Why Can't I Forget My First Love: Reasons Why First Love Is so Special and Powerful

Updated on July 2, 2018

Why is it so hard to forget my first love? First love is special because it is the most innocent and pure form of love. No matter how hard you try, you will never stop missing your first love.

Boyfriends and girlfriends in a first love relationship will forever remember the hugs, cuddles, holding hands, sweet whispers, long drives, late night conversations and the romantic strolls. Find out why the beautiful memories of this once in a lifetime experience will linger in your heart and mind after your breakup, for the rest of your life.

First love is the first experience of intimacy. Hugs, kisses and cuddles in a first love relationship form the basis of the sweetest lifelong memories.
First love is the first experience of intimacy. Hugs, kisses and cuddles in a first love relationship form the basis of the sweetest lifelong memories. | Source

1) Experiencing intimacy for the first time: Holding hands, hugs, cuddles and kisses

Ask anyone about the memories of their first kiss, first hug, first cuddle and the first time they had sex. Their faces will light up with a glow that is simply priceless. This happens because experiencing intimacy for the first time gets etched in the memory forever.

Physical intimacy is usually experienced with first crushes and first loves. This is the time when a simple act of holding hands makes you sweat and a romantic hug gives you goosebumps all over your body.

2) First love is special because it is the most innocent love

One of the core reasons why first love is hard to forget is because it is pure and innocent. People don't fall in love for the first time with expectations or malicious intentions. It is pure attraction, led by the mind and not the heart.

The beginnings of first love are free of malice and manipulative behavior. The whole world seems beautiful and life becomes perfect. It is like wearing rose tinted sunglasses 24/7, even in your dreams.

This blissful feeling of first love can never be replicated because once innocence is lost on a personal level, it can never be translated in its purest form in another relationship. This is what makes it so special.

3) First love is powerful because it exposes your insecurities

Your first love and first relationship will expose many of your insecurities which you never knew about. For example, your first relationship will be the first time when you actually realize what it is like to be a jealous girlfriend.

From jealousy to possessiveness to extreme dependence, first love is when guys and girls realize how matters of the heart can bring even the strongest down to their knees. The memory of being exposed to your own insecurities for the first time will never go away.

4) Thinking that first love is forever: You attach all your hopes and dreams to it

Guys and girls fall into love for the first time without any assumptions because they have never experienced love before. The puppy love effect makes them believe that this love will last forever.

This sense of lasting love makes you attach all your hopes and dreams with your first love relationship. It is like wearing a pair of blinders and focusing all your life's attention and goals to just one thing – your first love.

This extreme sense of attachment is hard to break away from. Even after a bitter breakup, you will find it impossible to see yourself living your life without your first love.

First love seems perfect from all angels. Couples in a first love relationship immerse themselves in this blissful perfection.
First love seems perfect from all angels. Couples in a first love relationship immerse themselves in this blissful perfection.

5) First love is the only time when you believe in perfect love

A first love relationship is when you believe that your love is perfect. Your love knows only one language, the one spoken by your heart. There are no hang-ups, no complications and no expectations when first love is blooming.

This sense of perfectness creates memories that are hard to forget. No matter how old you get, no matter how mature you become, you will always crave for this perfectness of first love in the relationships of your life.

Once you move on from your first love, there will be a disheartening sense of realization that you will never be able to recreate this perfectness in love again.

6) First love is emotionally intense and extremely euphoric

The sheer excitement of feeling love for the first time will engrave all the sweet moments in your mind forever. On the flip side, first love is also extremely emotionally intense. The downer after every little fight and argument is exhausting.

This extreme range of emotional highs and lows make first love a once in a lifetime roller coaster ride – never to be repeated. This is what makes first love so powerful and intense.

7) It is like any other 'firsts': Falling in love for the first time

First love is when you let go and take a dive into the unknown. It is like the memories of all other 'firsts' in your life, except that this one is much stronger.

Think of how you will never forget the day when you drove a car for the first time and then multiply that euphoria by a thousand times. Even that may be nowhere near to the kind of impact first love will leave on your mind, making it extremely hard to forget.

8) First love is carefree: There are no other responsibilities in life

First love happens at a young age. This is the time when there are no spiraling credit card debts, mortgage payments, job insecurities, career problems, family issues, social pressure and many other things that make daily life a melting pot waiting to burst apart.

This carefree time was probably when you were a budding teenager, fresh into a relationship with your first crush in school. You had no other responsibilities except to do well in class. This gave you all the time in the world to immerse yourself in love. Basically, your first love was your full-time job.

As you grow older your life is burdened with many new responsibilities, year after year. You may never get to experience the absolute and carefree experience of falling in love and enjoying each and every moment of it without having other responsibilities lingering over your head.

This is why the memories of first love will remain in your mind for the rest of your life – because you will never have such a carefree state of mind in your life again.

The heartbreak of first love is seemingly never-ending and extremely painful.
The heartbreak of first love is seemingly never-ending and extremely painful.

9) Heartbreak of first love is shattering

Just like how the euphoria of falling in love is extreme, so is the subsequent heartbreak. This is the first time you will experience what it feels to have your heart broken. The shattering breakup of a first love relationship is amplified into an emotionally terrorizing fireball which is a mix of many elements, including the below.

  • The agonizing feeling of having your trust broken in a relationship for the first time
  • The painful sense of regret
  • The haunting feeling of baring your insecurities to someone for the first time in life
  • The false hope that everything will be okay

10) The painful regret of first love: Too early, too fast

If love was a poker game, first love can be described as going All In. Peaking levels of happiness weaken sense of judgment and make it hard to draw boundaries. This makes you do stupid things including committing too early, putting your hopes into one person, getting intimate even if you are not sure and lots more.

All these things snowball into a burden of regret when first love falls apart. Why did I have sex with such a loser? Why did I trust her with all my heart? Why didn't I see that she was cheating on me? These are just some of the elements of heart wrenching regret that ensues after the breakup of first love.

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        Anurag 

        3 months ago

        I had my break up two years ago... It was my first love so it's fu...g hard to forget the memories.I have suddenly become so mature that I forgot all the spice..all the spark which used to b one of my best quality to flirt with a girl. I hav gone out with girls in these two years but never felt the same so I don't feel like I wud ever b able to feel the same and it makes me yell my heart out...I m just searching for my old love , my old feel .... But I guess I wud nvr b able to...

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        mahi 

        3 months ago

        hi guys

        my first love was when i was 8 years ago and i was 14 at that time. yeah it was devastating to watch him leaving and actually it was hell to live without him but after years of stuggle and pain and tears i thought moving on is an option and so i fell in love again second time but this time again same happened........my second boyfriend left me too...so now as per my experiences i can just say that we come alone and we go alone and its stupid to expect somthing from others. So, stop expecting and live your life.

        i know it hurts but its truth. no one cares about anyone in this world.

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        Nicole F. 

        5 months ago

        I have not been able to forget my first love. It happened 50 years ago. When I left him, the earth seemed to open to swallow me up. Something is dead in me this day. I broke up because my bad mother influenced me to do so. She was jealous to see that I was in love and happy. My life has been a result of mistakes after. I always think of him and I pray at times that we end our life together.

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        Sappu R. 

        7 months ago

        First love like something which can not be forgotten i trully miss my first love and i my story he doesn't like me i like him He is so cute ,handsome and nice in study to and i love his hair style

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        Marilyn 

        12 months ago

        Very well written. The feeling of first love for me was, honestly, like being reborn into the heavens and the euphoria of just thinking about him when he was away from me was pure joy. We were so deeply in love but so young, so innocent...tragedy wasn't very far away. After a whirlwind romance, three years together, wrapped in each other's arms almost constantly, he let me go. I was devastated, broken hearted and my spirit was crushed. I took the engagement ring off my finger. My heaven had turned into a nightmare. He had been cheating on me behind my back. And, even now, after almost thirty years apart, my heart still has moments when I think of him and wonder if he ever thinks of me. First love, true love, powerful....it will always leave me wondering what if.....

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        Patricia Scott 

        4 years ago from sunny Florida

        My first 'real' love love was my husband. I had lead a very sheltered life. So when it ended it was tres difficile...for years and years. Then a most wondrous person walked into my life and I have not looked back since. This is well expressed and nails so many important reasons why we stumble along when that love ends. Angels are on the way this morning. ps

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