Six Great Bible Verses for Virgins

Back in 2009, a woman calling herself Natalie Dylan put her virginity on the auction block. When asked why the highest bidder offered so much ($3.8 million), she said, “I honestly don’t know what they see in it.” Sadly, many other young people are as nonchalant about virginity.

As recently as the 1950s, the popular price of virginity was committed love demonstrated by marriage. Girls were encouraged to wait. They whispered to each other what they heard or thought about sex, and looked forward to the wedding night to discover the truth. Interested males had to pay the said price.

Virgins are both genders.

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Today, the purity path is less trod than the path taken by those who think they are more liberated. Still, there are hundreds who value their virginity and the following six Bible verses quoted from the Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) offer empowerment for their moral posture.

(1) Promise

Promise me . . . not to awaken love until the time is right (2:7).

How to Read the Song

Read the Song of Solomon as a script for a play, in a Bible version which divides the dialogues for the characters:

  • Young Man (Lover);
  • Young Woman (Beloved);
  • Young Women (Friends).

The love story features a Shullamite woman, a king (Solomon) infatuated by her physical beauty, and a shepherd who is her true love. Opinions vary concerning the two men: Is it a love triangle or does Solomon represent both?

There is total agreement, however, that the story promotes waiting for true love and joyful anticipation of consummation on the wedding night. See the outline of speakers by verses.

The Song featuring two lovers, a male and a female, is as much a portrayal of human love as it is an allegory about God's love for His people.

The young woman addresses the quote above to the other female characters who are watching the romance. Males do well to make this promise also—to refrain from anything that excites sexual love before they are ready.

Not even in marriage can sexual desires be satisfied every time they surface, so virgins are only keeping it real when they practice controlling their urges instead of allowing their urges to control them.

Among the activities which may awaken love prematurely for individuals who choose to wait are:

  • some forms of touching,
  • movies or novels with explicit sexual content,
  • suggestive conversations face to face or by media,
  • long embraces in secluded locations.

Making the promise to oneself may provide an inner guide to encourage waiting until the right time.

(2) Precaution

Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love (2:15).

Because the play is set in a rustic environment, the dialogue makes many references to plants and animals. Franz Delitzsch explains the foxes metaphor.

“The little foxes . . . point to all the great and little enemies and adverse circumstances which threaten to gnaw and destroy love in the blossom ere it has reached the ripeness of full enjoyment.”

Little foxes may include, but are not limited to:

  • passion getting a little out of hand,
  • little diversions from the truth,
  • little bits of doubt about a future together,
  • subtle (little) disrespect.

Precaution is important. Better take the time to recognize and deal with these little foxes prior to engaging in physical intimacy.

(3) Privacy

You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride, a secluded spring, a hidden fountain (4:12).

No trespassing!

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The young man in the play makes this declaration to his bride on their wedding night. He must be ecstatic about enjoying a garden in which no one else has trespassed. The experience would be still more special if both of them are virgins.

“Private garden,” “secluded spring” “hidden fountain” all conjure up images of reservation for someone special. The ability to present one's total self as a token of true love adds worth to virginity.

(4) Patience

Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it (8:7).

Circumstantial floods in a lovers' relationship can be many, and it takes patience to keep love afloat, while wading through the water. Here a few of the problems which can cause the love of one or both to sink:

  • peer pressure to go ahead and enjoy sex,
  • the belief that sex is the way to prove love,
  • competition from other interested parties,
  • negative input from relatives.

It takes patience and trust to focus on the genuine love they share rather than allow situations like these to overwhelm them. Morality powered by love is patient. "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance" (1 Corinthians 13:7).

(5) Protection

If she is a virgin, like a wall, we will protect her with a silver tower. But if she is promiscuous, like a swinging door, we will block her door with a cedar bar (8:9).

The young woman’s friends think of the younger woman who is still naïve about relationships with men. How can they prepare her? How can they protect her?

Delitzsch suggests that the wall suggests moral strength and the door suggests moral weakness. However, whether or not she is a virgin, she is still a sister and going forward, they want the best for her.

Virgins are expected to pay attention to their little sisters. If the young ones are still virgins, empower their self-worth. If they have already made moral detours, protect them from straying any further by taking them aside in a pleasant environment (as if behind cedar doors which are durable and fragrant). Nurture them before encouraging them to mingle.

(6) Prerogative

My vineyard is mine to give (8:12).

Her prerogative -- to keep it or lose it.

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Regardless of what other people say and think, virgins have the prerogative to keep their virginity until they become brides and grooms. They are wise to wait, rather than lose it hastily.

(We cannot overlook the fact that some young women are abused and have their choice taken away. Organizations which fight against sexual abuse deserve our help). Shame on all types of abusers everywhere!

Barring abuse, virgins have the freedom to live their lives happily, confidently and purposefully. Those who justify their decision to give it away may do so because they cannot reclaim it. How powerful to maintain the prerogative to say, “It’s mine to give when I am ready.” God promises to enable those who are willing.

All Scripture verses are quoted from The New Living Translation (2013 edition) copyrighted by Tyndale House Foundation.

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1. Bible Hub, Pulpit Commentary, Song of Solomon 2:15 and 8:19, (Copyright 2004-2014 by

2. Dawson: Patsy Rae, Speaking God’s Beautiful Language of Love, Song of Solomon, (Copyright 2011-2015 by Patsy Rae Dawson LLC)

3. Landau: Elizabeth, CNN; What Is Virginity Worth Today? (01/22/2009)

4. Shifferd Jr., Scott Jr.: Seeing God’s Breath, Keys to Understand the Song of Solomon. (1/08/2009)

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manatita44 12 months ago from london

Well, my Sister,

You reminded me of how I first met you. Your loving and inspirational prose on Purity and modesty was a joy to read then and still is now. Your Hub is supremely important, no doubt. Some will love this, but there may be a few who still fail to connect to the Higher values, even in the 'virgin' state.

It may be useful to connect purity more with inner strength, with integrity and kindness; with individual accountability and love for this bodily Temple and for God.

I do not see it being of much value without an understanding of inner Purity, the need to seek and blend with a Higher Divinity, a Higher Light. Still, ultimately everything helps, and your Hub is filled with much clarity and Light.

God bless you for this wonderful Hub, so necessary in the current climate. Everything helps in one form or another, and of course Purity is the lilly of our Christian virtues. Much Love.

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FlourishAnyway 12 months ago from USA

There are so many practical reasons that teenagers should abstain. It almost deserves a top 10 list of why you should wait. This was a nice hub and I not been exposed to these verses, MsDora. There are so many young people who need your wise counsel. Keep writing, sweet lady.

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Jodah 12 months ago from Queensland Australia

MsDora, this article is a wonderful guide for young girlsand women. Natalie Dylan auctioning her virginity and saying “I honestly don’t know what they see in it.” when the highest bidder offered ($3.8 million) certainly shows how virginity can be no longer widely seen as something worth holding onto by many in today's society.

However the fact that someone was willing to pay $3.8 million also show's how rare and valuable it really is. All young women should be directed to read this. "The Song of Solomon" ..a great reference and guide. Very well written hub.

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Ericdierker 12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

A very interesting and well done treatment. Many of societies "problems" would be reduced if your principles were considered. Sex, the great divider and the great binder. Much wisdom here, thank you.

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billybuc 12 months ago from Olympia, WA

What an interesting topic. Certainly gets one's attention. Thank you for sharing those verses with us. I hope you have thousands of views on this fine article.

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Reynold Jay 12 months ago from Saginaw, Michigan

Hi Ms. Dora. Nice article and I loved the colorful and cheerful photos too. Well done. Keep these coming!

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suraj punjabi 12 months ago from jakarta

I personally think keeping your virginity is a practice of self control, more than anything. Self control is a very important ability to have if we want live a happy and peaceful life. Great hub!

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Manatita, you are extremely right. I just cannot say it all in one article but I have always promoted a vine-branch connection with God as a requirement for moral strength. Thanks you so much for your contribution. I hope that since your comment is first, may will read it.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Flourish, are you thinking of writing the top ten reasons? It is a great idea. Thank you very much for your input.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Jodah, thanks for your comment. True, virginity is important, but young people are not even aware. Self-worth does not seem to be a popular topic, these days.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Eric, your comment is encouraging. We just have to reiterate the principles, saying short but saying it often like my grandmother used to say. Thanks.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill thanks for your thousand-view wishes. That would be great!

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Reynold. I hope the young people understand that the purity lifestyle can be cheerful and enjoyable.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Suraj, thanks for underscoring the value for self-control in the purity lifestyle. You and I are on the same page.

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gingerka 12 months ago from Colorado

Thank you, Ms Dora, you are right on track.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

You encourage me, Ginger. Thank you very much.

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lambservant 12 months ago from Pacific Northwest

I got so much from this. So much. One thing that saddned me is when you said hundreds who take their virginity seriously. I wish it was thousands even millions. Now these days people are so cavalier about sex. If you are a virgin you are thought to be old fashioned and wierd and a goody two shoes.

I loved the fact that you used Song of Solomon as your tests. Such a delightful book on love. Years ago, Elisabeth Elliott wrote a fantastic book called Passion and Purity. There was another young man, Josh Harris I believe, who wrote a book called I Kissed Dating goodbye. It spoke of purity by choice and how to avoid pitfalls of premarital sex.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Hi Lori. Thanks for you affirming comment. Both of the authors you mentioned have been on list of favorite writers about purity. Two great books, still very relevant today.

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Jackie Lynnley 12 months ago from The Beautiful South

You write the most interesting hubs!

I am sure many here had mothers who taught us the importance of saving ourselves and though it was very embarrassing to have to listen to, it ingrained itself into many of us. I would bet most today do not even have it mentioned to them as an option, even in Christian homes, when both sexes are to save themselves for marriage in bible scripture and the one scripture that stands out in my mind is Corinthians 7:9 where it is better to marry than to burn. Perhaps that is a bit more involved than saving oneself but the same bottom line to me.

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word55 12 months ago from Chicago

Hi Dora, you get better with time. This hub was a fantastic read. The amazing thing about virginity is a person, be it a girl, boy, woman or man can be a virgin again and again. Even after a break up or divorce a person can live as a virgin until remarrying someone to whom love is rekindled. The problem with the breaking of virginity today is the fact that people don't take their bodies as serious as a virgin does. Instead, they take their bodies for granted as well as the other person's. Your verses were on point. It's never too late to be a virgin again especially after a true and final repentance. Anyone can adhere to upholding virginity. These were perfect scripture selections, pictures and order for anyone to follow ages 12 and up!

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DDE 12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Hi MsDora you covered a very interesting topic. I know a few girls who don't care of who they give themselves to and at what age. It is sad to read of the few who can be so careless.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks Jackie. You're right. There are so many girls today who have no memory of discussions on this important matter with their parents. We who do, have to do what we can for them. Thanks for your input.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks Word. We need to emphasize again the importance of treating our bodies as holy temples fit for holy use. Thanks for your encouragement.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Devika, "careless" is such a good word to describe those who give themselves up thoughtlessly. We need to start teaching them to care, because their actions have permanent results.

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Frank Atanacio 12 months ago from Shelton

wow MsDora, sometimes your hubs give me pause.... I don't know how to comment.. but I enjoyed the topic at hand.. hmm

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Frank, glad you enjoyed it. Thank for your feedback.

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lifegate 12 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

Hi MsDora,

You always have so much good stuff to share. I liked it right from the beginning when you said 'Virgins are both genders." Somehow our society has missed that. Thanks for sharing from a book that is rarely taught or preached anymore in our churches.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Bill, thanks for your encouragement. The Song of Solomon is rich with lessons for the young in love, really for all ages.

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BlossomSB 12 months ago from Victoria, Australia

What a delightful hub! I, too, like it that you reminded us that virgins are both genders. It's not easy waiting, but the reward is beautiful.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Blossom. Praying God's favor on those who decided to wait. Yes, the reward is worth it.

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AliciaC 12 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

Thank you for sharing the verses and the interpretations, MsDora. Your selections contain a lot of wisdom. You have prompted me to read the Song of Solomon.

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Ibom 12 months ago from India

Beautifully portrayed- the inner urges- still controlling- though tough- it might of course be beautiful- the rewards be sweet- but still afraid if the wait till last breathe....Cool!

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Mihnea Andreescu 12 months ago from Bucharest,Romania

Amen!Interesting text MsDora-I do believe the same-Young people start their sexual lives too early these days and this is against the instructions of the Bible.It is ,after all for their own good-so that they may enjoy a pure, untainted intimate relationship with their true love and spouse only .Many people my age would laugh at this,sadly.I am a messianic jew by confession and I like reading about both christian and jewish values.I apreciate this hub.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Alicia, your comment is really encouraging. Thank you. Happy that you are inspired to read the Book.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Ibom. Thanks for your comment. Hopefully, happiness results from doing the right thing.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Mihnea, so glad that you appreciate the article. "It is ,after all for their own good." Wish they could all believe and act on that.

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rdsparrowriter 12 months ago

Inspiring encouraging article. Thank you for sharing :) God bless you!!!

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

RD, blessings to you too. Thanks for your encouragement.

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aviannovice 12 months ago from Stillwater, OK

Times have changed so much since we were young. It truly boggles the mind to see what has happened over the years. It is nice that you rekindled this topic of importance.

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Deb. I know its old-fashioned for many, but for Bible believers it is still relevant. Wish more young folk considered this option.

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shprd74 12 months ago from Bangalore

In India the exteriors of the temples have erotic sculptures but once inside the temple, only the god can be seen, thus making every one forget about the exteriors.

If one understands that by keeping this inner souls pure just like the god inside the temple, all the problems that arrive due to exterior senses such lust (further raising anger, greed, sufferings) can also be controlled.

Your hub is apt and useful to all people.

- Hari

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Hari, I love the comparison to the Indian temples. Thanks very much for your contribution. You made an excellent point.

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shprd74 12 months ago from Bangalore

Thanks for the appreciation of my comments.

In my poem called "desire" i wrote with a similar intention for future couples. I wrote it in an affirmation form to have it an effect on the readers. Hope you and other too following this hub will like it.

- Hari

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MsDora 12 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Hari, I remember your poem "Desire." I read and commented on it. It is a song that waiting couples can memorize and sing. Perhaps, you ought to record a tune.

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shprd74 12 months ago from Bangalore

Seriously? well thanks for the idea.

- hari

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Nadine May 11 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

Your hub fully deserved to be chosen the hub of the day. Congratulations!

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ChitrangadaSharan 11 months ago from New Delhi, India

Congratulations for the well deserved HOTD!

I liked it when you mention that virgins are from both genders. Thank you for sharing the Bible verses and their interpretations. I believe all religious books preach the same things. Beautifully portrayed!

Lovely pictures too. Thank you!

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Nadine. What a good feeling!

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Chitrangada, thanks for your comment. So kind of you!

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CrisSp 11 months ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Interesting subject indeed and one that was once considered taboo to speak about, at least in our culture, where virginity is considered a jewel (for both genders) which must be secured and protected. In my younger years, our elders taught us, "to wait at the right time", usually after marriage because it is something valuable. Now and here in America, I hear parents say, "make sure you use some protection". I'm sure you know what I mean. :)

This hub is a winner! Congratulations on a well deserved HOTD.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

CrisSp, your background is the same as mine with regard to the value of virginity. They may protect themselves from pregnancy and disease, but not the emotional pain of cheapening their value.

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Kristen Howe 11 months ago from Northeast Ohio

Great hub, Dora. I agree with everyone. They should wait until they're ready to have safe sex or save themselves until they're married. No one should be pressured to have sex, when they don't want to. Congrats on HOTD!

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks Kristen, for being in the waiting camp. I appreciate your comment.

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Kristen Howe 11 months ago from Northeast Ohio

You're welcome!

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krillco 11 months ago from Hollidaysburg, PA

Lovely sentiments, and deep truths. However, at the risk of being the fly in the ointment, one can make a good case that the couple in Songs are in fact, having sex, and doing it with quite a flair... and, there is no indication that they are married. In addition, while there is deep truth in what you preach here, it is sadly inadequate in practical terms to help kids keep their virginity if they choose to do so....also seems quite sexist and geared towards females. The article is a reflection of how poorly the church has done and continues to be in helping kids, young adults, and married people with their sexuality.

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VirginiaLynne 11 months ago from United States

Wonderful advice which will encourage those who have made this decision. My husband and I were both virgins when we married at the age of 32 and 34 back in 1993. We have no regrets and have urged others to value their future spouse enough to stay pure for them. Good words.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Krillco, I welcome your comment, and this is good ointment to get stuck in.

(1) We can make a good case either way--for sex or no sex before the couple is married, granted that the word "marriage" is not mentioned. This is the case with many Bible passages, depending on whether or not you are a believer.

(2) I agree that the church has done poorly, beginning with the teaching that the Song of Solomon is about divine love, when it is obviously about human love. However, many church members, including me, credit the church with being helpful; and many of them have thanked me for being helpful.

We will not all believe the same, but it is important to believe what we choose to believe.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Virginia (can't help it to mention the beauty of your name), thanks for your timely comment. So good to hear from a happy supporter of the sexual purity principle.

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PegCole17 11 months ago from Dallas, Texas

Guidance from these passages is a beautiful way to teach this concept which in these days seems to be a forgotten thing. Remaining pure and waiting for the blessings of a marriage seems to be somewhat underrated in the mainstream of society.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom on this. It was a joy to see that this hub was awarded Hub of the Day.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Peg. Really, the this topic is not popular, so I am grateful for all the support I get. I appreciate your input.

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word55 11 months ago from Chicago

Congrats Dora, wonderful job and bravo on HOTD again. I knew this one would make it!

anon 11 months ago

Great article about the Biblical poem.

I was concerned about the expression "barring (the) abused" from the virginal state. This may be wrong. Mary Madeline returned to an inner virginal state of being after working as a prostitute. Therefore we shouldn't bar anyone including the abused.

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snakeslane 11 months ago from Canada

Congratulations on Hub of the Day Ms Dora, it's great to see your excellent work getting the attention it deserves.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Word. I appreciate your continual encouragement and support.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Anon, I appreciate your input. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Snakeslane, thanks for your kind encouragement. I appreciate you.

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cmoneyspinner1tf 11 months ago from Austin, Texas

The Song of Solomon is beautiful and this HUB is beautifully written. Bookmarking it.

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MsDora 11 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thank you, Treathyl. I appreciate your very kind comment.

Macky 5 months ago

Good work, MsDora. I will have to put the Song of Solomon on my future reading list. This is a very interesting topic.

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MsDora 5 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Macky. Happy that you are encouraged to read that Bible book. Hope you find it fascinating.

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