How to Kiss Someone for the First Time

Updated on June 13, 2019
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Whether you are a boy or a girl, it's always a bit of a challenge to kiss someone for the first time, especially if it's your first time kissing anyone! This article will show you how to kiss and help you feel less scared about doing it for the first time.

You might be in one of the following situations:

  1. There's someone you really like and you're going to kiss soon. Maybe you've talked about it, you're planning something special, or you just feel like it could happen.
  2. There's someone you like and you hope to kiss them one day.
  3. You're just curious how it will work for when the time comes.

Steps to the First Kiss

Kissing isn't as hard as it seems. Most people think they don't know how, but it happens they're really good at it!

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Before: OMG Are We Going to Kiss!?

  1. Make sure you and your breath smells good. Shower and wear deodorant. Brush your teeth and tongue. Floss. Don't eat stinky foods (avoid spicy food, onions, and garlic). Try smelling your breath.
  2. Drink water to keep your mouth moist and fresh. Feel free to pop in a mint or a piece of gum and then spit it out beforehand, but keep it discreet, or offer it to the other person too.
  3. Prep your lips. Kissable lips are smooth, not dry, and not coated with sticky lip gloss or tons of lipstick. If your lips are chapped, you can rub them with sugar to get some of the dry skin off.
  4. Think about where you might like to kiss. It should be private and somewhere or sometime where you won't have many distractions or be worried about other people. You'll want to keep as much focus on the other person as possible.
  5. Flirting by tickling, teasing, poking, or finding ways to touch their hand or arm can help show that you want to kiss. If you're sitting next to each other, move so your knees, legs, or arms are touching. Touch their arms or shoulders, or put a gentle hand on their thigh.
  6. Read the other person's body language. If they're touching you back, looking into your eyes, and smiling, then they probably want to kiss you too. If they're biting their lips or staring at yours, that's also a good sign they want to kiss.
  7. If you're ready to kiss, look deep into the other person's eyes. Focus on them. You might get a feeling in your stomach like, whoah we've been looking at each other for a while. This is the perfect time to kiss.
  8. If you're very shy, it's okay to ask if you can kiss someone. If they like you, they'll say yes. If not, they won't. If they like you but they're not ready, hopefully they'll say so.
  9. If someone asks you if you want to kiss, just respond truthfully.
  10. If you're staring into each others' eyes wondering why you're not kissing yet, you could say something like, "Shouldn't we be kissing now?" or "Don't you want to kiss me?"

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Just Before and During: You're Kissing!

  1. Move your face closer to theirs. You don't want to have to lunge for a kiss. If you're standing, stand close to them, so your toes are almost touching. If you're sitting, turn a little to face them and move your face closer to theirs or put your arm around them. If you're hugging, you could put your forehead on their forehead. Now your lips are even closer.
  2. When you're going in for the kiss, don't go all the way. Move about 90% and then let them come the rest. That way you know they want to kiss you too.
  3. If they're stiffening or pulling away, it's time to stop. It takes two to kiss, and if the other person isn't on board, then there's no kiss. Move back to flirting and maybe a kiss will happen later on.
  4. As you move your face towards theirs, tilt your head slightly to the right so you avoid knocking noses. If you do knock noses, though, just laugh it off and keep going for the kiss.
  5. Part your lips slightly, as if you were breathing through your mouth (but don't breathe through your mouth).
  6. If someone is moving in to kiss you, all you need to do is relax, tilt your head slightly to the right, keep your lips soft and slightly parted, close your eyes, and then meet their lips with yours.
  7. Aim for one lip (usually the lower one)—it feels better than both lips pressing each other.
  8. When you get there, close your eyes and gently brush their lips with yours and linger for a little bit. This is not the time to try to imitate the most passionate kiss you've seen from the movies. When in doubt, go even more gentle and short. Keep it simple. The first kiss shouldn't last longer than four or five seconds.
  9. Breathe through your nose.
  10. While kissing, you can hold their hand, put your hands around their waist in a slow dance position, gently cup or stroke their face, play with their hair, or put your hands around their neck. Other locations (you know where I'm talking about) can wait to be touched.
  11. If someone is kissing you harder than you'd like or with tongue when you don't want any, you should feel free to pull away and say, "I like it when you kiss me gently, like this."

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After: We Just Kissed!

  1. Afterwards, pull away and look into their eyes. You don't have to say anything right away. Smile or play with their hair. Maybe go in for another simple kiss, just like the previous one.
  2. If you do want to say something it could be something simple like, "I've been wanting to do that for a while," "You're great," "You're so beautiful/handsome/cute/pretty" or even just, "I like you."
  3. A hug is a great way to part ways, maybe with another gentle kiss, a kiss on the cheek, or saying when you'll see them or contact them next, something like "I'll see you tomorrow, right?" or "Want to hang out this weekend?"
  4. If the kiss was awkward, that's okay. It's rare you'll be great at something the first time you try it. If you really like each other, there's no reason you won't kiss many more times and get lots better at it.
  5. Be careful about who you tell about kissing. Make sure you're on the same page with the other person with how public you want to be. It's no fun to show up at school and find out that everyone knows. Be respectful of everyone's feelings.
  6. Also, remember that the first kiss is not about making out. It's about letting the other person know that you like them. Maybe in the future, you can go a little further with longer kisses, or even french kissing.

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Important Things to Remember for Your First Kiss

  • No matter how old you are, there are other people your age who have never kissed anyone before. It has nothing to do with looks. So don't feel like this is a now-or-never situation. You're going to have plenty more opportunities to kiss in your life.
  • First kisses are almost always awkward. Laughter and a good sense of humor will help make it a great experience for everyone. Remember the first time you tried to play a sport or an instrument? Kissing is a skill just like those things. You're not going to do it perfectly the first time.
  • If you're kissing someone who is more experienced than you, don't be embarrassed that you haven't kissed anyone before. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. Everyone starts out where you are. Remember that they're excited to kiss you too!
  • You should only kiss someone because you want to. Don't do it if you feel like you need to kiss someone or it's never going to happen, because someone really wants to kiss you, or because you think you should want to kiss someone.
  • If you're in a situation where you feel pressure to do anything you don't want to, that's a sign that it isn't right. You can tell the other person that it just doesn't feel right, and they should be understanding. If they're not, then that's an even bigger sign that they're not right for you.
  • Remember to breathe. Often when we're nervous, we kind of hold our breath. Taking a few deep breaths will help you relax and enjoy.
  • Your first kiss does not determine your kissing future. If it's bad, that's okay. You'll get better with practice. If you get rejected, that's okay too. You'll find someone who wants to kiss you.
  • Sometimes first kisses are special, and sometimes they're not. Don't feel like this has to be the best moment ever.

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General Kissing Advice

  • A first kiss should always be spontaneous, soft, slow, and not messy at all!
  • If your partner kisses you first, you might open your lips a little, but no french kissing. It would ruin a first kiss and be sloppy. The idea is to press your lips up against your partner's but not too much. Make sure your position is comfortable too, so you're not in pain while kissing.
  • Another good way to kiss your partner is to start by kissing him or her softly on the cheek—then when when he or she looks at you, you can kiss him or her softly on the lips.
  • Remember, a first kiss might go most smoothly while you two are alone. Things might not be so good when friends—or jealous exes—are watching.
  • Make sure the person you want to kiss wants to kiss you back. This is the most important thing.
  • Talking about a first kiss before it happens can be sweet but is also dangerous. It may cause you or your special someone to worry, and in the end, it may come out way too rehearsed—it's more romantic to be spontaneous.
  • Just remember, if the person likes you, they'll understand starting out slowly is better.

What If Someone Wants to Kiss You But You Don't Want to Kiss Them

You might not want to kiss someone because you don't like them, or because you don't feel ready.

  • If you don't like them and don't want to kiss them, tell them "No, thank you" or "This doesn't feel right" or "I don't want to do this."
  • If you like them but don't feel ready, tell them that. Say, "I really like you but I'm not ready to kiss yet. I know you'll be understanding and it will be so much better when I feel ready."

What If You Want to Kiss Someone but They Don't Want to Kiss You

They might not want to kiss you because either they don't feel attracted to you, or they're nervous.

  • If they don't feel attracted to you, there's not much you can do. Respect their wishes and know that there are many people who will find you very attractive. As a precaution, check to make sure you smell good, that your breath is good, and that your lips are kissable. Some of these might be causing a little hesitation on their part. If they're still not attracted, then move on.
  • If they're nervous but say that they like you, respect that they're not ready. You might tell them that you'd like to kiss them but that you'll wait until they're ready. This will give them the space they need and will help make your first kiss even better.
  • Never try to kiss someone who tells you that they don't want you to. You should only kiss someone who really wants to kiss you back.

What If You Kiss Someone and It's Bad

No one does anything perfectly the first time. Tons of things can go wrong in your first kiss. It's best to have a sense of humor about it and laugh it off. It's not the end of the world, and you're not doomed to a lifetime of bad kissing.

  • Maybe they weren't ready, or you weren't ready so it just felt weird.
  • Maybe you were so nervous you couldn't focus on them or the kiss.
  • Maybe someone's breath or body stank.
  • Maybe you knocked teeth, or there was a ton of tongue and it was really sloppy.

All of these will probably happen to you at some point, and most of them can be solved with practice and hygiene.

It's important to remember that kissing is about the other person. Imagine how what you're doing might feel on their body. Tell your kissing partner what you like and they'll reciprocate—communication is the best way to make sure everyone is having fun.

Kissing Tricks and Tips

Tips:

  1. It helps if you know the person you're kissing well.
  2. Try to seem confident, but if you can't, it's fine to look shy or nervous. (Most likely he or she will find it cute! <3)
  3. Don't talk about kissing too much around your special someone—they might think you are trying to force it on them.

Tricks:

  1. On a first kiss, it's ok to slightly suck your partner's upper or lower lip. (For both guys and girls.)
  2. Even if you're not Frenching, you can use your tongue a little. The key word here is "a little!" Less is more.

Have Fun With It! And . . . .

Keep It Private

This goes for the setting! A first kiss is a private affair, and it should happen in a private setting. Don't waste this special moment in front of an audience. Instead, find someplace secluded and quiet so that you both can concentrate on each other. While you are concentrating, remember that no loud theatrics are needed, so keep yourself quiet and controlled as well.

Keep It Short and Sweet

A first kiss should always feel like a preview of more kisses to come. Don't let a first kiss last for hours, and don't attempt to pack all of your feelings into one long-lasting kiss. Instead, keep it short and sweet, and you partner will be dying for more.

Keep It Comfortable

In films, it may seem like a first kiss always follows a monumental announcement of love and a long period of staring into each other's eyes. In real life, the same behavior would be totally embarrassing. If you suspect a first kiss is looming, keep it comfortable and don't allow any grand gestures to get in the way.

Keep It Clean

No, this doesn't mean French kissing is barred. It means that you should both have clean teeth, breath, and lips for a great first kiss. Brush your teeth before your date, and chew a breath mint or flavoured gum after you eat. Apply lip balm, and you should be all set. Just don't continue to chew on mints or gum longer than necessary because you certainly don't want any obstacles in your mouth during your first kiss.

Keep It Choreographed

When couples have been together for a while, their kissing becomes choreographed. Heads both tilt right, eyes close, lips open, and the kiss is successful. For a first kiss, these variables are all up in the air, and it can be hard to figure out what you should be doing when.

Take your cue from whichever partner initiates the kiss. If you are going in for the kill, tilt your head to one side. If you realise your partner is starting things off, note which way his or her head is tilting, and tilt your head the opposite direction. Close your eyes during every first kiss, and decide in advance whether you are willing to open your mouth or not. Then stop thinking and enjoy it!

First kisses are exciting. Whether it is your first kiss ever or your first kiss with a new partner, there are bound to be butterflies in your stomach and fireworks in your head. Keeping your first kiss short and sweet will make your partner beg for more, and if you play your cards right, that is exactly what you both will get.

Enjoy your first kiss. You only get one, and even if it was bad, it doesn't matter because it was with someone special.

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      Aleku 

      24 hours ago

      There's a boy in my school. He has blue eyes and a perfect smile. I want to kiss him. I bet he's had a lot of girlfriends in the past since he is gorgeous. I'm already practicing how to kiss him.

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      Miranda 

      3 days ago

      So theres thos guy and hes so hot and cute and im not gonna see him for two months so i want to kiss him before we leave and this really helped

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      Bella 

      4 days ago

      I have known a guy in a week now and i really fella a connection beetween us. Im 13 and he is 15. We live in the same hose and slept in the same bed the first night. We are going on a trip with the family.(we are not related). We are always laughing together and i really love him.

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      APPH 

      2 weeks ago

      I just got o boyfriend like 24 hours ago and with in the first minute he was soo sweet he was like soo are you ok with everything like holding hands and hugging and I was like yeah and then he brang up kissing and I had to tell him I’m 14 and I’ve never kissed anyone and he has because we have been friends for a few months now and he’s 16 and a year and a half older then me and he has had girlfriends before I’ve seen we catch the bus together and is ex use to catch to bus and I saw them kiss all the time and so after I told him he said ok well have you ever been kissed on the cheek like a peek or something and I said no. He was soo cute about it and so ok well take it slow. But on the bus he held me hand and it was cute but our hands started to he sweaty and I didn’t know what to do then he did this weird chicking thing with his hand I pulled away and wiped my hand and I don’t know if that was ok or not but he did the same soo I guess soo. Anyway this article has help because now I’m prepaired.

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      A person 

      3 weeks ago

      Ah geez im still too nervous to try kissing my friend cause idk if she wants to, but this has helped a little i guess...

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      So Nervous 

      3 weeks ago

      omg im so nervous me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months and he brought up kissing and im scared that i wont do it right

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      Anonymous 

      4 weeks ago

      I have a boyfriend and for our first kiss we waited after school until the hallway was empty then kissed, twice. It wasn't the type of kiss you see in the movies and took days before we actually did it because we wanted privacy. I used this article to help me but it wasn't like I could tell him not to use tongue so I was just hoping he didn't try to. He didn't use tongue and while our kiss wasn't the type you read about it was definitely enjoyable and practice makes perfect.

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      Anymous 

      5 weeks ago

      He said he was gonna kiss me on the bus idk how to kiss I’m super nervous! This is my first and I’m soooo scared ahh!

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      Emo Fren 

      5 weeks ago

      For all of you 14+ girls and guys who haven't kissed anyone:

      1. Don't expect a magical Disney Channel kiss. You're not on Teen Nick and this isn't going to be an under the stars, romantic moment.

      Honestly, mine was in fourth grade with my crush at her birthday party. First it was a dare and then we kissed again in her closet by choice, it was cute for a few kids but we were clueless. (I'm lesbian, so is she) We're still together but not because of the kiss, your first kiss doesn't make or break a relationship; honesty, trust, love, and in general, depending on each other.

      2. Don't be nervous if you're less experienced or not experienced at all. They won't give a crap if they actually like you. She'd already had her first kiss before me and that was my first. We were fine and laughed it off, followed by borrowing a bathing suit and getting in the hot tub and getting drunk on juice boxes. It was chill.

      3. If you're anxious it'll make it awkward. You'll be stiff, red, breathing more intensely and probably a little sweaty. Just relax.

      Good luck, friend.

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      Anonymous hehe 

      5 weeks ago

      I’ve had a boyfriend for 2 months now and we’ve been constantly pressured to kiss each other. He wants to kiss me and I want to kiss him to but we are both so nervous and he doesn’t want to ‘push it’ we’re goung out this weekend hopefully that’s my opportunity

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      anonymous girl 

      5 weeks ago

      I have never ever kissed before. And im 16 years old. I never really think about it mostly but i realised everyone of my age has gone like all the way... And im here like; u i never kissed before haha...

      That's why i looked up ''i never kissed anyone before'' or something like that. and i found this article thank you tho, now im prepared for my first kiss that is in the future waiting for me just sitting there..waiting..

      To be honest i really want to kiss my crush but he's lowkey out of my league. so.... im just going to wait for the right person...

      I imagine my first kiss like something magical tbh. Really romantic + sweet... *dreams away* hahahaha

      but ok

      k bye x

      anonymous girl -

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      someone 

      6 weeks ago

      my boyfriend told me today he will kiss me tomorrow. So i will have my first kiss ever! and i dont know if he has ever kissed someone or not. This kind of helped. The thing is i have school tomorrow and after school he has football, so we have to kiss during school then, and i am worried that people i know will see us. Please help me!! and i dont know how to kiss!!!

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      Kim 

      6 weeks ago

      No hate please. I like a girl... my best friend. And she said she liked me, and at the time I was super confused with whether I like girls. But, now I do, and I like her. And I'm still unsure if she likes me anymore, but it can't hurt to try.

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      Vlemon 

      8 weeks ago

      Omg I love how there are no boys commenting or at least that have even read this

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      ANJANA 

      2 months ago

      I LOVE Y BOYFRIEND SO MUCH.FOR THE FIRST TIME I KISS HIM FOR A LONG TIME.

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      ?? 

      2 months ago

      my boyfriend and i had our first kiss last week . IT WAS AMAZING but now i want to frech kiss him and he wants that too but we both had never had a french kiss brfore so what do i do

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      Kelsey Jones 

      2 months ago

      yeah I'm supposed to today or tomorrow he asked if I've ever kissed a guy before and I said no he said if it's awkward it's okay cuz he understands but he seems like he wants to and I'm happy he does I just hope it's not too awkward but this really does help on the understanding of kissing someone

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      Unknown 

      2 months ago

      I haven't kissed him yet we are together and everything is going perfectly fine but one day he brought up kissing.I had wanted ton kiss my boyfriend for a while now.But I just don't want to ruin the good relationship between us now.Im so nervous because I'm supposed to kiss him in a couple of days.Hopefully I do ok.The most nerve wrecking thing for me is that he has experience with kissing.Help.

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      Sativa 

      3 months ago

      I have the same problem nerves do we are both in jr high I really like him but have never kissed anyone before he has but I always forget to use the tips I get from these pages when I am talking to him what do I do?

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      Sara 

      3 months ago

      Nice tips. Thanks for addressing different scenarios.

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      nerves 

      3 months ago

      So I really want to kiss my boyfriend (both in Jr-high) and we both say we want to but both really nervous and we both don't know what to do.

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      Summer 

      3 months ago

      Love the good advice. I am 18 and nervous about my 1st kiss

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      Tony 

      4 months ago

      N/A I’m 14 I just had mine a bit ago. It may seem really nervous and ur heart is pounding but it will workout. And yes most first kisses are bad but it takes time. My problem was that she was good at kissing and I had never done it before. It’s ok and she still likes to kiss me. Don’t let anything discourage you.

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      N/A 

      4 months ago

      What age do you think is appropriate for a first kiss?

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      random girl 

      4 months ago

      im nervous im going to kiss a boy in my grade, 7th, and im worried im going to be a bad kisser. he said he wants to kiss me and so do i , but i have to do infront of my fiends and his. hopefully it goes good.

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      Thx 

      4 months ago

      This helped me out my first kiss went great

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      Mariah 

      6 months ago

      I want to kiss my boyfriend but I have never kissed someone and he has I need help

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      Eva jones 

      7 months ago

      I love you

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      Lol 

      7 months ago

      I want to kiss my gf but she wants to di it on the bus. I mean are buses sre nice but everyine else it their and its my first time. Like geezus

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      John 

      8 months ago

      i love to kiss my girlfriend but I' nevee kissed someone before

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      ummm help plz... 

      9 months ago

      literally i had my first kiss at this party nd it was more of a makeup such than a first kiss nd anyway that was just like a one time thing with this guy, but now theres this other guy I'm rlly into. He's into me too, nd like i still don't know how to kiss nd makeout even after doing it for like 20 min ???

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      Anonymous 

      9 months ago

      Um well you see, my bff who is female (like me) i have a massively crush on- though she's straight af- no she's never dated or anything but everytime someone teases us about 'being in love' she pulls a funny face and says "ew gross- she's a girl!" And I'm like 'm.' /;

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      Chicken 

      10 months ago

      my name is chicken i am 3.5 years old i licked a dog once

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      soso 

      10 months ago

      such a nice article.

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      nahh 

      12 months ago

      just last week i had my first kiss and it was.. kinda weird... okay so we were just standing there, talking about how much we were dreading summer at the moment.. then he just kinda leaned in and i wasn’t ready so i just stood there.. just.. doing nothing but breathing, and i had no idea what to do.. then he just walked out and said i’ll see you tomorrow and i love you.. now i don’t know what to do.. do i kiss him first next time or just wait and pray that all goes according to plan??

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      anonymous 

      13 months ago

      I love you helina

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      ??? 

      13 months ago

      My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months (we're both in Jr. High) and we both said that we wanted to kiss each other but when we planned that we would he said that since he would chicken out and since he always takes the lead I should be the one to kiss him but i'm super shy and we have never been on a date before so I don't know what to do!!!!!!!

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      13 months ago

      I feel bad for the person who wants to kiss the other person but the other person dosent want to kiss the girl/boy

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      Anonymous 

      13 months ago

      What if you really want to kiss him and he suggested that we will kiss but you are not ready and you tell him that... Does it hurt his feelings? Or is it okay... Because I wanted to kiss him but... Yeah...

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      Bisexual B 

      13 months ago

      My crush and I have been discussing kissing and relationships. We’ve pretty much decided we’re together but I think a kiss will really tie the knot! This has helped a lot, but I’m not sure what to do since she hasn’t come out yet. I know I shouldn’t push her but should we wait until she comes out?

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      sky 

      13 months ago

      thanks my kiss went smoothly and we loved it I am 13 we did it in school and this was after school I said about when I started loving him then I "tripped" and I acted shy then he said I was the only girl he will ever love and I said really im not that lovely he said I like u the way u are and that's what I like about u!

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      he wont kiss me :( 

      13 months ago

      i have been with him for 4 months and i really want to kiss him but i think its the mans job

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      None of your business 

      14 months ago

      I want to kiss my boyfriend but It's complicated...

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      ThatOneK1d 

      14 months ago

      Does the surrounding matter like what if there is 2 other people there too?

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      kiss me 

      15 months ago

      I want to kiss him but I am only eleven.

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      A person 

      15 months ago

      Is there such thing as a jedi mind trick? Lol

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      john 

      15 months ago

      just about 4 months into the relationship, ive been wanting to kiss her for a few months now, but i coward down although shes set and were both ready, is it best to just send it or wait for a better time where the surroundings more than just an average surrounding?

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      ??? 

      15 months ago

      This really helped because I'm in love and they like me to but they don't like me enough to kiss me but now I know not to rush it and thing will play out on there own.thx:)

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      Just here 

      16 months ago

      My bf tried to kiss me but I got scared and turned away I feel bad and we're both shy. I think it took alot of confidence for him to try we've been together for two yrs.... How do ik if he'll try again? I want to be prepared and not have the same reaction or wat should I do? Ik he might feel a little hurt.

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      Random guy 

      17 months ago

      So me and my girlfriend were talking about how we both had dreams about kissing each other as we were walking home from the Y and then we stopped at a park I thought it would have been a good time but neither of us had ever kissed anyone before and I had no idea what to do I know we were both thinking about it but she just said let's take it slower I'm not sure if I blew my moment or if that's what she was thinking the whole time and what should I do in this situation.

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      Nel 

      17 months ago

      I hope you don't find this weird but I'm 11 years and a half and I really want to kiss my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years but every time when it seems perfect I let it go, Im a shy person, it's gonna be harder because we're kids, WHAT TO DO

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      Nel 

      17 months ago

      me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, do you think he'd like to kiss? I really want to go for it but im so shy! I scared it will get awkward.

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      Me 

      17 months ago

      Me and my girlfriend (we are both girls) have talked about kissing our whole relationship (about 3 momths) and i was pretty anxious to do so and then this really boosted my confidence an dim going to try to kiss her the next time i see her

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      ??? 

      18 months ago

      Thank you! Like this girl and I might ask her out soon but when is a good time to kiss someone?

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      ... 

      19 months ago

      so im dating this guy jack and i want to kiss him to show that its serious because his step brother is my ex and he still likes me and is trying to split me and jack up. the thing is i dont know his experience and ive dated a lot of guys but never kissed any of them but people assume i did because ive been labeled a hoe at my school, im 13 btw and someone help me

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      Willie 

      19 months ago

      well... this article made it extra hard I'm a freshmen and I've never had a girlfriend before or had my first kiss and I'm a little upset about it this article scared me away from a kiss not pull toward it I haven't even kissed my own parents O_O

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      Sweet lips 

      20 months ago

      The day before I was read to kiss my girlfriend but suddenly she angry with me why because I had touch her cousin her hand she was very angry with with me. When I saw him she didn't see me than I ask her sister why is not see me or talk she told me she is very angry with u than I had not see her than she was listening songs I didn't know that she has my headphone her sister was near to her I didn't know that she is there I ask her sister where is my headphone than she face headphone on my face than I want to see her she is see me than I took headphone than I face him my headphone than I want few mnit she want to talk with me than I talked now I m in my home and missing her so much

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      a person 

      20 months ago

      I have never kissed someone before and my girlfriend and i have said we are going to kiss but i've said i'm not ready and feel guilty. It's helped me so much with my confidence and i think i'm ready

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      British guy 

      20 months ago

      As a teenage boy Iv allways wanted to kiss a girl but Iv never really knew how. This guide has really helped me so when I see my girl tomorrow hoppfully everything will go good.

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      sylvia 

      20 months ago

      Last week was i and my boyfriend first kiss you will be surprised to hear i bit him but after reading this i am going to practise it

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      Bobby  

      20 months ago

      This was helpful thanks

      We've been wanting to kiss but we're both to scared to, but thanks for all the advice on this kissing thing.

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      Girly Em 

      21 months ago

      Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 months. We've held hands, he's put his arm around me, kissed my forehead and other basic things you'd expect the average teenager to do. The last time we went to the movies alone together, close to the end, he put his head down next to mine and our lips ended up touching. I didn't know what to do, so I just opened my lips and kissed him once like i had always seen. It was simple, and afterwards he said it was perfect and he wanted me to kiss him again. But in the moment, i was so scared that i was going to kiss him that i ended up stopping. Weve hung out, but not really hung out one on one since then, and it's been about 2 weeks. I mean, he'll wrap his leg around mine and that sort of physical stuff, but haven't kissed again. And I'm dying to kiss him because i know I'll be ready this time. And advice on anything (at all) that could help my situation at all would be greatly appreciated. Thanks:)

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      Amy 

      22 months ago

      i am surposed to be having my frist kiss tomz and i am really scared this has helped a little bit thx u

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      cindyyy 

      23 months ago

      Well today I'm hanging out with this guy that I rlly like and he likes me too, but we're not dating "yet" so idk if I should kiss him now. We talked about it but as a joke, but I rlly want to kiss him. Since I didn't have much confidence I went here and thank you for the advice and it made me less scared!

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      Alivia 

      23 months ago

      My told my crush I liked him while we were watching a movie and he said he's liked me since he met me then asked if we could kiss. I said sure but when we got to a room by ourselves I just left, I guess I was scared but I really did want to kiss him. This helped a lot thank you

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      Liv 

      23 months ago

      Thanks so much!!! I'm a very shy person and you made me feel a little better!!

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      skylar 

      23 months ago

      I'm bout to go on our date next weekn I think and I honestly don't know what to do even tho these tips are really helpful but I'm sill worried cause like what if I mess it up or I leave the kiss too early idk... but this article made me feel less nervous cause like now I no what and what not to do and thx soo much!!!!

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      yay 

      23 months ago

      me and my girlfriend have no idea how to kiss. i'm still super confused. (girlfriends/couple goals right?(i'm jk neither of us get this kissing sorcery and kind of laughed off our fail of a first kiss))

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      Abby 

      23 months ago

      I'm 10 and my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to kiss so I said yes. But we're doing it in school outside in recess. We're gonna kiss on the first Friday of school. I'm so nervous. But this helped me a lot.

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      NA 

      23 months ago

      my boyfriend is planing to kiss me on the first day of school, and im want to kiss him too, but it would be my first time, and i am a VERY shy person, but thanks to this artical i feel a little better about it :)

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      Mhaban 

      2 years ago

      I think I am ready to be a kisser

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      Chase 

      2 years ago

      I I am a eight and a half and I have a crush on someone and I don't know if I can kiss her but it's too late now.

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      Dr.Potato 

      2 years ago

      I have been dating this guy for about 2 weeks. He has held my hand about 2 times now,but...he said to his friend he is going to kiss me tomorrow! My class is going to a park for the whole day and he is in my class! But I don't know what to do?!? I have NEVER kissed a boy before, so if he does kiss me it will be my first kiss.

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      To Venus 

      2 years ago

      I know this is late af, but your comment got my attention.

      If you ain't comfortable, don't do it! I mean, if you aint dtfk (down to french kiss) don't do it. Some dudes out there are just in it for the physical action, so I'd tell him you're not comfortable. Real gentlemen would understand and put you first.

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      To Me 

      2 years ago

      I know this is a bit late, but as a guy I personally think that it really depends on you and him. If you feel awkward and nervous just take time and wait for the perfect moment, because there's no way you can take that kiss back. If you feel it's ready, go for it. If not, pace yourself. If the guy wants to kiss so badly, he may not really be the guy after all.

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      Me 

      2 years ago

      How soon is too soon we've date don't only a month and he asked if he can Kiss tomorrow... I'm so nervous and I don't want the awkwardness and there is no way it will be private at school

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      Help me please 

      2 years ago

      Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about two weeks and he hasn't held my hand or even tried to hug me or anything and I'm too scared too should I be worried?

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      petty or just plain sad 

      2 years ago

      Thanks but I am not looking to get in bed I just want a kiss.... maybe because I have never been kissed before... and because I like him and have for two years and we are great friends... it might make things weird and I like him to much to let him go... but the things is I always catch him staring at me and the last time I saw him he was asking if I was gonna be at this event that is happening tonight and then I asked and he was like... " yeah why do you ask '' and then he smiled sooooo pray for me guys.... I need all the help I can get

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      unanimous 

      2 years ago

      omg thank you, me and my bf have been dating for five months now but have never kissed. we both still haven't our first kiss yet. however, there is a dance coming up that we are going to together, i might try and pull something there's but i don't know. anyways it's always good to be prepared.

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      Quan boy 

      2 years ago

      Thanks it helped me alot

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      Daisey 

      2 years ago

      Thanks I am all prepared for tomorrow. I have been dating Ethan for almost three months and we talk about kissing and people force us. But I was always soooooo scared. I feel ready now. Thank you for telling me what to do during before after.

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      Someone 

      2 years ago

      Thanks it helped me

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      Person 

      2 years ago

      Thanx this helped me so much

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      stevie 

      2 years ago

      thank you so much this helped me so much me and my boyfriend planned it but i still feel like he is going to give me a sneaky kiss and i just need to know how to prepare

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      Laurie 

      2 years ago

      thank you for your help I have a better Idea on how to kiss my girlfriend I hope this will make me a great kisser

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      kelvin havor 

      2 years ago

      when i see her i get very closer and when i am about to kiss her,instantly something goes wrong.

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      Honor Morton 

      2 years ago

      thanks for all of the help, but when i get close to him i start to tremble and get scard we have put our heads together,and that at as far as close as it will get,he has gave me singes the last pass two weeks and i am moving schools, and we have been dating cence C 7th,on my B day, and we haven't kissed yet, i will miss him soo much. i am 11 and i have kissed someone before but when i am with him i don't know why but i get tarifyed

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      imgay 

      2 years ago

      thanks for the advice! i now have a better idea on how to kiss my boyfriend. btw i am a guy lmao. im also 14.

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      Nobody 

      2 years ago

      I'm 14 and me and my girlfriend got together about a week ago. she said that anything can happen at anytime and when i asked her what she meant and she said i could kiss her! Im really nervous though because it would be my first kiss and she has kissed other people before. We also live a bit apart and i only see her in school so i have no where to do it in private. My friends pressure me to "grow a set" and do it but i just don't know how. Plz help

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      Emily 

      2 years ago

      Hi, I'm 13 and me and my boyfriend had been wanting to kiss. We both know it's both of our first time. We are shy and don't quite know what to do. We had only been dating for 3 weeks but known each other for 2 years (almost 3). We talked and I sounded like I wanted him to do it. I would really like to surprise him and do it, but I'm really busy and have overprotective parents. I don't have any Idea on what to do or how to prepare for it. What kind of lip stuff? How long do I wait? What do I do to hydrate my lips? Do I take a shower and wash my hair? What do I where? These are inly a couple if questions I have. Can anyone be helpful and help me?

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      Savage 

      2 years ago

      I'm 14 years old and I really like this guy and we just started dating about a week ago and he said he wants to kiss me and I'm scared he is going to try to next time I see him (in like 2 days) but he has kissed many other girls before and I have never kissed any guy before but ya I really want to kiss him but I'm just really Nervouse somebody please help!

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      Megan 

      2 years ago

      My boyfriend asked if it would be ok to kiss me. I want to kiss him, but I'm scared to. How can I explain this to him?

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      Mike 

      2 years ago

      Venus, be honest. Just tell him that you don't like the idea of it. If he isn't accepting of that he's not worthy of you.

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      Venus 

      2 years ago

      My boyfriend says we should start french kissing but I don't like the idea of French kisses can anyone help?!

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      Johnno 

      2 years ago

      Meet*

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      Johnno 

      2 years ago

      This girl who is like the hottest girl in all of junior high school sits next to me and is flirting with me constantly and a lot of people have been saying she's gonna ask me out. She's way more experienced than me and has had a fair share of boyfriends. I want to be able to kiss her but I'm not really comfortable with doing it in front of ppl at school. She lives AGES away from me and I don't know how to see her out of school. I want to kiss her when the time is right but I'm so worried and I don't know how I can really eat her. I just hope I don't fuck this up.

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      Francesca 

      2 years ago

      I'm really scared. Can anyone help? I'm in Year 9 and I've known my boyfriend since year 7. He asked me out at the beginning of this week and obviously I said yes! We've hugged before and all my friends have asked him to kiss me. They asked him to kiss me on Friday and he said "maybe on Monday ". The problem is that I don't want to kiss him in front of anyone, I've told him that I will only kiss him if we're alone. But I'm still terrified! Someone? Anyone? Help me please!!!

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      Somebody 

      2 years ago

      I feel really bad because I read this article a little too late (I wanted to kiss her but I didn't know how). My girlfriend broke up with me a while ago.

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      Brieann 

      2 years ago

      Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months we have a date today. My friend asked him to kiss me he said yes but he also said that he's to chicken to. What should I do

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      balls889 

      2 years ago

      i've dated my boyfriend for a year. he doesn't live here & he's never kissed someone. what do i do

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