Bonding Through an Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR)

Updated on December 9, 2016
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Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR)

An Adult Nursing Relationship is a relationship in which a woman who is currently lactating is being suckled by her husband, boyfriend, friend, girlfriend, or some other significant other. This hub is not to glorify this type of relationship. This hub is to help those in a committed relationship try something new to bond and become closer to each other. You can set your own goals as far as if you are already lactating, or if you want to induce lactation, but there are various reasons a woman and her adult partner would want this type of relationship.

There are rewards for the woman and her partner in this type of relationship. A couple’s bond deepens as you both spend more quality time together. A baby is close to her mother during this time, and when an adult couple can also spend this type of quality time together to hold one another is a true deep emotional experience that few can truly say they have ever had the opportunity to experience.

This is a physical bonding experience, but it goes way beyond just the time spent nursing. The physiological effects that one can have thinking about spending this type of quality time with your partner helps relationships become strong all over again. You have to take this type of relationship serious just like any other relationship you have had in the past. This is not a relationship to “Get off” on. You have to be willing to talk to your partner about the joys and pitfalls of what you both want out of an ANR relationship. Some men and women enjoy it for the lactation experience; some enjoy it for the quiet time spent with one another. I know a few couples that have told me that they were apprehensive at first, but after a few months, they can’t live without each other and can’t ever imagine doing this loving gesture to one another, with anyone else.

If your relationship is already strong, this can only enhance it to another level. It is not something that happens overnight. And you have to know how to separate sex, from an ANR relationship. This is about spending time with the one you love in an old fashion way, which has been done from the beginning of time. I have had the fortune of experiencing this before and I can personally tell you it is wonderful, and when you let yourself go, you realize you love the person for all the reasons in the world, the good and bad reasons.

Some couples who are adopting and infant will try to enter into an adult nursing relationship to aid in inducing lactation. A woman’s natural milk has been well documented as being healthy and nourishing. For those who have adopted an infant, to help the mother bond with her new baby, the couple can engage in this type of relationship for help with lactation. You are a team, married or not especially if you have adopted an infant, increasing milk production can be tough. Your local hospitals or certified nursing specialist have many options to help you with increasing milk production, but breast massage, nipple stimulation and breast pumping cannot bring you closer in an relationship like ANR. I personally would prefer the emotional attachment that I would gain by deeply committing myself to helping out my partner, my best friend, my love, my wife, my significant other.

I have friends that are deeply committed, to each other but they exclude sexual contact altogether during their nursing sessions. Quality time and the pressure of the world during those moments can bring the heavens and the earths all to ground level. There are many ways you can bond with your partner. This maybe new to some or it may be taboo to others. Some couples go to counseling, some go workout together, and others watch a movie.

This is just another way and reason for a loving soul to interact with another loving soul to come together and help each others thought process fade away while holding each other close and relaxing without a care in the world. The only thing that should matter is the person who you are holding tight, in each other’s arms. Be open, be honest, be up front, be ready to enhance your relationship skills with the simple request and talk about what you want. If anything, try it before you say no, and at least you know it was or wasn’t better than just going for a jog with your partner. An ANR relationship can be for emotional reasons only to achieve both of your goals to become as one and walk as one again.

Non - Lactation Friendship

I have had a lot of people contact me on here and inquire about just a suckling friendship without the goal of lactation. And I have to say, that is a great type of friendship also. There is nothing wrong if you enjoy the stimulation of someone suckling you if you both have an understanding up front. This is not a game, and this isn't a ploy to go any further than the mutual agreement that two adults share to have a strong bond. Again, I have friends, that are married who's husbands or wives do not enjoy it, but they look outside of their marriage. You have to do what makes you happy. Interacting with another loving soul with the same wants and needs brings joy and calm to the aura around you.

P.S. I apologize to those that have contacted me, but I am not a dating specialist, this is just a topic about the joys of one type of relationship. Finding someone is up to you. It can be difficult, but life is not a race it's a journey and you start to understand the commitment one makes to this type of lifestyle/friendship. Its not instant, give it time, and the rewards will be worth it. My advice to those involved or curious... try it out, you live once, don't knock something until you try it, you may miss out on something that is wonderful, which it is.


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      will mckeel 

      11 days ago

      looking for a woman in chattanooga tn. /northwest georgia for an anr/abf i am 5"7 180 auburn hair an resemble chuck norris i have been interested in this for msny years and welcome white black and brown women of of all sizes 423-509-5736

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      Jonathan Bresniha 

      6 weeks ago

      I had Never heard of this term or type of "activity" until just recently when a friend of mine asked me if I knew what an Adult Nursing Relationship was. Not having any idea, I looked it up on the internet. After reading through several definitions on the subject I STILL don't really know what it means. I just wasn't at all interested enough to further pursue its meaning.

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      7 weeks ago

      looking for ANR in Oregon

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      3 months ago

      My husband has wanted this,since maybe our second child. And I have tried, however I have a bad reaction to it. And I have tried distracting myself but I still feel so uncomfortable. I WANT to do this for him , for many reasons. I just have a sexual abuse history as a child. And can’t seem to separate;breastfeeding my child and breastfeeding my husband.Hope this make sense to someone and that I didn’t offend anyone. Also look for my information on “dry nursing “

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      4 months ago

      How can I get my wife lactating without pregnancy and no meds

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      8 months ago

      I have nursed from my wife for years. Unfortunately, it has always been on and off as work, kids, and responsibilities have gotten in the way. But we recently made a firm, new commitment to this - determined to nurse several times a day on a schedule.

      Yes, you cannot imagine how powerful and bonding this is. It is more intimate and powerful than sex, by far.

      People say that keeping on a schedule is what makes it hard. But in fact, that is one of the most power aspects of adult breastfeeding - that every 4 hours (or 6 or 8, or however you can manage it), you both KNOW that the world will stop, and you will clutch into each others' arms and nurse. That is the true power of it. That on a regular basis, every single day of your lives, you give yourselves to each other.

      After all, we go to work on a schedule, eat on a schedule. We make sure that every day we do these things, but yet the most important thing, bonding and loving our partner, we "fit in when we can". That is nonsense.

      Adult breastfeeding. For yourself, for each other. For any couple who wants to live in a secret state of bliss for your entire lives.

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      toy Lavendel 

      9 months ago

      I have a question if anyone sees this and knows the answer.. I'm a 60 year old woman who has done anr for a very short time some years ago and I loved it. My question is can I produce milk at this age?

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      10 months ago

      It's the most powerful form of bonding you will ever know. Far more emotionally and spiritually connecting then even sex. I've done both wet and dry and it's incomparable, soul wrenching.

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      11 months ago

      My husband expressed interest in anr but I was still nursing our daughter and I just couldn’t wrap my mind around it. I felt like he was taking from her. Since I’ve quit nursing her though, I have found a new love for this. I totally get what your saying about the emotional connection. Our marriage is great, I’ve never had any complaints, but what this has done for us is.........well I just can’t even say. We have a connection I didn’t know was possible. I look forward to our time together at the end of the day, I love it when he wakes me in the middle of the night to nurse. It just so intimate. It saddens me that there is such a taboo with this. People have no clue what they are misssing out on

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      12 months ago

      This is a beautiful article on a very interesting topic. I would love to experience this emotional connection with the right person, but it is not mainstream and not sure how to go about it. But hearing your perspective and the bond you can create with someone you love, motivates me to really explore this with my partner.

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      17 months ago

      It is good to see recent activity here.

      To Beverly, I understand and wish you success. I too, while not lactating, would love to be of service to those who would enjoy this wonderful experience. It is amazing to be of service to men who desire and wish to experience this.

      I am in the Northeast and find it hard to locate men who are looking for a non-lactating experience.

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      18 months ago

      Great site! Am a middle age, retired SWM seeking a Lady in the Wooster, Ohio (zip 44691) for an adult nursing relationship. Have wet/dry suckling experience from when I lived elsewhere. Ladies, you TRULY all are the best gift of Mother Nature to mankind. Ciao. m

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      Charley S 

      20 months ago

      Hi, I'm a journalist and am currently researching ANR's. If anyone would like to get in touch, feel free to email

      Thanks x

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      Beverley Powell- Smith 

      20 months ago

      I am a widow and and a Nurse, I have always had and enjoy an ANR relationship, within my marriage as well as a service to friends and aquaintances in the past. I have now relocated to a new area and not sure where to start to not just restarting this service but also to fullfill the need of others. Any advise.

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      2 years ago

      It is a fantastic experience. Speaking from a non-Lactation point of view, there's a bond and special feeling experienced if approached from a non-sexual place. Think ultimate relaxation and connection. The only comparison I can think of is massage.

      I can't speak to the Lactation experience but we offer a baby/child a pacifier when they are unable to or we are weaning them from the breast/bottle, so there's clearly a calming effect implied.

      It's difficult to connect with someone who can truly view it as such a connection!

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      Curtis Ford 

      2 years ago

      What a relationship to have with a woman. I live in Gadsden, Al. Would be nice to explore the joys of a womans breast in a different way,

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      2 years ago

      I'm 50, & live in Mobile, Alabama. I would love to find a good relationship with a good man that enjoyed sucking breasts.

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      JustSimple Info 

      3 years ago from Puget Sound

      That is beautiful to hear. It does create a lasting bond that is different from a regular relationship. I hope others that are in the same situation can understand and connect with their significant other as you have. Good Luck, and thank you for your post.

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      3 years ago

      This relationship is incredible. I am currently nursing with my wife, we have a new baby and she can not finish all the milk. It started with us as a way to relieve engorgement, but its continues. I am on 30 days nursing my wifes milk a couple times a night. I pray we are able to continue, I have never felt as connected and needed by my wife as I do now

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      david Wilbanks 

      3 years ago

      I would love to try this I think I would. Love it

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      6 years ago

      This is interesting....


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