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Based on appearance alone, you can see someone and instantly know if you are attracted to them. You can even feel some sort of a vibe when you’re near them; however the true chemistry is in the kiss.
Have you ever had someone in your life that you only considered a friend, but then one day you found yourself locking lips with this person? I have...and unbeknownst to me, this person was not only an amazing kisser, but the chemistry was unbelievable. When this guy kissed me, it felt as if the entire room had disappeared; it was not only magical, but the heat between us ignited my loins and swept me off my feet. If I had known there was incredible chemistry between us, I would have kissed him sooner.
Unfortunately, chemistry like this isn’t always felt with everyone. Meeting someone you find attractive is the first step, but kissing that person is a whole different story. Just because the physical attraction is there doesn’t mean the chemistry will be in the kiss.
Have you ever kissed someone and felt nothing? No chemistry...and definitely no heated loins. What a disappointment, especially if there were high hopes for potential possibilities with them.
How can you find someone incredible sexy and good-looking, but when you kiss them you feel nadda: Nadda spark, Nadda passion, Nadda wanting more? For me, the “dead” spark has occurred when I’ve been attracted to someone whose kissing style didn’t agree with mine.
Since there are so many different kissing styles, you know when you find one that’s compatible with yours. Most of us have encountered the “interesting” kissing style at some point in our life. When this happens it becomes awkward and frustrating; you can’t understand why someone you find so physically attractive has a kiss that turns you off. Why do you bump heads or noses each time you kiss? Where did the Chemistry you thought was there go? Could this be a big clue that this person isn’t right for you or simply that they are bad kisser? There are so many different kissing styles; some can be a turn-on while others can be a Turn-Off!
12 Basic Kissing Turn-Off’s:
1) Captain Linger: Keeping the Tongue in Someone’s Mouth Way Too Long.
This person does not know the meaning of pulling back. It’s great when someone’s tongue is moving around with yours; however it can get exhausting when they don’t give you breathing space or time to rest.
A kisser like this might end up being clingy!
2) Dead Fish: No Movement-Letting the Tongue Hangout.
Unless you’re planning to eat a dead fish, no one wants this in their mouth; it sounds just as bad as the experience but hopefully without the rotten smell.
Excitement left the building with this kisser!
3) Caught Fish: Swishing the Tongue Around Rapidly.
Although a caught fish can seem better than a dead fish, it’s really not. Kissing someone should never feel like there’s a trapped fish in your mouth frantically trying to escape.
That much quick motion should be saved for something else!
4) Saint Bernard: Slobbery, Wet Kiss.
This kisser has no problems with dehydration and it shows. When you’re done kissing this person you definitely have enough of their DNA if you needed to do a background check; not sexy at all.
Handy wipes should never come after kissing!
5) Happy Dog: Face Licking.
Although it’s acceptable to be licked by your own dog, it’s not as acceptable or enjoyable to be licked by a person. This kisser takes kissing to another level and obviously has problems “staying in the lines” (your mouth). When kissing turns into licking your face it’s time to say good-bye.
This person might be too kinky or just too gross!
6) The Lizard: Repetitively Sticking the Tongue In and Out.
When someone sticks their tongue in and out, not trying to connect or “dance” with your tongue this usually means they are lazy kissers.
Lazy kissers= Lazy Lovers. Do I need to say more?
7) Hollow Man: All Lip No Tongue: Boring!
Just like this person probably is in relationships and in the bedroom!
8) The Starving Mouse: Lip Biting or Nibbling.
This can be very sexy if done right and for short periods of time. Problem: some people just don’t know when to stop making you wonder if they need to eat before kissing you. Biting too hard or nibbling too much can become annoying quickly.
Do you really want to end up with chapped, chafed, and possibly bloody lips after a kiss?
9) The Wood Pecker: Rapid pecking.
This person loves peck kisses and it shows.
Someone who only pecks when they kisses (or prefers to) is usually not experienced or not that into you!
10) Pacifier: Sucking on someone’s tongue: Hmmm.
Again this is one that can bring potential heat to the bedroom, however when the tongue is mostly what they want to suck on it, tends to be a big red flag for mommy issues!
11) Sucker Fish: Sucking on Top/Bottom Lip.
Moderation and ease is nice but over sucking is not. Why would anyone want their lips to look as if they are covered in hickies or welts?
Can you say control issues!
12) Car Crash: Kissing Hard, Aggressive and Fast.
This person has no passion and gives you no room to enjoy the kiss or participate. It’s all about them.
Repeat after me…“selfish lover!”
Bottom-line, kissing is like a dance between two people’s mouths; when you’re tongues and lips move together in sync it can be magical, even breathtaking. Why settle for an uncoordinated sloppy dance of a kiss when you can find one that melts your heart?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
bailey ward on May 12, 2014:
I have no idea how to kiss a girl and I'm so scared PLEASE HELP
Stephanie Bailey (author) from Denver on December 04, 2013:
Thank you myfirstkiss for reading, I'm happy that this has given you insight to the future.
Thank you as well for reading my other articles--please feel free to follow me so that you can get alerts when a new article is published.
Stephanie Bailey (author) from Denver on December 04, 2013:
Thank you for reading!
myfirstkiss on December 03, 2013:
Thanks sooo much this has.helped.me.a lot as a teen and when Im supposed.to have my first kiss I definitely know.the red flags.now.
All the.other articles.are amazinggg too!!!
Stephanie Bailey (author) from Denver on May 05, 2013:
Thank you for your feedback. I really appreciate you reading my articles.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 24, 2013:
Awesome ideas here about Kissable Chemistry, you have put this information perfectly together, a useful and interesting hub.
Stephanie Bailey (author) from Denver on February 25, 2013:
Thanks marobai for reading! There are actually even more kissing styles but trying to list all of them would have been to much. :)
marobai on February 22, 2013:
Very interesting article about kissing. As a senior citizen, I never knew that kissing had so much variety. :)
Stephanie Bailey (author) from Denver on February 22, 2013:
Thank you metrosmiles! And yes marketeconomy the sandpaper kisser would have been perfect to add; road rash is never fun on any part of the body! ;)
I appreciate you both reading and commenting on my article.
marketeconomy on February 20, 2013:
loved it! the only one i would add is the sandpaper kisser - PLEASE do a better job shaving so i don't have road rash all over my face - ow!
metrosmiles on February 20, 2013: