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Pros and Cons of Dating Thai Women

Updated on November 21, 2016

Thailand is one of the most popular tourism destinations in the world today, people from all over the globe come to Thailand to experience the culture, bath in the sun on the exotic beaches, eat the spicy Thai cuisine, and enjoy the nightlife. The truth is, the overwhelming majority of tourists traveling to Thailand are single men, with the intention of meeting Thai women, many of whom are hoping to have a relationship with a Thai girl. Most of these men will have an idea what they are looking for, and often it will be based on the stereotypes that are supported by the western media, as apposed to first hand information or their own experiences.

There are a lot of myths floating around about Thai women, many of which are absolutely incorrect. The typical idea that westerners have about Thai women is, that they are subservient, always waiting on their man, they are quiet, and never complain. Many people think that as long as you have a little money, you can have any Thai woman that you want. None of this is even close to factual, Thai women are no less independent that western women, and most will not accept a roll of total subservience to their man, especially those that choose to date foreigners. Contrary to popular belief, Thai women will not sleep with any man who has a few dollars in his pocket, even the prostitutes have standards, and in most cases the punters are more desperate than the girls, due to the law of supply and demand.

You will come across older men with beautiful young girls, and clearly this will be related to money, however if you are a fat slob with a dirty t-shirt, most of the girls will pay no attention to you (trust me, I know from experience). More often than not, the punters and the women are evenly matched, the more class and style the man has, the better woman he will end up with. This is true within all levels of society, whether you are talking about bar girls, university students or businesswomen.

The reality is that a relationship with a Thai woman can be very rewarding, if you put a little effort into it and offer something in return. The idea that you can get hitched with a Thai girl, and she will wait on you hand and foot and love you to death even though you treat her like garbage and your personal hygiene is dreadful, is simply false. In my experience being happily married to a Thai partner for over a decade, it is a lot easier to please Thai women than it is to please western women, however it is equally important to put forth a certain amount of effort.

Thai women also have their little quirks, and there are challenges that you wouldn't normally deal with when dating western women. I personally think the risk is worth the reward, but let us look at it objectively. I have compiled a list below of some pros and cons of dating Thai women as apposed to western women.


1 - Freedom: Thai women do not try to run your life, they expect you to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. It isn't a problem that you want to go out with the boys, watch the game or have a poker night.

2 - Sex: Many western men complain that after getting married, their sex life disappears. Western women have a horrible reputation for withholding sex from their partners, or simply losing interest in sex. This simply doesn't exist in Thailand, perhaps because Thai women know that there are millions of other women out there that are happy to accommodate, and any withholding of sex would be counter productive, and may result in leading their man astray.

3 - Beauty: Thai women are world renowned for being incredibly beautiful, with a petite figure and an exotic look. They also tend to take better care of themselves, and they age well. You don't see Thai women getting married and gaining incredible amounts of weight or letting themselves go.

4 - Reconciliation: It doesn't seem to matter how big of a fight you have with your Thai girlfriend, it almost always seems that it is totally forgotten within a few short hours. They don't tend to stew on an issue for days on end, reconciliation after a fight seems to be much more simple in Thailand.

5: Femininity: Thai women may not be subservient, but they do embrace a roll of being the caretaker of the home, they do laundry, dishes, cooking and cleaning, without any complaints. They dress and act like ladies, and they put a lot of time and effort into their appearance, and overall I would say they have much better personal hygiene than western women.

6: Availability: There is no shortage of available young Thai women that are looking to meet their "prince charming". Perhaps because there are large percentages of Thai men that are gay or transsexual, there seems to be plenty of women to go around.

7 - Approach-ability: If you walk up to a Thai woman, smile at her and tell her she is beautiful, she will never give you a rude reply. She might not be interested, but if she is going to shut you down, she will do it politely with a little class. This is a lot more than I can say for many western women.


1 - Money: It doesn't matter whether she is a bar girl, or a "well to do" Thai girl, she is sure to demand a constant supply of money and gifts.

2 - Family: When you shack up with a Thai girl, it isn't just her problems that you inherit, but those of her entire family. She will put her family first, always.. and your relationship will take a back seat when there is something going on with the family.

3 - Trust: Some people will say that you should never trust a woman, but this is probably even more true in Thailand. You have to be careful, there are countless stories of foreigners that get involved with a Thai woman and get taken to the cleaners.

4 - Communication: Unless you learn to speak Thai fluently, communicating with your Thai girlfriend can be quite challenging.Your relationship will suffer if you can't communicate with your partner.

5 - Cultural differences: Thai culture is very different than western culture, and this may present problems for inter-racial relationships. Learning and respecting Thai culture is an absolute must, if you wish to have a successful relationship with a Thai parter.

6 - Jealousy: As much as Thai women normally allow you your freedom, they are also known to be insanely jealous. They often have wild outbursts accusing you of sleeping with other women, and they can be suspicious of any interactions with other women. When John Bobbit lost his most prized possession after his wife attacked him with a knife, it made headlines around the world, incidents like this are actually fairly common in Thailand.

7 - Cheating: Men in Thailand often have far more opportunities to be unfaithful to their partner than they would back home, however this goes both ways. As easy as it is for men to cheat on their girlfriends or wives, they aren't the only ones sneaking around.


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      apple 5 years ago

      very interesting Mr. Jesse but I don't like it because the whole picture are look down Thai women. :(( I agree with some idea but I disagree with the idea to fine husband (foreigners guy) on line. if you think if you married with foreigners guys you will get better life and that is false because not every one will lucky but most of them more worse and also lots of fake people on internet. I just would like to tell thai girls " Please use your brain to fine husband don't use your body and don't sell yourself cheap. We are high value and our culture so beautiful please don't let foreigners look down us and think us just a toy products. Please respect our hometown and our culture. I know Thailand is a poor country and most of them are poor, especially thai people in Northeastern part. I fell sorry to some Thai girls as they have no choice and they just think to get a better life but with the idea to have foreigner husband is not the only way and very risk . you have so many way to get a better life. improve your skill, gain more your knowledge and work harder. I know sometimes is really hard but you will be proud yourself. " FOLLOW YOUR HEART BUT KEEP YOUR BRAIN WITH YOU" it is such a sensitive topic to give an idea Mr. Jesse but I really want to see you write the article about How beautiful my cultures and how kind thai girls is. Please focus on my beautiful reality culture and simple life how they live. the ordinary thai girls are lovely. forget about bar girls, they are just a few spot in thailand that make foreigners look down us. Please fine out a simple ordinary thai girls and tell world about her story. Thank you. ^^

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      TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia


      Thank you for commenting, It sounds like you didn't like the video? I attached the video just to offer a different perspective, but the overall idea of the article was quite different than the video.

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      livingabroad 4 years ago from Wales, UK

      Interesting piece you've put together there! I've lived in Thailand for the last year and had a couple of very contrasting relationships (none with bar girls I'll add!) One wouldn't leave my apartment, literally wouldn't leave and was, as you put it 'insanely jealous'. About nothing. Cue drunken hammering's on the door at 2am. I also feared for my chap at one stage as I've also heard many stories about the seemingly normal practice of willy removal! On the other hand my current girlfriend is amazing. She's chilled out, we both do what we want and she doesn't expect the world from me. I look after because it feels right, not because its expected.

      I agree with you, it seems that all Thai women will look after their appearance and are the cleanest people I know.

      However it does does sound like you have a bit of a vendetta against western women! Not that I don't relate to what your saying, just go easy man! Up and interesting. Will be following your hubs with great interest :)

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      Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

      Oh la la, jealousy seems to be a common trait among Asian women.It is also true in the Philipines.Women in the Philippines can get jealous for no reason and they can be overly dramatic and passionate in their jealousy. Have not heard a BYE BYE BIRDIE case (LOL!) ala LORENA BOBBIT but maybe it also happens there as well , not just sensationalized.

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      Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

      By the way, I am Asian but I don't think I fit in the category of ASIAN WOMEN GONE MAD WITH JEALOUSY.HA HA HA ! Been living in the States too long or must be the frequent trips to Europe (where women seem to have an indifferent attitude on jealousy) that have influenced my attitude on the issue.

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      vkernal 4 years ago

      Been to thailand over 50 times v last 10 36year old now, ive studied this place and it's a dog eat dog country, from the bar girl to the business girl, i would not trust any of them and its as simple as that, different people to us westerners , thailands as savage country where people get murdered regularly and the killers can get away with it, you got a constant flow of vunerable rich white men from all over v world bein ripped off big time, these bar girls are experts, or ya so called normal girls got 10.000bht a month jobs in bkk or ya salon girls , there all v same breed and only want ya cash, and all of it if they get v chance, they generally have thai husbands or bf,s even when there fucking every farang goin, but this is how it 10 years ive been with many, but ive played my game not theres, never had a gf in thailand, gone there for fun games an business, in 10 years ive played them big time, but..... i have heard too many storeies and saw many broken men, in mind and pocket, i,d advise any young lads or older men to go there have fun, pay a fare rate, never have a gf, never send cash? for what...... never believe anything as , as soon as your on v plane there not in the village there shaggin as usual with other targets, this is how it works. SO SIMPLE RULES ARE TO PLAY.... OR BE PLAYED. i chose to play. AND WON.

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      oracle 4 years ago

      YOU won??? vkernal... what bad case of stds??? maybe terminal ???

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      Don 3 years ago

      "World renowned"?.... I have heard about the world renowned beauty of Swedish, Ukranian, Russian, Norwegian women but never Thai women. Exotic can also be applied to Western women.

      Just from traveling and observation.

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      TravelinAsia 3 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

      Sounds like Don likes tall white women ..

      Live a little Don!

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      Bruce 2 years ago

      Well written article. I was married to a Thai lady for 12 years, and since divorcing have been in a relationship for 4 years.

      I agree with many of your points, however I must disagree with your "pros" about sex. I have found that Thai women are not much different then other women in this respect. Maybe less serious about sex, which is good. But they think they are old already at 35 - 40, and at 50 too old. My girlfriend of 47 (I'm 60 and in great health and slender) just told me she's almost 50 so if I expect to have sex, I better get a younger girlfriend.

      Not a good way to communicate love and caring to your partner.

      She doesn't leave me much choice.

      I'm not saying this is the only part of a relationship, but it needs to be some part.

      Expect inconsiderate and uncaring remarks like this from Thai women. They are immature and have very little understsnding about feelings.

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      GayFriend 2 years ago

      I have never been to Thailand but I am friends with a gay male couple who go regularly two or three times a year. Whenever they go they avoid gay culture and ladyboys as these are potentially a threat to their relationship. Instead they have sex with Thai Bar girls. Clearly these girls do not mind what anyone's orientation is, so long as they can earn a living. Apparently they are lovely kind girls. Well they would be wouldn't they?

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      Stuart Williamosn 2 years ago

      I have been in Thailand for just under two month and have met a Thai lady who is the same age as me(37) Yes Thai women are generally very friendly but like all other women have a dark side to them. They can be very possessive as I have experienced this with other Asian cultures as well. They are not completely subservient but do give that impression off in the beginning. Also they are not that adventurous lovers but do show sense of loyalty and kindness that Western women don't possess. I am half South African and half British so I have travelled and dated a variety of women from different walks of life, races and culture so I do know what I am talking about. Personally as you probably know already Western Culture is very individualistic and GENERALLLY less family orientated and African, Asian culture is more collective and family orientated as your post said above. That's just my personal outlook on the matter.

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      Paul 20 months ago

      I'm not interested in traveling to another country to spend my hard earned money on a Thai girlfriend. I don't believe Thai women are better than western women. Hell... Women are women. I've traveled the world for business and vacations so I've seen my share of women. There are gorgeous women in every country! Personally, I love a woman who makes her own income and has a vast amount of intelligence. I'll welcome a sugar mama anytime!

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      Steve Anderson 6 months ago

      I unfortunately was in a four year relationship with a Thai woman, Watcharaporn Phayawong or “Ben” or “Benny” in Minneapolis, MN after she moved here from Chiang Mai to be a nanny.. After years of deceptive and selfish acts by her I finally let her go and feel so relieved! She was a pathological liar, sent to America by her family to screw white guys and take their money so she can send it home to her family. She’s now an illegal alien and her main purpose in life is to find a guy to marry for their money and her green card. No matter what she says that is her number one priority. She comes off as a “good girl” who has a “high education” but it’s all apart of one big lie, she tries to make you believe she has a heart and that she’s different than other Thai girls you read about but she is a cheating liar. She was screwing another guy while I was shopping for a new BMW for her. Sex means nothing to her, it's like lunch or using the toilet. She’ll always say she’s the best while referring to all American women as Bitches. She’s jealous beyond belief because she projects – it’s her that does the cheating. Thank god she’s out of my life, it would have cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years. I make about a million a year. I’ve since found a beautiful American woman that’s more of a peer, she's monogamous and trustworthy. I'll never date a Thai woman again.

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      David 3 months ago from Australia

      Thanks for the article. Very helpful. I am married to a Thai woman whom I met in my home country, Australia. 90% of the time she is delightful to be with. Good company, fond of sharing, a good cook, reliable, honest and um, sexy too. She is very affectionate and extremely capable.

      But the other 10% of the time can vary from her being irrationally jealous of my ex (who lives in the same town and with whom I share custody of a son) to almost completely bonkers. For example, if I miss a text message from her on my phone this can lead to theatrics about how I don't love her and how I'm not thinking about her enough. This can go on for hours with me getting the cold shoulder and a curt tone of voice in the bargain.

      It usually clears up the following day though I tend to be collateral damage, not liking conflict and always trying to resolve issues, as is my wont. Your point about reconciliation is therefore soothing to me and I will take it more on board.

      Perhaps I just need to leave her alone when she gets into these moods if I want a long and happy marriage, thought the histrionics of these episodes is draining.

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      What a load of shit! !!! Thai women, unlike western women, don't gain wait and let themselves go!!! Wow what a statement.

      No, because at that point they've had all your money off you and moved on!! Lol get a grip! You talk like Thailand woman are the superior race. They are dominated by western men, a's long as your buying then clothes, food, whatever- oh and looking after their kids (not yours!) and family.

      Rose tinted glasses!!! Lol!!!

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      Paul 8 days ago

      Nice article. The only real difference between Thai ladies and Western White ones is they just seem more approachable and you are less likely to get the cold shoulder. A lot of Western woman (not all of course) really think they're something.

      Otherwise Thai women are just like any others.

      I have had a one Thai girlfriend (not a bar girl) and got asked for money a lot (the old "Buffalo Sick" story) so dumped her even though she was stunningly beautiful....had a Kim Kardashian look to her. My present one is cool but I laid down the law to her before we got serious regarding money.

      Would definitely advise a solid pre-nup if was to marry one. There is a danger of getting taken to the cleaners down the line and I have heard that women from the north east province,(Issan) where many bar girls in BKK come from, have a bad rep. A lot of Thai from other parts of Thailand even look down on them.

      Anyhow, good luck..if you find a good Thai girl you'll be happy for life.

      Paul in UK

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