Ten Characteristics of the Alpha Woman

Updated on July 16, 2016
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Grace loves to write commentaries on psycho-cultural and sociocultural dynamics in their myriad forms.

The Highly Successful, Self-Confident, and Independent Woman

The alpha female is supreme among females. She is also their queen. Other females often look to the alpha for leadership; however, there are some who feel threatened, because this woman tolerates no nonsense and does not believe in game playing and one-upmanship.

How do you know an alpha female when you meet her? Here are ten ways.

(1) She is never embarrassed to ask for what she wants.

"Assertive" is not a word that she is uncomfortable with. In fact, being assertive is second nature to her. She believes that all right-thinking people should negotiate explicitly to get their desires and needs met.

She believes you are responsible for your own life. Refusing to ask for what one wants is anathema to her. Negotiation is what life is all about. Her motto is that life is for the takers and participators. Holding her tongue, toeing the line, and waiting for others to magically notice and reward her is simply not something she'd ever do.

(2) She enjoys being in an equal or superior position to men.

Why not? The idea that she must subvert or minimalize her attributes, intelligence, or other strong characteristics because she is a woman is so old fashioned. Who says that men have to be the breadwinners? Not her. To her, traditional gender roles are just so 19th century. She believes that a confident, intelligent, and mature man is not threatened by a powerful and highly successful woman. In fact, such men should be overjoyed that such women exist.

Furthermore, she believes that men are just people, no more, no less. She does not believe in playing the weak damsel in distress. In fact, she is loathe to play silly, coquettish games of any kind. Inane affectations sicken her, to say the very least.

Her motto: Weak and insecure men need not apply!

(3) She is not passive regarding the pursuance of any type of pleasure.

To her, being a woman is not equated with being passive. Not at all. Being indecisive and wishy-washy is not in her nature. She is oftentimes the initiator in seeking all avenues of fulfillment, including the sexual. To be passive in her eyes means to be acquiescent in life and she is anything but. To her, passivity is equivalent to being owned and she does not want to be owned—not by tangible and/or intangible constructs. She is proactive in her approach to life. To her, life is for the takers!

(4) She does not mind being wildly and uninhibitedly feminine and sexy.

To her, being feminine, beautiful, and sexy are not antitheses to being independent, powerful, and liberated. In fact, the former are analogous to the latter. She views sexual stereotypes as limited and atavistic labels that preclude women from becoming full human beings. She believes that people transcend stereotypes, which are only artificial constructs that limit individuals. To her, the old stereotype of being a feminine woman is morbidly suffocating. She refuses to believe that being beautiful, feminine, sexy, liberated, powerful, and independent is oxymoronic.

(5) She does not mind if a man earns less than she does, as long as he contributes to the relationship and upholds his end regarding household responsibilities.

Who says that a man has to earn more than a woman? Not her.

She does not subscribe to such outdated and utterly sexist paradigms and philosophies. She believes what a person earns should have nothing to do with their gender. She feels that it is quite normal and acceptable for a woman to out-earn a man. She does not mind being the sole breadwinner in the family, if need be.

(6) She believes in having a career to establish her self-worth and independence.

She believes in being a contributor in life and that when one contributes, one becomes truly a full, worthy, and authentic person. Furthermore, a contributor always leaves a posthumous mark on society and the world at large. In other words, contributors make an imprint on life.

A career helps her do that. It's a way for her to use and exhibit her intelligence and talent for the world to see. She also gets a sense of self-actualization. In her eyes, nothing makes a woman more self-fulfilled than a satisfying career. A career means power and power has its own rewards. Being powerful means being a shot-caller, which translates into ownership. Nothing makes an alpha woman happier than to own and be in charge of her destiny.

(7) She thrives on being in responsible positions. Being responsible for others equates to power for her.

She believes that she is more than capable of the task at hand. Since she knows that for a fact, who is better than she to assume high powered and responsible positions? She is the best at what she does and no one can do it better.

To her, power is an integral part of the human construct: Either one has it (which means that one can be highly proactive and influential in the events of humankind) or one is utterly powerless, always bowing to the desires of others. She refuses to be put on a proverbial leash. She only answers to herself.

That power allows her to become a mentor and help others by cultivating, encouraging, and developing their human potential. She does this for her own good and for that of the firm.

(8) She refuses to believe in the antiquated concept that one becomes less agile and more infirm with age.

Age is just a number to her, one that means nothing in the larger scheme of things. She is the type who remains vital and sharp in her old age. She thinks that anyone who succumbs to the atavistic stereotypes of age needs a good psychiatrist, or better yet, should starting broadening his/her life perception, and fast!

She, for one, is not going to become an old lady. Think of Betty White (a nonagenarian) and Rita Moreno (an octogenarian)— both vibrant, lively ladies who totally exemplify that one is only as old as one believes. These ladies get even fiercer with each passing year!

(9) She does not complain or whine.

She sees complaining and whining as abject passivity and a refusal to improve the negative circumstances of one's life. She figures that if one is mentally healthy and mature, one can remedy one's life instead of whining about it.

She knows that everyone's life has some amount of difficulty and hardship. To just complain and whine is a total waste of energy. That energy is better used in assessing, challenging, and overcoming those adversities. Besides, other people are uninterested in listening to your lamentations. She staunchly believes that complainers are wimps who should be horsewhipped into maturity! There is nothing further to say.

(10) She doesn't believe in excuses.

She believes if one makes one bed, he/she should lie in it, either for good or bad. In other words, one reaps what one sows. If one exerts little or no effort, one shouldn't expect a reward.

She finds it ludicrous that many people want success in life but refuse to put in the necessary work, planning, and sacrifices to get it. When they do not achieve their dreams, they blame everyone and everything but themselves.

This excuse-making really incenses her to the nth degree. Stop with the excuses already, she insists. Her motto is that each person has what he/she deserves, nothing more and nothing less!

In summation, the alpha is a no-nonsense woman who's supremely confident and self-assured. She knows what she wants and how to ask for and obtain it. She is a true realist: no sugarcoating for her. She likes life at its most unadulterated essence. She appreciates the good and can learn from the bad. She also knows how to make the more negative aspects and situations of life exceedingly beneficial.

She does not believe in antiquated gender roles. She is beyond stereotypes. She is a take-charge woman who makes no excuses. She is and has what she earns and deserves.

The alpha female is unique! In fact, she is the prototype of women in the 21st century and beyond.

The Alpha Woman Is the Future

The alpha woman is the new definition is what it means to be a woman. She is feminine, fierce, and intelligent. She is the prototype for women in the future.
The alpha woman is the new definition is what it means to be a woman. She is feminine, fierce, and intelligent. She is the prototype for women in the future.

© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams


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      Gadfly 2 months ago

      As we in U.K. usually adopt 'Americanisms' ive yet to hear the term Alpha woman in use here.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 2 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      THANK YOU!

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      Alpha Woman 2 months ago

      Excellent points!

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      maria 6 months ago

      alpha women get tired of always being the responsible one and having to care the work . then they become weak and insecure most men use alpha women

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      Jennifer 8 months ago

      This is me to the "T"

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      AlphaFemale 8 months ago

      1) Mr. Adam Ruins Everything makes a noteworthy point: The Alpha concept was established while watching animals demonstrate social dominance or submission. However, some anmials act differently depending on the species. Undoubtedly there are social hierarchies in the modern human age; however, it changes quite frequently depending on the culture, organization, and social setting.

      2) This article is more based on the opinion of one woman's perception of what qualities she feels a woman should have. There is no data mentioned in this article.

      3) There are plenty of strong women who don't pursue a professional career that have leadership qualities. (Might I mention I am a very career driven woman; yet, I don't think its a necessaity to be an alpha female).

      4) I am literally writing a book on being an Alpha female.... so you might be asking wth is an alpha female then? It is simply an ideal of a successful woman. What is successful? That is determined by the individual beliefs of the woman. However, collectively there are qualities of proven leadership, financial abundance, and emotional stability that statistically help a woman achieve goals, communicate her vision, and beat the competition.

      5) Those qualities are not different that promote success in any human being.

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      Gadfly 8 months ago from Olde London Towne

      The reason i am pleased to be 'under the thumb' is because my Domme projects such a strong character. When you see her in public it is obvious that she is a woman of Goddess like status.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 8 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for reading the hub & for your response. It is appreciated in kind.

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      valerie 8 months ago

      this is a great article for alpha females, and how i notice even my sisters are alpha females who are with men who earn less than them, and they have to be with men who are not threatened but of course the men i notice cook and clean and help out. it's a great balancce.

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      ADAM RUINS EVERYTHING 9 months ago


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      Grace Marguerite Williams 11 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Quite welcome.

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      Dian Damayanti Rahayu 11 months ago

      I found myself exactly as alpha. Thanks for the article

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      Gadfly 15 months ago

      I needed to look up the definition of alpha female as it is not a term in wide use here in London town. The London equivalent of an alpha female i suppose would be harridan, virago or 'iron lady'. As a single male who never gets women's attention i'd certainly stand no chance of latching o to an alpha female. The closest i ever got was to an undercover policewoman who was checking on me but i suddenly realised it when she overdid the friendliness. Women just don't give me that attention.

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      Yenne 15 months ago

      Alpha males and females. We shall never stoop so low and settle for anything less than what we deserve.

      May all alphas stand tall and rock on.

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      paul streitz 16 months ago

      It is to be noted that no Conservative women, with the accept Joan Rivers maybe, are on this list. We do not see Sarah Palin, Phyllis Schlafly or Laura Ingram on the list.

      The top two, Hillary Clinton and Angela Merkel are the biggest political failures of our current generation. Clinton ran a campaign of under rancor toward her political opponents, the despicable average Americans. She could do nothing but claim that her opponent was emotionally unfit to be President, she gave no positive reasons why anyone should vote for her, and then she suffered a nervous breakdown when she found out she had lost (surprise to her but not to anyone on the other side of the fence).

      Angela Merkel has imported one million "refugees," single white Muslim males with little education into her country. They don't speak any German, aren't interested in learning and immediately go on German welfare, there to stay. They have terrorized, raped and murdered women in her country. Her government suppresses any German paper reporting on the subject and made it a crime to speak the truth of the matter.

      This is simply a PC list of supposed justifications for liberal women and their neurotic, psychotic behavior. There are other websites that capture the unique, feminine attributes of women. This is not one of them.

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      Michael Basham 21 months ago

      I know a number of these creatures. Important in their lives is themselves, their interests, desires, agendas, and self worth. By using this moniker ("Alpha") they seek to define and justify their position to all concerned. For me the very term falls on deaf ears, as it is really just a masking of profound insecurity and repressed aggression. It is not attractive. It is not pretty in any way shape or form...it is a façade in many instances, and a license to abuse. Self-Permission to act out, break all the rules, dismiss all moral or ethical boundaries and yet persuade one's self of some glamorous notion of accomplishment or victory. In short, it's really all about "ME"....primitive and raw sort of narcissism.

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      Bob Ford 21 months ago

      You used a picture of Merkle (or however you spell it.) She is ruining Germany with all the immigrants she lets in and bends over for Muslims. Alpha woman? Not even.

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      Gadfly 2 years ago from Olde London Towne

      Here in olde London towne we are indeed fortunate to have with us Ladies who have been schooled in the art of good grooming, eloquent speech, are intuitive, ambitious and utterly feminine. Many were born into the Establishment classes or eventually receive the honour of a titled Lady. However there are also women who have leadership skills and succeed in the fields of academia, politics, religion and sports. When i am in their presence which is from time to time i get quite self conscious to say the least. I get very overjoyed in instances where they wish to converse with me. Female gender - okay. Token female - absolutely not !

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for stopping by and responding.

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      AlphaFemme 2 years ago

      All of this resonates with me. Devin also helped to restore balance and to reconnect me to my feminine (unorthodox, but effective): http://www.DominantDevin.com

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York


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      Ellen 2 years ago

      Absolutely true. The only trait I did not identify with is that "Alpha women are not afraid to ask for what they want". I could be misinterpreting that statement, but I prefer the idea of "creating what I want" rather than asking others for it. I like to be in charge of my own life and destiny and to earn my way through life. And so true about whiners! UGH! Who can stand them?? Eeek! :)

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      GJohnson 2 years ago

      Hi There Fems ! Glad to see that you 'want' to consider yourselves Alpha's. Sorry to have to burst the bubble of your self proclaimed titles. The truth is about 1 % of all females exhibit 'alpha' characteristics in their teenage years, the other 99 are follower types. Many become 'captains' of high school sports teams, others will not even participate because they don't play well with others if they can't lead. Some will even get into trouble because of their assertiveness and belief in their own ideals, while almost all will have 'trouble' with others either in a game, practice, family, work etc. at times. But the good news is that they are alpha's and most will power through the conflicts and not stay caught-up in them. Be honest, this is not you 'bloggers' or possibly even gmwilliams. Albeit, it's cool though to try to jump on the bandwagon. The other bad news here is that as females age into their 20's and beyond, those 'alpha' numbers drop again (and remember if you weren't on in the beginning, your not one now). This is primarily because of interaction with the males in society (especially the alpha's). The conflicts in life get bigger, other things in life become more important, and the unpredictability of conflict leaves them more timid (assaults).

      A true alpha must always win a conflict when they know they are right!

      The numbers in adult woman becomes about .1%, and by that point you have had some 'rough' encounters in life but your commitment is still unyielding and you have found a way to sleep well at night and wake up refreshed, ready to take on the challenges of a new day!

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      mirabelle 2 years ago

      This is a great article. I just had trouble with some sections that had grammatical errors which made it hard to read smoothly. Some editing would help. Examples: "She refuses to view the* being beautiful, feminine.... and independent as oxymorons." ... "She furthermore view* complaining and whining as a sign of being borderline psychotic." ... "The contributor have* made an imprint in life." I put an asterisk after the word that needs to be edited in (or out of) the sentence; it was mainly the verbs that were problematic. Otherwise, thank you for the great description of what is an alpha female!

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      anon 2 years ago

      You are describing females who attempt to portray masculine characteristics, and that's why they come of very unnatural and awkward. That's why their movements, gestures, voice and everything about them comes off more irritating than anything. Alpha females power is in her seductive nature. That's much like saying Raj from Big Bang Theory is the Alpha Male. You are a delusional beta male.

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      Guest 2 years ago

      It's hilarious that Hillary Clinton is considered a strong woman when she supports more government benefits. You're in no position to call your self an independent woman if you support more government benefits.

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      Viv 3 years ago

      (6) She believes in having a career to establish her self-worth and independence.

      so, if a strong, intelligent woman does not have a career, and have no desire to have a career--if only for the simple fact that she doesn't need it to "establish her self-worth," then she is not a true alpha female? Dear, dear.

      She is THE BEST at what she does and NO ONE can do it better than she.

      This sounds rather narcissistic. By this sentence alone, can it be inferred that an alpha female would not take kindly to constructive criticisms? Humility hardly seems an option. As a matter of fact, from what I've gathered so far, it would probably be considered as a major sign of weakness.

      I don't know. Alpha females do not seem to be especially pleasant people to be around. If a woman with all these traits should someday arise and tyrannize over a group of people, I certainly hope no one will say she's not an alpha female. She wouldn’t have to be kind or considerate. She’d only have to be strong, intelligent, and responsible. Whoever said that morality is black and white? There are many ways to do things for the good of oneself and one's society, after all.

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      christine 3 years ago

      Great article! Only...the editing for spelling...and some of the grammar...needs an overhaul! And I would add two more inherent elements of the alpha female personality: compassion stemming from a sense of personal duty to help humanity with our leadership gifts, and total personal accountability.

      The only difference of opinion I have with a point made in this essay/article has to do with sexual conduct. No, an alpha need not be sexually promiscuous. In fact, an educated, intelligent alpha knows that promiscuity increases her risk for serious infection, as HPV causes several types of cancers, and is transmissible even with proper condom use. A true alpha certainly has NO reservations initiating sex and having the "First Move" be all hers. However, she's educated and highly selective about her partners, as self-preservation and bodily health are most important to her. The alpha female responsible for the pack must be always accutely aware of her value to her pack, and that taking care of her own health and physical self-worth is her number one priority. It assures that she can perform her alpha duties successfully, and well.

      Thank you for a wonderful essay that portrays alpha women as feminine, sexy, alluring, beautiful...and soft but strong. As opposed to the usual depiction of us as masculine, hard, cold, lonely, greedy, evil queens with a vengeance agenda. I'm a petite/very feminine, sexy, hourglass-and- loving it woman, single mother, business owner, active philanthropist and volunteer, and one "badass bass player chick". (So I've been told...it has been the most frequently used phrase to describe my recent live performances.) I'm also a published author (Rodale Press), who loves baking pie as much as I love managing my smartphone app company. I will rock out buckled riding boots and a miniskirt, business suit, OR a '50s vintage throwback apron with flowers, tousled long bombshell hair & big shades, or a neat updo and eyeglasses. Alphas aren't afraid to play many roles, as it reflects the incredible X chromosome & female hormonal make-up that enables us to multi-task and switch gears effectively. Oh, one more element I think was missing from your wonderful article: SURRENDER. There ARE times that an alpha female surrenders fully & freely, without fear, worry, and hands that control and power over to the unknown, driving forces of life, itself. They include.... Surrender to the love of a child and their demands of a " just one more time" read through of a cherished bedtime story, or as was the case with my own daughters (alphas already, at ages 15 and 12), that favorite lullabye sung once more... Surrender to the feeling of deep connection to a lover during passionate sex....Surrender to the waves of powerful contraction and sensation when birthing new life... Surrender to the cries and suckles of their tender offspring, especially the oxytocin rush and bliss of milk letdown while breastfeeding... These are moments of surrender that BUILD the Alpha Woman's power & personal stores of strength.

      SOME surrender...is POSITIVE surrender.

      PS- I have never been lonely...I have found the opposite with men...My soft strength attracts them by the truckload, actually. But it then quickly weeds out the unworthy, quietly... The ones who are not good, TRUE Alpha Men just sort of...fade out of the picture, and I of course know who they are, and I let them. (I'm not talking about souless, power hungry dirtbags here, when I say "Alpha Males"!) Also, something was overlooked with the mentions of solo, " lonely" lives...First of all, some women do not wish to be partnered. Just like their successful male cohorts, this is perfectly fine. Hopefully, however, they will consider passing along their superior genes and abilities to lead and guide in raising children, as THESE truly are the women who create future leaders. (Even if an alpha adopts or fosters... Her amazing energy and example will create a potential future leader, and hope a for a future better world!) And...plenty of LBTQ women are Alphas, not just straight heterosexual women...

      FYI... As a young woman running a business and playing music, ibhad ZERO interest in ever having children. I thought I could never be a good mother AND run my 'show' all at once. I was in a longterm, committed relationship when I became pregnant. Obviously, it was unplanned. I decided the only choice that fit me was to have this baby...that fate had presented me with an incredible plot twist in life. And that I could therefore indeed, handle this incredible challenge in my path. My mind flashed a spotlight shortly after discovering I was pregnant. It was this: "Hmmm...i don't ever hear stories about successful men who are leaders ever doubting that they can handle being a father AND a total success at life, with their ambitions... Hmmm...WOW. WHY would I EVER doubt myself then?!? WHY do women DOUBT themselves?!? FRAME YOUR MIND CORRECTLY, Christine!! You can and WILL do this, with flair and passion, and your own signature signed ALL over it!" That self talk... EMPOWERING... Part of that healthy, self-care bit I started this diatribe with. #writers# !!! Can't shut us up!

      Thanks for reading.


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      Vesp 3 years ago

      Well, I would have been an Alpha female if it weren't for good ole Bipolar Disorder. It's made it so that I actually can't put my career as #1 in my life. (And quite frankly, that's been a blessing in disguise.) Now I'm much more interested in minimizing stress in my life and pursuing what brings me joy and gives me purpose (yoga, massage, counseling), rather than putting in 60 hour weeks in a law firm. I value work-life balance above any kind of salary or career prestige anyone can throw at me. Some of us just don't have the ability to tolerate high stress levels. Also, the Alpha woman described above really sounds like a control freak. I think it's totally possible for a stay-at-home mom to wear light pink polka dot dresses, cook meals, and still be an Alpha female. It's more about a way of life, in my opinion. There are many ways to be an Alpha female.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for your comments; it is greatly appreciated in kind.

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      neki 3 years ago

      Im Kenyan and I have Been headstrong since I can remember. I have been in leadership positions since kindergarten. I'm glad I can put a name to my almost intimidating personality. Great article

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      Mark 3 years ago

      I thought this was a decent article outlining some of the traits of an alpha female personality until I got to the comments.

      "who wants a beta female who does not offer any challenges but is just the prototype of the self-effacing good girl?"

      It's unfair to denigrate women just because they don't share these "alpha" characteristics. The answer to that rhetorical question is of course, many men. Thank god we all don't think alike.

      There is a very broad personality spectrum across both genders that seems to be ignored when people talk about "alphas" and "betas". Suddenly there are only two types of women in the world. It is a minority of either gender that could reasonably be described as quintessentially "alpha", yet your comments seem to imply otherwise by the simple fact that you refer to women as either one of the two, rather than merely possessing those traits.

      We're all complicated individuals. Good for women who possess these traits. Good for women who don't so much. And good luck to those on both extremes...

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      Shiku 3 years ago

      Alpha forever!

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      LR 3 years ago

      @Blossom-There's a lot of ambivalent sexism in the South, especially benevolent sexism where people, especially women, are praised for following their gender roles. And if they don't follow, there's hostility. Even in other cultures, alpha females are still disregarded.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      WELL SAID Blossom, WELL SAID!

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      Blossom 3 years ago

      In that case, what makes you think an alpha female even wants your so called "Southern Gentleman"? And the way I see it, a true gentleman wouldn't feel the need to beat any woman. That is a gross misuse of power; men are physically stronger than woman. If it is true that they know they are stronger and use it as a way to hurt them, it is no different than a violation of physical privacy and a violation of respect. There is no justification for it such behavior from either men or women.

      An alpha female is neither stubborn nor inconsiderate; these are not traits to describe a leader. Alpha women are assertive and know when to rise to the occasion, which naturally puts them in roles of leadership. Would you want a person who has the right ideas, who can progress an agenda or establish a system, to be quiet while everyone else dilly dallys around? Be grateful for the alpha women in your life for their guidance, support, and strength in pushing for YOU. They can be your strong mothers, grandmothers, or sisters; yes, they can even be you.

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      LR 3 years ago

      And women in New York are sometimes seen as unfeminine. If an alpha female were to meet a good Southern gentleman, she will be subject to hostility and abuse real easily. Good Southern gentleman want a beta female-type good girl over an alpha female-type bad girl. Bad girls where I'm from, which is the South, are often victims of domestic violence. Beta girls are respected more in the South than alpha bad girls whom they call sluts, whores, or dykes (lesbians). I mean, living in the South as a typical alpha bad girl, people will do anything to subjugate me into the beta good girl when I would rather do bad, cruel things. I'm a very stubborn person overall and I never listen to people nor consider their wants nor needs. I focus a lot too much on myself.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      @Guest, yes, there are some insecure males who will want to subjugate the alpha female but the mature, confident male will relish such women as equals. After all, who wants a beta female who does not offer any challenges but is just the prototype of the self-effacing good girl. Yes, in some parts of the South, especially in more conservative and fundamentalistic areas, women are the second wheel who must submit to male authority. Yes, such atavistic thinking exist in many parts of the South, particularly the Bible Belt. However, in New York, women had better be alpha females if they wish to survive and THRIVE. Beta females in New York are chewed up and spat out. They are walked over and pissed on.

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      Guest 3 years ago

      @Rebecca-Alpha males will want to subjugate and abuse them in order to turn them less than alpha, or even beta.

      @gmwilliams-Yes, I've been around these Americans, mostly in the South. They aren't comfortable with a strong, independent, smart female. Even in my own Filipino immigrant family as well. Those people are very traditional but unintelligent even when they are educated.

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      Rebecca 3 years ago

      Either there's another type of specie that no one has picked up on yet but some women possess all the "alpha female" characteristics yet still desire to be taken care of. I mean, how can an alpha female attract an alpha male if the roles are shared? No such thing...

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Guest, some Americans AREN'T okay with the strong, independent, smart female. Those Americans are in the atavistic minority. The smart, postmodern American is OKAY with alpha females. In fact, they consider the alpha female to be the true woman!

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      Guest 3 years ago

      @Lynn-And if female leaders are caught in compromising situations with the opposite sex, they are severely punished and executed for good.

      But anyway, I'm glad Germans are okay with alpha females unlike Americans are.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Lynn, you are living in the Dark Ages, my dear. There is NOTHING wrong with being an alpha female. Alpha females are respected and are less likely to be abused like the more traditional feminine woman who puts the male first. Alpha females are the future of womankind, believe it or not! Women make good leaders. Stop living in the 1950s, this is 21st century America and women are OUT of the kitchen-sistas are indeed doing it for themselves. I am HAPPY being an independent, liberated woman. At least I CAN take care of myself and not depend upon a male like you. How SAD you are! You are the typical atavistic, submissive woman of yesterday. The modern male doesn't want YOUR kind of female, thank you kindly! Nothing's WRONG with Hillary Clinton-she's a SMART, INDEPENDENT, CAN-DO woman while you're a little, little girl.

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      Lynn 3 years ago

      Sounds like a self centered b**** to me. Normally these women are not attractive. I'm not jealous of a so called alpha and I certainty don't follow this shallow behavior. My husband of 25 years wouldn't put up with that crap! He is a real man. A leader. When I think of so called alpha women. I think of Hillary Clinton. Who wants that! Women make terrible leaders because we are emotional. Plus there is only one Alpha and HE is God. Show some humility. Quit living for yourself.

      Feed some homeless. Get yourself a real man. Study God's word. Before you end up 45 years old and coming home to a house full of cats.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Oh DEAR!

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      Gimp 4 years ago

      I need a woman to wear a leather track suit and whip me into shape.

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      Guest 4 years ago

      But in the South, alpha females are treated badly and harshly like any other bad girl. Men subjugate them and abuse them because of their bad girl magnetism and dominance, knowing Southern gentlemen believe in benevolent sexism and strict gender roles and norms. They respect beta females more often than alpha ones. Strong, assured women don't get any respect in the South at all. Instead, they get hostility and abuse which means they give up their alpha traits in courtship in marriage which is why there's gender inequality in the South still.

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      Alpha of all ages 4 years ago

      I find it very misleading to associate the attributes of a Feminist to being Alpha. I'm a total Alpha female, strong leadership skills, I'm the dominant female in my social circles, so much so that any female that spends a lot of time with me her menstrual cycle will change to my schedule. I'm strong, attractive, very athletic and intelligent, but I am not a feminist. I have no interest in a career outside of the career of dedicating myself to my children, being in sole control of their development is a must to me. If you look at some of the attributes listed here, you would think there weren't any Alpha females prior to the turn of the century.

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      Alpha of all ages 4 years ago

      I find it very misleading to associate the attributes of a Feminist to being Alpha. I'm a total Alpha female, strong leadership skills, I'm the dominant female in my social circles, so much so that any female that spends a lot of time with me her menstrual cycle will change to my schedule. I'm strong, attractive, very athletic and intelligent, but I am not a feminist. I have no interest in a career outside of the career of dedicating myself to my children, being in sole control of their development is a must to me. If you look at some of the attributes listed here, you would think there weren't any Alpha females prior to the turn of the century.

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      slave-selection.com 4 years ago

      Their salaries are bigger, their heels are higher and they never slave over a hot stove. Meet the women with the XX factor.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 4 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you Breeze for stopping by and adding to the discussion.

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      breeze 4 years ago

      Totally and happily married to the finest man I've ever known. However add compassion to the mix...to be completely confident you have to be confident enough to love.

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      Mira Johnson 5 years ago

      Alpha Females date men who appreciate their strong nature. It's called a Female Lead Relationship (www.about-flr.com) There are TONS of guys out there who would love to find this.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      You are quite welcome. Strong women are becoming more commonplace in the postmodern era. No longer will women be beta because of societal and familial expectations. If you are strong, rejoice and marvel in your strengths. Strong and assured women get respect and admiration from others.

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      guess 5 years ago

      absolutely..i fall into this category of female...and i am proud and happy of myself now more than before...thanks the article

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      Shanie 5 years ago

      Dave u hit it on the head. Alphas are unlucky in love. But life goe on! I've been told I'm an alpha female by many and after reading this article I realize how much of an AF I truly am. I couldn't imagine myself any other way.

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      GTLDavid 5 years ago

      These traits are pretty much the same as for Alpha Male and being an Alpha Male myself i can relate to it a lot! Well written but the one point that is missing is that most Alphas are not lucky with Love due to their dominace in Life :). @Selfless4Life Alphas are single for life :)

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      Selfless4Life 5 years ago

      Oh and the chances are they will most likely be single for most of their life and if they are rich can buy the affection of a toy boy.

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      5 years ago

      Alpha forever...

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      Ana 5 years ago

      The description is very accurate, but before working on yourself to be an alpha female, you might want to consider your future love life.

      All those traits are very unappealing to men, and being an alpha female may imply feeling very lonely.

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      ZRMoore 5 years ago

      I am definitely an alpha female

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      msorensson 5 years ago

      Wow..what an exciting woman you describe..Let me see..I have four friends like this..Yes..they are all you describe AND..very nice to boot..

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      Larkshman 5 years ago

      Hmm you are rigth alpha female

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      b. Malin 6 years ago

      I never gave myself a Title before...Oh yes, I think of myself as a Wife, a Mother, a Grandmother, A Lover and a Friend and of course a Writer. So I guess another title would be an "Alpha Female". Good subject GmWilliams, and informative read as well.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To jenjen0703 and bell du jour: Thank you both for your wonderful responses. I totally appreciate them. You two are always welcome to stop by. Thank you again!

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      bell du jour 6 years ago from Ireland

      Wow gmwilliams! you have just described me exactly! :-)

      Great hub, voted up


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      Jennifer McLeod 6 years ago from Battle Creek, Michigan

      I am totally an alpha female! Thanks for the article. I enjoyed it and even got a few laughs out of it. Voted up!


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