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How to Turn Your Wife on: Tips to Get Your Wife in the Mood for Sex

Has your wife been making excuses to avoid physical contact with you lately? Here are some things you can try to help revive the intimacy in your relationship.

Has your wife been making excuses to avoid physical contact with you lately? Here are some things you can try to help revive the intimacy in your relationship.

How to Get Your Wife in the Mood: 10 Tips

The sexual life of a married woman is in many ways, a representation and fall out of her real life. To turn your wife on, you will need to break away from mundane behavior and embrace the not-so-serious side of life.

If you have been hearing 'I'm tired' or 'I have a headache' way too often, read on for everyday tips that will help you learn how to get your wife in the mood for sex.

1. Stop Arguing and Fighting With Your Wife

If you want to turn your wife on, stop arguing or fighting for a few days because an argument can become emotionally draining. Try to overlook some obvious shortcomings, just like how she overlooks some of yours.

Stop annoying your wife by arguing with her and make her feel like you are putting an effort to iron out the tiny differences in your relationship. It will make her want to give back into the relationship and the marriage.

2. Bring Back the Teenage Romantic Within You

If you find yourself complaining, "Sex isn't how it was when our relationship started. Everything has become dull now," ask yourself, "Are you as romantic as you were when you first started seeing your wife?"

To get your wife in the mood for sex, bring back the teenage romantic within you. Bring her flowers without reason, randomly give her a small gift, shower her with compliments and keep doing the teeny romantic things that you used to when you started dating her. All these things will make her feel wanted all over again, and she will want you even more.

3. If She's Overwhelmed With Parenting Duties, Take Care of the Kids for a Day or Two

Mothers love to look after their kids, but if they're a stay-at-home mom or feeling overwhelmed by parenting duties, once in a while, they like it if they get a break from the mundane routine of waking up, fixing breakfast, dropping the kids off to school, picking them up, and so on.

If you really want your wife to reciprocate positively in bed, take over some of her mommy duties for a few days. It will ease the burden of responsibility from her shoulders.

4. Groom Yourself and Put Some Effort Into Staying Fit and Looking Good Naked

Depending on whether your wife is the kind of woman who likes body hair on men or not, keep grooming yourself regularly. A decent trimmer will cost you less than $50, while a good quality grooming kit that has a trimmer, various attachments, and the works will cost less than $100. That is a small investment to make if you want to turn on your wife.

Just like you expect your wife to be womanly and get rid of unwanted body hair from time to time, it would be fair on her side to expect you to indulge in some manly grooming too. Show her that you want to look good for her and take off that excess body hair.

Add to your own sex appeal by staying fit, working out, and doing the best you can to look good naked. If you think you need to lose a few pounds, find the motivation to lose weight and hit the gym to burn off a few calories.

5. Watch a Romantic Film Together in Bed

A romantic movie is a great way to kick off a romantic rendezvous in bed. Pick a romantic movie and snuggle up with your wife in bed as you both watch it while munching on snacks and your favorite beverage. Just make sure that the movie you pick does not have a sad ending.

You and your wife should be able to relate tiny bits from your own married lives to the romantic episodes in the film. As the movie's plot progresses, there will be a time when you both will look into each others' eyes, lock lips and passionately embrace.

6. Treat Her to a Day of Fun—Shopping, Dinner, and a Movie

Picture yourself in a situation where someone grabs your arm and says, "I'm going to take you to the mall and buy you anything you want. Then I'm going to take you to the movies, and we are going to watch your favorite flick." How would you feel? Presumably, you would feel excited and happy like a small child who has just been given candy.

Similarly, surprise your wife and treat her to a fun-filled day of shopping, followed by a nice meal and a movie. The combination of shopping, movie, and dinner was just an example. If your wife is an art connoisseur and likes to go to galleries, take her there. The point is to get her in the mood for sex, by being a true gentleman and treating her to a day full of fun and happiness.

7. Go on a Short Weekend Trip With Your Wife (Kids Can Come Along)

The best way to turn on your wife on is to plan short weekend trips so the both of you can take a break from the rut of life. Even if you take the kids along, you two can spend some quality time together and enjoy romantic kisses, hugs, and cuddles in a lead-up to a sizzling rendezvous in bed.

Remember that you don't necessarily need to spend a lot of money to travel. These short weekend trips can be as simple as driving down to the countryside and sharing a glass of wine over a campfire, while the kids are asleep after a day of trekking and hiking.

8. Utter Sweet Nothings in Your Wife's Ear All Day Long

When was the last time you held your wife by surprise and said, "I love you"? When was the last time you called your wife from work and said, "I miss you"? If you haven't been showing the true face of your love and affection for your wife, how is she supposed to know?

Keep uttering sweet nothings and shower her with love all day long. She will get goosebumps every time you hold her in your arms and whisper something in her ear as you breathe down her neck. Your tender show of love will go a long way in building up the momentum to naughty times in the bedroom.

9. Help Make Her Life Easier

As silly and naïve as this sounds, it is probably the best piece of advice when it comes to learning how to turn your wife on. If your marriage, your kids' activities, your wife's job, and all the other elements that make up her schedule are going great, sex life is likely to be good.

But if there is a dent in the things driving her happiness and satisfaction, it is likely that there is a lack of action in the bedroom. Getting your wife in the mood for sex is as easy as pulling all the plugs to keep your marriage and overall life happy and healthy.

10. Be Successful at Work, and Make Your Wife Want You More

A passive way to turn your wife on is to be successful at work. If you are wondering how, the answer is quite simple. If you become successful at work, it is likely that you will get a promotion which means more money. This will result in a better standard of living for your family, which will make your wife feel good about her life.

Your success will elevate your image in your wife's eyes, and she will feel happy to be married to a successful person like you. Remember, being successful does not only mean being rich. In this context, being successful is all about being the man you've always wanted to be. Women drool over men who can just go out there and achieve their dreams.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.