Reflections on the True Meaning of Love

Updated on January 2, 2017
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Sadie Holloway is a workshop facilitator who teaches interpersonal communication skills to help people strengthen their relationships.

What do you know about the true meaning of love and marriage? Here are some timeless quotes that can help illuminate what it means to love and be loved.

Being in love means being able to walk forward into the unknown together, knowing that you've got each other to hold onto when things get rough.
Being in love means being able to walk forward into the unknown together, knowing that you've got each other to hold onto when things get rough. | Source

In a successful marriage there is no such thing as one's way. There is only the way of both, only the bumpy, dusty, difficult, but always mutual path.

— Phyllis McGinley

If you want to have a strong marriage or intimate relationship, you must be open to seeking and accepting the truth, whether that means being honest with yourself about your strengths and weakness or talking to your partner or spouse about your greatest regret in life. Seeking and speaking the truth frees you to see, understand and accept things just as they are, rather than what you wish they were. Striving for truth and honesty in your intimate relationships fosters feelings of security and self-confidence because you know you have a clear perspective to make healthy, informed decisions about your relationships.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

— Buddha

Let go and let forgiveness lead the way forward.

Healing is an ongoing, lifelong process essential to any successful long-term relationship. The healing transformation of old hurts, disappointments and mistakes from the past frees you to grow, learn and improve your intimate relationships. Acknowledging your errors, making amends and forgiving yourself and others brings you closer to those around you. Forgiveness, no matter how hard it may seem to master sometimes, always moves you forward in your relationships.

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

— Siddhārtha Gautama

Without self-love, you can never truly give love to or receive love from another person. The denial of self-love hurts you and your relationships because it stops you from believing that you deserve to experience true, authentic love with another person. The more self-love you are able to give to yourself, the more true love you are able to give to your husband or wife. Self-love clears the path to experiencing deeper feelings of intimacy with your partner. Self-love helps dissolve feelings of shame and fear. When you hold your head up high and affirm your self-worth as a lovable human being, you open yourself to experiencing true happiness, love and success in your romantic relationships.

Laughter, the other L word.

What kind of long-term relationship can you have if you can'€™t laugh together?
What kind of long-term relationship can you have if you can'€™t laugh together?

There are people who have money and people who are rich.

— Coco Chanel

Life is what you make of it. Having a strong relationship isn’t about how much money you have. And it isn't about the joint accumulation of material things. Cultivating a rich and satisfying marriage is about the quality of the time you spend with each other. Time and money spent doing things brings greater happiness than money spent on acquiring things.

Think of it this way: once you have experienced something new (trying an exotic meal, seeing a play, learning a new sport, visiting a city and learning about its history, culture and people), it will be a part of you forever. You can conjure up the memory of your shared experience at any time. You can use the skills you both learned when faced with a challenge. You can count on your improved health and fitness to give you strength and ward off illness and injury.

Taking care of yourself is appealing. Dressing up once in awhile is important for lasting relationships. The next time you go out for dinner with your spouse, even a casual meal at your local pub, treat it as a special occasion. Even if you are staying in for the night, light some candles. Play some music. Use the nice dinnerware. You both deserve it!

In addition to being your spouse’s best friend, make sure you are your own best friend too! Get comfortable with spending time on your own and taking pleasure from solitary activities that feed your mind, body, and soul.
In addition to being your spouse’s best friend, make sure you are your own best friend too! Get comfortable with spending time on your own and taking pleasure from solitary activities that feed your mind, body, and soul.

Don't let go of your dreams! A strong marriage lets you be who you want to be. In a solid, secure relationship, partners support and nurture one another in pursuing their goals and dreams. Getting married doesn’t mean that you need to abandon your dreams!

© 2016 Sadie Holloway

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    dashingscorpio 

    23 months ago

    It took me many years to reach the conclusion that "love" doesn't have a universal definition. It's an emotion that each (individual) defines for him or herself. Everyone has their own idea of what love should "look like", "feel like", and how people should behave who are "in love".

    Essentially the goal of everyone is to find a person who loves them (the way) they (want) to be loved. When this doesn't happen we don't feel loved.

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