissing can affect the oxytocin hormones (the love hormone). This hormone is important in social development and bonding, and cortisol which is an indicator when considering stress levels is also affected. As you can see, kissing can either bring new emphasis to a relationship, or it can shut you down completely.

Our lips have a different architecture than most of our skin. The difference can be explain when we look at the facts surrounding sensation. We can get bumped while walking through the mall feeling the mass of pressure on our back, but no real pain. Other than being involuntarily repositioned, not much more than,"excuse me" can be detected. However, something as simple as a tiny drip of moisture at the tip of a straw touches your lips and you feel the localized moist texture and temperature intensely. The nerves of our lips reside much closer to the surface of our skin than in almost any other location on our body. Thus, the architecture of our lips is designed for understanding and learning as well as bringing passion to our hearts and minds.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Comments for "Hot Kissing Techniques, Kiss Like A Pro"

vicwlk from Virginia Beach, VA on October 07, 2011:

HAHAHA very enjoyable! I think I learned a thing or two.

India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on August 11, 2010:

KP~Thanks for the comment. Glad you enjoyed reading my simple little hub.


India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 13, 2010:

MWNP~ Welcome to the hub! Recalling moments in our past that 'ring our bell' of sorts, cover us in a mist of happiness. Glad I could make you misty. Thanks for the read and for stopping by.

Greenlily~ You are so fortunate to have been able to spend your life with your first love (kiss). I can recall longing many hours for a lost first love who chose another. I had to leave with my mother for a while and the love of my life (back then) found companionship in anothers arms. I do remember the kisses and the passion. In time I found a new and most beautiful love and had many happy years of joy together. Every once in a while I do day-dream on how it might have been and I guess I always will.

Thank you for your comments. I am always glad you stop by.

~always choose love~

Greenlily from Philippines on June 13, 2010:

This Hub reminds me of my first kiss! It is with my first boyfriend who is now my husband! Ha!ha!ha! This is very good hub. Thanks for sharing!

TheManWithNoPants from Tucson, Az. on June 13, 2010:

I'm a new commer to the Hub, but I really enjoyed this one. Took me back to a good time!


India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 13, 2010:

Nellieanna~ So challenging is our human chemisrty as well as our human nature! Your experience with your 'kinsman' is fascinating. It truly speaks to the science and conditioning whithin the action. It would seem to leave us with many questions lingering on our lips?

As always, so pleased you fit me into your daily reads. Thank you for stopping by and for the fun comment!

~always choose love~

Nellieanna Hay from TEXAS on June 13, 2010:

Just fascinating amd I so agree that the kissabilty of a person is a huge deciding factor. In fact I know one lovely kinsman whose kisses are so totally sweet I wish we weren't related! lol

It's a subtle thing, isn't it? Such a combination of many factors, as your article points out. Even someone, as I mentioned, who is totally not a candidate for more romantic involvement can be so inspiring with his kissing as to leave a lasting impression.

Anyway - it is a wonderful intimacy but one without all the entanglements of other steps in intimacy.

Thanks for bringing this clarity to it!

India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 12, 2010:

Pam~ As always I am so glad you stopped by. Must admitt I had a blast writing this one. As for the monkey, it was an attempt to keep it all in good fun. Thanks for the read my friend.

By the way, your bbq techniques hub was really helpful. I went to OSH and picked up a rib rack! Coolest thing ever! Thanks.

~always choose love~

India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 12, 2010:

Larryd~ Thanks for the read. The only one that counts is the one you remember to this day. ;)

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on June 12, 2010:

K9keystrokes, I really enjoyed your hub on kissing. The picture of the ape surprised me at bit and was a nice touch. Excellent article.

Larry d. on June 12, 2010:

I have to say that there is a difference between

the first middle and the last I know from personel


India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 12, 2010:

SG~ Nice! Lucky you...were you in the US or abroad? So, it must be true , the French are the great kissesrs they have been tagged to be...or at least in your case?

schoolgirlforreal on June 12, 2010:

Best kiss..would have to be my first boyfriend who was French!

India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 12, 2010:

Lance~ You're so insightful and in my opinion correct. It is in fact the connection between the two people that determine good from bad kissing. What might well be the best kiss ever for one, may be the worste kiss for another. So, to some degree everyone offers the perfect kiss to someone, somewhere, sometime. Anyone recall the best kiss of your life? Would love to hear about it,...not in too much detail of course...Thanks for the read!

Lance Crowe on June 12, 2010:


I think people are just kissers and good or bad is the value that we assign to how well we sync up with each other. If there's a good connection, we call someone a good kisser, if not, we just label them a bad kisser. I suppose that if they're a good kisser, it really just means that they're adaptable to what we want or naturally inclined to do what we like anyway. After all, there's someone for everyone.

India Arnold (author) from Northern, California on June 11, 2010:

SG~ I totally agree! It is a very fun subject! Interesting thought regarding percentages of good vs bad kissers...

Glad you had fun. Thanks for the read.

~always choose love~

schoolgirlforreal on June 11, 2010:

Hi! I wonder what percentage of people are good or bad kissers? Probably more are good than bad because kissing is so fun and pleasureable! Nice topic :D

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