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Jan 4, 2017

Five Symptoms of True and Deep Love

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Love, in all forms is a pleasing emotion. People who are in love, are healthier, happier and more active socially. It is often the case that, with love, comes an aura of beauty around women, and a sense of confidence and courage in men.

Indeed, those who have never fallen in love, are missing out on a great deal. Love is a product I am trying to promote for my own selfish personal gains, which include, living in a more caring and loving society, talking to people who understand love and have loved, building relationships with people who know what relationships are, et cetera.

This article is for those who have, or think they have fallen love. I am not going to talk of signs of infatuation, which appear like symptoms of love, but are far more pronounced and ephemeral. So, here are the 5 symptoms :

The world seems a better place
No, the problems of the world do not disappear. It is just your perception and point of view that changes. With love comes more self-confidence and courage, allowing you to face the world with increased vigor.
A distorted sense of time when you are thinking about the person
In the absence of the person, you might lie down in bed thinking fondly about him/her, and it only seems like a few minutes when in reality you might have spent more than an hour. And to top it all, you are not even tired of thinking so much. It is a fact that people in love have daydreams which are not only longer, but also more real.
On the other extreme, a day in the absence of that person might seem extra-ordinarily long.
Acceptance of flaws without complaints
Yes, in the state of limerence, you might just not be able to see any flaws with your object of love. With the passage of time however, when that stage has passed, you do recognize and realize that your beloved is neither godly nor flawless. In true love, these flaws are accepted without complaints and if necessary, compromises are consciously made.
Deep sense of sharing
Your happiness does not seem complete until you have shared it with your beloved. Any and all possessions you have, you willing share with him/her. You do not think twice about compromising on your needs, if you feel the needs of your partner are not fulfilled.
You never get bored of the person
Never.. as in, even after several years of knowing each other. Everyday, you can talk and chatter and never run out of words, or grow tired listening. You know everything about him/her and yet he/she continues to amuse you.

Well, these symptoms are for real, but it takes time for you to confirm them. If you have already lived for several years with your beloved, you will be able to relate to them. And for those who are still new in the relationship, hang in there for the infatuation to pass and the real emotions and feelings to emerge.

Comments

JOHN on February 26, 2020:

I don't think people stay in love forever, people change over time. I change partners more than I change my underwear.

invisible on October 15, 2018:

my guy Is so for me we are like meant to be love him to bits thanks for symptoms

Anna on January 17, 2018:

You are a genius but I looked at the symptoms and I don't think I am in love with them.....

Manish on May 11, 2017:

Love is a spiritual experience and love for any matter in this world is material, so love never exist in the world (as it can only exist in the spiritual world).There is only nd only strong desire or attraction for any person/personality or thing which we simply called love in the whole world.(NOTE: for more deep knowledge about love plz see "What is true love" on youtube, a lecture by Jagatguru Kripaluji Maharaj)....

Shree Radhe ...

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h on August 07, 2013:

really its true.

lachic on May 29, 2013:

Am just gonna hang in there cos ryt nw am nt too sure if am truly in luv wit my bf or its jst infatuation bcos I get scared weneva a guy proffesses to love me so I probabli wnt be able to identify d emotion

lachic on May 29, 2013:

RealConception7 on September 14, 2012:

Love this.

nite on June 27, 2012:

This is 100% true. Im totally convinced that you never get tired of talking to beloved. If its unspoken love, u'll never get tired of looking to beloved.

Im in love with a girl at my work place. I get tired whenever she don't come to work or leave early from work. We never spoke to each other but its feel like i know her from past life. I got to see her every morning to make my day. I have no negative thoughts like lust about her. I have no thoughts about sex when isee her. I keep looking at her in every chance i get at work. At home i keep thinking about her.. Some times i cry thinking that what if i get fired from job and can't be able to see her. How can i live without her . Can someone tell me what is wrong with me?

with lvu PINKI on June 15, 2012:

no words can describe how much iloveuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

i may nt get often to see u as often asi like .... imay not get to hold u in my arms all through the night

bt;;;;;;;;deep in my heart i truly know that u r the one i lvu and i cant let u go..............I WANNA HOLD UR HAND..........................FOR EVER

riya on May 27, 2012:

luv is mental disease

samna on May 24, 2012:

felling of love is unending.... anybody can fall in love but the choicing of a good partner only stays for life long. so choice your partner carefully.

little lovester on May 07, 2012:

yes , u guys are totally great,, im inlove too but so complicated,,, but i know it will ends with happines..

SWEAT HEART ENAKSHI on May 04, 2012:

TRUE

grace on April 30, 2012:

....yes! I do believe in this,because i'm inlove..i'ts really hard to be inlove,if the one you love most won't feel the same

ave on April 17, 2012:

true

rifanah on April 03, 2012:

superb...... i am in love for 5 years i will make it forever i love him as my sweet...... no words to explain i miss him always

yapu nijo on March 25, 2012:

Agreed !!

Ryan on March 17, 2012:

im in love!!!! :D

ashik on February 06, 2012:

really its true

iddo kingsley on January 30, 2012:

true love does not start easily.

Cheabbyy on January 02, 2012:

after reading everyones comments and this hub just a little advice if your unhappy then maybe its not the right time or person. as for not liking the feeling then it cant be love. im 18 my boyfriend is 26 and im truly in love. it is an amazing feeling to have and get to share with someone else.

KateWest from Los Angeles, CA on July 13, 2011:

Must be nice!

Mansi2512 from Bangalore,India on July 11, 2011:

Agreed with every point. Love is indeed a beautiful feeling. And I hope it forever remains. :)

dotty1 from In my world on May 01, 2011:

Great hub...no messing around here !!! now please point me in the direction of where I can find me some love :)

Jan on March 23, 2011:

Love is both joyous and painful. Many times the self-sacrificing that is done takes you away from your partner; however, in most cases, the sacrifices must be done. Circumstances and situations arise that take away from the fun times and alone times that is longed for to remain. The moments together is beautiful and the intimacy is most magical, but real life sets in - family, jobs, responsibilities - that are not always pleasant. True love stays and waits patiently for the more intimate and together time moments, that makes staying all worth it. For there is not another person or place one would rather be at or share ones life with. To live without your partner is to be in a world alone, even tho surrounded by others you love. Being in love is a more intimate of love. You must display and have the qualities of love to be in love - Patience, forgiveness, respect, kindness, peace, joy, to name a few. Without these qualities one cannot say he/she is in love. Lacking those qualities in ones relationship, when in love, would be detrimental. Ones in love need those qualities in their relationship to deal with outside influences, negativity and the imperfections that exists in us all. With in love comes a price, but the joys and moments of intense happiness is all worth it. It has stating power!

Little Kim from Any town U.S.A. on March 03, 2011:

I recognized these symtoms immediately. I'm in love!! Thank you!

theseus from philippines on December 10, 2010:

great hub!!..i can only assume that you are in love and loved in return..enjoy the feeling. :)

fucsia on December 05, 2010:

I have all the symptoms!

:))

Nice Hub!

agi on November 19, 2010:

love is just a magic and it should keep us amused al the time..

seema on November 15, 2010:

really its so true

kimmymoe from Charlotte, NC on September 04, 2010:

There was a lot of truth in this article.

Midtown Girl from Right where I want to be! on July 06, 2010:

Wise beyond your years. Nicely written.

harveyshawn on June 24, 2010:

I can agree with you 100%...

sugar on May 24, 2010:

i believe do believe in love and at present i am in love too but my partner is having a first family means i am the second wife though in our religion and tradition this is just a normal thing, sometimes i am thinking that why i am torturing myself? or is this really my destiny? only the important thing keeps me holding on is the love, attention, concern everything that he used to give me since the first time we meet nor it become more deeper and serious now a days. i really do love him and i am welling to sacrifice just for his kids(family)to let him go even it will hurt me a lot.... see love can be deceiving as well....

lilly_dens on May 18, 2010:

nice hub and i think i have these symptoms. it's great to know!

lovesick on May 17, 2010:

this is so true : )

Terry on May 17, 2010:

Luv is a feeln hard 2 undastand but easy 2 expres...bt 1 advic dey may luv bt wil b afraid dt if its shown it wil b lost...

macara on May 09, 2010:

I am 12 and im in love for the first time and i know i am because its not like a crush those i have had and this,, this suuucks i never want to feel this waay again.

lovechild12009 on April 28, 2010:

what i got to say about this love is unconditional and if its meant to be then its meant to be.

Run Down Battery from UK on January 16, 2010:

I enjoyed your hub... however, what confuses me is that I've never been more in love and I am absolutely miserable, sad and quite unhappy?? But I wouldn't swap this for never having loved... no way!!

reeltaulk on January 03, 2010:

Amazingly excellent--- simple and to the point Hub! I am convinced that you know true Love.......ciao