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What It Feels Like to Meet Your Soulmate

Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.

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In our culture and society it is common to hear the word soulmate. Almost every woman who has ever fallen in love has called the object of her affection her soulmate. But is it really that simple? Is everyone we fall in love with a soulmate connection? What is the difference between "the one" and your soulmate? Is it the same thing or is there a significant difference? Let's find out.

I believe finding your soulmate is a once in a lifetime experience. You only get one soulmate. They are literally the other half of you. You only get one other half, you don't get five halves. Sometimes they can be your better half, but either way, together you are whole because both halves have been joined. When you find your soulmate you are literally fitting two halves together to make one whole. You feel a sense of finally being complete and finding your missing piece. Finding your soulmate can be both a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing if you meet and stay together, but a curse if you meet but the timing is wrong or other obstacles get in your way and you are forced to be apart. Once you feel that soulmate connection you are never the same again. It is a powerful invisible force that only you and your other half can feel. I feel it is almost better to never meet your soulmate at all then to have to meet them and then be forced to part because that can prove to be almost unbearable.

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So how do you know if you've met your true soulmate? If you have to talk yourself into it or even have to think about it then you know they're not your soulmate. When you feel a soulmate connection it's instant and you couldn't be more sure about it in your mind. It's like you just know deep inside that this particular person was meant for you and no one else in the world. There's no doubt or fear in your mind, in fact you have never been more sure of anything in your life like this. When you meet your soulmate for the first time, it won't feel like you're just meeting, you'll feel like you've known them forever but just haven't seen each other for awhile. Your soulmate will feel really familiar to you even though you've just met. If you had no prior knowledge of soulmates, this might be an almost awkward feeling because you're thinking to yourself "why does this person feel so familiar if we've only just met?" How can this possibly be happening because this is real life and not a fairy tale. The thing is you just know. Something inside of you recognizes them way before your mind can fully comprehend it. Your rational mind wants to find an explanation for it, but your soul already knows what it feels because its other half is found.

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After you meet your soulmate and feel all these feelings toward them your mind starts to catch up with your heart and soul. Suddenly, you feel like you can take on the world as long as you have this person by your side. You can do anything and go anywhere as long as they are there with you. You suddenly see your whole life ahead of you. If you've never wanted to have a family and children before suddenly you can't wait to get started with your soulmate. You start to see the world in a different and better way. If you were a pessimist before, suddenly you see life as the glass half full instead of half empty. You feel this sort of magnetic connection to them that you have never felt in your life before. You're no longer thinking of your ex-boyfriend or that guy who got away because they no longer exist to you. Your true soulmate connection makes you forget every other relationship you ever had because they no longer matter to you. It's like your heart and soul has been asleep all this time and they're finally waking up. This is what love really feels like and it is truly the best drug around because it's the human soul on fire.

The connection between you and your soulmate is unlike anything else you have ever experienced. Sometimes you don't even need words to convey your feelings. When words are used, you finish each others' sentences. You seem to know what the other is thinking even before you say it. You have many things in common of course. The different talents you each have come together and fulfill one another. The things you lack in are the things he excels in so you can learn from him and the things you are good in he may not know much about which means he can learn from you. Between the two of you, together, you have everything you need to be truly happy. Everything suddenly makes more sense about the world and it truly feels like its meant to be. This is the way love is supposed to feel like and everything else is just fiction.

Your soulmate is your best friend and your biggest fan. They love you with their whole heart and soul and would gladly give up their life for yours. It is an unconditional sort of love. The kind where you know you can make mistakes and mess up but they will still be there for you always. Your soulmate doesn't play games or make you chase him. There is no room for such foolish things when it comes to a connection this strong and real. You never have to wonder your soulmate's feelings for you because they will let you know everyday and in every way possible. There is no lack of trust or communication in a soulmate connection. Your soulmate cheers you on through life and is your biggest supporter. They help you become the best possible version of yourself and if you happen to fall they will pick you up and carry you. They will fight your battles for you and defend you to the moon and back. Your soulmate is the definition of the best partner a person can have.

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So what's the difference between a soulmate and "the one"? Well, I believe there's only one person that is truly meant for everyone and that is their soulmate. This is the only person who you will be the happiest with out of all of the other people on the planet. It doesn't mean that just because you don't find your soulmate that you can't be happy. I believe you can be happy with a lot of people. You could fall in love with someone and be truly content and happy with that person even if they're not your soulmate. Sure, your connection may not be quite as strong as with a soulmate, but nonetheless you could still be in love. You would call this love "the one" because out of all your other relationships you chose this particular person to marry and have a family with. For you, this is your happily ever after and you stop searching for anyone else.

The truth is, you can't really know what a soulmate connection is unless you've felt it. It's not something that is easy to describe. But once you feel it you will know what I mean. It's a feeling that is unlike any other. That's why I said before that sometimes it's better not to meet your soulmate if you can't be together because it is way too hard to move on from that, impossible in fact. If you do meet your soulmate, it's best to do whatever possible to end up together for good. This type of connection only happens once in a lifetime and you simply can't let it slip away because it will definitely not happen again. I think you can even know if you've met your soulmate from a photo you see of someone who seems extremely familiar to you. If you see a person's photo and you just can't get them out of your mind because it's like you know them or recognize them and feel an undeniable connection, then it might be worth it to check it out and see if you can meet them in person because this could be the soulmate you've been waiting your whole life for. In this modern world of technology we live in, our soulmate could be just a click away! I think when it's time for soulmates to meet and they are meant to be together nothing can truly stand in their way. Distance is never an obstacle. Circumstances could never interfere. Other romantic interests could never stand a chance against a soulmate connection. It's like it was written in the stars. An example of a soulmate connection that I can think of is the movie The Notebook. I think this is about as close to a soulmate connection as you can see in the movies these days.

So why does a soulmate connection feel so familiar to you even if you've just met this person? I think it's because souls can recognize each other from other past lifetimes. Your mind may not remember it, but your soul does. When you meet your soulmate, you're feeling like you're finally coming home. It's like you've been away for awhile, but you're home now. Soulmates usually know each other in other lifetimes and have probably planned to meet in every lifetime, possibly even this one. Your true soulmate is the same age as you within a year. If you're female, and they're male they need to be older, even if it's just within a few days, but it's still within a year. So if my birthday is October 1, 1990, my soulmate's birthday would be within one year of that so anywhere from October 1, 1989 to September 30, 1990 works. The male needs to be older because it has to do with how God created Adam before Eve and so the woman is created from the rib of a man which means the man needs to be created first.

So what happens if you meet your soulmate and it's just not meant to be and you don't end up together in this life? Well, that's a tough one. Like I said, it's better not to have met them than to have met them and had to part. You can't miss what you don't know but if you already know what a soulmate connection feels like then it's impossible to forget. I don't think anyone really moves on from a soulmate connection. Sure, they can get married to someone else and seem to have their life in order but they will always remember what true love felt like with their soulmate. Losing your soulmate is like the one who got away times 100. You will always compare every guy or girl you meet to your soulmate. You'll look for qualities in that person that you had in your soulmate. Sometimes, it even goes so far as looking for people who physically look like your soulmate that seem attractive to you simply because it's like a piece of your soulmate is in them. That's why it is much better to stay with your soulmate if you meet them or not meet at all, because the other option is simply too much to handle.

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If you've met your true soulmate, life is pretty amazing for you. You have your best friend and your true love all in one package. Being in love is good for your health, but being in love with your soulmate is amazing for your health. What can you look forward to in the coming years with your soulmate? Great health, many long years together, and fulfillment in every aspect of your life. Are you a creative type that needs inspiration for your work? Well your soulmate provides that and much more. You will never be uninspired or lack motivation again. Writer's block? No such thing with your soulmate around. Everyday you will wake up and be excited to live life. It won't really matter where you live because as long as you have each other that's all you really need. Nothing seems impossible or out of reach. If you have met your soulmate and you end up together in this life, you can consider yourself one of the luckiest human beings alive. This is a blessing that very few know about and even less actually get to experience it. It's truly a once in a lifetime type of thing. And really, if you're going to fall in love, who better to fall in love with than the only person who was truly meant for you?

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Questions & Answers

Question: Can there be more than a year difference between soulmates?

Answer: No, you might be having a twin flame experience. This is similar in some ways, but you're definitely not soulmates. What's the age difference and who's older?

Question: Just curious from another question somebody else asked, do you have to be the same age in order to be soulmates?

Answer: Within a year, and the male is always older.

Question: How will I know that I've met my soulmate?

Answer: You'll know it with every fiber of your being. There'll be no doubt in your mind about it. No question.

Question: Is it possible to feel and experience similar physical and emotional pain that my soulmate is undergoing, even though we're far apart?

Answer: Yes, definitely. I've experienced it myself.

Question: What the difference between twin flames and soulmates?

Answer: You only have one soulmate. You can have many twin flames.

Question: I am heading toward divorce and in the process KNOW I've met my soulmate. Unfortunately, he is also married (I suspect unhappily but that hasn't been completely revealed yet). I feel with all my heart and soul that he is truly my missing half. I don't know if we'll ever get together but wish the universe would do that for us! Is there any way to influence the universe ... seriously?

Answer: I think if you're meant to be together, it'll happen at some point. In the meantime, just stay positive and stay friends with him. Be in his life and see how it all plays out. Good luck :)

Question: If you meet your soulmate at the wrong time (too young) and are forced to cut them off, is it possible to get back to them later in the future when both have matured?

Answer: Yeah of course. The important thing is you found them. When it's really soulmates, time and distance means nothing. It'll work out against all odds if that is what is supposed to happen.

Question: Is it possible for one person to KNOW you are soulmates, but the other doesn’t feel the same?

Answer: Both people have to feel it on some level if they are soulmates. Maybe they are just scared of the intensity of their feelings.

Question: Can you lose your soulmate and then find them again?

Answer: Yes, it can happen.

Question: What if he already has a girlfriend? He says we are soulmates and he loves me. He doesn’t want to hurt the girlfriend. I can see the pain and struggle in his eyes. What do I do?

Answer: Let the relationship run its course. If you guys are really soulmates and meant to be together it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. The important thing is you met in the first place. Everything else is just details.

Question: I know who my soulmate is, but they are a celebrity and live far away. How will my distant soulmate and I ever reach each other?

Answer: If you are meant to meet it'll happen somehow. Don't give up.

Question: Is it possible that you met your soulmate at a really young age and is it possible for the connection to last forever?

Answer: Yes, once soulmate connections are made they are never forgotten.

Question: Could my soulmate be someone I barely knew 10 years ago but never forgot? Now we have met up and it feels natural and comfortable.

Answer: Sure it's possible. You never forget your soulmate, no matter how many years ago you met.

Question: Does everyone have a soulmate?

Answer: Yes, but not everyone meets their soulmate.

Question: Will the universe create a pathway for you to be together or have similar experiences etc. so you can be connected?

Answer: Soulmates are always connected, whether they are together or not. They live parallel lives even if they have never met. I do believe we meet them for a reason, so maybe you met, spent years apart because you weren't ready, and then reconnected after some time to be together again. I believe it all happens for a reason and when it's time for soulmates to be together, no one and nothing can keep them apart.

Question: I believe I've met my soulmate, but she is ten years younger. Could a past life have been cut short making this possible or have I not really met my soulmate?

Answer: She is probably not your soulmate; there's too much of an age difference.

Question: Can your soulmate be already married to another?

Answer: Yes, it's possible.

Question: I feel that I have met my soulmate, and he feels the same way, but he is a little over 3 months older than me. He is unlike anyone I have ever met, and the feelings described above match with both of ours except the age part. Is he really not my soulmate?

Answer: Three months older is fine as long as it's the male that is older.

Question: If you find your soulmate, but they chose someone else, do you think they ever come back?

Answer: Yes, they can come back because they were probably not ready for you yet and still needed to learn some lessons before you two could come together in the best way possible. The important thing here is that you met each other everything else will work itself out when it's meant to.

Question: His bday is December,12,1982 and mine is April 12, 1983. Are we possibly soulmates?

Answer: Sure if you feel that strong connection like no other with him.

Question: Is it possible that just one person might feel a soulmate connection and the other doesn't? It's really unbearable to live far from them when I'm experiencing this.

Answer: No, if it's really soulmates both people must feel the connection. You have to take into consideration that one person may not share their feelings about connection, yet still have it deep inside.

Question: Is it possible for a soulmate to be 3 months older than you but born the same year as you?

Answer: Yes as long as the male is older.

Question: I want to forget about my soulmate completely. What advice can you give so that I can forget about him?

Answer: That's a tough one. Once you meet your soulmate, it's near impossible to completely forget them. That doesn't mean that you can't live a full and happy life without him. Be thankful that you have met him, but if you can't be together right now, just try to live your life to the fullest and experience love again. You don't have to forget him but just try to be happy for you and if you're meant to be together eventually you will be. Maybe the timing just isn't right at the moment.

Question: I met my soulmate, but now I'm getting married to another man. I'm still in love with him. What can I do to help forget him?

Answer: Decide whether you can live with your decision. Would you rather be alone or with someone you know you don't really love? It's a tough one for sure.

Question: What if the male was born in September 1999 and you were born in January 2000?

Answer: Yes, that works for a true soulmate connection. That is less than a year, only four months apart and the male is older.

Question: How can you prove about the age difference, I thought soulmates are against all odds?

Answer: Age doesn't matter in twinflame connnections, in soulmates it does.

Question: 8 months ago I saw a picture of a man who lives in a different country, he is now on every social media I have and I feel like I’ve known him forever; I feel like I can’t breathe without him; is this my soulmate?

Answer: That is possible. Have you tried to contact him through social media? Maybe you should talk to him.

Question: So you met your soulmate, and like you said better to have not met them.. you were torn apart young, paths crossed and you're with other people. They one day tell you everything how they feel, how they want you but want closure. What do you do now? It took so long to heal my broken heart, and my closure was my soulmate happy with someone else till they brought it all back up for closure and now my heart is broken. They told me a love story could have been written about us.

Answer: The best advice is to talk to them. Try to keep them in your life, even if it's just as a friend. They will make your life a little brighter. You can never forget your soulmate so there's no use in trying to move on with someone else. Once you have met them, no one can replace them so why try. Since you have met your soulmate, you already know this to be true.

Question: I saw a boy at the line of a concert I went to last month, and I felt like we would meet again one day. I still haven't forgotten what he looks like. Can he possibly be my soulmate?

Answer: Yes, if you still think of him it might mean he will be back in your life.

Question: We are both married but we strongly believe we are soulmates. How can we deal with the attraction between the two of us, despite our marriages?

Answer: Decide what you really want from this connection. If just staying friends so you can be in each other's life is enough then do that. If that's not enough then decide if you both want to leave your partners and be together. If neither of those is possible, then the only other option is to love each other from a distance. But when you make the decision, each makes sure it's the best for both of you and if it really makes you happy.

Question: I am already 28 and I haven’t met my soulmate yet. Is it possible for me to meet my soulmate in future?

Answer: Yes you can meet your soulmate or twin flame at any age.

Question: I met my soulmate, he was exactly 1 month older than me. I only had a chance to spend 6 months of my life with him and then he passed away. I’ve never felt pain like this and I feel so lost. Will soulmates always meet again in the next life?

Answer: Yes, soulmates will usually always meet again. You can never lose the person meant for you. People are simply energy that changes form, it is never fully destroyed. It just moves from one dimension to the next.

Question: I feel like I met my soulmate but he's nothing like the type of guys I would go for but I'm still dating although he is thousand of miles away from. Do you think my relationship could be a flame twin experience and not a soulmate?

Answer: Yes, it's possible that it's a twin flame experience.

Question: Can I meet my soulmate in this life? I really want to as I don't want to like someone other than my soulmate. Is there a way?

Answer: Yes, it's possible to meet your soulmate in this life.

Question: I feel like I met my soulmate but he's a year and 7 months older than me. Can an older man still be my soulmate?

Answer: Maybe he is a twin flame rather than a soulmate. Age doesn't matter when it comes to twin flames.

Question: What if my soulmate and I drifted apart and there is too much pain in our past to move forward?

Answer: Then you just live with the knowledge that you won't be together in this life. Sometimes just knowing that you have found your person and such a person exists is enough.

Question: I’m pretty certain I know who my soulmate is. But we’ve never met. I have been in the same room as them though. Is that even possible?

Answer: Yes, that is possible.

Question: Can soul mates be in a different range of life, like say maybe one is rich and the other one is poor?

Answer: Yes definitely. They can come from different economic backgrounds, different cultures, and even speak different languages. Your soulmate could live anywhere in the world.

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Comments

Leila on August 30, 2020:

How about when they are 1 year old and some months older than you, for example: they were born on March 4 2000 and I was born on September 24 2001... Also, we were both women but she has a tomboy style

sia on August 19, 2020:

Hey. i think i met my soulmate in a holiday many years ago but we were young (we have 1 year difference) and far away so it was difficult to be together but talking for a while,, and many times that i got there, i saw him from far away. recently i saw him in my place and say hi and we were both extremely nervous, but now still do not have any contact. Is it possible to meet again?

Kate on August 15, 2020:

I think I met my soulmate as to when I first met him I felt a connection as to it normally takes me two weeks to like them and he said it normals takes him a week to like them and he like me the first day we met and he like two years older then me

The Very Truth on August 14, 2020:

Meeting your soulmate was very easy back in the old days with no trouble at all for the men back then. Women were very different in those days since they really didn't have much at all, and had to struggle to make ends meat as well which is why it was very easy in those days. So the men back then really had it made when they found real love since it was the women back then that had really made this world grow very much in population along with the men. Now that the women today are very different which really does make it very difficult for many of us single men trying to find love now, and unfortunately the women today aren't like the past at all which really adds to the problem. Women today are very high maintenance, independent, since they really don't need a man anymore, very selfish, greedy, spoiled, picky, cheaters, since they just can't stay committed to only one man anyway, gold diggers, since they love going with much older men just for the money as well. So these are very excellent reasons why many of us single good men can't find our soulmates at all. Very sad how the women today have really changed, and the ones with their careers are the worst altogether since they really think they're all that which their not anyway. And it is these type of women that will only want the very best of all, and will never ever settle for less because of their greed and selfishness that is everywhere today unfortunately. Very obvious why so many single men are going MGTOW now because of this.

megsofram on August 10, 2020:

Like @salva below, I am 8 months older than my soulmate. Everything else in this article jives with us, but the age one does not. That doesn't bother me because he feels like home, our connection and chemistry is off the chart, and I don't ever want to lose him. Thanks for the article!

Isaac Braunei on August 01, 2020:

Hey pleasee answer, i met my soulmate in a different country, where i dont live, but i couldnt talk to her and i’ve never seen her again, its been 6 months, will i meet her again?

Laura B on July 14, 2020:

This is a beautiful article, but unfortunately, you lost me by saying "the man is always older" in response to a question asked above.

My soulmate & I are both women. We both knew within seconds of meeting that we recognized each other and needed to be together. It was a new, scary & beautiful experience that neither one of us had ever experienced. We are a year & 5 months apart.

Soulmates are soulmates, love is love.

Period.

chinitagirl on July 13, 2020:

i met one man again by chance thru a dating site..i already met him 5 years ago only one time.then we lost communication..but this time i can feel the connection.he is oldee than me by 1 year and 4 mos..is it possible that he is my soulmate?thres smething i cannot explain..weird feeling but nice..unexplainable

Sneha on July 08, 2020:

Why only less than 1 year or 1 year matters in soulmate. Why not more than that?? Please, explain..

Corrie on July 02, 2020:

I've met my soul mate and agree with most what you say we are separated at the moment one of us is married one in a long time relationships painful heart ache being apart my be we will get together will have to wait and see but the only thing is the age im older being the woman and more than a year in our ages but that never bothered him Nothing bothered him he wants a future with me always has he said its destiny but we are doing what we need to do to be together again unconditional love

Honey Love on June 29, 2020:

whoever wrote this article is right once you meet your soulmate it's like no one can compare I met mines 4 years after I had gotten married and it is hard to part from my soulmate now

Salva on June 23, 2020:

I met my soulmate last year but i'm 8months older than him.

SJ on June 20, 2020:

I think I love these comments as much as the article, thank you. I was a believer in "twin-flames" and "soulmates" all my life until I realized I was putting this impossible, ridiculous standard on finding the right person. I believed there was "one" man for me and we would just "know," and while my husband and I fell quickly for each other (we were engaged 4 months from hello and we didn't meet in person for the first two months we were dating), he isn't the only person that I could have a strong, deep, amazing connection with.. Don't get me wrong, he is one of a kind, and by far the best man I met in my dating years, but I truly think in my case that believing there was only one person for me in a world of billions of people was unrealistic, avoidant and maybe even an intimacy problem. I could have had an amazing connection and relationship with more than one person in this crazy world and that's a good thing! But I readily admit that finding a deep, and truthful connection with someone is rare. To me it's not about finding your soul mate which mounds an incredible amount of pressure on you when you're dating, but rather finding soul-mate love. A love that's honest, deep, passionate, and obviously mutual :P I also think it happens quick. I'm a person who can grow to love someone, so when my husband and I were at "I love you" so quickly (6 years ago) I actually trusted myself and US so much more, as crazy as that might sound.

Dawn on May 20, 2020:

I’m just gonna put this out there. I went to school with a boy Called Paul and we were boyfriend and girlfriend at primary In our Naivete. Then his mother moved house and moved him schools we never saw each other again until we were both in our 20’s and I was in a relationship. He was in the army but it just seemed that every time he was home we would bump into each other randomly but nothing ever happened until a a few years later in the year 2000 We stubbled upon each other on one of his leaves from the army, we spent the night together and a few stolen hours over a weekend as I was married and my husband was away for that weekend. Then I ended contact with him and got back to married life. He was always in my thoughts and dreams. My marriage ended in 2005 and I drifted from one bad relationship to an even worse bad relationship until I managed to free myself 2 years ago and have been single since. At the beginning of April 2020 I decided to look him up on Facebook and there he was I added him and he was in touch within a hour and has moved back home with his mum after another failed relationship in his many lists of relationships. We have been dating since mid April and it’s been great. He inspires me, compliments me, etc etc. Through taking we have found our paths have crossed many times but we never new. We worked in the same supermarket for years but never meet even though I new lots of his friends at work. He was also in the army with my brother which we later found out. The only downside is his ex, she is constantly on the phone to him and badgering him and he feels obligated to talk to her as she’s on her own through covid. She doesn’t know about me but he says he has his reasons. Our sex is so intense and magical that we both feel it, he said he’s never experienced anything on this level before. I am more guarded but feel I need to be due to the ex and my past relationships. It’s took me a 20 years of soul searching but I think he’s my soul mate or is this just euphoria?

Champagne on May 03, 2020:

It a curse, because I already have someone when I met her, it was an intense feeling that I have never felt in any woman before, its the feeling of familiarity and comfort. Its unreal like majic.

Rae on April 30, 2020:

30 years ago I met my soulmate when we were kids. 2 weeks ago my engagement to another man ended. 2 days ago my soulmate and I commented on the same random blog within a few minutes of each other. We found each other after 20 years of no contact. We live in the same city and didn't know it. I used to be religious, but have been an atheist for years. This was magical, my destiny, and the only explanation is that finding each other again is a gift from God.

Meka on April 15, 2020:

Thank you very reaffirming...

Shanaya on April 13, 2020:

I met someone on FB...he is 12 years older than me...but after meeting him, I can feel that I m motivated ...I m no more inactive and I always try to do something new...to know something new...My dream ,my goal is clear to me now...I don't know he likes me or not...but I like him so much...whenever I talk to him,I feel anxious..He always makes me feel happy ..is he my soulmate????

Rainbow on April 03, 2020:

What if the female is Nov. 1972 and the male is Oct. 1973 - obviously female is older than male so they’re not soul mates yes? Even all the other aspects you have mentioned does exist in the situation now (after 35yrs. from grade 10 of being classmates)

VNK on February 20, 2020:

I always thought that the word soulmate was just a word people threw around, almost like a new fad. From what I am reading I guess it is really special. I don't hear that word to often though. I am 55 years old and never been in love(never had a serious relationship actually). I feel depressed and my life really has no meaning, I don't know if a soulmate would help, because I have often heard it said that Happiness begins on the inside and works to the outside. I do envy people that are truly in love, it is special and does not happen to everyone. I think some people think they are in love and try to force the issue. I think my time has come and gone and it makes me sad. I think if everyone had a "soulmate" the world would be a lot happier and peaceful. Thanks for reading. 2-20-2020

Hleketa on January 23, 2020:

I believe I've found my soulmate. I think we both felt it. I can not describe the feeling, the feeling is so strong. The only problem is he is 3 years younger than me.

Your Caramel Moon on December 22, 2019:

When your soulmate is far away, check the place where you can clearly see the moon and stars, in a place where even a cat and dog can be friends. In that place, under that clear sky, you will discover clarity like you have never seen it before.

Londen on October 25, 2019:

I believe I found my soulmate tonight. I think we both felt it. It was such an intense feeling. I felt it in my soul and bones. I noticed how I and he had a staring moment. When he creased my cheek I felt warm despite the cold nipping my ears. I knew it was so wrong considering we both have significant others but, it felt right. I felt comfortable with him. I felt like I knew him my whole life. Like it was meant to be.

Crystal jaketo selassie on October 21, 2019:

I know for a fact that your soulmate can be much older mimes is 12 years older I meet him first in my dreams ,when we meet In the physical it was the most mystical feeling ever ,he new me it was magical without words we connected automatic ,it's been 16 years sense ,I still feel exactly the same way even tho we have not had a relationship he is a musician an writes about our encounter ever sense it like we bout know we are ment for each other we are just waiting for the universe to brings us together he is my true inspiration I love him I just can't explain to any one I know we were born just for each other .

Anne on October 18, 2019:

He is born 5th January 1983 and me 2nd July 1983 and have an incredibly strong connection. Could we be soulmates?

Andas on September 26, 2019:

I know i have met my soulmate but he is 4 years younger than me. Could this be possible?

Bee-me on August 13, 2019:

Why can't the guy be younger?. I'm dating a guy I believe is my soulmate yet he is four months younger than me. I always thought that the order of birth didn't matter but the age time did.

Jutt on August 10, 2019:

I work with a tall (I'm 6'2" she's 5' 10"), beautiful, bubbly, blond, athletic, witty, smart, wonderfully positive woman for the past 6 years who's name is Mary. I've never pursued Mary because I was married.

She divorced around 3 years ago and I'm going through a divorce (married 10 years) with a woman that I have never really been physically or spiritually attracted too, much less a "soulmate". Why did I get married to her in the first place you ask?! Exactly.

Back to the present and on a whim, I was chatting with Mary at a work related happy hour and FAR too many drinks later we hooked up. Even during drunken sex and hanging out afterword, there was something there that I've never felt before.

I pursued her further. She then pursued me and explained that I was the cute guy in the office and she has long been attracted to me but she held off due to my marital status. I explained basically the same thing in reverse. So she has a moral code that matches mine. Check.

We got back together on a Friday and connected in the most powerful yet comfortable of ways. We talked for hours and realized we're compatible on attraction, intellectual and political/moral lines. We then had the most powerful sex I've ever, ever, ever, ever experienced. It was like being on another planet. But the sex was only 10 out of 10 great because of a powerful chemistry between the 2 of us. We stared into each others eyes during sex and the connection was unmistakable. I've NEVER experienced that before and have had plenty of sex with plenty of other women prior to being married.

We've since hung out another night and I truly feel like I've found my soulmate. Mary feels the same.

For context, I'm 42 now and have dated around 25 plus girls throughout my life. Hooked up with others. Had a couple of those I was "in love" with. Almost married one after 2 years of dating. Married another as mentioned above. But NONE of those relationships and flings even approach what I feel with Mary.

We'll see where this goes but I truly feel like my soulmate is the wonderful woman I've worked with for the past 6 years. Go figure, we've essentially known each other for 6 years.

Debi Shoemaker on August 04, 2019:

My husband died 9 yrs agoib I've

hey on July 22, 2019:

so how do I know I've met my soulmate? How do I know that if, I have met my soulmate, that it was someone I've never thought about, or someone who I like currently? People are saying that yu have to have no doubt in your mind, but that's like having a crush!!! How do I know???

SR8695 on June 20, 2019:

Hi there! I think I've met my soulmate. I waas born on 8 June 1995, he was born on 18 May 1996. Our birthdays are exactly 3 weeks apart. We were together for about half a year before we were forced to return to our home countries upon our graduation in the UK. we broke up in August last year, but carried on our relationship until December 18. Then we went our separate ways for good. We are not in contact anymore, basically blocked each other from social media. Out of sight, out of mind, right? But I think of him every now and then. And each time I do, I pray for him in silent. I want him to be happy and well. That no one would ever hurt him, ever. I want the best for him. However, I miss him. A lot. I wonder if our paths will ever cross again. Because our love story was magical. From the start, it feels surreal. I met him on a speed date, the night I met him was the night we first kissed and the kiss feels familiar even though it's the first kiss. We hit it off, obviously. He said I was the only woman, non-biologically related to him that he has ever loved and said he loves. And he was the first man I truly, truly love. We really shined each other and taught each other a lot of things to be better people. I hope one day our paths will cross again. Do you think it's ever possible? And do you think we are soul mates? I hope we are and I'm not delusional,

Namita on June 17, 2019:

Is it possible the soulmate is younger than me?

denise on June 08, 2019:

i met Robert. A few days then he was gone

Viviane324 on May 26, 2019:

I have met my soulmate, sadly he had passed away on April 16, 2019. We were together for 4 yrs and engaged for 3yrs. We were planning our wedding just before he passed as well as everything else most engaged people had plans for the rest of their lives together.

His birthday was Dec. 4, 1982 and mine March 24, 1983. From the moment we first met and locked eyes, there was a sense of familiarity. Just like what you said, it felt like I had known him from before. We were always in sync with each other. Our personalities were opposite but there was a sense of common ground and we balanced each other out. Whatever I lacked he had helped me get through it and taught me how to overcome my fears and insecurities and vice versa. He was the only person that understood me. We had a really good communication and never felt judged whenever we expressed how we felt towards each other. We had trust and love like no other. I always felt everything within the core of my heart and being when I was with him. He knew my every thought and feelings without me ever having to say anything. We were so connected in every possible way.

Although losing him is extremely painful, I don’t regret ever meeting him because I know we will find each other again and finally be together even if it’s not in this life but in another.

Sade on May 23, 2019:

Hello my name is Sade I want to know if it's normal to feel pain being apart from your soulmate I've been talking to my soulmate for 10 months and now we met in person I know he's my soulmate we live far apart and it hurts being apart from him I need an answer is it normal

MyNameIsNini on April 27, 2019:

I met this guy at my local Starbucks 2 years ago. Idk how to explain it but I'm sure he felt that spark too, like something clicked, and we both smiled at each other. Went back 3 more time and then stopped for almost a year because we moved. Fast forward to September 2018, I saw him again at the same coffee shop, and immediately my heart started leaping from what I can tell was excitement but also I was nervous! And the look on his face shows how he was shocked as well and then he smiled and I was way too shy to smile back(also I'm an introvert so my social skills are MIA). This went on everytime I visited to grab a drink and he would always say 'Hi' and act all stupid and shy but he's never asked me out. Not even my number. This year I tried to reach him through Facebook. Sadly, he could only be added through mutuals so I added a friend of his whom I knew worked alongside him in the same coffee shop. After that, he ignores me. I messaged him and he tells me I'm "malandi" (it's when a girl is too flirty) but I only said 'Hi'. What do you think happened?

Wendy on April 19, 2019:

I believe Matt is my soulmate, but may be the same Matt who felt 13 months ago he lost his 22 yrs. ago, and still loves her. He says his ex is his best friend and they get together twice a week due to their 17 yr. old daughter. So, although the connection was intense,unexplainable, magical and unlike anything else I have experienced in the early stages; it must be one - sided; for he would not have feelings for his ex.

Paulette Crawford on April 08, 2019:

I believe I have found my soul mate. He first started saying this to me, now I feel so much the same. We can talk for hours, however we are quite a distance from each other. He is in Malaysia and I am in U.S. but we love each other very much. are bithdays are November 16, 61 for me and june 12, 59 for his. are we okay?

Victoria on April 06, 2019:

My spiritual soulmate seems like years we parted due to and recently met up and it's like we never left.

I feel strongly in my heart knowing he's close and telepath within my mind we will see one another.

My heart leaps out of my mouth to want to cradle that love of expression and to never let go and the smile of a few words is enough to hold and take away with me.

I believe in strongly that two souls were meant to be no matter what soulmate slash the greatest friend.

Sugar Love on March 23, 2019:

My soulmate & I met 3 decades ago. We knew we were soulmates but he married. I married & am widowed. He reached out to me all of a sudden & when we met we felt it again. We’re lovers. He knows we’re meant to be together but is afraid. How can I help him? I know I will never find anyone like him again in this lifetime.

Mag on February 23, 2019:

i broke off from my privious relations and stopped dating..while back i caught this ada guy with his eyes starring at me..now i have got this strange feeling deep inside me that i cannot explain and i have never expirienced in my life...immediatetly when i see him..my whole mood and body changes..like i have this feeling of shock in my body..could he be my soul mate?

Jordan Crumpton on January 26, 2019:

Everything you said is spot on and to add to it, the person I believe to be my soulmate looks like me, so much in fact you might think we're twins. She talks like me, has the same interests as me, same humour as me, same goals as me, pulls the same expressions as me, has been through the same or similar experiences I've been through and more, but our age gap is 2 years, 9 months and 25 days (which is really close to my parents age gap. My dad is 2 years, 9 months and 4 days older than my mum and coincidentally, me, my parents and the person I proclaim as my soulmate were all born on a Friday). Maybe she's my twin flame, but I don't believe there is someone else in the world like her. We have as much in common as identical, biological twins (like The Dolan Twins for example). Also, what you said about it being a blessing to be with them but a curse to find them at the wrong time is completely true. She's an online personality (YouTuber, which is also an interest of mine and has been way before she started) and she's been with someone for just over a year now (she has no clue I exist other than liking and replying to a bunch of my tweets, but she has described me as her type almost exactly. Also, my profile picture is really old and low quality, so she wouldn't feel a connection through my picture - I look almost nothing like it the quality is that bad and old). I've never been in a relationship before and now that I know she exists, I'm convinced I'll never be with anyone. I feel the connection you talk about with her and now that I know what it feels like, I know I'll never find that with someone else and I'm not the type to settle. If she rejected me before she went into a relationship, I'd have a reason to move on because I'd know the connection or fondness isn't there, but I'm left wondering if she would've felt the same connection as me (which I believe she would have). To make matters worse, if she was single again, I don't think I could be with her. As she's a YouTuber, I've seen her with this person and seen her talk about him in a passionate and idolising way. The thought that she's been with many others, I've seen her with someone else on camera and I haven't been with anyone, I'd feel inadequate, inferior and melancholy - how could I spend my life with someone when I'd feel this way? I can't go on a date with anyone because I can't be with them and the only way I feel I could be with her (if she was single again), is if I'd been with the same amount of people or at least 3 people (I know she's been with at least 3 people even though I think she's been with more, but I don't care about body count, I just want to feel happy, not melancholy. Knowing there's a couple people in the world who've been with her and no one for me would affect my happiness). I have so many coincidences I could talk about that relate us in some way (with proof), but there's too much to type on here. In conclusion, I know that she's either my soulmate or twin flame and I feel like I'll never be able to move on from her - it feels impossible. I think it would've been better for me if I didn't know she exists, but now that I do, I want to be apart of her life and I don't even know if I'll have that. I wouldn't know how to approach her without coming across as 'wanting to be in her life because she's popular'.

Paula on January 24, 2019:

I knew the moment i saw him he was gonna be my husband he was also a year and a couple months older than i waited my whole life to find him i actually took the wrong bus i was supposed to go back to boston ware i lived i ended up in worcester we had a mutual friend i got a hotel and the next day i met him and a yr later we had a beautiful son and were together for almost 15 yrs sadly he passed away in 2015 of may and like i have been reading its absolutely unbarable to live without him i feel like im literally slowley dying from a broken heart its been 3yrs and it gets worse everyday i look for him in everyone i read if you cannot spend the rest of your life with him that it actually hurts a 100 times worse when u loose them i have no interest in moving on at all i believe with everything i have that he was my soulmate and we will find each other in our next life i actually had visions of things we had done that we hadnt done yet they say dajavue but it was to intense i believe we keep finding each other life after life i wont be with anyone else until i find him again i just turned 42 we met when i was 24 and he was almost 26 .so i have a ways to go maybe i will meet someone nice but i will never be complete wholey until i find him again.

swede johnson on January 11, 2019:

I met my soulmate 51 years ago. Everything you say is true except for one thing----we are 14 yrs, 11 mos. apart. The within 1 year of each other sure dosen`t apply here. It is still as intense as it was 51 years ago. I thank GOD everyday for sending her to me. It was absolutely love at first sight and after the first kiss my total being was hers. I am so happy I couldn`t begin to explain it.

Palice Horton my soulmate told me he fell in love with My Soul on January 03, 2019:

My soulmate told me he fell in love with My Soul even though I am 7 years older than them we truly do love each other long distance love to me are the best love is incredible well I'm with him I get butterflies just hearing his voice send chills up and down my spine I never been so happy in my whole life and I am glad I met him because he is truly my soulmate I feel it in my heart he's my other half of my heart we are expecting to get married how to make plans for our wedding when he come home we establish a life together we have planned for our future I am 52 years old and he is 45 so I really don't think age have nothing to do with it it's what you feel in your heart and I know deep down in my heart he all the one for my and he is my soulmate he makes me happy and he brought me so much joy I never been so happy in all my days he complete me just a mention of his name I start to blush in my heart start racing faster I love him with all my heart and he loves me and when we are together it's like we're on the planet all by myself no one else exists to me that's a true soulmate

jerome on December 01, 2018:

I love the color blue

Mariana on November 29, 2018:

Hello i think i met my soulmate 5 days ago when we fkrst met i directly sow a light on his eye and after we cpuldnt stop staring each other i feel the warmness when he is close i cant stop thinking of him i think he understood it to but what can i say to him what should i talk with him about this or should i let him explore by himself ?

lati on November 06, 2018:

Can a soul mate be in the same gender??

Kallie4 on October 31, 2018:

I met this man and there was a strong magnetic connection between us. I could feel his presence. The connection was so intense and intimate without us ever touching. Just hours of conversation. I feel him thinking about me and have confirmed that he is the next time I talk to him. Twin flame or soulmate?

MrSheen on October 12, 2018:

I met a girl 34 years ago, caving of all things. I was 29 she was 20. It came about as her mother was the friend of a good friend of mine. We both fell in love. Never clicked with anyone else like it. I only saw her a few times over a 3 year period. One day I happened to be visiting her mother when she happened to ring & I spoke to her. She wanted to see me again, but I had a wife & two tiny children. On the spur of the moment I said goodbye to her rather than have us arrange to meet again.

It was a knife edge decision. The attraction was so strong I didn't dare meet her. I knew my life could be blown apart & two children left in a broken family & my wife betrayed if I met her again because I'd want to see her again & again. That would almost inevitably result in serious marriage troubles or break up. But still every day I think of her after all this time.

Claire on October 01, 2018:

It all rang true until you threw in that part about Adam and Eve, and age differences. I’m a woman and my soulmate is 2 years younger then me, so, wrong. Also, Adam and Eve, like most of the Bible, is a fable. I think it’s possible to have more then one soulmate, especially if reincarnation is true. It would be next to impossible to meet your “one” soulmate if there were only one. There are what...7-8 billion people in the world? If there were only one, the chances of meeting your soulmate would be extremely slim, yet it’s not uncommon to hear of. If there were only one, and the numerous people who talk about their soulmate only had one, there would be an uneven number of interracial to uniracial soulmate connections, which isn’t the case. I’m a medical professional, but also a helpless romantic. Do soulmates exist? I literally FEEL like it’s possible, but even if it is, the numbers and logistics don’t support the theory that there is only one. Fun read. Regardless, when you find “the one”, your soul is singing a love song so peaceful and joyful, you know that what you have is rare. You hold on to him, as you grow a little wiser and kinder in the knowledge that, dreams, and true love, really do come true. Happy hunting

Jen on September 18, 2018:

Having only one soulmate is inaccurate... Sorry to say... We all have many different soulmates... It's called our soul group. I've met 4 so far.. Just recently this last one.. And I feel he is my soulmate life partner

amelia on August 28, 2018:

Hello,

I was travelling few months to middle east in Jordan specifically and met this guide .

The minute I saw him that was it my heart stopped he was the same as well – he kept looking me and smile.

Unfortunately, I couldn’t face it that I was feeling that way so I didn’t pursue this ever since that happened I regretted it.

4 months on I still think about it. What do I do? All the feelings you described I am feeling it!

Johnny on August 21, 2018:

Only thing i dont agree with this is you talked about souls from past time but than threw in a reference of adam and eve and can only be a year apart. Kind of contradicts everything, throwing in a religion remark with past life. Sonthats the only part i dont agree on is the within a year because if youbare going to base it on religion there is no saying on how long it was before God actually created eve. Time and calendars werent invented then

misuxzama@gmail.com on August 21, 2018:

I loved this guy deeply in my younger years. 13yrs later, we met and it instantly felt like we have never been apart. I feel a connection to intense (not reckless or disorderly), that i know without doubt we are soulmates. I feel so comfortable, sincerely secure and safe with him.

We are 3yrs apart however, with him being older.

Mar on August 06, 2018:

You are describing a twin flame. A twin flame happens once in a lifetime ( usually your last incarnation) and it is your other half. Your soul literally splits in two halves in order to fully grasp the lessons it was required to learn in 3D earth. Soulmates on the other hand are common. We can literally have thousands of soulmates in a lifetime. Your favorite teacher who helped you realize your love of math, your parents, bestfriends, co-workers, coaches, and even the mcdonalds worker who cheered you up with a joke when you were having a bad day. Soulmates enter you life at a specific time for a specific purpose and stay for a specific length of time. I blame the media for the overly romanticized view of soulmates. It is also important to note that soulmates are not always for a lifetime most are fleeting and temporary. As far as soulmate relationships go as with anything in life it is to learn a lesson. Soulmates will put you through the ringer and push you to grow and evolve. These relationships can be taxing and can be as beautiful as they are painful. You mention that every women thinks every guy she gets with is a soulmate, that is because they are lol. The problem is the misunderstanding of what that really means. There are other things out there besides soulmates. As I mentioned earlier, you have twin flames, soul companions, and karmic relationships. Soul companions usually get married and stay together. They sincerely care about each other and are very similar in their beliefs with few confrontations. This is the less intense soul relationship. You are not drawn together by crazy attraction or some wild encounter. You are together because of the comfort and stability that is provided. This isnt to say there is not love but it is not the passionate rollercoaster of a soulmate and that is perfectly okay. Maybe your soul needed a break from this insane crash course we call life. Not many challenges are presented with this pairing. Karmic relationships are often confused with soulmates but they are very different. As with soulmates you will feel this crazy attraction like a magnet drawing you to this person. Karmic relationships have EXTREME ups and downs. They are toxic to you and your growth and are often times abusive in nature physically and/or mentally. Soulmate relationships are never abusive! Karmic relationships happen when there is karma that needed to be worked out between you. Maybe you were an abusive or neglected parent in a past life and karma was owed in this life. Another reason for a karmic relationship is a promise made in another life. I have had this experience with an ex. When we met it was like time stopped and I felt something I can not describe in my stomach and chest. I thought to myself damn I feel like I know you but I know I dont. The relationship was a tornado of emotions. Cheating, abuse, manipulation you name it. We had extremly good times that were great and I will cherish them always but the bad times were some of the darkest in my life. We eventually seperated and I felt as if a weight was lifted. Of course I was sad but I felt light and free. About a year and a half later I found out that he and I had made a promise many many lifetimes ago to be together in the next life. Our souls had already learned as much as they could from each other but we continued meeting and trying to be together because of that 3000 year old promise. Karmic relationships need to be severed in order to begin healing. If you are in a karmic relationship google karmic release prayers; they work and are very powerful. Sorry for the long rant.

Sasha on July 28, 2018:

Hi I'm 30 years old and I have met my soulmate when I was 19, I was a wild virgin spending new years holidays in a busy beach. It was love at first sight and in that same night I gave myself to him. Unfortunately we lived in different countries, with different cultures, he was Muslim raised in the middle east and me a christian raised in Africa with a dream to become independent and empowered black woman. From that day we became so connected and we managed to find ways to see each other couple of times but talked on a daily basis. 2 years later unlikely for me after he came to visit me, he decided to brutally call for a quit, saying that our connection was too much to bear and he couldn't entertain me because we could never be together, he got an arranged marriage and we stop contact. That was devastating but after 3 months i met my actual husband and eventually I ended up married at age of 22 and we had 3 kids and happy life. Unfortunately after 7 years of silence my boss decides to send me on a training in the middle east, as was writing in the stars 2 weeks before my trip he came back connecting with me on linkedin, eventually we end up seeing each other and all those feelings came back into our lives. This year he traveled here to Africa only to see me, and the feelings just grow. We have two beautiful families and we can't divorce. we will never be together, i feel empty sometimes and I know nothing can be done, is the worse feeling but he made that decision 9 years ago when he decided to follow his culture. The feelings don't get away with time or distance, I have no idea why I love him so much but i just do. I respect my husband, he is a great man and i'm scared of hurting him.

LongLostLove on June 27, 2018:

So I definitely know I have met my soulmate.. We are not dating. I am dating someone who I love and can definitely see marrying but I am just with him for the comfort and security. I am completely in love with my soulmate and I know he feels the same way, we just live two different lives and we live in two different states. I want to be a doctor and he is in school to become a producer but he really wants to be a rapper. Bottom line is that we are complete opposites in more ways than one but one thing that is certain is our love for each other. He drives me insane in all the right ways, he challenges me to be better and do better. He pushes me to my limit.. he betters me not only as a woman and I am so in love with him.. there is a flutter that happens in my chest when I think of him but there is a reality to this... He is just in love with the thought of me.. If we had a chance to rewrite our story I would never. I would never rewrite all our times of laughter and hurt. Feels like I am under a spell and

Christy on June 25, 2018:

Everything about this is post is spot on except for age and a few other things. I believe either the girl can be older or guy, doesn't matter who, or even how many years older. I know because I'm a girl and older than my soulmate, but we felt that instant click, like we knew each other before, everything felt right, and so many emotions filled us all at once. It was like my heart got bigger and wanted to jump out of my chest. When we kissed the very first time we met in person, It didn't feel weird or wrong, and with our past relationships, kissing didn't feel right. But that one kiss and it felt like electrical sparks clicked within our bodies. And after the kiss, we couldn't breathe, but we didn't care. We just laughed and hugged each other while catching our breaths.

But when we met, we just knew. We could feel each other's emotions, happy, sad, frustration, joy, everything. We could finish each other's sentences, we would just know what the other was thinking or feeling, supported each other through the good and bad times, cried together when we couldn't cry in front of others. We had the same clumsiness, one moment he would do something clumsy, and a few days later I would accidentally do the same exact thing or vice versa, and instead of getting upset, we would both just laugh hysterically. Or we would get excited, happy, sad, or angry over the same things. We both get very protective of one another. And risked our lives for each other.

We love everything about one another even our flaws, we made it through the hardships together and trials, everything just felt amazing, we could talk without getting bored, everything. And from the moment we met, we just knew we wanted a family. We had no doubts, we could tell each other everything, both good, bad, embarrassing, past stuff, and still love one another. We trust each other to the point he uses my phone all the time and he lets me use his. We have the same friends, and even his family and our friends said just from looking at us, they can see that we were made for each other.

When he found out he was going to be a dad and I was pregnant, he cheered and started crying. He gets very protective of me and our little unborn baby boy. Now we're about to have our first baby soon and be married. Our love has been strengthened by both the joys and hardships God has presented us with, and now he is giving us a beautiful baby and it may be a long road ahead, but it's truly worth it to raise a beautiful family together.

People have tried to tear us apart, but our faith in God overcame those challenges, and my fiance literally cried while holding me saying he couldn't live a life without me, and refused to let people destroy what we had. We're happy to start a beautiful life and family together and we couldn't ask for anything more.

Julie on June 22, 2018:

I met my soulmate, we can not be together. He's unhappily married & can not get a divorce. I will be alone forever if I can not be with him & only him. No one compares to him.

Mike Mc Namara on May 21, 2018:

If you really met your soulmate, it's unlike anything you've experienced before. Many(most) people giving advice on soulmates are really just projecting their romantic fantasies upon people whom they consider to be their soulmates, and as such, they aren't qualified to give advice on the soulmate relationship. It's hard to tell. Just be careful listening to any advice on soulmates.

Paulina on May 20, 2018:

I met my soulmate and we can't be together. The feelings we have for each other cannot be described. It's love, joy, happiness, safety, passionate, euphoric all at once. Your heart is so overfilled tha it actually feels enlarged inside your body. When you are with your soulmate, nothing else matters. You both can take on the world together. My soulmate feels the same for me as I do for him. We cannot be together. I have never felt such heartache, emptiness, loneliness, sadness and pain and have been struggling for a while. Like the article said, it is best to never meet your soulmate if you can't be together. He is my first thought when I wake, my last thought before sleep and consumes every thought in between. I'm 45 and have never had this reaction towards someone in my life. He told me he feels the same way. The pain is unbearable to not be able to be together. The struggle is real.

Billie on May 11, 2018:

I love this !

A Colleen on May 06, 2018:

I met my soulmate when I was five years old. My only dream was to find the one person who would love me for me. Whenever I thought of that dream, the only person I can think of is my soulmate. I have crushes on some boys at school, but none of the compare to the true love I feel for my soulmate. The only future I can imagine is one with my soulmate. Last year, my soulmate started dating this other girl. I know that the way that him and I connect is nothing that he could have with anyone else, but I have never been able to tell him that I love him because I was so young and didn’t know about love. He is still dating this girl and I feel so much pain and longing for my soulmate to talk to me and hold me and care for me. My whole being is craving his soul and love and attention. I cry and can only deal with this pain on my own because I can’t tell anyone about my feelings because of his relationship with his girlfriend. Right now I am only 14 years old and my whole life since the first time I saw my soulmate I loved him. I grew up with all of these feelings that never went away no matter how old I got. The older I get the stronger my feeling for him get. Just having him in the same room as me sets my whole being and soul on fire and it’s been that way my whole life. But when he’s with me or around me, I am the best me I have ever been. He is the only person I could ever love and I could never ever stop loving him or be with anyone else. Other boys at school ask me out but I could never say yes because my soul won’t let me be involved with anyone else but my soulmate. I know that I have a place in his heart but he thinks that what he has with this other girl is true love but it’s not. I love him so much and that will never change.

Ava on May 06, 2018:

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Bruce on April 27, 2018:

Hello! Yes I have found my soul mate which I have been searching for my whole life! She has ignited a fiery energy with in me! She has the same feelings and feed back! When I’m with her o feel at peace 100% and when I am not in the same room I can’t wait to see, be and kiss her! I will do anything for her and our circumstances are difficult that we can’t be together(WHY yelling loudly) I will do what ever I can to be with her and said I will wait as long as it takes even if I am 80yrs of age! It’s amazing I can’t get my body nerves/ soul to calm and forget what I have felt and unlocked! I also can’t stop from feeling for her energy, her presence her soul!

I gave up and thought it was a lie thrown at us in music, movies and stories but your soul mate truly exists! And I agree once you have connected to them you will never be able to ignore, forget or even stop searching for them! I know there won’t ever be another. Yes some women are more attractive but I now know the difference between attractive looks and soul mate and I’d take soul mate any day! This fire, energy inside of me just wants to connect with my soul mate all day every day!

I truely hope you can find yours and never give in and never give up! I now see everything differently!

A. on April 23, 2018:

The way your mind works is brilliant. You have it figured out. The right way. Please keep these articles coming!

Sarah on April 13, 2018:

I believe I met my soulmate. Words can't describe how I feel. He end up getting married to someone else after I moved to another state. I think we both knew it was something unusual. A feeling that I'm not sure if I will feel again with someone else. He disconnected with me for a few years. He didn't realize how much of a impact it would be to be disconnected. We are friends now, but it's so difficult for me. I felt a little better knowing that feelings were mutual. Sadly to say when I asked about the married life his response wasn't what I expected. It didn't sound too good. I have to move on, but I will never forget that feeling.

Gemma on April 02, 2018:

I agree with everything written in the article except for the age gap. My soulmate is 18 years older than me.

Matt on March 18, 2018:

I believe that I lost my soulmate 22 years ago. I was young and dumb and haven't stopped thinking about her since. I still love her to this day.

David on March 14, 2018:

It's all correct, apart from age, because I barely know this other person, but the look and gave me when we first met created a feeling which I still can't explain. Our looks know what each are thinking, but only when aimed towards each other, but to not be with them makes you feel empty; it differs from normal, in the sense that you've already gained so much from them, so it's not like a depression or loss and it's more like a new feeling that you've never had before!

You don't want to part, because you won't find a love like that, because they gave you all you were missing in your life and the reasons why you just couldn't be the person you always needed to be. It feels like you're thirsty and being offered food, so would that do!

No other love could replace what they have, but it's your heart which won't let go and keeps trying to get with them and so watch a love story and feel the pain when they can't be together, because it feels even worse than that. Look, they represent the perfect life, but when they go, you have nothing- just memories and you'll keep dreaming about them; remembering what they once said; how they looked and how amazing it felt then? How you'll wish you could hear them talk to you again, because what they say heals every wound you ever bad-tempered instantly!

idealist on March 14, 2018:

Why does the idea of a soulmate is so so overrated? With all of those broken hearts... sometimes I think it's just another face in this sea of people.

Vaishnavi M.R. on February 07, 2018:

I have read your article on Soul Mates and I'm really surprised to know that I have already found my soul mate.. It's just been few days. Whatever you told about soulmate is actually true in my case.. Right now, we are best friends.. But what worries me is that you said our soul mate might be just an year older.. But my soul mate is 7 years older.. So is he really my soul mate?

Brian on January 25, 2018:

I find my self on this site searching for answers to that which I don't understand. About 3 months ago a couple of my friends wanted to go out for a drink. I don't drink and hadn't been to a bar for 25 years. so I said I'll be the DD if needed. We went to a bar of my choice and sat down to just to hang wondering why was I even here? I was only sitting for a couple of minutes when I looked over at the bar and saw the Bartender. I immediately got up to go over and one of my friends said ,"where are you going?" I said I don't know I just have to meet that girl behind the bar." I went over and struck up conversation and felt like I just belonged ...She stared at me like she was looking right through me until I said, Your beautiful but why are you staring at me because I feel you reading my mind. She apologized and we talked for hours as if we were the only 2 people in the place. I immediately felt I've know her for ever, so I gave her a kiss on the cheek and said I'll be back to visit you again. She said, " That would be nice I love talking to you." I've gone back every weekend to hang out with her and share. She is amazing beyond belief and says she feels completely trusting and safe around me. ( feel the same) Last week I couldn't take the intense emotions I feel for her so when leaving I kissed her on the cheek and whispered in her ear "You know I love you" She smile and said "No you don't" I said "Yes I do". She pulled back smiled and said "I love you too". This is crazy since I feel I love you is the 3 most important words a person could say and I totally mean it as if God put the words on my tongue to be said. I don't know where it will end up as I take life one day at a time but I do know it's a love I've never felt so deeply and it has changed my life. Yes it happens...and I believe the reason will come out in Gods time exactly as it is suppose too.:)

Sam on December 30, 2017:

Wonder if your soulmate is a celebrity? I went to one of his concerts and felt the exact same way this is describing but when I left the concert I changed into a different person and felt so lonely without hearing his voice.

Hopeless on December 19, 2017:

I met my soulmate 19 years ago. I was 16 at the time and she was 15, so the age and everything else in this article describes what we experienced that night when we first met. We lived in the same city, we even had the same last name, but we had never met before and we didn't have any mutual friends.

It was at a random underage party, I was with my gf and she came with her bf. Long story short, the second I saw her I was overwhelmed by the emotions of a deep connection, a sense of knowing her for a long time, that we were meant for each other and Deja Vu. After an hour she approached me and asked where she had seen me before, because she had felt she knew me - and in complete shock I told her I had felt the same thing too. We had a short but beautiful conversation about the strong feelings we both had in the kitchen, but it was shut short by my gf after 15 minutes. I got her number and agreed to call her to talk in peace later. Then she sadly told me her bf wanted to leave and she left that night.

My relationship was with someone I had known for 3 years and we were about a year into it (yes, at 16, lol), so I didn't feel like betraying her for my soulmate. The relationship came to an abrupt ending when I was about to turn 17 and chaos ensued, so I moved 3 hours away to my father and started school there.

I often thought about the beautiful girl I had met and the extreme feelings I had felt, so one day I found the note she had given me with her number. It was ripped, probably by my then xgf, and it lacked the last two digits. I tried calling many of them asking if I were talking to NAME whenever a female voice answered. Unfortunately, after many failed calls I gave up, and thought that if it was meant to be it would be. I tried looking up her number too, but being underage her number was probably registered to her parents which I knew nothing about. Furthermore, I lived 3 hours away and being 17 that's long distance for sure.

When I was about to turn 20 I got a job in my old city, so I moved back. I remember even thinking about how me moving back would mean I would be close to her again and if it was meant to be we would meet.

I got settled in at the job and felt life was going pretty well. I had probably worked there for 2 weeks when I overslept and missed my bus to work. In pure desperation I called a taxi to pick me up and bring me to work in time. The taxi came and we started small talking, he seemed to have something weighing on him as he asked me if I had heard about that missing girl on the local news, I said no, and he elaborated that a 19 year old girl had been missing for five days, and that they had found a body in the river. He had just driven the mother of the dead girl home from the morgue as she had been there to identify the body. He was quite taken, and since I grew up there and it was in my age bracket I asked him what her name was, and it was then he told me the name of the girl I met at that party that night some 4 years earlier.

I'm now 35 years old and I'm absolutely confident that she was my soulmate. Ever since her death my life has gone downhill. In retrospect, I think maybe a part of me died back then, and I have never recouped from it. I have not sought or given love, I don't want a family and when people ask me what I want I'm lost for words. I'm not depressed, just numb to everything. My whole existence feels hollow and meaningless. But I will move forward and make the best of it until it's my time, knowing that if what I felt that day was real I will meet that soul again under other circumstances.

I've been beating myself up for not just asking her to come with me that night and see how it played out, even if she declined I would have made an effort. I'm sad I didn't call all 99 numbers on the two missing digits and that I didn't do more to get in touch with her. Had we hooked up her accident would probably never have happened and who knows what life would have looked like today.

So I can attest to the part about meeting your soulmate and not being together can be a curse, so if you are fortunate enough to meet yours, make sure that you have an ongoing relationship, even if it isn't romantic. Don't dump your husband or wife to be with your soulmate if you have kids, as I think a soulmate can also come as a test to your loyalty. Sometimes I wonder if her death is my opportunity to grow in this life. If that was it I have failed miserably, lol.

T on December 11, 2017:

I met my soulmate the summer going into Junior in high school, let's call her A. It was during a film we were working on for a friend. I was already in a relationship, but the second I met her, I felt an instantaneous connection. Something I had never felt before. I am not a conversationalist, but I felt comfortable around her. We could talk for hours and hours without ever getting bored. That whole summer, it never progressed beyond that, but I think we both knew we fell deeply for one another. However, I was already committed to someone else. I couldn't leave someone I was already in love with. So the summer ended and we didn't see each other again. At the end of that fall, my girlfriend and I split up. Once I got over my ex a year and a half later, I started seeing someone else that spring, nearing the end of my senior year. A and I did not go to the same school, mind you. Around May, our friend asked us to be a part of another film project he wanted to do. First day on set, we locked eyes again. I was instantly brought back to the exact moment we met. The electricity and magnetic pull we both felt. How she would always have this glow, no matter what light she was in; how her lips curled into the cute wry smile she had when she'd look at me; and when we locked eyes, how she made me feel as if she could see into my soul and made me feel totally vulnerable and safe. I remembered the longing I had to be with her. To be close to her. I could see a future with her. The way we constantly flirted with and teased one another. She made me be so much more creative than I ever could have been on my own. I felt completely whole with her, even though we had not officially ever done anything other than talk and flirt. The connection and magnetism was overwhelming. It was so palpable you could see it from a mile away. Yet, I was in another relationship with someone else. I felt extremely torn. One day, she asked me to hang out, so she comes by and we go for a drive in her car. Just talking, doing what we normally do. I eventually tell her that I am already seeing someone and cannot be with her at that time, even though I wanted nothing more, like the idiot I am. She gets a boyfriend a few months later. I never see her again until last summer going into my Junior year of college. It was my birthday and my sister and I were late driving to the restaurant my mother had picked for us. I sit down, and our waitress comes to the table, sure enough, it's her. Everything rushes back, as it did the second time we worked together on that film. I only got to talk to her for a short while after my birthday breakfast. It was the same way we always acted around each other. I went to that restaurant alone a handful of times to talk to her and get up the courage to ask for her number to keep in touch, and all is going normally. When I ask, she immediately says, sure, but reminds me she still has a boyfriend. Not in a mean way, but as a gentle reminder. I knew right then that we would probably never be. But my mind keeps flooding with "What-ifs" about her. It's my fault we aren't together. I had two chances to leave people I would never have been as happy with as I would have been with her and I wasted those chances. I wish that my 16 and 18 year old selves would have had the courage to just be with her, and now I will spend the rest of my life wondering because no matter how hard I try, every so often, I am reminded of her. And then, I feel so empty. I have never felt that way about anyone else. I fear I may always feel this emptiness inside. She was my soulmate. I am 100% certain about that. A lot of the time, it hurts. It is a wound that will not heal. Then I think that she's happy, and that makes me happy, though it does not lessen the pain I still feel.

-h on December 08, 2017:

the first time we meet,the first thing i happened to do was look into his eyes.and just that.stared into his brown eyes,untill i knew he was mine :)

The One on November 23, 2017:

When i first time saw him, its like magic, i was lonely and all, suddenly this man, upon looking in the eyes i felt that happiness that i never felt before. Its like iam a cellphone with 1% charge on battery, but upon having eye contact with him, in split of a second i felt iam more than 100 % fully charge. Because of this man i felt iam loved even we dont know each other. I wish i will see him again :)

Sandie1111 on November 14, 2017:

We’ve met... not together, wrong timing...is it better to be apart or never know? Be apart... as life will never be the same again, it’s a feeling like every pore on your skin breaths and have opened, like you hibernate, freeze, only your heart beats slowly and your eyes roll, it’s like you can not move...but you know you can...like the time stood still.

There isn’t a time in a day that that person pops up in my daily life...it’s a feeling like he is away, but inside of me I know he will be back someday...even when we 70 and grey... I am looking forward to it. For now I have the pleasure to see how he treat his wife with respect and love which he promised at the alter... and that means a lot. I even love him-without even know him, more!

It sounds like I’m nuts, but I guess there are things in life we can not explain, and this is one of them!

The only thing I won’t agree with is the age difference, we are more then 1 year...but he is older.

Have hope and be happy!

He on November 07, 2017:

Elegant and beautiful can't not truly describe her. I feel truly in the moment and connected when around her. I sense a mutual understanding between us that goes beyond the need for words. Ego/insecuritys seem to be the only thing stopping us from togetherness. I have a feeling that it won't be to long until we come forward about our feelings.

I’ve been looking 4 u!!!! on October 29, 2017:

I think I met my soulmate. He works with me. He is Venazualan. Right away, I felt this odd sensation all through my being. All senses were at their heightened awareness. No awkwardness of any kind. Being around him feels very natural and safe. I have no need for any relationship. I have no qualms about being single. When he stands in front of me, I don’t say to myself “ is he?” I say to myself “ I’ve been looking for you.”

I’m very much a loner. I don’t ask anyone to come with to do anything. ( when I’m in a relationship)I don’t want the company. This person, we were suppose to meet up, but I had to make a stop. I called him to come with me, and it felt like the most natural thing. I don’t know how old he is. I don’t know what any of this means. I know who I have in front of me.

Another weird example, it was like the third day of him Working, and there was this conversation, and he said “ stop trying to convince me (of whatever it was); I know you. I said, “your Right!” And it was as normal as talking to my b st friend of 30 years.

Christina Smith on October 22, 2017:

Your wrong.. My solemate was almost 6yrs my senior. Made sense though with me being from a broken home and preferring men a little older

A guy on October 14, 2017:

I am in the exact situation as you "a female person"

Actually quite creepy how accurate that is.

H

A female person on October 13, 2017:

I've had several crushes before, but this crush that I feel right now isn't just a crush anymore. I love him very deeply eventhough I just met him. We never talk yet I feel like there's something about him that would change our lives. Both my head and heart tell me that he is the one but my insecurities tell me that he's too different. And yet he completes me somehow. It's weird, but not as weird as me thinking/gut feeling that he feels the same way about me, to which I'm not so sure about. Whenever I'm away from him it feels like a string tied tightly around my heart that is pulling, which hurts me a lot emotionally. I really don't know. This is so weird. It might be just a strong crush but.. ugh.

Kristal on October 13, 2017:

Ive met my soul mate, but the timing is wrong. We have strong connection like we known each other. but we're stranger. And said "take care" with a serious faced like he wants to know me before i leave, but i dont have enought time to response he said. and make me more want to see him again.

Jordin on October 12, 2017:

I've met no one..sadly...

stephanie on October 04, 2017:

I met the person who always be in my dreams for 4 years a week ago. But it was awkward. All the words I was planning to say before I met him were vanish and there was only silence n awkwardness between us. We both suddenly lost our confidence to talk, we just keep staring to each other. and I kinda cried for two days afterward bcs of my stupidity. Are we really soulmates? Did he also feel what I felt ?

luci on October 01, 2017:

I met him two days ago and the chemistry was undeniable. We are talking marriage. I am already in love.

Shirley Mast on September 26, 2017:

I met my soulmate I was scared at first but not now I understand I never felt this way before . I LOVE This Person Deeply. Always thinking about them.

Maria on August 17, 2017:

I met my soulmate 4 years ago at work. I was driving in to my interview and I seen him. A voice inside of my head said " he's the one, its him" I didn't know why I had that in my head. Immediately I started smiling and it felt like I already knew him. When I got hired we immediately were close friends and shared many things between us. It felt so natural and effortless needless to say we spoke our entire shifts. Unfortunately I was already in a relationship and I felt extremely confused. I wasn't sure why I was thinking of him all the time, having dreams about him. I have always been a loyal girl to anyone I've dated. But when I met this man I was totally consumed by him. Later on I found out I was pregnant by the person I was with. I had two beautiful twin daughters. They are my heart and soul and I couldn't picture my life without them. When this man found out I was pregnant we became distanced. He would still come and speak to me but things were very different. I actually got upset that we became so distanced. I didn't understand why I was getting so upset but I did. My relationship with my daughters father was always rocky and after we had children it got worse. Ultimately I told him that I couldn't do it anymore. Suddenly me and the other man got close again. We texted here and there and he would tell me about the woman he was seeing. Once again I would get upset. I had no idea why I got so upset when we stopped being close friends and why I would get upset over him seeing other woman. We were only friends so why was I feeling this way? One day we went out for lunch to catch up on what was going on in my life. I broke down in tears and updated him on what had been going on. After that lunch date we went out a second time and I kissed him. I've never been someone to pursue a man. But I just felt so comfortable and I wanted to see why I had that thought go off in my head the first time I met him. 2 years later I know why and its because there was this incredible connection right in front of me. I will be completely honest that I've never experienced any thoughts like that with any man I've met. He is my soulmate and it is the most amazing connection that I've ever experienced. Even though we are 9 years apart in age it feels as if we aren't. I understand what everyone else means by meeting your soulmate can be a blessing and a curse. Because now that I've felt what we have its impossible to ever forget it. We aren't in a relationship due to certain things going on in my life and his life. But I hope one day we will be able to be a couple. He is the most incredible man I've ever met and if we don't become a couple due to life obstacles. I know one thing is that I will never be able to forget him.

Brenda Bartz on August 17, 2017:

I have been reunited with my soulmate. I am older than him by a little more than 2 months. I am a Capricorn and he is a Pisces a very compatible combination. I was oblivious to soulmates when we met at age 9. We both felt something but were nothing but good friends, even step-siblings for a short time. We are now 55 and are working on our issues we have both aquired over the years so we can be together. He is going blind and I knew he needed someone like me who understood him. He's very smart and talented. A big adrenaline junkie. We have both had some interesting experiences that I don't want to say much about now but his blindness plays a critical role. It is true you find an inner beast to protect them. I was tested on my loyalty and passed with flying colors. I think Adam and Eve go in reverse. We have never had an argument so we have to do that now. He is irritated with me and me with him but it is a necessary evil that we have to go through so we don't do it again. We are very old souls. I am very excited for what's to come.

Nitsu on August 06, 2017:

I met my soulmate at work. It was so unexpected. When I first saw him I felt sparks. A beautiful aura of electricity surrounded my whole body. It felt very peaceful and like I was floating in that energy. I remember thinking: "it's you." There was no doubt in my mind. We both were attracted to each other; it was evident. We even managed to finish each others sentences. It was perfect like a fairy tale. I was dumfounded. That is how strong the feeling was. To this day I remember the feeling, his name, and his face. Never have felt that in my life. It's true, I will always compare that feeling to everyone I date. I hope the universe brings us together once more. This time around I will ask for his number. :). I hope this helps someone identify whether they met their soulmate.

Stephanie on August 01, 2017:

I met my soulmate earlier this year I was married to someone else I was in an open relationship and I met him on social media we instantly clicked we started video chatting and it would be for hours Almost everyday. I never got bored of it I never could see enough of him or talk to him enough it seemed he was like a drug me and he felt the same way about me. I finally separated from my husband for other reasons. Decided I had to meet him so I flew over to England I'm in Canada by the way I met him in person it was electric like magic, like a beautiful fairytale I never wanted to wake up from. Everything was so comfortable it was like we could always been together just so much chemistry right away and the sex was amazing. I had to go back to Canada unfortunately but I am working on getting a visa to live and work there for two years also I must sell my house and it's difficult in the market right now. It's very hard to be apart from him and sometimes it's too hard and then I think is it worth it but I know when I'm over there, when I'm there with him everything will be worth it.

RIJ on July 25, 2017:

Yes, this is so true.. Every word I can relate with.. I met him 9years ago.. Through telephone call.. And then there was end to it.. In these nine years I forgot to breathe without him.. I met him in person just once last year.. And when we met, it was exactly amazing how comfortable we were together, like we've been meeting everyday.. Hes one year elder than me... So that point clicked for me too.. There were lots of obstacles but me made through all these years until 3 months ago.. He just left due to some major crisis.. And didn't come back.. I trust him blindly.. I love him to the depth, everybody tells me that I should move on but I can never make anyone understand that what I have felt in my heart, can never be felt ever again.. And I am waiting for the day when he will come back and we ll get married, (I hated to get married n have children but with him, I am a whole new person) in sha Allah.. Time will come soon, we ll make it through this obstacle too.. :)

Beautiful article..

Plastic Poncho on June 20, 2017:

Completely agree with everything but age difference. Everything you said is exactly how we both felt in our first sentence exchange and I'm a 36 year old woman whose soulmate was a 24 year old man. He just passed away less than three weeks ago, and he's still tuning into me. I love you, baby, forever.

Jade on June 11, 2017:

Is it possible that your soulmate is an animal? When I was twelve I met my horse. A male horse born exactly a month and a week before me. 1994. When I saw him, well..I never had the same feeling with anyone else. Time stopped. I mean it felt like it actually did. I felt my heart skip a beat and everything around me stopped moving. When I tell the story people think I'm just being dramatic but that's what happened. When our eyes mets we just froze. My mother bought him and eventually, when I was old enough, sold hik to me. Life has always been different with him around, both for him and me. If you know how to read a horse, physically, you can notice the difference in his eyes...he had to be sold when we were 17 and I finally got him back recently, age 22. He was not the same horse when I found him and neithet was I. And I am not the only one to say this. I could not laugh or smile anymore...I was dead inside. Now my dreams and hopes are back. I started living again and he started walking again (he had gone lame when we were separated).

This feeling when our eyes met for the first time..as if a weight was off my shoulders...kind of like when you're back home after a while. "Finally a familiar feeling", you know what I mean? I love horses but they don't make me feel as he does. Neither do my friends or family. I find it weird myself but after reading this I can't help but wonder if this is what it is? And the age thing just...something clicked inside of me!

Lex on June 05, 2017:

I've found my soulmate, but I am a female and he is a year and a half younger than me. I'm not religious - I believe in evolution - so I think your age reasoning is faulty, basing it on Adam and Eve. But the feelings you were talking about before... I felt all of that.

Anonymous on May 21, 2017:

Oh all of this is so true. I met my soulmate my first semester of college. I was instantly attracted to him, I felt that magnetism and pull to him. We started dating over a year later. Trying to explain how you know someone is your soulmate is difficult to put into words. You just feel it with every cell, you KNOW. We loved each other for 8 years, and life kept getting in the way. Recently life was finally lining up for us. We had a 5 year old child. Unfortunately I lost my soulmate to suicide and it is the most crushing feeling. I can never replace him and I don't believe I will ever have that connection with someone else. We were always connected even when we were apart. I miss him so much. Losing your soulmate is the worst, the only thing worse would be to lose our child.

Graham on April 13, 2017:

I met my soul mate about 15 years ago. She was an exchange student - we never spoke but I had these unexplainable feelings for this girl I never spoke to. 2 years after she left, I received her email address...and messaged her...she revealed that she felt the same, to the extent that she used to write letters to her best friend telling her about "this guy" (me). We ended up in a 2 year long distance relationship. Eventually, due to finances, we decided it wasn't going to go anywhere, and called an end to it.

Over the years we stayed in contact, she got married, had a child, I had a number of living relationships, life was fine....

3 months ago she returned with her family, but to a different city in our country. She had this over whelming feeling that we owed it to one another to meet up (considering we had never really spoken face to face other than Skype). So she made a special trip to my city without husband and child. Neither of us were expecting anything.... we genuinely believed that we'd have a nice catch up over a drink, and that would be it.

The moment I saw her, I felt everything all over again.... and she felt everything I was feeling.... it was all mutual. I felt like the world was lifted from my shoulders, I've never been so content in all my life, I doubted whether I had ever even loved in my past relationships. The feelings were phenomenal! And mutual! We ended up talking and taking each other in from 3pm until 4am the next morning. We reluctantly behaved ourselves, even though every inch of our beings wanted to react otherwise. For me, it was out of respect for her husband and child. On 2 occasions we hugged, we stood holding each other for about 45 minutes each time....and not for a second did I feel bored. She said to me that for the first time she felt like she had married the wrong person.

We both know we are soul mates....for her she wonders if maybe it would have been better that we didn't meet up and be completely naive. For me, just having been able to experience it makes me happy and so sad all at once. We have decided not to talk to one another for a while, because we don't want it to affect her marriage and child.

My dad was fortunate enough to marry his soul mate, my mom (who sadly has past away), but I was able to talk to him about this experience. My soul mate doesn't have anyone to tell because no one understands. She was so over whelmed with emotion that she even told her husband....obviously it didn't go down well. She explained to him that she is living happily ever after with him, and that she does love him....but she had to grow to love him, their relationship wasn't like this....and that it didn't make their relationship any less beautiful.

For me, I have to accept that I won't marry my soul mate....I will have to marry that girl that I am going to grow to love. And it doesn't mean I won't live happily ever after....it just won't be her....

I just needed to share my story....and somehow, I hope DB reads it....