How to Find Love: Quotes by Famous People on Love
Everyone Wants to Find, and Can Find, Love.
Wise Words on Love
From the beginning of time, wise people have spoken about how to find love, how to be loved and how to give love.
Everything that philosophers, authors, poets, scientists, and successful people from all walks of life have said about love can be summed up by asking and answering these seven questions.
Perhaps these quotes will inspire you to write a love letter for Valentine's Day or you can use one of these quotes to create your own Valentine's Day card.
Question 1: What is Love?
Love is essentially the emotion of attachment. It is a feeling of strong affection.
There are many types of love and each type is different from the others in subtle ways.
There is erotic love—the love between lovers. The love we are talking about when we say we are “in love.”
There is the love we have for our family—we love our spouses or life partners, we love our children, siblings, parents, and extended families.
There is the love we have for our friends, communities, and country.
I’m going to limit this discussion of love to the love between people. Therefore, I shall not consider the love of God, the love of pets, or the love of things--The love we have for things that give us pleasure. (I love a good book, I love ice cream. I love writing. I love the beach.)
The Bible -- I Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes in all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
Barbara De Angelis -- Relationship and personal growth adviser, writer
Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible. it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.
Aristotle -- Philosopher (Ancient Greece)
Love is … a single soul inhabiting two bodies.
Peace Pilgrim -- Spiritual teacher, Peace activist born Mildred Lisette Norman
Love is a willingness to give without a thought of receiving anything in return.
Franklin P. Jones -- Reporter, Public relations executive, Humorist
Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
Emily Dickenson -- Poet
That Love is all there is, Is all we know of Love.
Everyone Needs Love.
Question 2: Why is Love Important?
Love defines us. We are who we love. Love opens us up to experience our selves, other people, and our world more fully.
Love is essential to life, and if not essential to life itself, it is essential to a happy life, a life well-lived. It is what gives life meaning.
Without love we are adrift in a sea of loneliness. Love connects us to other people, and thereby, to our own humanity.
Tenzin Gyatso -- 14th Dalai Lama
The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence.
Mahatma Gandhi -- Leader of Indian nationalism
Where there is love, here is life.
Victor Hugo -- Author
Life is the flower for which love is the honey.
Oscar Wilde -- Writer, Poet
Keep love in your heart. A life without love is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.
Erich Fromm -- Psychologist
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.
C. S. Lewis -- Author, Essayist, Poet, Theologian
We love to know that we are not alone.
Thomas Merton -- Writer, Monk, Poet, Activist
We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone—we find it with another.
Carl Sagan -- Astronomer, Astrophysicist, Author
For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love.
One of the Best Books on the Subject of Love.
This book is an enduring classic. I first read this book in college in the 60's. I reread it from time to time. Each time it has new meaning.
How Much Love Can You Give?
Question 3: How Much Should We Love?
Life can be hard sometimes. Love is the elixir that gives us the strength to press on. So love abundantly. And then love more.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox -- Author, Poet
Love much. Earth has enough of bitter in it.
Sophocles – Philosopher (Ancient Greece)
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love
Nora Neale Hurston -- Author
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place
Lao Tze -- Philosopher, Poet, Founder of Taoism
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
William Shakespeare -- Playwright, Poet
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
Henry David Thoreau – Writer, Poet, Philosopher
There is no remedy for love but to love more.
To Be Loved, Love Others.
Question 4: How Can We Be Loved By Others?
Everyone wants to be loved. The secret to finding and getting love is to love others.
How much love do you want? That is how much love you must give. Do not think about being loved, think about loving others, and you will find yourself being loved.
Paul McCartney -- Member of the Beatles, Singer, Songwriter
And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.
Henry Miller -- Author
The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.
David Viscott -- Psychiatrist, Author, Businessman
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
Paulo Coelho -- Lyricist, Author
Love can only be found through the act of loving.
Erich Fromm -- Psychiatrist, Writer
Immature love says, "I love you because I need you." Mature love says, "I need you because I love you."
Alan Cohen -- Author (Best known for "Chicken Soup for the Soul")
You believe that a lover will bring you love, but it is your love that will bring you a lover.
Elbert Hubbard -- Writer, Publisher, Artist, Philosopher
The love we give away is the only love we keep.
Rumi -- Persian poet, Sufi mystic
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Mom, I love you.
Question 5: How Should We Love Others?
We should love others unconditionally.
So often people feel that they will be loved only if they are deserving, if they meet expectations, if they behave the way others want them to behave. We should give our love unconditionally; we should never demand anything in return--not even love.
The traditional marriage vows state “for better or worse.” What is that if not a call for unconditional love?
Love is not static; it is in a constant state of flux. Sometimes we have to add a little yeast to the bread dough of our relationships.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross -- Psychiatrist, Writer
The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.
Mary S. Calerone -- Physician, Advocate for sexual education
I truly feel that there are as many ways of loving as there are people in the world and as there are days in the life of those people.
Usrula K. Le Guin -- Author
Love doesn’t sit there like a stone. It had to be made like bread; remade all the time, made new.
Anaïs Nin -- Author
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”
Iris Murdoch -- Author
We can only learn to love by loving.
Send someone a love letter.
Question 6: Why Should We Say “I Love You"?
Everyone wants to hear the words “I love you.” Even when we know that we are loved, we want to hear the words. And if we are unsure as to whether or not we are loved, we need to hear the words.
I am a public speaker and when I give my speech on the topic of love, I sometimes hide hand-written love-letters around the room. Each letter is for whomever finds it. The letters say “I love you because… “. Then I give reasons--you are kind, giving, thoughtful, etc. The people who find these letters are so moved by them, even though they know they were written by a stranger. It just shows how much we want to hear the words “I love you.”
George Eliot -- Author
I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.
Victor Hugo -- Author
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved.
Something to Remind You to Say, "I Love You"
I feel very erudite when I have this mug with Shakespearean quotations on my desk. Plus it reminds me to be more loving. (It also makes a great gift to give to the people I love. It is a way of saying "I love you.")
Question 7: What Does It Mean to Be "In Love"?
Many people have tried to describe romantic love.
So many times people ask, “How do I know if I am in love.” There are as many answers as there are people. Maybe the only answer is, “You’ll know it when you feel it.”
Scientists will tell you it is all due to brain chemistry. But that is not the answer you are looking for, is it?
Percy Shelly -- Poet
Soul meets soul on lover's lips.
Dr. Seuss -- Author, Poet, Cartoonist
You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.
Erich Segal -- Author, Screenwriter (best known for “Love Story”)
True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
Ranier Maria Rilke -- Poet, Author
Love consists in this; that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.
In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.
John Updike -- Author
We are most alive when we're in love.
Alfred Tennyson -- Poet
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
Love Can Be Funny.
Sealed With a Kiss
I thought I’d end this with a couple of quips on the topic of love, a little gift of laughter for you.
Leo Buscaglia -- Author, Motivational speaker (known as Dr. Love)
Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.
Charles Schulz -- Cartoonist (Best known for the comic strip, “Peanuts”)
All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.
I wrote this essay to add a little love into the world. Now it is your turn.
Do you feel ready to go out there and put a little more love into the world?
Enjoy this clip from "Love Story" which gave us the famous quote "Love means never having to say you're sorry."
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