20 Things Men Want Women to Do in Bed

Updated on November 8, 2016

Men like it hot too!

Men just like getting laid, huh? If you believe that, you may want to think again! The want good and exciting, awesome sex just like we do. It's not just up to the man to make it happen.

Ladies, you too can become the type woman your man loves to take to bed again and again. With just a few simple tricks, you can become the seductress that you always wanted to become!

What Men Wish Women Did More of in the Sack

  1. Tell him what to do. Guys and girls are different and sometimes guys need to hear what you want. It's o.k. to shout out loud, "hey - put your tongue on this!" It actually helps everyone!
  2. Channel your inner Truck Driver. While your telling him what you want him to do and how to do it get filthy with your language. Men love it.
  3. Swallow. I do not intend on discussing this one further as my mom may read this Hub.
  4. Masturbate. Guys like to watch. Girls like to watch. Don't be shy.
  5. Rub him everywhere else too. A back rub is a nice touch and shows you care more about just getting him off.
  6. Be open-minded. Adventurous. Willing to at least try something new.
  7. Be yourself. Do not ever try to be someone you're not. Just be yourself.
  8. Experiment, experiment, experiment. It is this area ladies that most men have us beat. They love to experiment. It is rare to find a man who wants to make love the same way every time.
  9. Dominatrix? Every man likes to be a big tough guy but here is a secret for you ladies. Most men love for the woman to take control sometimes. Maybe not the dominatrix type but definitely a girl that will take over.
  10. For you to take your time. The occasional quickie aside, try to avoid frantic sex that finishes too quickly.
  11. A woman who isn't a dead lay. Be responsive both with your body and verbally. Let him know you are aroused by the way you move or the things that you say.
  12. For you to give as well as to receive. Making love is a two way process. A woman who is willing to give her man pleasure is always a plus.
  13. Spontaneity. A woman who can catch her 9:00 am flight and have sex at a moment's notice without making a lame excuse is a real turn on for men.
  14. For you to role play. Many men like to spice things up a bit and act out fantasies be it watch their lover do a strip tease starting out in lingerie. It could even be one that does not necessarily turn you on but you should be willing to try for him as long as you are comfortable with it and no one gets hurt.
  15. Sex in the morning. Most men no matter how old they are wake up with an erection and love to roll over and make use of it - be responsive!
  16. Quick Sex - Some of the time. A quickie here and there that is spontaneous is a turn on.
  17. Don't Hold Back. Most sexual positions end up putting the man on top but it does not have to be that way. If you want to be on top then get on top, if you like it a little more rough then by all means make it that way.
  18. Let him explore and discover. Most men love to savour each and every part of a woman's body.
  19. Look at him. Never keep your eyes closed. Look him in the eye.
  20. More!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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      • limpet profile image

        Ian Stuart Robertson 

        4 days ago from London England

        I like the Lady to assume full control and tell me what to do.

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        Miebakagh57 

        6 days ago

        Seriously, all the commentators hid they face. Too bad for such a good story.

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        William 

        9 days ago

        This is sooo true. I wish women would read and follow this.

        I wish my wife would read and follow this because I am soooo bored.

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        Ian Stuart Robertson 

        2 weeks ago from London England

        Saw a paperback in a bookshop titled 'Sex for over forties' and it only contains blank pages !

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        Christopher Hyer 

        3 weeks ago from Midland, Texas

        I agree with this list.It pretty much covers sexuality that a man seeks from a woman. Spot on your there. Now where is this girl.lol

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        I Don't kiss and tell (usually) 

        3 weeks ago

        Been with women in their 40's down to my age bracket and I'd say this list is accurate. Always take in to consideration her point of view but, dominate sometimes always taking you from the top is boring and whether she's in her 20's or 40's, heavy or petite I like to explore touch and kiss everything while taking my time. A quickie on your lunch break, before work, or "hurry up before your mom gets back" is great too. Nowadays I ended up at "damn their finally asleep" but it all depends on you and your partner. Either way this list is really dead on ladies.

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        Kato the slave. 

        4 weeks ago

        The female of the species is more deadly than the male.

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        Knarf the hermit. 

        6 weeks ago

        Simply bad luck for me with relationships.

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        Mercy 

        6 weeks ago

        I'm in a Long distance courtship, things have been on well bt abruptly the guy cut off communication claiming to be ever busy throughout right now its 3monuh. This is just after doing it. Is there still acourtship? Advice me

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        A Google user 

        8 months ago

        SERIOUSLY!

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        Emilly Atieno 

        10 months ago

        this so interesting

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        Phil 

        10 months ago

        Bravo Bullseye !

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        Fifi 

        10 months ago

        26 years with the same person married and still fancy him most of the time lol sex for me is great always attentive and get everything I want and I do him trying different positions ways and coming out of comforts zone makes for a better sex life ! I didn't believe sex was what bonds a marriage but love and trust! Now getting older I didn't but now believe sex is very important to make u feel good and desired and connect! I would love to dance be sexy but fear he would laugh so never have however he thinks I have a great body and just want to get my kit off but I would love the build up to that even though I appreciate what's he said I'm 44 so in my prime his nearly 50 and I think his gone past what I feel now which is a shame but a little more would be nice

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        Brooklyn 

        11 months ago

        this sounds good thanks for the info

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        HOLLY 

        11 months ago

        Nice.

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        Nick Watts 

        12 months ago

        Hmmm. Be nice if we could try some of this.

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        Limpet 

        15 months ago

        I've given up hope of ever sharing a bed again!

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        Moh 

        17 months ago

        This has definitely change my perspective toward my king. Thanksa million

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        cece 

        21 months ago

        I'm new to having sex an my boyfriend say i gotta do work on him...how do i do that?

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        sarahSci 

        2 years ago

        How to seduce a very serious 53 years old male colleague?

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        Ian Stuart Robertson 

        2 years ago from London England

        Whilst serving in the army Far East land forces i was sitting in a Singapore bar when approached by a Chinese hostess offering her services (at a price) in a back room. She asked what you like? I responded just a cuddle as i was fearful of venereal disease we were warned of. She asked me if i knew judo or karate and i said know but do you know kung fu? She no, she couldn't fight at all and i said lets have a bit of a wrestle then. She responded by putting my arm in a vice like hold before tossing me off the bed flat on the floor. Very modest these gals they are!

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        Marya 

        3 years ago

        I forgot to mention its not one time incidence.it happen always. We meet each other in every 1 or 2 month. And the same thing happen always.

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        Marya 

        3 years ago

        I dont know what should i say, because the man i love,most of the time he autometically turn on when he see me. He starts to come closer or kisses me i give him deep kiss and after forply he have premature orgasm.i can't have anything from him after that.can you suggest me what can i do? Its more than a year now.

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        hipster 

        4 years ago

        thanks really amazing tips

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        liz 

        4 years ago

        True

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        Kimmiann 

        5 years ago

        I always find it nice to catch him off guard, for instance if ur out with friends and he decides to go to the restroom....maybe tag along and be fearless! Its pretty exciting thinking u might get caught! ;)

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        Christopher Hyer 

        5 years ago from Midland, Texas

        I think this is excellent and I also believe that the man should consider a women's emotional state when it comes to sexual interactions.

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        vibesites 

        5 years ago from United States

        Very, very interesting from a woman's point of view. I'll keep some of them in mind (I'm still kind of shy so it takes a while for me to open up). Great hub all around.

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        Christopher Hyer 

        5 years ago from Midland, Texas

        Fantastic, a woman who will tell it like it is. Love that, you are very bright and intelligent. Making love to you must be like being in heaven. Its good to hear a woman tell the truth about sex. Too many years of being in the closet and women finally admit that yeah, we love sex too, just be good to us. Your a great , truthful, female, and would love to find a girl like you. being open is very attractive.

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        amber4improv 

        6 years ago

        thatgirl, your obviously bitter. Why are you soo mean? I think Hub author you gave some GREAT advice....who really cares about the typos..? lmao

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        aChange0fPace 

        6 years ago

        You nailed it in this posting! Accurate to the very end. Unfortunately for me, I haven't found a woman like the one suggested in this posting. Great Hub Nicole! I really enjoy your writings and POV

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        Laura Brown 

        6 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

        Not every guy wants you to channel your inner truck driver. If you are being yourself (#7), then you shouldn't have to try becoming someone else.

        Most of what you have listed are good tips. But, both people should be comfortable and/or excited with the game plan. He may have a grocery list of things he'd like; that doesn't mean she needs to perform on spec. In my marriage I was the more adventurous one. I didn't try pressuring him to do things he didn't want to try. I didn't make him feel less than a man by suggesting he perform more or more often.

        Proofread your post. You have at least one typo. You also confuse your and you're. Each time you use 'your' read it out loud saying 'you are' instead. If it works with 'you are' then it should be 'you're'.

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        KikiCobain 

        6 years ago from Lancaster, Lancashire

        I am proud to say i do all of these. Seems i have more a drive than my man at times though! haha. Great Hub!x

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        neakin 

        7 years ago

        Thank you codeiris! I am glad you think so! : )

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        codeiris 

        7 years ago from Milky Way

        Interesting :)

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        neakin 

        7 years ago

        There you go! I love it! Thanks for commenting!

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        Matthew I Crawford 

        7 years ago from Greeley, Colorado

        A nice lingerie outfit never hurt either. :)

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        myi4u 

        7 years ago from United Kingdom

        True! Very True!

      • neakin profile imageAUTHOR

        neakin 

        7 years ago

        marellen,

        Thank you so much! I had fun writing the Hub!

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        marellen 

        7 years ago

        Okay....If and when I have sex again I will remember some of your great advice. lol

        Really, not joking this time. You give some great insight. Thanks for sharing....

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