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3 Aspects of Beauty the Mirror Does Not Show

MsDora, Certified Christian Counselor writes on moral integrity especially for women and encourages appreciation for the men in their lives.

The glass mirror can reflect the color of your clothes, the shape of your figure under the clothes, your picture perfect hairstyle and your make up. However those physical features are only a part of you. If you want to evaluate your real beauty–the combination of the qualities that make you attractive- you need to step away from that mirror.

Mirror, Mirror . . . Am I Beautiful at All?

Photo by Bill Branson.

Photo by Bill Branson.

Sure, your physical appearance is an important part of the first impression you make on admirers. But have you noticed that rational people always want to know you better before they reveal what they think about you? They really want to know what's on the inside. Wisdom dictates that a person’s beauty or attractiveness be judged by their interaction with other people.

Following are three areas in which wise people evaluate true beauty–areas which do not register in the mirror.

(1) Beauty in Relationships

Beautiful hands render help.  Photo by Shane McCoy

Beautiful hands render help. Photo by Shane McCoy

Relationship is better than a mirror in demonstrating your true beauty.

  • Does your self-concept (your opinion of your own beauty) hold up in the relationship?
  • Do you contribute to the other person’s self-concept?
  • Are you part of a mutual exchange that empowers both of you?
  • Does that exchange have a life-time benefit?

An affirmative answer to these questions validates your beauty-the essence in your soul that makes and keeps you loving and lovable.

This concept is illustrated in Time Tested Beauty Tips written by Sam Levenson but attributed to Audrey Hepburn (1929-1993) because she loved it so much. She quoted it when asked for her definition of beauty:

“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.”

(2) Beauty in the Sense of Self

When was the last time someone complimented you on your personal beauty? Not the beauty of your dress, or your shape or your hair; but on the beauty of who you are?

When was the last time you complimented a friend on personal beauty? Were you focusing on physical appearance or on quality of character?

How do you rate your beauty right now? Does your heart hold enough kindness, compassion, tolerance, humility and other like qualities enabling you to see some form of beauty in someone who is not physically beautiful?

Just like your facial beauty, your beauty of soul requires maintenance. Check your levels of self-confidence, courage, patience, fairness and so on. Be approachable and available as best you can to share the beauty that identifies you. It takes a beautiful soul to admire beauty in someone else, and in the world around you.

Beauty is reflected in genuine smiles

Friends, Yami and Vale.  Photo by Edwin Dalorzo

Friends, Yami and Vale. Photo by Edwin Dalorzo

(3) Beauty in Smiles

Smiling is a quick way to spread and evaluate your beauty. Apart from your interaction with family members, fellow workers and other people with whom you have an established relationship, evaluate how your smile influences the people who cross your path.

Every face looks more beautiful with a smile on it; and seldom will you smile at a passerby who will not smile back. On the rare occasion when you do not get a smile in return, be happy about the beautiful contribution you made to that person who saw your smiling face.

Sandra Bullock, recognized as one of Hollywood’s most beautiful women is reputed to be just a happy, down to earth woman with an alluring smile and a laughter that makes the saddest person laugh and forget adverse, personal issues. How beautiful is that?

All the make-up in the world will not make a sad face look happy, or a mean face look kind. A genuine smile put forth from within a beautiful heart can make a difference. Evaluate your beauty by the number of faces which reflect your smile.

© 2011 Dora Weithers

Comments

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 29, 2012:

I like the way you stated it daisynicolas. Thanks for your affirmation.

daisynicolas from Alaska on January 29, 2012:

I say 'voted up' as a 'beautiful' hub in itself. Beauty become more dazzling when accompanied with kindness.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 30, 2011:

Thanks Nell, for affirming my point of view. Your illustration explains it exactly like it is.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 30, 2011:

Zabella, thanks for sharing that lovely and truthful quote. That adds to the amount of beauty we can share.

Nell Rose from England on October 30, 2011:

Hi, I think a smile can turn the most stern face into something beautiful, I have met quite a few people who look handsome on the outside, but inside they are not very nice, a personality that is good and kind is much more important, cheers nell

Zabbella from NJ-USA on September 23, 2011:

Beautiful Hub. A quote I found...."People all over the world smile in the same language."

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 07, 2011:

SJ, I feel your beauty in your kind words. Thanks for stopping by.

SJmorningsun25 on September 07, 2011:

What a beautiful Hub! Thank you for these wise words. If Hollywood would pay attention, think of all the vanity-related social problems that could be eradicated! Keep up the good work.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 22, 2011:

Carolyn, we share that love. Thanks for your kind words, and your support in general. I appreciate you.

Carolyn on August 22, 2011:

I love the phrase "beauty is a light in the heart" thank you for another lovely article from a truly beautiful lady!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 21, 2011:

Zanin, I appreciate you. Thanks for encouraging me and for sharing my hub.

Thanks Power, for stopping by, and for leaving such kind comments.

PoweroftheCross from Above and Beyond... on August 21, 2011:

This is a wonderful post. You've said so much about what true beauty is. Even the beautiful, or so called beautiful, get insulted when only their beauty is noted. Very cute photos here.

zanin from London, England on August 21, 2011:

p.s. i have shared this post. many need its help!!

zanin from London, England on August 21, 2011:

I think it is so sad when some people feel they have to think about what everyone else thinks about their outer appearance. Smile and you will get a smile back. Frown and you are on your own! Good post. Nina

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 20, 2011:

Isin82, beauty takes time - longer in some than in others. As we long as we keep at the task of self-improvement, we're doing all right. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate you.

lsin82 from Houston on August 20, 2011:

Ms Dora great post. My interaction with people is not the greatest and it is something that I am praying to get better at. I want to display those true characteristics of wisdom expressed in James 3: 17. This was a great post. Be blessed

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 19, 2011:

Thanks for your comment, Dave. You're a wise man.

Dave Mathews from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA on August 19, 2011:

I feel that a person's outer beauty is a reflection of their inner beauty, through the way they express themselves. With practice and with God's help, I am in just a few seconds able to know more about a person through their appearance for the eyes definitely are the mirror to the soul.