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What Is Libido?
Call it sexual desire, sexual drive or sexual appetite, libido is a natural and instinctive form of psychic energy that urges us to want to have sex. Although many women think a man's libido is purely physical, while a women's is more emotional, this is not true. There are physical and emotional components to libido in both sexes.
I would like to explain how to combine the physical with the emotional and outline a technique to naturally enhance libido in both men and women. But first, let's look at some of the causes of low libido in women and men.
Factors Affecting Libido
Low libido can be a lifelong problem, or it can occur after years of normal sexual drive. Physical factors such as certain medications, chronic diseases, pain, and even aging negatively affect our sexual urges. Having a low libido is not the same as experiencing total male or female impotence. People with low libido are perfectly capable of performing the physical act of lovemaking, it's just that their urge to make love has decreased.
Psychological factors play a more prominent role in the loss of libido. Depression, anxiety, feelings of insecurity, insomnia, and exhaustion are all causes of low libido. The male libido is greatly affected by anxiety. Performance anxiety and anxiety-induced impotence can cause a vicious cycle that decreases a man's libido. Feeling accepted and loved and feeling trust and security are crucial elements of libido enhancement.
The loss of female libido is sometimes referred to as female impotence. Female impotence is a name for a variety of female sexual dysfunctions, including decreased female libido. Low female libido is often caused by feelings of insecurity, including poor body image. Feelings of security, trust, acceptance, and intimacy will increase female libido.
What Is Acupressure?
Modern western medicine may discount the curative abilities of acupressure, but the use of this holistic health technique has been well-established in the east for over 5,000 years. Acupressure is the application of pressure to certain points on the body to alleviate pain, indigestion, anxiety, fear, and numerous other complaints. It is built on the theory of acupuncture and uses the same pressure points.
These pressure points are based on the concept of Qi and meridian flow. Qi is essentially our life force, the essence of our being. This life force is found in all things including the air, water, and fire. It is the thing that makes us one with the world and our environment. The Chinese say that to be dead is to be in a body without Qi. Our Qi flows along pathways in our bodies known as meridians. These meridians can be likened to the ocean currents. Just as the flow of the ocean's currents affects the climate of the world, so the flow of our Qi through our meridians affects the climate of our emotions and health.
The constant flow of Qi throughout our bodies is essential to our health and wellbeing. When blockages occur in our meridians, the essential life force of Qi is diminished on that pathway. Much as a blood clot restricting the flow of our life-bringing blood will cause disease and/or death to the affected organs, the blockage of our Qi will cause disharmony and discord to our bodies and life.
How Can Acupressure Enhance Libido?
There are 12 main meridians that correspond to 12 vital organs, such as the heart, lungs, and liver. There are also eight lesser meridians that connect and interconnect the 12. The pressure points used in acupressure are found at connecting points in the meridian flow and at spots where the flow is close to the skin. Applying firm and steady pressure to these points allow the body to relax, reducing tension and anxiety while increasing blood flow.
Although the main meridians correspond to certain organs, the Chinese believe that these organs are linked to certain emotions. Physical and mental are not separated but are seen as a whole in Chinese medicine. And they are treated holistically as a whole, not as separate systems, but as complementary ones. Let's look at how our emotions relate to our organs in Chinese medicine.
Organs and Emotion in Chinese Medicine
|Organ||Emotions associated with good Qi flow||Emotions associated with blocked Qi flow|
Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Compassion
Insecurity, Self-Doubt, Anger, Hate
Hostility, Irritability, Bitterness
Open-Mindedness, Cheerfulness, Tolerance
Contempt, Regret, Depression
Sexual Security, Loyalness, Creative Security
Fear, Anxiety, Paranoia
Sympathy, Empathy, Harmony
Criticism, Disappointment, Disgust
Tranquility, Relaxation, Generosity
Stubborness, Gloominess, Jealousy
Approval, Confidence, Consideration
Anxiety, Alienation, Indifference
Peace, Confidence, Courage
Fear, Anxiety, Dread
Adoration, Assertivenss, Love
Boredom, Impotence, Anger
Appreciated, Joy, Nurturing
Sorrow, Sadness, Discouraged
Self-Worth, Enthusiasm, Freedom
Guilt, Depression, Apathy
Hope, Balance, Elation
Loneliness, Humiliation, Despair
Emotions and Libido
As you can see in the above chart, the chances of having a strong libido increase greatly with good Qi flow. And, if you have good Qi flow, you become a much more attractive mate. A cycle will begin between you and your partner of feeling good about yourself and each other and of feeling increasing trust and happiness.
As you feel better about yourself, your world and your partner (and when you see the same changes in your partner) I guarantee your libido and your partner's libido will increase. Your newfound joy and confidence may even lead you to places you have never been before.
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How To Perform Acupressure
To perform acupressure you will want to apply firm pressure for one to three minutes to each point. You will know you have the correct place because it will feel sorer than the surrounding areas. You should apply pressure until you experience a sensation that is between pleasure and pain. If you experience all pain, let up slightly until the pressure feels good, but still a little sore. Depending on the size of the pressure point, you may want to use the tip of a finger, the tip of a knuckle, or the eraser end of a pencil.
A firm, steady pressure is good to strengthen weakened Qi. This steady pressure energizes and enhances Qi. If the Qi is blocked, it is best to apply firm pressure while slowly rubbing the spot with a counterclockwise motion. This pressure kick-starts the flow of Qi and helps to clear the meridians. The Qi can then deliver its life essence throughout the body.
Helpful Libido Acupressure Points
Known as the Spirit Gate, the point called Heart Seven is truly the gate of the spirit. When the gate is closed, one is irritable, anxious, and restless. The heart is confined by the gate and unable to rest. The rest of the body is deprived of the heart's presence. Insomnia, anxiety, and depression ensue. Harmony is disrupted and chaos soon sets in. To maintain peace and harmony in life, the Spirit Gate must remain clear. When this gate is open love, joy, and fun will exist in your life.
Heart Seven is found on the interior of the wrist, about one to two inches below the crease where the hand meets the wrist. It is located in the center of the wrist between the tendons. Apply pressure and gently massage your finger in a circular motion. Continue this action for one to two minutes. You will find your mind clearing and your heart-lifting.
Many people experience a great, energizing surge through their body when Liver Three is activated. The surge helps to decrease fatigue, alleviate insomnia, and lessen pain. The use of acupressure here will soothe and free you. Your irritability will melt away, leaving you feeling calm and secure.
Liver Three is located on the top of the foot between the big toe and the second toe. Run your finger down until you are at the point where the bones meet. Apply pressure and slowly rub your finger up towards the ankle and then back to the point. Only move your finger 1/2 inch or less while rubbing.
The "Central Treasury" is a meeting place for many of the meridians. It is where the back meets the front, and where the liver and spleen connect with the lung. Acupressure to Lung One will assist in relieving depression and reduce feelings of contempt and regret. Opening the Central Treasury allows a breath of fresh air into your life. This allows for renewal and reconnection. You will find yourself cheerful, more tolerant, and open-minded.
Lung One is found on the chest, just below the collar bone by the shoulder. Hold your arm out straight and you will feel the triangle of muscle in which Lung One resides. Press into the triangle with steady, firm pressure for about one minute, then massage slowly in a counter-clockwise motion for another minute.
"Gushing Spring" draws the Qi downward, like water in a waterfall. If there are excesses of Qi above, Gushing Spring will draw them down and keep you grounded. Pressing on Kidney One will lessen fear and anxiety and increase your feelings of security. It enhances feelings of loyalty while alleviating paranoia.
Kidney One is found on the bottom of the foot between the second and thid toes. Run your finger down between the toes until you come to the end of the forepad on your foot. Kidney One will be at the central point of the pad about a third of the way down the foot. Apply firm pressure for one minute and then slowly massage in a couter-clockwise motion for one minute.
There are many more points in acupressure that are good for natural libido enhancement. I like to use these techniques in conjunction with massage. The rhythmic stroking of massage coupled with the almost painful pressure of acupressure is a good mix between total relaxation and overwhelming tension.
Have fun trying these techniques while you open your life to new possibilities. You and your partner will enjoy the energizing yet relaxing effects of acupressure.
Now, go get your Qi moving!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2010 Katie Butler
Sam on April 19, 2016:
I wanted to know more about this & discuss a few things with you & get your suggestion. Would appreciate your help.
Michael Wiener on January 15, 2015:
I'm still yet to find someone good with acupressure/acupuncture. Do these guys are available at a typical spa? I think this is good in conjunction with meditation as it relaxes both mind and body plus the positive effects of acupressure.
Dazza on October 11, 2013:
This is fantastic well worth every second reading it and practising what it says
Srichn82 on April 18, 2012:
Very much usefull And well composed.
Julian on October 13, 2011:
Great Information.I never knew that this Acupressure technique can make your libido enhance. Waw..! I really liked it.I am really gonna try this one out.Superbly informative hub.Thanks a lot for sharing this :)
ladyjane1 from Texas on July 03, 2010:
I am definitly going to try these. There is so much info on this hub I really learned a lot. Cheers.
Katie Butler (author) from Sensual, USA on May 17, 2010:
joe, Meridian science is fascinating to me. I have found massage combined with acupressure is a great way to set the mood. Thanks!
Joe Cseko jr from New York, USA, Earth on May 16, 2010:
God, a common sense approach that embraces meridian science. Many years of study of Chinese martial arts, culture, and medicine-- this is a site for sore eyes!!!
Well done, sir...
Katie Butler (author) from Sensual, USA on May 10, 2010:
Thanks iris! I'm glad you liked it!
iris on May 02, 2010:
Great information about the "Helpful Libido Acupressure Points" for female sexual issues. I gained a lot of knowledge by reading this article. Thanks
Katie Butler (author) from Sensual, USA on April 10, 2010:
I'm glad you are having such great success! Thanks for the follow-up.
rls8994 from Mississippi on April 08, 2010:
I have been trying this and they really do make me feel more relaxed. I will be doing this a lot more!
Katie Butler (author) from Sensual, USA on April 04, 2010:
rls8994, Thanks for reading! I find they work well to help me feel more relaxed.
rls8994 from Mississippi on March 26, 2010:
This is a lot of good information. I have always been interested in acupressure points. I will try some of the ones you have listed. Great hub!
Katie Butler (author) from Sensual, USA on March 08, 2010:
hypnodude, You are very kind! It was very hard to put all this information into one hub. I may try to explain it more fully in others. Thanks for this! :D
entertainmentplus, I'm glad you liked it. Acupressure is a wonderful stimulant of good feelings. Thanks!
entertianmentplus from United States on March 08, 2010:
Very good hub..Thanks for the info.
Andrew from Italy on March 07, 2010:
Very well written hub. A lot of informations and broadly explained. Rated, bookmarked to link in the future with my future hubs on the matter, and stumbled. And of course rated up. :)