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Relationship Expert Explains Why We're Attracted to Toxic People

These days, it's entirely too common to hear someone begging the question, "Where are all the good men/women?" or "Why do I always attract such toxic people into my life?" Well, the answer to that might be rooted in human behavioral psychology.

Relationship and spiritual coach @awakeningwithbrian shares his explanation about why some people are habitually attracted to toxic personalities, and what he says is very revealing.  

Brian makes perfect sense here, especially when he's talking about how we're attracted to what's familiar. Our first impression of what love looks like is what we're modeled to us by our family. If there's chaotic and turbulent relationships in the home, children grow up being conditioned and even attached to that type of energy.

It's kind of like in Sex and the City, when Carrie met good guy Aidan and because he wasn't giving her the emotional rollercoaster ride that she was so used to being on with Big, she quickly grew bored and didn't know what to do with herself. As a result, she ended up creating the ride herself by cheating on Aidan with Big. 

Brian makes an additional note in the comments by saying, "Not all boring people will necessarily be “healthy” but pretty much all “healthy” people will come off boring to insecure people." In response, it seems listeners are embracing the lesson at hand. Viewer @elvievera says, "The best feeling is being with a person that makes you feel calm, safe, serene, peaceful and yet you still have chemistry." User @rinzler696 admits, "I was a people pleaser. Took over five years to fix myself and now I am at my soulmate. Your explanation is spot on. Thank you."

Finally, commenter @detredligers says, "This is the work!!! For those of us with insecure attachments this is the most life changing thing you can do." We couldn't have said it better ourselves! 

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