What You Need to Know About Your Sex Dreams
Is It Normal to Have Sex Dreams?
Sex dreams are a universal human phenomenon. People of all ages and races have had or will experience sex dreams at some point in their lives. Many societies consider sex dreams to be taboo.
However, medical and psychology experts alike assure us that sex dreams, no matter how perverse they may seem, are natural and normal. They are a safe means for our bodies to release some of our physical urges. In fact, a study conducted by Alfred Kinsey, D. Sc. showed that people who achieved higher education in life had more frequent and vivid sex dreams than those who only made it through grade school. In other words, the more developed our brains are, the more creative and elaborate our sex dreams become.
Surprisingly, sex dreams are not only limited to humans. Animals experience erotic dreams too. In fact, certain reports show that dogs and cats experience steamy dreaming that sometimes result in ejaculation.
Interpreting Your Sex Dreams
Sex dreams are perfectly normal. However, many of them are so disturbing they make us question our morality. Thankfully, dream experts assure us that our sex dreams have nothing to do with our moral identity. Instead, they are a harmless, effective means for us to vent our frustrations and repressed desires.
Here are some interpretations that could shed light on some common sex dreams.
1. Having Intercourse with Someone of the Same Sex
Dreaming of a steamy lovemaking session with another man or woman does not make us homosexual. According to experts, homosexual dreams occur when we experience problems in our relationships with the opposite sex. Through homosexual dreams, we find comfort amidst the relationship difficulties that we face. No one understands the emotions that men feel better than men themselves do. Likewise, women talk to other women to release their frustrations and find sympathy.
2. Having Intercourse with an Unattractive Person
Unlike homosexual dreams, this kind of steamy dreaming is less disturbing and not considered a taboo. It typically occurs in young adults. Experts believe that this kind of dream helps us determine the different attributes or characteristics that we should look for in a potential life partner. In addition, this kind of dream helps us know whether we are capable of being in a relationship with someone who is unattractive or not.
3. Having Intercourse with Someone Other than Our Partners
Cheating dreams are very common among people who are in relationships. However, dreaming of having intercourse with someone other than our partners does not mean that we will do it in real life. According to experts, cheating dreams are actually good for our relationships. They help us experience the painful consequences of cheating—losing our partners or families—without having to commit the actual mistake. Knowing the consequences of cheating helps us to stay faithful to our partners.
4. Having Intercourse with One of Our Family Members
Incestuous dreams are the most disturbing and taboo among the different kinds of sex dreams. However, there is no reason for us to get alarmed if we experience them from time to time. Just like homosexual dreams, incestuous dreams usually occur when we have problems in our relationships. Having intercourse with one of our family members symbolizes our need for comfort and acceptance. Moreover, dream experts suggest that incestuous dreams are a sign that we need to exert more effort in improving the condition of our existing relationships.
The Difference Between Men’s and Women’s Sex Dreams
When it comes to erotic dreams, there are some points that differentiate the two sexes.
Men start having sex dreams during their late teens and the frequency of dreams usually peaks in their twenties. Women, on the other hand, tend to have frequent steamy dreaming during their forties.
2. Sex partners
Men often dream of having sexual encounters with strangers. In contrast, women most of the time dream of having sex with someone they know in real life. In addition, women tend to dream more of foreplay, such as fondling and kissing, and dream less of actual penetration. On the other hand, men usually dream of coitus more than any other sexual activity.
Men sometimes ejaculate during sex dreams. Women, on the other hand, do not leave any physical evidence, no matter how wild their erotic dreams are. However, most nocturnal emissions usually occur among teens or young adult men in their twenties.
Conclusion: Sex Dreams Are Normal
Experiencing sex dreams occasionally is perfectly normal. Experts even suggest that they are healthy for us. Through sex dreams, our repressed sexual desires, which are unacceptable by society, are fulfilled.
In addition, vivid sex dreams are evidence of superior intelligence. The only situation when they become dangerous is when we act them out in real life—this is especially true for the weirder kinds of dreams. As such, let us not treat our sex dreams as problems. Instead, we should view them as a normal aspect of our psyche.