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In our culture and society, it is common to hear the word soulmate. Almost every woman who has ever fallen in love has called the object of her affection her soulmate. But is it really that simple? Is everyone we fall in love with a soulmate connection? What is the difference between "the one" and your soulmate? Is it the same thing or is there a significant difference? Let's find out.
I believe finding your soulmate is a once-in-a-lifetime experience. You only get one soulmate. They are literally the other half of you. You only get one other half, you don't get five halves. Sometimes they can be your better half, but either way, together you are whole because both halves have been joined. When you find your soulmate you are literally fitting two halves together to make one whole. You feel a sense of finally being complete and finding your missing piece. Finding your soulmate can be both a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing if you meet and stay together, but a curse if you meet but the timing is wrong or other obstacles get in your way and you are forced to be apart. Once you feel that soulmate connection you are never the same again. It is a powerful invisible force that only you and your other half can feel. I feel it is almost better to never meet your soulmate at all then to have to meet them and then be forced to part because that can prove to be almost unbearable.
So how do you know if you've met your true soulmate? If you have to talk yourself into it or even have to think about it then you know they're not your soulmate. When you feel a soulmate connection it's instant and you couldn't be more sure about it in your mind. It's like you just know deep inside that this particular person was meant for you and no one else in the world. There's no doubt or fear in your mind, in fact, you have never been more sure of anything in your life like this. When you meet your soulmate for the first time, it won't feel like you're just meeting, you'll feel like you've known them forever but just haven't seen each other for a while. Your soulmate will feel really familiar to you even though you've just met. If you had no prior knowledge of soulmates, this might be an almost awkward feeling because you're thinking to yourself "why does this person feel so familiar if we've only just met?"
How can this possibly be happening? Is this real life and not a fairy tale? The thing is—you just know. Something inside of you recognizes them way before your mind can fully comprehend them. Your rational mind wants to find an explanation for it, but your soul already knows what it feels because its other half is found.
After you meet your soulmate and feel all these feelings toward them your mind starts to catch up with your heart and soul. Suddenly, you feel like you can take on the world as long as you have this person by your side. You can do anything and go anywhere as long as they are there with you. You suddenly see your whole life ahead of you. If you've never wanted to have a family and children before suddenly you can't wait to get started with your soulmate. You start to see the world in a different and better way. If you were a pessimist before, suddenly you see life as the glass half full instead of half empty. You feel this sort of magnetic connection to them that you have never felt in your life before. You're no longer thinking of your ex-boyfriend or that guy who got away because they no longer exist to you. Your true soulmate connection makes you forget every other relationship you ever had because they no longer matter to you. It's like your heart and soul have been asleep all this time and they're finally waking up. This is what love really feels like and it is truly the best drug around because it's the human soul on fire.
The connection between you and your soulmate is unlike anything else you have ever experienced. Sometimes you don't even need words to convey your feelings. When words are used, you finish each others' sentences. You seem to know what the other is thinking even before you say it. You have many things in common of course. The different talents you each have come together and fulfill one another. The things you lack in are the things he excels in so you can learn from him and the things you are good in he may not know much about which means he can learn from you. Between the two of you, together, you have everything you need to be truly happy. Everything suddenly makes more sense about the world and it truly feels like its meant to be. This is the way love is supposed to feel like and everything else is just fiction.
Your soulmate is your best friend and your biggest fan. They love you with their whole heart and soul and would gladly give up their life for yours. It is an unconditional sort of love. The kind where you know you can make mistakes and mess up but they will still be there for you always. Your soulmate doesn't play games or make you chase him. There is no room for such foolish things when it comes to a connection this strong and real. You never have to wonder about your soulmate's feelings for you because they will let you know every day and in every way possible. There is no lack of trust or communication in a soulmate connection. Your soulmate cheers you on through life and is your biggest supporter. They help you become the best possible version of yourself and if you happen to fall they will pick you up and carry you. They will fight your battles for you and defend you to the moon and back. Your soulmate is the definition of the best partner a person can have.
So what's the difference between a soulmate and "the one"? Well, I believe there's only one person that is truly meant for everyone and that is their soulmate. This is the only person who you will be the happiest with out of all of the other people on the planet. It doesn't mean that just because you don't find your soulmate that you can't be happy. I believe you can be happy with a lot of people. You could fall in love with someone and be truly content and happy with that person even if they're not your soulmate. Sure, your connection may not be quite as strong as with a soulmate, but nonetheless you could still be in love. You would call this love "the one" because out of all your other relationships you chose this particular person to marry and have a family with. For you, this is your happily ever after and you stop searching for anyone else.
The truth is, you can't really know what a soulmate connection is unless you've felt it. It's not something that is easy to describe. But once you feel it you will know what I mean. It's a feeling that is unlike any other. That's why I said before that sometimes it's better not to meet your soulmate if you can't be together because it is way too hard to move on from that, impossible in fact. If you do meet your soulmate, it's best to do whatever possible to end up together for good. This type of connection only happens once in a lifetime and you simply can't let it slip away because it will definitely not happen again. I think you can even know if you've met your soulmate from a photo you see of someone who seems extremely familiar to you. If you see a person's photo and you just can't get them out of your mind because it's like you know them or recognize them and feel an undeniable connection, then it might be worth it to check it out and see if you can meet them in person because this could be the soulmate you've been waiting your whole life for. In this modern world of technology we live in, our soulmate could be just a click away! I think when it's time for soulmates to meet and they are meant to be together nothing can truly stand in their way. Distance is never an obstacle. Circumstances could never interfere. Other romantic interests could never stand a chance against a soulmate connection. It's like it was written in the stars. An example of a soulmate connection that I can think of is the movie The Notebook. I think this is about as close to a soulmate connection as you can see in the movies these days.
So why does a soulmate connection feel so familiar to you even if you've just met this person? I think it's because souls can recognize each other from other past lifetimes. Your mind may not remember it, but your soul does. When you meet your soulmate, you're feeling like you're finally coming home. It's like you've been away for awhile, but you're home now. Soulmates usually know each other in other lifetimes and have probably planned to meet in every lifetime, possibly even this one. Your true soulmate is the same age as you within a year. If you're female, and they're male they need to be older, even if it's just within a few days, but it's still within a year. So if my birthday is October 1, 1990, my soulmate's birthday would be within one year of that so anywhere from October 1, 1989 to September 30, 1990 works. The male needs to be older because it has to do with how God created Adam before Eve and so the woman is created from the rib of a man which means the man needs to be created first.
So what happens if you meet your soulmate and it's just not meant to be and you don't end up together in this life? Well, that's a tough one. Like I said, it's better not to have met them than to have met them and had to part. You can't miss what you don't know but if you already know what a soulmate connection feels like then it's impossible to forget. I don't think anyone really moves on from a soulmate connection. Sure, they can get married to someone else and seem to have their life in order but they will always remember what true love felt like with their soulmate. Losing your soulmate is like the one who got away times 100. You will always compare every guy or girl you meet to your soulmate. You'll look for qualities in that person that you had in your soulmate. Sometimes, it even goes so far as looking for people who physically look like your soulmate that seem attractive to you simply because it's like a piece of your soulmate is in them. That's why it is much better to stay with your soulmate if you meet them or not meet at all, because the other option is simply too much to handle.
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If you've met your true soulmate, life is pretty amazing for you. You have your best friend and your true love all in one package. Being in love is good for your health, but being in love with your soulmate is amazing for your health. What can you look forward to in the coming years with your soulmate? Great health, many long years together, and fulfillment in every aspect of your life. Are you a creative type that needs inspiration for your work? Well your soulmate provides that and much more. You will never be uninspired or lack motivation again. Writer's block? No such thing with your soulmate around. Everyday you will wake up and be excited to live life. It won't really matter where you live because as long as you have each other that's all you really need. Nothing seems impossible or out of reach. If you have met your soulmate and you end up together in this life, you can consider yourself one of the luckiest human beings alive. This is a blessing that very few know about and even less actually get to experience it. It's truly a once in a lifetime type of thing. And really, if you're going to fall in love, who better to fall in love with than the only person who was truly meant for you?
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Questions & Answers
Question: Can there be more than a year difference between soulmates?
Answer: No, you might be having a twin flame experience. This is similar in some ways, but you're definitely not soulmates. What's the age difference and who's older?
Question: Just curious from another question somebody else asked, do you have to be the same age in order to be soulmates?
Answer: Within a year, and the male is always older.
Question: How will I know that I've met my soulmate?
Answer: You'll know it with every fiber of your being. There'll be no doubt in your mind about it. No question.
Question: Is it possible to feel and experience similar physical and emotional pain that my soulmate is undergoing, even though we're far apart?
Answer: Yes, definitely. I've experienced it myself.
Question: What the difference between twin flames and soulmates?
Answer: You only have one soulmate. You can have many twin flames.
Question: I am heading toward divorce and in the process KNOW I've met my soulmate. Unfortunately, he is also married (I suspect unhappily but that hasn't been completely revealed yet). I feel with all my heart and soul that he is truly my missing half. I don't know if we'll ever get together but wish the universe would do that for us! Is there any way to influence the universe ... seriously?
Answer: I think if you're meant to be together, it'll happen at some point. In the meantime, just stay positive and stay friends with him. Be in his life and see how it all plays out. Good luck :)
Question: If you meet your soulmate at the wrong time (too young) and are forced to cut them off, is it possible to get back to them later in the future when both have matured?
Answer: Yeah of course. The important thing is you found them. When it's really soulmates, time and distance means nothing. It'll work out against all odds if that is what is supposed to happen.
Question: Is it possible for one person to KNOW you are soulmates, but the other doesn’t feel the same?
Answer: Both people have to feel it on some level if they are soulmates. Maybe they are just scared of the intensity of their feelings.
Question: Can you lose your soulmate and then find them again?
Answer: Yes, it can happen.
Question: What if he already has a girlfriend? He says we are soulmates and he loves me. He doesn’t want to hurt the girlfriend. I can see the pain and struggle in his eyes. What do I do?
Answer: Let the relationship run its course. If you guys are really soulmates and meant to be together it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. The important thing is you met in the first place. Everything else is just details.
Question: I know who my soulmate is, but they are a celebrity and live far away. How will my distant soulmate and I ever reach each other?
Answer: If you are meant to meet it'll happen somehow. Don't give up.
Question: Is it possible that you met your soulmate at a really young age and is it possible for the connection to last forever?
Answer: Yes, once soulmate connections are made they are never forgotten.
Question: Could my soulmate be someone I barely knew 10 years ago but never forgot? Now we have met up and it feels natural and comfortable.
Answer: Sure it's possible. You never forget your soulmate, no matter how many years ago you met.
Question: Does everyone have a soulmate?
Answer: Yes, but not everyone meets their soulmate.
Question: Will the universe create a pathway for you to be together or have similar experiences etc. so you can be connected?
Answer: Soulmates are always connected, whether they are together or not. They live parallel lives even if they have never met. I do believe we meet them for a reason, so maybe you met, spent years apart because you weren't ready, and then reconnected after some time to be together again. I believe it all happens for a reason and when it's time for soulmates to be together, no one and nothing can keep them apart.
Question: I believe I've met my soulmate, but she is ten years younger. Could a past life have been cut short making this possible or have I not really met my soulmate?
Answer: She is probably not your soulmate; there's too much of an age difference.
Question: Can your soulmate be already married to another?
Answer: Yes, it's possible.
Question: I feel that I have met my soulmate, and he feels the same way, but he is a little over 3 months older than me. He is unlike anyone I have ever met, and the feelings described above match with both of ours except the age part. Is he really not my soulmate?
Answer: Three months older is fine as long as it's the male that is older.
Question: So you met your soulmate, and like you said better to have not met them.. you were torn apart young, paths crossed and you're with other people. They one day tell you everything how they feel, how they want you but want closure. What do you do now? It took so long to heal my broken heart, and my closure was my soulmate happy with someone else till they brought it all back up for closure and now my heart is broken. They told me a love story could have been written about us.
Answer: The best advice is to talk to them. Try to keep them in your life, even if it's just as a friend. They will make your life a little brighter. You can never forget your soulmate so there's no use in trying to move on with someone else. Once you have met them, no one can replace them so why try. Since you have met your soulmate, you already know this to be true.
Question: His bday is December,12,1982 and mine is April 12, 1983. Are we possibly soulmates?
Answer: Sure if you feel that strong connection like no other with him.
Question: Is it possible that just one person might feel a soulmate connection and the other doesn't? It's really unbearable to live far from them when I'm experiencing this.
Answer: No, if it's really soulmates both people must feel the connection. You have to take into consideration that one person may not share their feelings about connection, yet still have it deep inside.
Question: Is it possible for a soulmate to be 3 months older than you but born the same year as you?
Answer: Yes as long as the male is older.
Question: I want to forget about my soulmate completely. What advice can you give so that I can forget about him?
Answer: That's a tough one. Once you meet your soulmate, it's near impossible to completely forget them. That doesn't mean that you can't live a full and happy life without him. Be thankful that you have met him, but if you can't be together right now, just try to live your life to the fullest and experience love again. You don't have to forget him but just try to be happy for you and if you're meant to be together eventually you will be. Maybe the timing just isn't right at the moment.
Question: I met my soulmate, but now I'm getting married to another man. I'm still in love with him. What can I do to help forget him?
Answer: Decide whether you can live with your decision. Would you rather be alone or with someone you know you don't really love? It's a tough one for sure.
Question: If you find your soulmate, but they chose someone else, do you think they ever come back?
Answer: Yes, they can come back because they were probably not ready for you yet and still needed to learn some lessons before you two could come together in the best way possible. The important thing here is that you met each other everything else will work itself out when it's meant to.
Question: What if the male was born in September 1999 and you were born in January 2000?
Answer: Yes, that works for a true soulmate connection. That is less than a year, only four months apart and the male is older.
Question: How can you prove about the age difference, I thought soulmates are against all odds?
Answer: Age doesn't matter in twinflame connnections, in soulmates it does.
Question: 8 months ago I saw a picture of a man who lives in a different country, he is now on every social media I have and I feel like I’ve known him forever; I feel like I can’t breathe without him; is this my soulmate?
Answer: That is possible. Have you tried to contact him through social media? Maybe you should talk to him.
Question: I saw a boy at the line of a concert I went to last month, and I felt like we would meet again one day. I still haven't forgotten what he looks like. Can he possibly be my soulmate?
Answer: Yes, if you still think of him it might mean he will be back in your life.
Question: We are both married but we strongly believe we are soulmates. How can we deal with the attraction between the two of us, despite our marriages?
Answer: Decide what you really want from this connection. If just staying friends so you can be in each other's life is enough then do that. If that's not enough then decide if you both want to leave your partners and be together. If neither of those is possible, then the only other option is to love each other from a distance. But when you make the decision, each makes sure it's the best for both of you and if it really makes you happy.
Question: I am already 28 and I haven’t met my soulmate yet. Is it possible for me to meet my soulmate in future?
Answer: Yes you can meet your soulmate or twin flame at any age.
Question: I met my soulmate, he was exactly 1 month older than me. I only had a chance to spend 6 months of my life with him and then he passed away. I’ve never felt pain like this and I feel so lost. Will soulmates always meet again in the next life?
Answer: Yes, soulmates will usually always meet again. You can never lose the person meant for you. People are simply energy that changes form, it is never fully destroyed. It just moves from one dimension to the next.
Question: I feel like I met my soulmate but he's nothing like the type of guys I would go for but I'm still dating although he is thousand of miles away from. Do you think my relationship could be a flame twin experience and not a soulmate?
Answer: Yes, it's possible that it's a twin flame experience.
Question: Can I meet my soulmate in this life? I really want to as I don't want to like someone other than my soulmate. Is there a way?
Answer: Yes, it's possible to meet your soulmate in this life.
Question: I feel like I met my soulmate but he's a year and 7 months older than me. Can an older man still be my soulmate?
Answer: Maybe he is a twin flame rather than a soulmate. Age doesn't matter when it comes to twin flames.
Question: I’m pretty certain I know who my soulmate is. But we’ve never met. I have been in the same room as them though. Is that even possible?
Answer: Yes, that is possible.
Question: What if my soulmate and I drifted apart and there is too much pain in our past to move forward?
Answer: Then you just live with the knowledge that you won't be together in this life. Sometimes just knowing that you have found your person and such a person exists is enough.
Question: Can soul mates be in a different range of life, like say maybe one is rich and the other one is poor?
Answer: Yes definitely. They can come from different economic backgrounds, different cultures, and even speak different languages. Your soulmate could live anywhere in the world.
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