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Men in Lingerie: Want to Wear Panties but Are Too Scared to Tell?

As a woman, I write a great deal about men who wear lingerie. To be honest, it has become rather a passion of mine over the past few years.

How should you approach your wife about your interest in wearing panties?

How should you approach your wife about your interest in wearing panties?

Do You Want to Wear Panties?

For many men who wear lingerie, the most difficult part of the journey isn't making the decision to wear these garments; it's letting their partner know about their desires and habits when it comes to lingerie. It's hard enough finding a nice lady to be with in this day and age—without also having to worry about finding someone who will be accepting of, and perhaps even enjoy, your choices.

Not Telling Her Is a Mistake

Many men make the mistake of not telling their girlfriends or wives, thinking that they would be disgusted. However, when you hide this sort of thing from a partner, you are actually depriving her of the experience of sharing something that is very special and important to you. Imagine how you might feel if you found out that she had such an intimate secret. You would probably be understanding, but there would no doubt be a little sting at realizing that she had kept something so personal from you.

Relationships Are About Trust

Relationships are all about trust and intimacy. Many women who discover that their men are into wearing lingerie do so after catching them in the act, or perhaps even finding their man's panty stash and even assuming that he is cheating. They are shocked and surprised, not so much at the lingerie itself, but because they suddenly feel that they don't really know the man they are with.

Hiding who you are can be quite damaging to a relationship, and many of the negative reactions that men fear may in fact be brought about by hiding their desires from their partner instead of introducing them at the proper time, in the proper manner.

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When to Tell Her?

So what is the proper time? As a rough guide: Tell her early, but not too early.

You don't have to whisper in her ear and tell her that you are wearing a silk thong and stockings on the first date. That would probably be pretty inappropriate—unless things were going incredibly well. However, waiting months to tell her may be pushing it. A good time to start revealing your inclinations towards lingerie is when you start to become physically intimate.

This is the time where she is becoming open to you physically and emotionally, and this period is most definitely an important one in the formation of a strong relationship. Once you begin to get a sense of comfort with her, and she with you, and trust is beginning to build, that is a good time to let her in on the "secret."

You may be surprised at how positive the reaction is, or at least how curious and non-judgmental it is. Remember, if she is worth having in your life, she is not going to be cruel regarding your personal tastes and desires, nor is she going to be disgusted by them.

Let Her Get Used to the Idea

However, don't expect her to immediately leap up, start grabbing her intimates, and thrusting them at you to try on. That may come at a later stage, as many men do share the process of picking out lingerie with their partners. Introduce her to your lingerie slowly.

Once you have talked about it, come out wearing a pair of panties, perhaps, or a camisole under your clothing. Let her get used to the idea, and feel, for that matter. Believe it or not, guys, silk and satin feel just as great sliding across a manly body as they do a female one, and many women come to very much enjoy the look and feel of their men in lingerie.

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