30 Non-Sexual Ways to Express Teen Love

Updated on May 1, 2020
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MsDora, Certified Christian Counselor writes on moral integrity especially for women and encourages appreciation for the men in their lives.

During one of my favorite pastimes—hanging out with beautiful, smart, teen girls—one girl asked the following question regarding her relationship: “What else, besides having sex, can we do to show our love?”

Non-Sexual Expressions of love. Photo by Pexels.
Non-Sexual Expressions of love. Photo by Pexels. | Source

Teen love is a universal, normal developmental occurrence. Adults who try to dismiss it often destroy their chances for further involvement in the social life of the teenager.Questions like the one posed above suggest that some teens desire guidance toward a satisfying, wholesome relationship. It is worth the effort for parents and other responsible adults to provide them with reasonable answers.

Some teens do not even bother to look for options; they suppose—based on what they have seen and heard—that sex is the appetizer, the main course and the dessert in the love relationship. When teen relationships become physical, there is very little conversation, and the lovers miss the opportunity to evaluate character virtues or flaws in their mates. They also come up short on emotional fulfillment.

The following list aims to inspire inquiring minds with creative, alternative ideas for expressing love. There is a total of 30 suggestions listed under 5 sub-headings, all expressing a clear message that the other person is valuable and the relationship is special. This is the message that makes a person feel really loved—a message that sex is not likely to deliver.

I. Celebrate the Relationship

1. Create a scrap-book of dated photographs, love notes and special events to commemorate highlights in the relationship.

2. Establish an exclusive spot—a restaurant, a park, a beach, a resort area, a historic site—for special celebrations. Dress up for the occasion.

3. Find time to say that more than the food, the music, the view or whatever other enjoyable aspect of the celebration there is, the most important feature of the celebration is the other person.

Teens in love.
Teens in love. | Source

II. Maximize Your Time Together

4. Share childhood stories and photos; laugh about the silly things you did before your common sense kicked in.

5. Share a skill. For example, if one plays a musical instrument, teach the other to play a song which would become “our song.” If one has a favorite recipe, teach the other to prepare it and refer to it as “our special dish.”

6. Do personality tests and discuss the results to boost knowledge of yourselves and of each other.

7. Read biographies of people you admire.

8. Attend a financial seminar together, to help you develop a similar understanding of money principles.

9. Sit together in church while you participate in the worship.

10. Volunteer together in a service organization.

11. Sketch or paint each other’s portrait; it’s the effort that counts.

12. Invent pet names and keep the secret concerning how you came up with them.

13. Feed each other from the same ice cream cup, or slice of cake, or any other favorite dessert.

14. Make it a habit to compliment each other on appearance, and for achievements.

15. Reassure each other using words other than love: e.g. admire, value.

Teens sharing earphones. Photo by  SCA Svenska Cellulosa Aktiebolaget
Teens sharing earphones. Photo by SCA Svenska Cellulosa Aktiebolaget | Source

III. Maintain Interest When You’re Apart

16. Keep a photo of your loved one on your electronic device.

17. Compose love poems to be added to your scrapbook.

18. Handwrite love letters on fancy, decorated stationery; they may become lifetime treasures.

19. Send decent jokes and motivational quotes by e-mail or other media device.

20. Honor the other person by what you say in his or her absence.

IV. Spend Time with Your Favorite People

21. When it is appropriate, ask permission from your parents to include the teen friend in some family activities.

22. Visit other relatives. Dinner with families saves you the expense of restaurant dining, and at the same time, allows you to see how your lover interacts with different people in different situations.

23. Enjoy double dates with friends you trust. Watch movies, organize picnics in the park, visit museums, take long bus rides occasionally.

24. Confide in a mature person or a couple both of you trust. Solicit counsel when you need mentoring.

25. Associate with youth groups in which the members uphold values similar to yours.

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V. Cultivate Patient, Persevering Love

26. Establish wholesome boundaries within the relationship, to prevent hasty actions which could sabotage your happiness and cause regret.

27. Practice self-control because it encourages trust during your teen relationship and increases the chance of loyalty in your adult marriage.

28. Realize that teen love may not lead to marriage, because most teens are still building and altering their social preferences. Be careful not to assume spousal duties while you are only friends.

29. Treat each other with such respect that even if your relationship ends, respect and civility remain.

30. Enjoy the relationship. Make pleasant memories which will give you an emotional boost to keep on loving in the future.


HealthyChildren.org: Ages and Stages, Teen Love Connection (8/29/2013)

Questions & Answers

    © 2014 Dora Weithers


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      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Thanks for your contribution, Erin. I agree that loyalty is good at any age.

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        5 years ago from United States

        Ms Dora, I love this one on your list: "Honor the other person by what you say in his or her absence." Adults can use this one too to build each other up and show how much they care!

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Dream On, your comment is very encouraging. I hope with you that some one with stronger urges than willpower will take heed. Thank you.

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        DREAM ON 

        5 years ago

        I loved your ideas and how you presented your hub. When I was young we had know suggestions and we just played with fire and got burned. Others had best friends that they hung out with and kept us busy in sports or hobbies and luckily the girls came later. Unfortunately we never learned the proper social skills to do things non sexual and now are urges were greater than ever. If we were lucky you learned slowly and didn't rush in over your head. Thank you for a very important hub that could change the future of many young adults lives.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Thanks, Jill. I agree that adults can benefit too. That way, they can also help teach the youth. Thanks for your input.

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        Jill Spencer 

        5 years ago from United States

        These are great ideas, MsDora, and so many of them are good things for adults in relationships to do, too. Beautiful!

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Why not Imtii? I work with teens and youth occasionally, and the question at the top of the page gets asked very often. I just making the answer available here. Glad you like it.

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        Imtiaz Ahmed 

        5 years ago from Dhaka, Bangladesh

        It was totally awesome. I never knew that MsDora could come out with these great tips!! Thank you very much friend! I voted it Awesome!!

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Teaches, a recommendation from you means much to me. Thank you, kindly.

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        Dianna Mendez 

        5 years ago

        This is a post that every teen should read. I find most teens desire attention badly and they will cave into the urges to gain what they believe to be love.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Glad to meet thelesleyshow. I love the trust you have in your daughter. All the best to both of you.

      • thelesleyshow profile image


        5 years ago from US

        I'm sure glad that my teen years are over, my daughter is 13 years old, I know that she will be much more mature in her relationships than I was just because her character is so much more mature and loving than mine was at her age.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Thanks LadyGuinevere. I appreciate your kind comment.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Lifegate, if the teens only know that they do not know . . . Thanks for your kind comment.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Thanks Shelley, I appreciate your supportive input.

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        Debra Allen 

        5 years ago from West By God

        These are excellent ideas and I only wish that I had those when I was a teen or even better my children when they were teens. Definitely sharing this one!

        This should have been HOTD

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Rachel, if they would only listen; but whether or not they do, we have to communicate with them in whatever way we can. Thanks for your comment.

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        William Kovacic 

        5 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

        Hi MsDora,

        Another hub full of practical wisdom - something most teens don't have. I hope that parents and teens alike take note and follow some very wise, creative, and relationship building advice.

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        Shelley Watson 

        5 years ago

        Lovely advice for the young to follow - your ideas give them a grip on real relationships and help to add depth.

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        Rachael O'Halloran 

        5 years ago from United States

        I wish today's teens took a page out of our book when we were dating in the 1940'sand 1950s, because we did some of your very suggestions as part of our dating life. This was a very interesting hub. Voted up.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Faith, thank you for another example that patient love has lasting rewards. Thanks for sharing from your own experience.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Flourish, thanks for your examples of self-respect and respect for the other person in teen relationships. The friendships you and your husband enjoy with your exes could not happen otherwise. And how precious those friendships are now!

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        Faith Reaper 

        5 years ago from southern USA

        Such great insight here, MsDora. Teenage years are so critical with hormones flying ...

        I hope many teens read your article and take it to heart!

        I was married at the age of 19 and still married to the same man, who was 18 when we married : )

        We came up with plenty of alternatives to having sex before marriage and it worked out oh so much better for a lifetime.

        Voted up ++++ and away

        God bless you

      • FlourishAnyway profile image


        5 years ago from USA

        This is an excellent hub in the alternatives it provides. I believe it is very possible to form important lifelong connections with dating partners while in your young teens, even when you marry other people. Two of my deepest lifelong friendships were once my boyfriends when we were teens, and my husband is still friends with a girl he dated as a teen, too.

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        5 years ago from london

        Continuous and loving advice and ideas for children, and indeed parents in their search for positive applications to their children's lives. Let us all inspire others to wholesome boundaries. Higher blessings.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        More than that Eric, you nurtured good relationships with them. Well done, Dad!

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        Eric Dierker 

        5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        Well done here. I was just lucky with my girls.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        DDE, thanks for your kind, sweet comment.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Gingerka, I appreciate your feedback. Thank you.

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        Devika Primić 

        5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

        Brilliantly thought of and you have chosen an interesting topic.

      • gingerka profile image


        5 years ago from Colorado

        What a great subject to write about! You have some very good points.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Thanks, Sheila. Now to bring the teens to the drinking well! I pray that they come.

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        5 years ago

        As always, you've provided some great advice and tips - not only for teens, but for anyone in a dating relationship. Great job!

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Jackie, yes, your remark about the menu made me smile. Thanks for your support.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Frank, what a precious comment! Thank you.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Bill, wish I could too, but I'll keep trying. Thanks for your affirmation.

      • MsDora profile imageAUTHOR

        Dora Weithers 

        5 years ago from The Caribbean

        Word, hope the article really helps those who need it. Thanks for your sunny Florida greeting.

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        Jackie Lynnley 

        5 years ago from the beautiful south

        Sound advice Dora. There will be no changing what has become accepted but it may do wonders indeed to add to and promote lasting relationships. It makes them better human beings if nothing else to have more than one desire on the menu. lol Great advice, indeed! ^

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        Frank Atanacio 

        5 years ago from Shelton

        Teen love 101, a very good hub and a must read for those teenagers who are approaching love.. a soft enduring message Msdora.. as only you can write :) bless you

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        Bill Holland 

        5 years ago from Olympia, WA

        Very interesting topic, and wonderful suggestions. I'd like to find a way to force every teen to read this. :)

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        Al Wordlaw 

        5 years ago from Chicago

        Hi MsDora from beautiful, sunny Florida, This relationship preserving teen love guideline may extend to senior mature relationships as well. The appropriate love relationship is a youthful one. It is all the value of maintaining spirit, youth, joy, success, happiness and much more. Thank you so much my friend, for such a superb hub that should help teens around the world and mature folk as well :-)


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