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Manipulative Games Women Play on Guys

Updated on November 30, 2016

Have you ever noticed that women can be quite manipulative? Mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, lovers, and mistresses all know how to do it, but I would like to focus specifically on games that women play on their significant others.

So guys, pray to your Heavenly Father to always protect you from falling into the hands and lures of a perfect female manipulator because when you do, you might not be able to come out unscarred. You think you are a strong man? Just wait until you encounter her.

In this piece I intend to come to men's rescue by pointing out those little ways in which they could be coming under manipulative attacks, even when they don't recognize it.

1. Praising

All of a sudden, she’s constantly praising you. In almost everything you do, you get the praise reward. And you know what? Your head starts to swoon and you start thinking you are the greatest guy on earth.

It’s not like praising someone is bad. No, not at all. In fact, it is one of the most important ways of showing appreciation and people love to be appreciated. But a close observer will find it peculiar that the praise frequency has increased. Hmmm. At such times, that is when I advise any sensible guy to watch out for it because that is usually when she will make a demand that you might not be able to turn down without feeling bad.

She's working and counting on this emotional angle. She knows it works effectively and so should you.

2. Crying

No one likes to see a crying or weeping woman, especially a very pretty woman you feel something for. It's really touching because she can appear to be so weak and defenseless. The manipulative woman knows this and she’s more than ready to use it to her advantage once you give her the opportunity.

She knows how emotional you can get. Oh, you think men aren’t emotional? Take it from me; men are emotional, but they have been socially conditioned to hide their emotional side.

There’s only one way to stop a beautiful lady from crying, especially that lady who really means something to you: you give in.

You may not know it, but she is smiling inwardly. And believe it or not, mothers know how to effectively make use of this strategy the best!

3. Pet Names

Pet names are used to establish fondness and familiarity. Couples are known to use funny pet names with meanings only they can understand.

For the men, he may call his wife a pet name like “honey”, “darlin’” , and many other meaningless stuff of that nature, but the bottom line is that it’s all mechanical to him. Nothing is seriously implied or intended except in the case of…you are supposed to know what I am driving at by now.

But to the woman, it is much more than that. She knows how to put her guy's pet name into valuable and rewarding use.

She has mastered how to coo his pet name in a very soft and gentle manner. She perfectly knows how to moan it into his ears. And all at once, the poor fella is standing at attention and alert like a dog waiting to heed to his master’s calling.

4. Touching

The power of the human touch should never be underestimated. You can transmit a wide range of varying information to the other person by simply touching him/her.

Where you touch a woman only shows what you have on your mind, and since we all know what many men have on their minds, we can agree that men are not at liberty to touch women, especially in the public where they are supposed to act like gentlemen. But women have this natural advantage in that they can touch a man, even in the public, and only the man will know that this touch is very different.

A perfect female manipulator knows how to touch her guy and how long she will allow the touch to last while communicating her intent with her eyes. With this manipulative move, the guy will become helpless at her mercy!

5. Comparing

When she wants to get things done her way, she may try this comparing strategy. She won’t directly table her demands, rather she will just tell you that you have done the same thing for her friends, neighbors, or some other person she knows. Don’t you get it? She’s telling you that she doesn’t want to be left out!

And you know what? It works!

It works because many people, especially men, don’t like to be compared to others. It can make someone boil inside when all your shortcomings are presented before you. You know it is going to be very bad if other women come out in public and the only odd one out is your woman and it is all because of you. You know it is not a good idea for a man to be known (even by many people who will never get to know him personally) as that stingy man who could not provide “such a simple thing” for his woman.

In adverse cases, some women are known to have even gone as far as suggesting and even going as far as helping other women to look “elsewhere” for solution/s to their "problems" thereby opening the door for all sorts of extramarital affairs, STDs and in some cases even divorce.

This is a great temptation on the man and so to prevent all that, he may just have to cave in.

6. Obedience and Submissiveness

The good book needn’t have specified that women should do this. Any woman who wants to get her way with her man knows that this is one of the most effective ways to get the man to bend to her wishes.

All a man wants is an obedient and submissive woman who will respect and shower him with love. He does not want a boss in the home.

When a woman shows obedience to her man, she increases her chance of getting whatever she wants from him through persuasion by tenfold.

Granted some men know how to abuse a woman’s obedience and submissiveness, but that will be a subject for another article some other time.

7. Avoiding

She may start getting you to notice her by avoiding you. You will notice that there is an inexplicable distance between the two of you and you will start to wonder what is it you are not doing right anymore.

She knows what you are going through and that’s exactly how she wants you to feel.

Normally, most people only value something when they are about to lose it. So by presenting herself in that manner, she is sending you the warning that you are about to lose her.

And if she happens to be your “one in a million”, then you are in real trouble. This silence can even lead to serious emotional breakdown.

Therefore, playing this type of card in manipulation is often the most dangerous. This is because men, being highly visual, can easily lose attention because of the several distractions that they experience in the form of other women. He may just decide to avoid you too because he is incapable of handling the extra emotional burden that you have suddenly become. Worse still, he might stumble upon someone better than you in the process.

In the end, instead of getting him to come your way, you achieve the opposite by chasing him away, maybe even for good!

But that is not the problem for the perfect “mistress” of the game. She knows when to stop. She knows when and how to signal to the man that it was nothing but just “fronting”. She knows how to apologize without even saying the words and most importantly she knows how to use this new war front strategy of giving up to her advantage which will invariably make the man ‘feel” powerful but this will even make it easier for her to get him to acquiesce to her demands!

A perfect woman manipulator? Fear her!

8. Nagging and Bombarding

Many times, men complain that their wives or women are always nagging them. I know it could be a terrible burden for the man and most times the only way to get her to stop is by consenting to her verbal barrage.

Another form of nagging could come in the bombarding of the man’s life in whatever way she can. This bombarding could be in the form of constant phone calls, text messages, and emails.

She may keep on doing it until the man has no choice but to understand that she can be quite a pest.

In case you don’t know, nagging could be a weapon of obtaining what you want because the man is more than tired of hearing the same complaints, the same demands, the same old story…

But women also know that nagging could also invite a lot of trouble for them. It could also be one sure fire way of getting the man to commit wife bashing and battery!

9. Seduction

This is one thing every woman knows how to do and they have all the tools at their disposal to make things go their way – almost all the time.

The greatest weapon at their disposal is of course their luscious bodies.

Just by revealing some flesh here and there or by smooching the man heavily, women make men with red blood running through their veins lose total control, especially if the man has a history of lack of self-control.

There is a way she might give you that promising “under the eyelashes” look and you get the lust filled and tempting messages at once without you needing anybody to help you in figuring things out.

Women are able to succeed in this so well because they know that nature has cursed men with one severe “affliction” – an insatiable desire for sex! And seduction is usually the forerunner to sex.

So as long as the man believes he is going to get his fix at the end of the day, he might not care about whatever the woman is suggesting, even if it may appear absurd to him at some other time.

But for now, his whole body, mind and, soul are united and focused on one thing alone.

Ride on baby, your wish is my command!

10. Sex

This is the ultimate one. Any woman who knows her way around this interesting topic will always know how to rein any man in.

This is simply because even if the man does not like you, he won’t be in such a haste to throw away the baby with the water. He will always want that girl who knows how to give it to him and that means…he will always come back.

Which means the lady can always get a second chance to manipulate and subtly table her request repeatedly until it is done!

Last Word

A perfect female manipulator is an enigma to behold. She knows how to keep guys on her beck and call. Don’t blame her. She is able to do this so well because she has taken the time to study men and understand men psychology so as to effectively code how they may react to different situations.

If you are a lady reading this and you think you have been found out, listen to me, you have no reason to panic. Just remember what I said earlier, most men don’t even know it when you are doing it to them. But, even if they know, they don’t give a damn.

And that’s usually because he knows that his reward for giving into your antics could be great in…da bed!

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      Katie 2 months ago

      Good article as a women I see far to much of this and I will be honest and say I am guilty of a few things on your list. However, I am an empath so it is interesting to me that an empath is even capable of manipulating someone. However, the guy I did it to really deserved it for being an asshole. Needless to say we split up for both our sake. Now I have decided to put a hold on a relationship and focus my energy into helping others because it genuinely makes me happy to focus on helping others in a setting that isn't romantic. I wish you well and hope you find someone you can genuinely be happy with.

      Best wishes

      Katie

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      Emmyboy 2 months ago from Nigeria

      Wow!

      My Gawd!

      Bellapillai, I must say you sound like a realest HARDLINER!!!

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      Bela Pillai 2 months ago from England

      One of the biggest problems faced by heterosexual men in a relationship is the manipulation of sex by women to control men and get them to do what ever they want.In other words,women who control men.The method used by women who use sex to manipulate men can be equal to a barter trade.Men need sex or sexual activity while women want sex or sexual activity where this causes an imbalance in most heterosexual relationships when it involves sex and sex drives resulting usually for men to require more sex than women.However there are exceptions for this too.Women usually get to control sex in a heterosexual relationship and this is commonly used by some women to control men.This sexual manipulation can come in the form of blackmail or trade.Examples:

      -if my man does as I ask him to I will give him sex.

      -i want something from my man and if he gives it to me I will give him sex but if he doesn't comply I will withhold sex.

      -we had a fight and I am not happy with my man so I withhold sex.

      This is a familiar issue with men and some men think that a relationship with women should be as such.However,this isn't the case.The main reason why some men put up with this problem is because of responsibility and gentlemen behaviour as it is incorporated in our society.What men have to understand is that women who use sex to manipulate,control and get things their way are actually selling their body to get something in return rather than sharing their body and emotions with their men sexually as it should be in a relationship.This is not lady like.Hence,their act is similar to a prostitute who sells her body to get money which isn't wrong because that's a prostitutes job but in a heterosexual relationship it's not about prostitution.Hence,the only 2 solutions for men to resolve this problem is to either give in to them or don't give in to them.Now by dividing both of these solution:

      1. Giving in to women-If you are going to give in to her make sure that would be the last time she uses sex or any sexual activity as a weapon to manipulate you.The one way is to let her know that what she is doing is like a prostitute who demands pay for services.Hence,your payment is doing whatever she asks and her payment is sex.So,treat her like a prostitute,use her body physically with no emotions attached even if it involves degrading her and make her feel like she is a sex worker during sex rather than like making love to a woman you love.She will not be happy but this will make her realise that she is not to use you and control but rather practise mutual respect and love.Hence,giving her bad sex with no emotions attached will make her cease this sexual manipulation in the future.She will then understand how you feel when she controls you.

      2. Not giving in to women- If you are not going to give in to her and stay firm on your decision.Then you know you won't be getting any sex or sexual activity.So the only way is to let her know that you are not giving in to her because you respect her and what she is doing is like what a prostitute would do as in selling her body to get money but in this case whatever she wants.Of course you hope she will come to her senses and talk but if she doesn't then,you could service yourself through masturbation and you should let her know that this relationship isn't working because it is not healthy.So,if things don't resolve positively,you will consider separation.Now when morals are put aside which in this case seeing that her actions are immoral too,you should make it clear to her that if you wanted sex,you could buy it(prostitutes) or even have affairs with other women who would willingly have sex with you.

      I am afraid that these actions may seem drastic but also remember that her actions and intentions are bad.These solutions are only for women who don't want to communicate and have equality.Of course the best methods would be to solve this problem amicably with equality,respect and love.So,do what's good for your life because you only have one life and remember you may also have children both girls and boys who would grow up learning from you.Do you want them to suffer the same consequences and get the same treatment? The choice is in your hands.

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      The Truth Is 3 months ago

      Then again God made these pathetic creatures to begin with unfortunately which the women in the old days really did put these real loser women today to real shame altogether.

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      Emmyboy 4 months ago from Nigeria

      Hi there, Mr. Clint.

      What on earth are you talking about?

      I wrote this piece and I ain't no woman.

      I'm just a reader and an observer who has a deep insight into (most) human behavior.

      That's all.

      I stand with you when it comes to allowing women manipulate me.

      I call them out on it once I notice it.

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      Clint 4 months ago

      This article was written by a women who probably has done and continues to do all these things to men . Its no wonder she can write about it so well.

      Stick with hookers for your sexual needs and cut women lose at the first sign of bullshit.let her know you caught her on her bullshit and she need a dumber guy to manipulate. If your not firm with most women they will walk all over you. The true inner nature of most women is dark, selfish and some are just pure evil and they know it.

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      Emmyboy 4 months ago from Nigeria

      You have a point there, Mr. ManofTruth!

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      Man of truth 4 months ago

      Women are not human...if you still dont realize it...i feel for you..

      They are like aliens that invade your brain and make you a puppet. In so many words..mental hacking mind controllers manipulation is only the beginning of it...think about it the use emotional tactics to control you..you become docile and they "pussy whip" you...most men are controlled by thier s/o. Id expect women to get upset and become vehemently abrasive at the sight of this comment but a real man knows what it really is

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      Tmill747 5 months ago

      Very interesting article, I'm a woman that was married to a man 11 yrs and a darn good woman that truly loved The Lord. He left me for a woman of that nature been with her 4 1/2 yrs and I still don't think he's aware. I just needed that coming from the male perspective I truly desire to find a real man that's strong and not weak willed.

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      Terrie Lynn 7 months ago from Canada

      It's an interesting read. But honestly . I don't like games. I don't play games and never have. It takes a better person to be able to grow , invite and except a person for who they are and work at growing together . I have no place for games. As a women who has been married for over 30 years , this type of women give us a bad name. But toning in cheek , I have used his talking in his sleep to convince him t do what I want , if that counts. You are a good writer , please keep it up. I think it's harder to be up front , honest and open ourselves up and talk a chance on finding true love , with respect and honesty . A lot goes back to self talk and what we allow our mind to control us.

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      Emmyboy 9 months ago from Nigeria

      @ Giuhkvy Man, I like your guts. It gets so good knowing that there will always be strong men out there like you who are not just ready to allow any female to control them. I like that. Keep up the MACHO spirit! Yeah!!!

      @Hanzo Thanks for reading.

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      Hanzo 9 months ago

      Very good article!

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      Giuhkvy 10 months ago

      Interesting article. Fortunately, for me, I cut a woman out of my life the moment I get any indication that she's playing games. Personally, dating and mating means nothing to me if both sides want to act childish instead of real. That said, there isn't a woman alive that'll ever have me wrapped around her finger.

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      Emmyboy 13 months ago from Nigeria

      Mr. Konnect Life, I like your way.

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      Konnect Life 13 months ago

      lol, the FIRST thing I did after reading some of the article was go to the comments section to see how many angry, offended people there were swearing up and down that THEY, of course, don't do this.

      Sure enough, the first female comment I read fulfilled my predictions.

      It's always the same thing, whether you talk about how women don't like nice guys and go after bad boys or anything else of that nature - people get offended and are ready to get defensive and say it isn't true, or they try to justify it by saying others do the same thing.

      It's so funny to me.

      What I like about being highly intelligent when it comes to sociology and psychology is that I no longer listen to what people say or wish to believe. I've learn to read people through their actions.... And one thing that is extremely common is the fact that most people who get offended or feel the need to reply to these type of articles in anger or try to disprove or discredit it are precisely the type of people who (knowingly or unknowingly) do the things the article is claiming.

      It's funny how much people don't know themselves and cannot see how they are in reality, and truly believe that they are the way they wish to believe that they are.

      Anyway, ... I could say more... But I'm done for the most part. Lastly, these days I cut women off pretty quickly if they aren't as interested in me as I am in them. I no linger play the friendship game with women who clearly know I'm into them and want to keep me as friends just do receive my attention and feel wanted and get pretty much all they desire from the interaction. I also make my intentions clear from the beginning and move on as soon as I begin to detect that they aren't interested in me the same way. Since most women won't come out and just clearly admit they are or aren't interested, even when you clearly ask them, I can only go based off of the vibes I'm getting and assume that if I am misreading her to be uninterested when she really is, she should at least be smart enough to communicate that to me IF she truly wants to. Otherwise, I forget about her as much as possible, and any women who cannot honestly and openly communicate in a clear, affective manner is not worth my time anyway. I allow a limited amount of games. If they continue past a certain extent, I declare her as not interested and move on, which means now she is hearing about and giving me advice about other women or things in my life as a friend - if I am even still talking to her.

      These days, I keep it plain and simple.

      Now, I'm done.

      Enjoy your day.

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      passionatelearnr 14 months ago

      I agree some women are manipulative.But i think there's no shortage of manipulative men.

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      Kathleen D. 15 months ago

      I work as a part time bartender and esthetician so I see a lot of the interaction on both sides. When I start a relationship with a guy I keep pushing the envelope. Over time, I have gotten guys to take me on trips to the Caribbean . I always try to see what I can get the guy to do for me. A guy can't become my boyfriend for long unless he will wear a bra for me. You can always tempt a guy with sex, and once you can get them in a bra and panties under their guy clothes, then you can really have influence. No guy wants his buddies to know that his girlfriend got him to wear panties for her. It also helps keep them faithful for obvious reasons.

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      Emmyboy 15 months ago from Nigeria

      Stephanie, you very funny. Seems you cry a lot, huh?

      Ha ha ha... sorry.

      Of course, any discerning man will know when the crying is real or not.

      Used to have a girlfriend then. All it takes for me to get her crying was just to disagree with her.

      Now, you tell me, what do you make of that?

      By the way, did I tell you I loved disagreeing with her?

      Ha ha haaaaa!!!

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      Stephanie P. 15 months ago

      lol......

      crying is a way to manipulate men, huh.

      perhaps, with some women who are trying to get something. but how about when you are explaining something to someone and maybe a few tears leak out because, say, you always wanted to have a kid and instead spent your youth incurring debt by pursuing education, now it seems like a child may not happen. because you are too responsible to just get knocked up and let the state pay.

      and no, geniuses, i am not talking about trying to get that guy to "give in" and have a kid. or trying to get him to do anything except understand.

      what game is she playing then?

      articles like this are really dangerous for the simple-minded to read, because then they try to say that all crying is game playing.

      here's an idea...if you don't want to see the girl cry (never mind that he broke your leg in 3 places), how about walk your happy ass to another room and let her cry in peace, and direct your violent temper somewhere else.

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      mr goat 22 months ago

      Problem is, even though everything this article states is pretty much accurate, the variation and terms a woman plays these games from early age till death, is so bewildering that the only time it seems to be not a big factor is age 15 to about 27 and then other manipulation devices come into play as many are now ladies with a few kids from different dads and their entitlement factor goes through the roof as they are being supported by external men, and the government and they are now looking for a cap on the top (a man) to now provide that 'next level' of comfort. But problem is for them, there is now too many of the same acting that game. I

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      Some Dude 2 years ago

      @anna: another manipulative tactic commonly used by women when they don't agree with something: attacking his masculinity to put him on the retreat; framing his opinion as a result of being an inferior male to discredit it. Pathetic. If anything, women should hate women like you for giving them a bad name instead of hating men like Emmyboy for his opinions.

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      Nicknash 2 years ago

      That's all true. We haven't seen any porn with men masturbating!

      Chanakya was right but wrong in the measure. That is, women are 8 times lustful than men. But, the truth is that the ain't just 8 times but 30,000 times. Proof: The vagina has 8000 nerve endings and each nerve ending stimulates 15,000 other. Thus, total of 120,000,000. But, men just 4,000. Thus, 120,000,000/4,000 = 30,000 times lustful. Also, they radiate their lust in every inch of the activities, body, etc.

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      Emmyboy 2 years ago from Nigeria

      I like your opinion, Van.

      Whatever rocks your boat is okay by me.

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      Van1962 2 years ago

      Emmyboy - Your point is well taken and I agree :-) I think I should express that normally it is a woman's natural instinct to be nurturing and loving towards her man, but of course there is another side to that coin, but under normal circumstances it is her natural instinct to show sweet acts of kindness to her man. I would suggest to men to accept those acts as they are intended, and not to automatically presume that she's being conniving and phony, but give her the benefit of the doubt first, because as I mentioned earlier it is her NATURAL INSTINCT to be honest, loving and nurturing. And I am a firm believer that you attract more bees with honey than vinegar, so if her sweetness compells him to give in and comply to her wishes then that's a good thing, because smart men want to make their woman happy and take care of her, because he knows that a happy woman makes for a happy man, so if using my natural instincts of sweet gestures towards my man is going to get me what I need from our relationship with him, then so be it.....that's how things are suppose to be! Just my opinion :-)

      But your point was well taken Emmyboy.

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      Emmyboy 2 years ago from Nigeria

      I like your opinion Van.

      There is this popular Igbo(Nigeria) proverb we use in my area. It literally goes like this: "The same teeth a dog uses to play; it uses to bite."

      I hope you got the message?

      Thanks for reading.

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      Van1962 2 years ago

      Emmyboy - IMO everything that you are calling manipulative, I call it just being a loving woman towards her man! IMO most women are naturally nurturing and loving to our men. Giving compliments when they are well deserved is a good thing. Pet names is another way of expressing a loving gesture. If she is avoiding him, then perhaps she's doing that because he's playing the "avoidance" GAME with her and she is mirroring his actions back to him to show him how it feels to be ingnored by the person who is suppose to love you. And the "touch".... another loving gesture. Knowing how to touch/rub your partner in ways that makes them feel good is a loving act. That's what lovers do! I think it is manipulative to put ideas in mens heads that will cause them to be suspicious of a woman who is only being loving and kind to him. It seems as if you are trying to make men immune to the loving gestures of women, as if you want the men to dislike us for showing them love. Relationships between men and women are difficult enough. Sending out messages like this will influence men to think we are running game on them when the only thing we are doing is being women who want to show our man that we love and appreciate him, and the ONLY way to do that is with loving words and acts. Just my opinion.

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      Van1962 2 years ago

      To maramerce - I do not teach Grammar or anything like that, but I really appreciate how easy it is to read your comments. It shows that you are conscientious of your spelling and grammar. It is a pet peeve of mine to start reading something and the puctuations are either not there or are being used incorrectly! Your sentences flowed and there were no typos, which forces me to try to figure out what the person is trying to say.....so annoying. I think if you want others to read what you have to say, then by all means, go back and read what you've typed, and make the necessary corrections before submitting it. THANK YOU for a pleasant read :-)

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      Emmyboy 2 years ago from Nigeria

      Thank you Jesus for the correction!

      I feel so blessed already!!!

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      Jesus C. 2 years ago

      Lose is spelled with one o.

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      maramerce 3 years ago from United States

      Also, if I take time out of my life to teach a guy a lesson, it's because he truly deserves one. You have to do something terrible to me in order for me to flip that switch. I guess you could say one of my flaws is that I can't just leave it alone. It gives me no peace to let you go on living your life without an understanding of what you've done to harm me. Only when I know that you learned your lesson will I finally let it go and move on. At that point, I will gladly do so without a second thought.

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      maramerce 3 years ago from United States

      I only mess with you if you mess with me. And I'm upfront about it. I let a guy know from the get-go that I have a degree in psychology and a doctorate in don't-f***-with-me. A bit of advice I heard a long time ago that has always rung true in every interaction I have ever had with any human being ever is that people like to tell on themselves. People will tell you exactly who they are, good and bad. All you have to do is listen. Most of the time they aren't even aware enough of themselves to realize they are telling you their flaws and weaknesses. They will say "I'm a liar" or "I have a hard time being responsible" or "I've never been faithful to a woman." If they tell you the truth, BELIEVE THEM. Most of the time when people fall in love, they go into a state of denial. That's why we say "love is blind." Everyone else can see it, but you. Ultimately it takes two to tango. Nobody gets manipulated if they don't want to be manipulated by someone. No one has power over you. You choose who you give power to.

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      Emmyboy 3 years ago from Nigeria

      Hi hotrodj35,

      It's funny, isn't it? I wonder why you want to know?

      Anyway, the one who got manipulated is the one who didn't get what s/he wanted...

      It's as simple as that, isn't it?

      Thanks for reading.

      Oh by the way, that your username...well...never mind!

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      hotrodj35 3 years ago

      If the woman uses sex as a form of manipulation and men manipulate women for sex, then how do you really know who manipulated who?

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      TheEndlessTrip 4 years ago

      You really do have allot of issues!

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      Franko 4 years ago

      to Emmyboy, i can't help it if i meet low life women. hey, at least they are good at what they are.

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      Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria

      @watergeek, it's fun when you do it correctly most especially if you know when to stop but don't say I told you so, OK...?

      @john, you are right. Our women also need to know what we want too...

      @soconfident, you might feel like a victim but now you have been empowered, right?!

      @Levertis, I am with you because I see nothing wrong in it too for men to allow women to take over the reins - occasionally though!

      @Franko, I wonder what this girl did to you...Ha ha ha!

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      Franko 4 years ago

      low life loser women are everywhere nowadays, and they are so very nasty as it is with their attitude problem. then again, many of them are lesbians anyway.

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      If a woman uses her skills to harm a man, she needs to fail, but a smart man knows when to let a shrewd woman have the Wheel. It is ok to let the woman drive if she knows the right direction because a smart man knows how to take the wheel if he feels the need.

      I know a husband who once said that he knows that he is not the boss of the money, but his wife does a good job of making him think that he is. She has managed to get him to give her the money. Because she manages better than he does, they have gotten out of debt and amassed wealth because of it. He is lousy with money and is so happy that they have risen above poverty. He said when she gets out of line, he checks her, and she backs down. Now, what is wrong with that arrangement? Not anything if both help and respect each other and are happy with it.

      Men who say they were in the dark usually know that they were manipulated, but a weakness prevented them from wanting to see it. Face it, some men enjoy women having the upper hand because of what they consider to be benefits. Besides, what's wrong with a man giving a few advantages? My goodness, a woman with sense does not want a cheapo. Everybody knows that a man puts his money where his heart is. That is how some women measure a man's level of interest. I wouldn't say rob the guy, but good Lord, he knows that he has to lay something down! They should think of it as insurance payments. :D

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      Derrick Bennett 4 years ago

      Wow great information I feel like a victim to some of these tricks

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      john 4 years ago

      lol, more women should read this article.....80% article in hubpages are about how men should act, what women hate about men, bla bla bla, yes we men sometimes make mistakes, but so are women!!!! its refreshing reading an article like this

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      watergeek 4 years ago

      I'll have to figure out how to do it honestly. Hmmm. Seems like that would be pretty powerful and fun for both, huh?

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      Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria

      I am so happy for you Sue. Sometimes, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to recreate ourselves and I believe you are doing a great job in doing that, huh?

      Seduction game is good so you should try and get back at it, ok?!

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      Sustainable Sue 4 years ago from Altadena CA, USA

      About crying. Just so you know, many women cry when they're really angry. That's because we're conditioned into it, just like many men get angry when they're really hurt. In our culture, men are not allowed to cry, women are not allowed to show anger. It's a kind of twisted way of being for both.

      A long time ago I was removed from a job in a dishonest way. I was so angry I couldn't voice it and cried instead. That made me angry at myself and became the trigger for retraining myself into being human, instead of "female."

      I'm like karmicfilly now. I've decided my best chance at happiness is to stop the games and become the best person I can be, in and of myself. I'm responsible for my own happiness and believe that when I'm happy it helps others around me be happy. So I go for the things I like doing, whether or not a guy is available to do them with, I'm more direct in my approach to people, interested in a lot of different topics, and play the seduction game only minimally . . . although that part I do kinda miss. (lol)

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      Dale J Ovenstone 4 years ago from Wales UK

      About crying

      Once challenged, for something extremely bothering, that could be a relationship maker or breaker, a women using manipulation knows this and she’s willing to use it to her advantage once you give her the opportunity but the only problem is, she calls you jealous, just for asking, just for enquiring, even though she gives you good reasons to enquire, not seeming interested in getting the problem out into the open at all but breaks down & cries instead, blaming you, the guy, like your the one who done something & not her, going around trying to make him look a fool to others, does she do this behaviour to all guys she meets & gets into a relationship with I bet she does, I suppose this is her inbuilt defence mechanism & she don't see a problem messing with emotions but thus, she can go too far, blaming others where as, in her own eyes, she's an angel, looking towards others for her comfort when things don't go her own way, it seems like butter wouldn't melt in her mouth.

      Manipulation is wrong from both men or women because a TRUE relationship needs two like minded folk to work adequately, nothing hidden, no secrets if asked about, why not share them, what is there to lose, only, the partner can have his real choice then & make up his mind, of how he deals with the situation once out in the open, he can clear the air & move onwards.

      My girl, at one time, she gave me cause to question, I did, she caved in, verbally, & by her answers alone, my questions has not been answered but they have, only in negative body language & unusual emotional responses face to face that anyone reading face & body signs for so long could detect once in her company, but she broke down & cried all the same so we both had to part for the sake of a peaceful mind.

      Great hub Emmyboy, thanks for sharing

      Regards Dale

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      Dave 5 years ago

      "Love" and "romance " are a racket - a con game.

      Once a man knows this he is immune from manipulation.

      Dont take my word for it. Read all the "Men dont get married!" articles on the net. One horror story after another. I defy any man reading them not to have his mind blown! You wont date ever again - if you do read them.You will learn to face reality, the road to freedom opens up. "MGTOW"

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      Dave 5 years ago

      I know and identify womens manipulative technique

      and more men are wise to them.

      Manipulative people are dishonest. some men manipulate too

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      Emmyboy 5 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks a lot karmicfilly for being honest. Thanks again for giving me that hub idea. Maybe one day I am going to do the hub and put the polls and hope that you read and learn a lot from that too.

      And please, do keep it up with that "too thirsty for knowledge" nature of yours, ok?

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      karmicfilly 5 years ago from Franklin, TN

      As a woman I do want to give voice to those of us who do not intentionally do most of these things you mention in the article. Have I in the past, Hell yes. Do I currently or have I in the past half dozen years, Hell NO. Once I realized what it was that I was doing and the intention behind it I changed. Thus I don't date much since I don't manipulate men and I may be disappointing to them. Not sure. Many don't like my honesty these days and believe I am too strongly opinionated and forthright. I don't tap dance around a subject and agree to get along.

      Does this make me less desirable, Not to my knowledge. Yet I have heard from many just of late that I am: too pretty, to passionate, to driven, to strong willed, to high energy and lastly too thirsty for knowledge.

      I myself like all these qualities and don't see a problem with any of them. The fact that I am honest, make decisions, and have my own thought should intrigue the male population but alas it seems they feel threatened. Maybe you can do a poll and write a hub about that so I can read and learn from that one.

      Thanks for an entertaining read.

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      Emmyboy 5 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks a lot Mary for reading and most especially for wishing me a good woman with a twinkle in her eyes...

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      Mary 5 years ago from Washington

      Ha! Ha! We have been found out! Honestly, I try to not be manipulative but I have noticed the extraordinary power I carry in a relationship. It really shocked me to discover this. I was in a horrifically abusive relationship for years. In that event the positive powers of this woman were of no avail. Oh my!It was rough going. I have been shocked to discover that in a more even relationship I have all manner of power. As I said, I do my best to not use my power for evil. i think it is deliciously delightful when men and women each use the power they have in sweet ways. Thank you for your writing. I hope you find a good woman who uses her power with a twinkle in her eye.

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      Danielle 5 years ago

      So you think all women are manipulated or just the ones you've been with?

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      Emmyboy 5 years ago from Nigeria

      Of course Anna. Men are also manipulative but it's nothing when compared to the subtle, natural as well as calculated style of a woman's...

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      anna 5 years ago

      Pathetic... Grow a pair... Like men never manipulate!

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      Emmyboy 5 years ago from Nigeria

      Thank you so much. I am so glad you liked it.

      But don't spoil it by letting your wife know that you know...

      Just allow the fun to continue and hopefully you will still be getting that necessary reward for playing along.

      Once again, thank you so much.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      I liked this hub it was funny, and interesting as well as hitting many of the points that men pretty much fear that woman are using to lure them back in like a hook to a fish.

      Your take on the woman's techniques is pretty cool, I dig your thought process, but especially like your writing style even more. Awesome job, and was just wondering why there's no images.

      Anyhow your a great writer, and thanks for sharing this cool hub on the woman's possessive power, even if its annoying at times I love how my wife play such games, LOL.

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