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Men Not Wanting to Marry: A Modern Problem

Updated on April 13, 2017

Men not wanting to marry is a growing concern for women of all races in the United States. For example, up to 55% of black women never marry along with 25% of white women. There have been numerous studies done as to why these figures have been rising since 1982, when these figures were 30% black women never marrying and 10% white women also never tying the knot.

Let's take a look at some societal reasons marriage has been on the decline -- for all races. And what women on the whole can do to bring their marriage rates back up. The tips in this article are going to sound sexist to some, but you must remember that for men to desire marriage, there have to be old-fashioned practices in place that will make them feel that there is a benefit to them in tying the knot.

Men not wanting to marry. Wedded bliss is a little harder to come by these days.
Men not wanting to marry. Wedded bliss is a little harder to come by these days.

Men are less interested in marriage than ever before. Why?

  • Sex without commitment is getting to be the norm. This is one reason people used to marry young. In the days before free love, it was considered healthy to be in a monogamous relationship where a couple would get sexual relief safely and regularly. In addition, the woman received the security of commitment. But these days, most women feel sexual freedom is a good thing and exercise their rights.

  • Women are less feminine than ever before. Men naturally want to wear the pants in a relationship, but feminism has taught women that fighting for their rights in a marriage and getting their way all the time is the way it's supposed to be. Men feel that getting involved in committed relationships and marriage equals stress rather than love and a balance of masculine and feminine.

  • Automation has eased traditional wifely tasks so that men can do them without help. TV dinners, takeout, and restaurant meals have replaced a great majority of the kitchen cooking from scratch women used to do at home as housewives. In addition, washers and dryers let anyone clean and dry their clothes with ease.

  • With a 50% chance of divorce, men can get screwed for life with paying alimony, which can take them to the poorhouse. Men often see the statistics and simply shun the idea of ever getting married.

What can women do to reverse the trend of men not wanting to marry?

  • Women need to shun pre-marital sex. It doesn't matter how much you want it, just don't do it. For this to work, women collectively have to decide against it. Men by nature will have sex as soon as a woman allows it, and if that sex is delivered without an engagement ring, many men will never see the reason to pop the question. Stop going for men who are only interested in sex. Only allow men with good intentions into your life -- men who will stick around and want you -- all of you.

  • Women should embrace feminine behavior once again. This means no yelling or cursing just for the heck of it, especially not in public. This means crossing your legs, wearing skirts, smiling, flirting to get your way, being polite, and using your feminine charms to your advantage. Doesn't that sound so much easier than having to argue and fight your way through a relationship? It is.

    Men are much more willing to embrace commitment if they know they are dealing with a feminine woman and not just a man in a dress. This will help them take the plunge much more easily because an agreeable woman is much less likely to get divorced than a woman always at war with her husband.

  • Women should take up cooking again. Although automation has it so that men can eat conveniently made frozen and take-out meals, fast-food cannot hold a candle to a home-made meal, especially one cooked with love.

Men not wanting to marry is simply a symptom of the fact that the roles of men and women have gone askew and need help to get back into place. If women on the whole take the above steps, the trend towards marriage will be on an upswing again!

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