Six Great Bible Verses for Virgins
Back in 2009, a woman calling herself Natalie Dylan put her virginity on the auction block. When asked why the highest bidder offered so much ($3.8 million), she said, “I honestly don’t know what they see in it.” Sadly, many other young people are as nonchalant about virginity.
As recently as the 1950s, the popular price of virginity was committed love demonstrated by marriage. Girls were encouraged to wait. They whispered to each other what they heard or thought about sex, and looked forward to the wedding night to discover the truth. Interested males had to pay the said price.
Virgins are both genders.
Today, the purity path is less trod than the path taken by those who think they are more liberated. Still, there are hundreds who value their virginity and the following six Bible verses quoted from the Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) offer empowerment for their moral posture.
Promise me . . . not to awaken love until the time is right (2:7).
How to Read the Song
Read the Song of Solomon as a script for a play, in a Bible version which divides the dialogues for the characters:
- Young Man (Lover);
- Young Woman (Beloved);
- Young Women (Friends).
The love story features a Shullamite woman, a king (Solomon) infatuated by her physical beauty, and a shepherd who is her true love. Opinions vary concerning the two men: Is it a love triangle or does Solomon represent both?
There is total agreement, however, that the story promotes waiting for true love and joyful anticipation of consummation on the wedding night. See the outline of speakers by verses.
The Song featuring two lovers, a male and a female, is as much a portrayal of human love as it is an allegory about God's love for His people.
The young woman addresses the quote above to the other female characters who are watching the romance. Males do well to make this promise also—to refrain from anything that excites sexual love before they are ready.
Not even in marriage can sexual desires be satisfied every time they surface, so virgins are only keeping it real when they practice controlling their urges instead of allowing their urges to control them.
Among the activities which may awaken love prematurely for individuals who choose to wait are:
- some forms of touching,
- movies or novels with explicit sexual content,
- suggestive conversations face to face or by media,
- long embraces in secluded locations.
Making the promise to oneself may provide an inner guide to encourage waiting until the right time.
Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love (2:15).
Because the play is set in a rustic environment, the dialogue makes many references to plants and animals. Franz Delitzsch explains the foxes metaphor.
“The little foxes . . . point to all the great and little enemies and adverse circumstances which threaten to gnaw and destroy love in the blossom ere it has reached the ripeness of full enjoyment.”
Little foxes may include, but are not limited to:
- passion getting a little out of hand,
- little diversions from the truth,
- little bits of doubt about a future together,
- subtle (little) disrespect.
Precaution is important. Better take the time to recognize and deal with these little foxes prior to engaging in physical intimacy.
You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride, a secluded spring, a hidden fountain (4:12).
The young man in the play makes this declaration to his bride on their wedding night. He must be ecstatic about enjoying a garden in which no one else has trespassed. The experience would be still more special if both of them are virgins.
“Private garden,” “secluded spring” “hidden fountain” all conjure up images of reservation for someone special. The ability to present one's total self as a token of true love adds worth to virginity.
Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it (8:7).
Circumstantial floods in a lovers' relationship can be many, and it takes patience to keep love afloat, while wading through the water. Here a few of the problems which can cause the love of one or both to sink:
- peer pressure to go ahead and enjoy sex,
- the belief that sex is the way to prove love,
- competition from other interested parties,
- negative input from relatives.
It takes patience and trust to focus on the genuine love they share rather than allow situations like these to overwhelm them. Morality powered by love is patient. "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance" (1 Corinthians 13:7).
If she is a virgin, like a wall, we will protect her with a silver tower. But if she is promiscuous, like a swinging door, we will block her door with a cedar bar (8:9).
The young woman’s friends think of the younger woman who is still naïve about relationships with men. How can they prepare her? How can they protect her?
Delitzsch suggests that the wall suggests moral strength and the door suggests moral weakness. However, whether or not she is a virgin, she is still a sister and going forward, they want the best for her.
Virgins are expected to pay attention to their little sisters. If the young ones are still virgins, empower their self-worth. If they have already made moral detours, protect them from straying any further by taking them aside in a pleasant environment (as if behind cedar doors which are durable and fragrant). Nurture them before encouraging them to mingle.
My vineyard is mine to give (8:12).
Her prerogative -- to keep it or lose it.
Regardless of what other people say and think, virgins have the prerogative to keep their virginity until they become brides and grooms. They are wise to wait, rather than lose it hastily.
(We cannot overlook the fact that some young women are abused and have their choice taken away. Organizations which fight against sexual abuse deserve our help). Shame on all types of abusers everywhere!
Barring abuse, virgins have the freedom to live their lives happily, confidently and purposefully. Those who justify their decision to give it away may do so because they cannot reclaim it. How powerful to maintain the prerogative to say, “It’s mine to give when I am ready.” God promises to enable those who are willing.
All Scripture verses are quoted from The New Living Translation (2013 edition) copyrighted by Tyndale House Foundation.
1. Bible Hub, Pulpit Commentary, Song of Solomon 2:15 and 8:19, (Copyright 2004-2014 by Biblos.com)
2. Dawson: Patsy Rae, Speaking God’s Beautiful Language of Love, Song of Solomon, (Copyright 2011-2015 by Patsy Rae Dawson LLC)
3. Landau: Elizabeth, CNN; What Is Virginity Worth Today? (01/22/2009)
4. Shifferd Jr., Scott Jr.: Seeing God’s Breath, Keys to Understand the Song of Solomon. (1/08/2009)
© 2015 Dora Isaac Weithers
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