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Six Truths About Men Who Empower Women

MsDora, Certified Christian Counselor writes on moral integrity especially for women and encourages appreciation for the men in their lives.

On October 20, 2015 Coach Greg Farnetti, head coach of the West Blocton Tigers in Alabama played his final home game. He does not have a son; but he had given his daughter, Jodi the training he would have given his boy. It was his proudest moment, he said, when Jodi scored a field goal in that game.

The Farnetti story is an empowerment model for all male-female relationships. It shows that women are people too, and can be an asset in the so-called men's world (and the world in general) when their human potential is considered and empowered.

Following are six truths about men men empowering women in social relationships. They are validated by practitioners of equal opportunity empowerment.

Jodi Farnetii empowered by her dad

Courtesy of Kandi Smith

Courtesy of Kandi Smith

Truth #1: It takes empowered men to empower women.

Show me the men who recognize their personal strength, understand their individual purpose, and value the benefits of co-existing with women; these are the empowered men who cherish the opportunity to empower women. They know they deserve the best, and they want the best to stand beside them. Therefore, they support their women's development into strong, smart individuals.

Their strategy includes but is not limited to:

  • Accepting the women’s prerogative to be or not be satisfied with where they are (spiritually, socially et cetera);
  • Encouraging progress toward excellence in their area(s) of choice;
  • Giving them voice in decisions that affect the common good;
  • Appreciating the mutual empowerment generated by the relationship.


Empowered men lift, not stomp on, women.

Photo by Sergey Klimkin

Photo by Sergey Klimkin

Truth #2: Empowerment is measured by the way men treat women.

Men can put on temporary acts to impress associates and strangers; but the real spirit of empowerment comes out in their interaction with the people at home—mothers and sisters, wives and children later.

It is at home that men develop virtues like respect, kindness, patience, gentleness and putting other people first. It is at home that they learn to practice the love which is selfless and lust-free. It is a common belief that the way they treat their mothers provides a clue as to how they will treat their wives. They also show what they’ve learned when it is time to nurture their daughters. Having learned the basics, they are ready to practice the sacred principles:

  • Treat older women as you would your mother;
  • Treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters;
  • Take care of any widow who has no one else to care for her (Titus 2, The Bible).


Empowering her to be an asset

Photo by Laura Hoover

Photo by Laura Hoover

Truth #3: Men empower themselves when they empower women.

"What's the most important thing men can do for themselves? The answer seems clear to me: work for the empowerment of women." - William Petrocelli

This quote is from Petrocelli’s 2014 speech to the League of Women’s Voters in California' He added, “The empowerment of women is crucial to solving a lot of seemingly unrelated problems that are as important to men as they are to women,” and he illustrated his point with the following two references.

  • Governments tried to solve the problem of overpopulation but the solution lay in the empowerment of women to take control of their bodies.
  • The presence of women in some situations inhibits violent outbursts from men. So according to Petrocelli, rather than exclude women from harsher situations (even like the 1992 Rodney King incident during the Los Angeles riot), involving capable women could produce better results.

Men like Petrocelli, self-styled feminist, acknowledge that women's problem-solving skills and other capabilities are more helpful than they are credited to be.


Men's Compliments Poll

Truth #4: Empowered men appreciate the woman's beauty

Empowered men appreciate the physical beauty of women, but they are attracted to their inner beauty as well.

Their compliments are not always about color, shape and size, although they notice these features. They also compliment talent, virtues and performance, and encourage the women to nurture them into excellence.

  • Real men admire beautiful lips; but they are also charmed by the self-awareness, the wisdom and the aspirations coming forth from those lips.
  • They like long, straight legs; but they are also attracted by the confidence and the purposefulness exuding from the stride of those legs.
  • They appreciate glamor; but they see past the outward display, to the significance of the women’s self-care and self-value.

Without down playing the value of physical beauty though it alters with time, empowered men pay more attention to beauty of character, which is a life-time asset.

Truth #5: Empowered men refuse to exploit women.

Sex trafficking may be seen as the ultimate, but it is only one form of exploitation; there are other cruel situations that empowered men disdain. Among them are the following.

  • Pornography: exploiting the woman’s image is the same as exploiting her;
  • Mental abuse: name calling, intimidating, displaying excessive jealousy, or any other form of manipulation in an attempt to gain control over the woman;
  • Physical abuse: hitting, shoving, kicking, choking, twisting arms, or any other physical action which is dehumanizing;
  • Sexual abuse: “Sexual assault is not a matter of women being attacked,” writes Suna Senman. “It is a matter of men attacking women. . . Men have both the power and resources to stop that violence.”

Empowered men think of women as divine creations put on this earth to mingle their beauty and inspiration with the dynamism of males. Empowered men protect and cherish their female counterparts.


Empowered to be a co-star not a side-kick

David Hume Kennerly

David Hume Kennerly

Truth #6: Empowered men recognize women as different but equal.

"Women know many things that men do not know, men know many things that women do not know. Men and women together know everything that is known." – Irene Parlby

The most complete strategy combines the intuition of women with the logic of men. The gender difference is not simply that women are intuitive and men are logical.

The real difference is that women arrive at their logic and men at their intuition by different round about, complicated processes.

Both have intuition and logic, but the process is simpler and the perspective is clearer when they work together as equals.

Therefore, in the closest relationships, empowered men see the women as co-stars, not side-kicks. Men and women become a part of each other, struggle together, win together—the result of mutual empowerment.

References

Petrocelli, William: Huffington Post, Five Ways Men Benefit from Women's Empowerment (6/27/2014).

Ritter, Jaime: WishTV.com, Homecoming queen scores field goal at dad’s last game as coach (20/10/2015).

Senman, Suna: Huffington Post, Empowered Men Empower Women (9/01/2013).

Stetzer: Ed, Church Leaders, Real Men Treat Women with Respect (Copyright 2014 by ChurchLeaders.com)

© 2015 Dora Weithers

Comments

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 10, 2016:

Mary, thanks for your contribution. I agree with your statement.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on January 08, 2016:

I think that this relationship has evolved in time and so our own personal ones. They evolve as we share with another who we are.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on December 24, 2015:

Teaches, that's good news! When a woman pays such tribute to her man, it makes every other woman feel hopeful. Thanks for sharing.

Dianna Mendez on December 23, 2015:

This is a great article and should be read by both men and women. I have a wonderful man who empowers me because he himself is confident, strong, and caring. God bless you!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on December 06, 2015:

Shyron, please shower him with appreciation. Blessings on both of you!

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on December 06, 2015:

MsDora, fantastic article. I have one of those men, and he does not know it, it just comes natural to him.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on December 06, 2015:

Flourish, you are blessed with such an empowered man as your partner. Kudos to him! I really appreciate you applauding his good qualities; more women should do that for their spouses. Thank you.

FlourishAnyway from USA on December 06, 2015:

I've been so busy these last few weeks that I've just gotten around to reading this, MsDora. (I'm a loyal follower, however, and I can tell you this HUB ROCKS!) I have shared it and am G+ing it too. I LOVE YOUR MESSAGE here. My husband upholds and promotes the value of women. He encourages me and our daughter. I think a lot of his attitude comes from being raised by a strong positive woman who didn't allow him to think differently.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 19, 2015:

Swalia, thank you for reading. I appreciate your support.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 19, 2015:

Faith, thanks for your encouragement. I appreciate your sensible views on the topic, and also your sharing the article. Be blessed!

Shaloo Walia from India on November 19, 2015:

Such an inspirational post...Thanks for sharing!

Faith Reaper from southern USA on November 18, 2015:

Wonderful article, MsDora! I'm sorry I missed this one somehow, but so glad I saw it on your profile page.

So true, those wonderful men who empower women as you describe here, do empower themselves at the same time. Men who do not truly appreciate women for the whole package are missing out on a lot to say the least! A smart man appreciates a woman for her mind and the beauty of all that it entails of being a woman.

Sharing everywhere

God bless you

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 17, 2015:

Deb, hoping the manager surprises you. Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing. I appreciate you.

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on November 16, 2015:

I LOVE this. I am going to share it on my work site now. The young guys are great, it is the general manager that really needs to read this, though he won't.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 13, 2015:

Devika, I agree that culture plays a part in how men deal with women. Thank you for adding that.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 13, 2015:

Patricia, thanks for your kind thoughts. I appreciate the comment and the angels.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 13, 2015:

Hello MsDora Interesting topic! Some men are dominating and full of themselves. Also, culture has a lot to do with such behavior.

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on November 13, 2015:

Hoping many men will read and take to heart what you have said.

This is so very powerful, MsDora.

Angels are once again on the way to you. ps

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 11, 2015:

Frank, that old saying really fits. The more empowered she is, the more effective will be her stand behind that man. Thanks for your contribution.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on November 11, 2015:

I like that you recognize this MsDora.. and you bring truth to that old saying behind every powerful man stands a powerful woman... great hub

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 11, 2015:

Peg, I agree that empowered men are hard to find. It's a cycle: we empower them, they empower us so we just have to keep trying. Thanks for your valuable input.

Peg Cole from Northeast of Dallas, Texas on November 11, 2015:

You've combined such vast wisdom and knowledge into this lesson, Ms. Dora. I love the phrase, "empowered men see the women as co-stars, not side-kicks." And the photo of the former President was truly inspiring. Men who have learned the proper way to treat women and who practice the art are an incredible find.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 10, 2015:

Mackyi, the verse you quote fits perfectly with the idea of empowerment. It takes empowered people (especially spiritually empowered) to obey this mandate. Thanks for your valuable contribution.

Mackyi on November 10, 2015:

Hi MSDora, thanks for another very insightful hub. What I have to contribute is very simple, yet rather thoughtful. In fact, Philippians 2:3 summarizes it well "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves."

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 10, 2015:

Denise, thanks for your validation. Happy that you can share from experience.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 10, 2015:

Manatita, I think that by now I have been influenced by several paragraphs in your book. Thanks for your teachings and your supportive comments.

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on November 10, 2015:

This is an awesome concept! When men realize how important their women are in their life, and treat them as equals, amazing things happen! I know this from personal experience!

manatita44 from london on November 10, 2015:

Dee, I see that you value a great synergy here. Yes, the way it should be. There is a nice paragraph in my book where by Guru describes this. A truly loving Hub and one worthy of another read. Let us all co-exist together, especially in the home where the microcosm begins. In Love and Light.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 09, 2015:

Bill, thank you so much for validating these truths. That reflects well on you.

William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on November 09, 2015:

Well MsDora, it sounds like a win-win situation. These six truths are exactly that - truth. We as men need to apply them and watch thigns happen. Thanks for sharing this!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 09, 2015:

Venkatachari, thank you for your affirmation on the article and on the value of women. I appreciate you. Have a great week!

Venkatachari M from Hyderabad, India on November 08, 2015:

Beautiful article on empowerment of women by men. If every man can understand the importance and value of woman in his life and respect her as an equal human being, it will be the happiest life on earth.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Ron, I also like the way you say it. Thanks for your kind commendation.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Shauna, your son's father grew up in a household which was empowering for both genders; that's the way it should be. Thanks so such for sharing this positive report.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Eric, you seem to be doing just fine. The fact that you wish to improve qualifies you even more to empower! Thanks for sharing.

Ronald E Franklin from Mechanicsburg, PA on November 08, 2015:

I really like your statement for truth #2. The way I'd express it to a young man: "How much of a real man you are is measured by the way you treat women." Great job.

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on November 08, 2015:

My son's father was one of eight children. The boys were taught to cook, clean, and sow in addition to what boys are normally expected to accomplish. In turn, the girls were also taught how to change a tire, change the oil in their vehicles, and hunt. They were all treated equally regardless of gender. This promoted respect and appreciation for people in general and taught them that all humans have talents and can be self-sustaining. It also left room for seeing what's inside a person - not just what they can do.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on November 08, 2015:

I have a few boys that I have learned things and accomplished things with currently and in the past. But my four closest women have given me so much joy when they allow me to be a part of their accomplishments. My finest role is going after problems for them, so they can concentrate and focus on the task at hand. I never thought of but I guess that is a little chauvinistic and not as chivalrous as much as I hope. But so far it has worked out as an empowerment - by grace I suppose. Thanks for a great reflection in an area I reckon I can improve in.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Gingerka, thank you for validating these truths. More enjoyment to you and your husband, moving forward!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Bill, thank you very much. Pleased that you like it.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Word, glad to provide a good read for you. I know you live by these truths, so it's up your street. Thanks for your kind words.

gingerka from Colorado on November 08, 2015:

Your thoughts are very true. Ed and I have grown over the years by learning these principles, and they make life much more enjoyable when we use them.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on November 08, 2015:

Wonderful truths here, Dora! I totally agree; loved the spirit and message of this article.

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on November 08, 2015:

Hi Dora, You're on a roll. This was fairly put. What a beautiful Sunday morning read. This makes a perfect connection between a man and woman. You made it seem like empowering his woman is what a man should do and I love it! Thank you. I can see another HOTD here :-)

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Jackie, you remind me of a statement I read, but do not think I used. It said that there is a difference between power and over-power. You're also right in that men and women who are looking for control miss out on the beauty of a healthy relationship. Thank you very much for your contribution.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2015:

Ahorseback, your comment makes me want to sing; it is so poetic and cheery. I just love your reaction to women. Thanks a bunch!

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on November 08, 2015:

I like how you came across with this. Very true and yet you leave us separate and admit we are different and do not always think alike. We were created differently and so we should be but God did not make us lesser beings. Men that try to over-power women I think miss out on something very special on the earth and on the same note there are women who want to over-power men. Same mistake.

Great food for thought as always Dora!

ahorseback on November 08, 2015:

Amazing truth here ! For a man , There is nothing in this world more naturally beautiful , more nurturing , pleasant to be around , or physically attractive , mentally , sexually stimulating or emotionally challenging , than a woman . I find myself often simply marveling at the charms , both physical AND mental . The empowerment of a woman is akin to creating life itself . Thank you for this reminder !..............This ...;-} is for you , the awesome ,MsDora !