Mike is an expert kisser here to share his advice on making out.
First Time Making Out?
If you've never made out with someone before, you probably feel pretty anxious about it. Maybe you have a date this coming weekend, and you hope to kiss someone for the first time, but your mind is racing with a million different questions: How do I start? What do I do with my tongue? What exactly is "French kissing" anyway?
Relax . . . I'm going to give you some tips and pointers that will help to make your first make-out session a success! First, there are a few basic rules that you must remember. These take precedence over everything else!
Rule #1: Relax!
It's probably going to be hard to relax and remain calm, but try to have fun and don't obsess over every little detail. If it's going to happen, then just "go with the flow."
Rule #2: Take It Slow
Even though you will be nervous and excited all at the same time, you need to slow down. Don't rush into things and try to kiss your date unexpectedly, out of nowhere. It's best to get you and your partner away from the crowds and talk for a while. Try to gradually work your way closer to them (slowly!) until you are at least holding hands or maybe have your arms wrapped around each other. Try to be smooth.
Rule #3: No Means No
Even if you want to kiss your date really, really badly, if they resist or reject your advances, you have to stop and respect their decision. No ifs, ands, or buts—if they don't want to make out with you, then that's it.
You can't force yourself on someone, not even just to kiss them. It's wrong, immoral, and illegal. If you kiss them, and they reject you, take a step back and try to talk about it. Talking about your feelings is hard, but nobody ever went to jail for it!
Basic Instructions for Making Out
Kissing is pretty simple, but making out requires a little bit of creativity and passion. It needs to be done at the right moment, and your partner needs to be ready too.
- Start by slowly moving your faces closer and closer. Begin with a light kiss on the lips. Read your partner and try to match their energy. If your partner doesn't freak out and run away screaming, keep going!
- After a few more light kisses, open your mouth a little and slide your tongue across your partner's lips. If they open up too, slide your tongue into their mouth (remember—slowly and gently!).
- Caress their tongue with yours. Move your head around slowly to approach from different angles.
That's pretty much it! Watch the video below for step-by-step instructions on how to make out successfully.
Remember, there are many different types of kisses; making out is only one of them. Kissing is a great way to display passion and share intimacy with someone, but tongues don't always need to be involved. With that said, try these techniques out on that someone special, and good luck!
Lp25 on September 17, 2012:
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Thanks for the help!
masonp on September 09, 2012:
love u to makala changed to a new account
Makala on September 09, 2012:
ya mason is really good at makin out ^aka bdog25. LOVE U
bdog25 on September 08, 2012:
my girl and i made out 1 time and it was like amazing though she gave like to much tongue but still it was AWSOME
bdog25 on September 08, 2012:
why give so much toungue
unknown on September 02, 2012:
im so nervous that ill do it wrong
Someone on August 22, 2012:
I may have kiss guys before but if you wne kiss or make out don't plan it ... It comes natural
Brittany on July 18, 2012:
Thanks (: I've been wanting to kiss my boyfriend but I didn't know how
anomonous on July 09, 2012:
omg! When i watch this i always think about being with my ex. dreydon he was my first kiss after school everyone left when i said bye we hugged when i came out of the position i saw that he was coming closer to me so i said to my self its time i gotta do it then i kissed him.... it was amazing! i was so happy when i was walking home. Now next step i gotta make out for my first time
Me on July 02, 2012:
I'm still really nervous.. Do you use your tongue everytime you makeout!?! I'm soo nervous :(
Candielover on June 13, 2012:
Ive made out alotttt but im soo nervouse cquse his is an actual guy i like!!!
Random Gurl on June 03, 2012:
FREAKING OUT!!!!! ok so my bf went out with my best friend right before me and well they made out... a lot!! and now i am going out with him and he really wants to and i kinda do but i am once again FREAKING OUT but we tried i got scared and wimoed out i have no clue what to i study this ccrap like no tomorrow HELPPP
Chloeeeee on May 30, 2012:
Leaxyy don't worry if you feel comfetable going futhur with your relation ship then take it slow or if you don't just tell him nothing will go wrong and if he loves you for who you are then he will understand! Hope this helps
dingdong on May 20, 2012:
hi sup people
AWOLATION rocks on May 07, 2012:
One of the reasons why is because I'm homeschooled but I'm going to the school where my 6 year crush goes to wish me luck:)
Cassie on May 06, 2012:
Everyone just breathe!! It doesn't matter how old you are when you get your first kiss! But making out is easy i promise. Here's a few tips. . . .1 pick a quiet place 2 make eye contact but sneak a peek at their lips while biting yours 3 lean in 4 kiss them 5 and then relax and just go with!!!! Everyone makes out differently and only you will be able to deterime how you like it And communite with your partner and remember that it takes practice. im 16 and have been making out for years. My boyfriend and i rock the world when we makeout :)
Lokey on April 24, 2012:
This is not how you make out!
Girl on April 18, 2012:
This guy I like an he said we are gonna make out but idk how and I still don't get it someone plzzzz help
sexybeast@1 on April 15, 2012:
cant watch video and this girl who i have dated like100 times btw we broke up on a ferricewheel i think that's how u spell it well were not dating but she asked if i have made out before i said no but now every time she is around me she says how she wants to make out on the last day of school btw cant wait but i just don't know how who ever can help i will be their friend pppppppppllllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzzzz o im 12 turning 13 may24 and i go to wanette in 7th grade sweet school=)
sexybeast@1 on April 15, 2012:
cant watch video and this girl who i have dated like100 times btw we broke up on a ferricewheel i think that's how u spell it well were not dating but she asked if i have made out before i said no but now every time she is around me she says how she wants to make out on the last day of school btw cant wait but i just don't know how who ever can help i will be their friend pppppppppllllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzzzz o im 12 turning 13 may24 and i go to wanette in 7th grade sweet school
Nicole! (; on April 11, 2012:
Bella:: Don't be scared at all! I was nervous and scared my first time but after it just happened it wasn't nothing to be scared or nervous over. But if you don't know if he would or wouldn't makeout with you, try and bring it to his attention and see what he says?! You never know until you ask. Just express your feelings about it too him and see what he thinks. But its nothing to be nervous or scared about, its fun after the first time!
chloefosta on April 06, 2012:
thnx that helped a lot
Nichole on April 01, 2012:
Wow very helpful! Looks like im gonna have fun making out with my boyfriend. I was nervous but not so much anymore (:
Julie on March 31, 2012:
lolol that was helpful (-; now im barely nervous
Andrew on March 28, 2012:
Wow I am kind of scared like me and my gf want to make Out but she is nervous and I am to and we never really get time to ourselfs and I don't want to do it infront of people I need help it's both of our first times btw I am 13
cjabf bfb on March 25, 2012:
I am still scared!! how the heck am i supposed to know for sure i am kissing right? or my tounge is moving right?
Rose on March 15, 2012:
I am 14 turing 15 in april. I never head my first kiss. In the past I liked two people not at the same time I rejected there kiss so many times I felt bad and I rejected anther kid to. I don't know how to kiss.
Trollz on March 12, 2012:
I'm 15, I've had 5 boyfriends since I was ten; one for every year and I've decided to have my first kiss. My current boyfriend thinks I've made out before but I haven't and sort of don't want to seem 'noobish' so I've been watching a lot of videos and reading a lot of articles. I've decided I'm just going to relax and take it slow. Im feeling pretty confident :)
Umm on March 09, 2012:
such little sluts now a days haha no offense but at 11 and 12 you shouldn't be making out with guys you should still believe in cooties.
Dane on March 09, 2012:
I'm 12 and me and one of my good friends were hanging out and we kissed :) But we both like eachother but we don't wanna date cause it might ruin our friendship when we break up so we just kiss and stuff
Shantel on March 07, 2012:
I am 12 and don't know how to makeout but me and this kid have a thing going on and it's really serious
zoe on March 05, 2012:
Ok so me.and my boyfriend TRIED to makeout last night but we soliloquy screwed up:P neither of us have ever madeout before and we had no idea what.we were doing. How is it supposed to work? The kiss I mean. I just cant figure out how your lips and tongue are supposed to do those things at the same time
sexybeastt21 on February 21, 2012:
omggg youu guyss aree really younggg to be makingg out lol 12!! hah well im 14 about to turnnn 15 &' i havent kissed anybody yet!! but does nyone here go to laguna hills high school?!
Payten556 on February 16, 2012:
I am only 12 and I never have made out before but my boyfriend wants to and I'm scared
Crazy girl on February 15, 2012:
I want to I'm just scared idk I I'm good or not
Alexis on February 12, 2012:
My friend gabe wants to makeout with me but I don't know how to what should I do?
Laura on February 12, 2012:
I am 12 and my bf and I r goin to makeout tomorrow and I have now idea how. This helped though
Daniela on February 11, 2012:
Well I Like A Guy And He Likes Me My Friends Say He Wants To Make A Move And Be My Boyfriend And I Want To Be His Girlfriend Too But One Problem I Don't Know How To Make Out ;( i Saw This On Google And Ive Been Wanting To Know How like Crazy I Want To Have My First Kiss With Him But Im Too Afraid !! How Does The Tongue Thing Work ? And Who's Tongue Goes In First ? And When The Tongues Go In What Do The Lips Doo D;; PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! :/
Im 13 And Have No Idea Hes Also 13 And Knows How To ! What if I Am A Bad Kisser Please Help
Precious 33 on January 31, 2012:
How do u work with the tounge like how does it have to move ?
Kirsten on January 30, 2012:
Making ou lt is easy:) me and my boyfriend booth madeout for the first time on the 28th and its basically like kissing over and over again with a little youngish action;)
jordan on January 29, 2012:
this is great now i know to make out with my girl friend that is super hot
ellee on January 26, 2012:
This is kinda weird but really helpful and I hope it works cuz I'm new with the hole kissing thing
Kayla on January 23, 2012:
lol it was kinda funny... but it really was helpful... my B.F & I have made out like... a few times now! (^3^) mmhmmmm!
Awesomeperson on January 22, 2012:
Wish I saw this yesterday! Me and my Bf made out last night, first time for the both of us. I was completely nervous kinda freaking out. It was nice but his teeth kept getting in the way, don't know what to do?!?
Ste08 on January 17, 2012:
Omggg!!! I'm freakingg out!! My bf told me that tomo he wants to make out with me but neither of us know how to but he thinks I do!! Ahhhh!!!! Btw I'm in sec 2 :P
Ineedyou on January 16, 2012:
Ok so I am talking to the guy I like. He knows that I like him and he won't even tell me if he likes me. I wanted to hang out with him on new years eve and have my first kiss with him and he couldn't come. I really like him and how do I no if he likes me? I have also told him before that I wasn't ready for a first kiss. And now I am and I don't no how to tell him. I am nervous to have my first kiss and he has already made out with girls. What do I do?
valval on January 16, 2012:
Im only 11 and i am gonna kss a boy 2morrow
help on January 13, 2012:
The only thing u need to know is the word olive. Say it a lot cuz its the motion you're supposed to make. But don't u dare say it when mak
ing out cuz the person you're kissing may freak out and breath through the nose not mouth.
kittykatt on January 08, 2012:
ive made out with so many guys its not funny.. im only 15 nd i find it funny how people acctually follow that vid... i find it funny noone ever seems to have enough im like no more nd they just go at it again first makeout ses was 120minutes AT SCHOOL IN CLASS when i was 12
Heyagirl on January 07, 2012:
rosie on January 05, 2012:
my boyfriend really wants to make out with me on saturday but I'm really scared...he has made out a lot of time but i never have :/ I'm super nervous someone please help
Chloeee on January 05, 2012:
Ive kissed my boyfriend (12) but we haven't made out... i go to a catholic school so theres no place to really do it... maybe we' ll go on anouther date.. This video really helped :) But its weird if u plan it... it wont be as special! u guys should just go with the flow and let it happen at the right time. good luck ;)
Areyana on January 04, 2012:
I asked my mom what she thought about me making out... I'm 13 and she said to find a piece of wall and practice on the wall... What does that mean? Like make out on a wall or make out with a wall... If you have any ideas pleas help! Oh and the video really helped
istilllovejimmyfitzpatrick on January 03, 2012:
So my bf makesout sosososo much with other girls and I don't know what to do! I'm freaking out but my bf thinks I know how but don't. This video helped my skill but not my nuviousness! Oh and I'm 12 and my bf is 15 ! Now that's scary:/
booboo12 on January 03, 2012:
Wow I'm in 7 th grade and my exbf is in 9 th grade and he wants to make out this helped.but I'm still scared
SCARED on January 03, 2012:
Okay Thanks so much for the tips! But im still scared I'll mess up! My ex tried to make out before but i didn't think i was ready. so he dumped me, I think I'm ready now! But still a little worried I'm only 14! Any tips?
Jenny on January 03, 2012:
Omg this really helped I'm not scared anymore
Hannah on December 30, 2011:
When you make out the thing i wanna kno is that do you stick with the top lip or do you kiss the bottom and move around
EmmaJean on December 25, 2011:
first time making out thursday...SUPER nervous... :/
jizzy69 on December 21, 2011:
first time tomorrow...the nerves are killing me!!
sis&jada on December 16, 2011:
omg were 11 and weweve kissed our bfs soooo many times we lost track so cry about it 14 & 13 YEAR olds
LoveYouBoo on December 13, 2011:
My boyfriend and i are going to make out tomorrow for the first time and it's both of our first time making out and it's his birthday tomorrow and he said he wants tongue so I hope all goes well and I don't screw it up!
Peaches on December 12, 2011:
Why is it that people are saying that they're 12/13 and are asking how to make out? I feel like I'm a total weirdo for not getting my first kiss yet... Btw, I'm 14...
nicole on December 11, 2011:
ive made out so so so so so so so many times before (im 13) & ive probably hooked up with like 9 other guys. i do it nothing like that & they always tell me im good.. so idk what this is supposed to help with. they look retarded. jsaying. when i 'make out' were like ontop of eachother & it goes on for like hours. it never gets old
Chiikspimp2 on December 06, 2011:
well u follow they other person's head tilt chan or they follow u, which is why u go slow! now on to my issue.. this guy that i have been having "something" with kissed me. but he went fast and was doing tongue but i got really lost and cut him off. when i tried again for the 3rd time i slightly bit his tongue... he claims he barely felt it x( i don't get what to DO with my tongue.. im try video tips. anything other tips u want to share PLZ let me kno. im 15 though i don't rlly think that matters
chan on December 05, 2011:
What if u tilt heads same way and like bump noses or something
Jesssss on December 05, 2011:
OMG thisn wssd the best VID EVR!!!!!!! thaky you SO muchm, i was SOOOOO nervous byut love you guiys K* :)Im 12 and me and my BF ARE GOING TO MKEOUT tnmr! OMG, so nerooubs...on the playgrund beghind the swings :) luvv u boy.
Heeeelp on December 05, 2011:
Im meant to make out with my bf tomorrow. I'm sorta scared because it's his first time too and like this kinda didn't help me. D:
Ugbm on December 04, 2011:
This helped a lot I'm kissin my girlfriend tomorrow and I'm really nervous I'll mess up but this helped a little
Hi on December 04, 2011:
Thanx 4 the tips!!!!
Mrs.Confused on December 03, 2011:
OMG HELP PEOPLE!!My boyfriend and I are going to make out on Monday but I don't know how!This video just made me extra nervous!I don't want to use tongue!
Jc on December 02, 2011:
Okay so me and my boyfriend wanna make out but I don't know how and he doesn't either.. And we had to lie to are friends and said we did so we wouldn't get crap.... Anyways I'm not nervous (:
Marcella on November 28, 2011:
It was really helpful and creepy
your moms lover on November 28, 2011:
well i kissed him ripped his tung off and taped it to his butt
Baby on November 28, 2011:
Wowww that works
tery on November 26, 2011:
this really helped thanks
Rara on November 25, 2011:
Wow that was so weird but other ppl help me out alout thanks!! :)k
Suzy on November 23, 2011:
I love dis
Malay on November 23, 2011:
Emi loved this now she now what to do lol
Amber Marie on November 22, 2011:
There is nothing better than making out in the Texas rain after spending an entire day with your guy... best day ever. Just thought I should let y'all know.
Hallie on November 16, 2011:
Wow you guys are so weird!!!!! ^_^ but that's all right!!!! :D
Sydsyd on November 13, 2011:
ACCTUALLY the girl gets the bottom not the top like Aman said. ive nvr issed b4, but watching tv the girl ALWAYS got the bottom. DUH
a girl that don't know how to kiss :/ on November 11, 2011:
i am 12.. and i always wanted to kiss a boy, who r in high school..
and i need someone to practice make out with.. 0_0
i feel like loser because everyone in my class did make out many time.. i had EXS and i never kiss w them 0_0
reply please thanks.. :)
Nicole on November 09, 2011:
Lol I am an amazing kisser!
Emily on November 07, 2011:
Well I am 12 and me and my boyfriend go to the same school and tomarow is a commen planning day we get out at 130 and were walking to our mall and gonna make out I'm not nervous I've made out and kissed a few times it's easy we french too
Footbalbro on November 06, 2011:
Way should I do?!?!?!?!?!?
Footbalbro on November 06, 2011:
Same here, but the girl I like gets wierded out by bf's and gf's stuff
Baseball on November 06, 2011:
I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me back, should I ask her if she likes me or just plain on ask her out????
uliajay on November 06, 2011:
i really like this guy and i think he likes me but he didn't ask me out yet. i'm in 7th grade and ppl are hooking up! i wanna just walk up 2 him and kiss him! what do i do??
parker on November 06, 2011:
OMG i was at a party and i made out with a junior (im a freshman, and it was only 12 seconds) and i totally did it wrong... it was relly awkward, because everybody at the party was watching, so it wasn't as intimate. but, frankly, i need to get A LOT better at kissing.
Lovely on November 04, 2011:
This video iz kinda helpful nd I hope I am at least alright at this making out thing on Monday.....skared :/
idddddddddkkkkkkkkkkkkkk on November 04, 2011:
Thanks for the tip... I'll try that one of these days
girl on November 03, 2011:
I feel like such a loser right now.. I'm 15 & still haven't made out. When me & my ex were still together he would try to makeout with me several times and I would pull away. I was scared I was gonna screw it up /:
stupidd or whta ? on November 03, 2011:
so i have my boyfriend and we kissed and madeout but i dontknow if i did it right?! andd i kindaa mm bit hid tonguue ];
girly on November 03, 2011:
thanx for da help lets jus hope i pull it of!
Girl on November 02, 2011:
Should I be nervous?!?!?!
nani on November 01, 2011:
it was really helpful (: i think i can hadle it . . . Hopefully /:
Batman on November 01, 2011:
I'm extremely nervous....I wanna makeout with my boyfriend SO bad....but don't know how.:(
Xoxo megzie on October 29, 2011:
13 almost 14 in november i want to hook up with someone and i almost did today but so close i think for the first time on halloween hes hooked up with my friend before and shes had experience ive had none but they think i have but what eves as lng as i have gum
Cathy on October 29, 2011: