How to Tell if You Are a Lesbian
How Do I Know I Am A Lesbian
The discovery of where we belong in society is possibly the most important element of a happy life. For those who question their true sexuality, this awareness can become far more difficult. I was one of the lucky ones, I knew from early on that I didn't have dreams of a knight in shining armor sweeping me off my feet to live happily ever after. My dreams were more inclined to be of a beautiful redheaded princess to share a cozy home with and live for ever together. Not all homosexual folks are aware this far in advance. For them, recognizing a few clues along the way may be helpful. That is what I will try to share today, the clues that may just help you discover that you are in fact, a lesbian.
Do Lesbians Fight A Lot
My dad tells me he knew from the moment I could put a sentence together that I was going to be something much less boy-crazy than was my sister. Some of the little clues that I might have missed when I was really young were in fact the very same clues my father recognized to have that flair of tomboy, that was just a little too "boy".
Is Confidence A Sign You Are A Lesbian
I had an undeniable confidence and a very protective nature for those around me, primarily the girls. But, if a boy was being picked on, I was usually the first one to stand up for him and of course, pop a bully right in the noggin.This confidence was not a sure sign that I was a lesbian, as my sister too, was a pretty good scrapper when it came right down to it; and she is a girl all about boys! However, scrapping certainly played a role in who I was as a much younger lesbian person. I am not very fond of bullies or mean spirited people to this day. Just ask the guy at the market who received a hay-maker from me for shoving a lady down in front of the meat counter last year. (The guy was, "a real chowder-head" as my friend, Doc Sonic might say).
What You Think Really Does Matter!
Have you ever felt you might have lesbian tendencies?
The Lipstick Lesbian Fact or Myth
This is one topic that has much confusion swirling about it, the mythic "lipstick lesbian". These female friendly beauties don the Maybelline® magnet that hetero women believed they had singular claim to. The short-shorts, frilly tanks, glossy lips, sexy high-heels, and of course those form-fitting little black dresses have brought stunned facial response from many handsome men throughout recent history. The rules have changed and so has the stereo-type. Don't get me wrong here, these same pearl-peach lipstick packing Mo's are sure to have a pair of Birkenstocks in the shoe rack somewhere. I know this because I have had girlfriends who happened to be among this ultra spectacular feminine lesbian persuasion. But, what is it that truly makes these lipstick lesbians such special creatures? This amazing class of ladies can also build you an upstairs apartment over the garage, and look fantastic while doing it!
What Makes A Lesbian
There Is Criteria For Being A Lesbian
When it comes down to what makes someone a lesbian, the rules are pretty clear cut. You have to be a chick who is attracted to other chicks sexually. If that sentence didn't make you wretch or gasp in disgust, you might have lesbian tendencies—or you might just be a really cool straight chick (or dude). Having what feels to be natural desire for making love with other women is the indicator. Not just that you "kissed a girl and liked it"...I mean really, who wouldn't...but that your physical desires go much more than lip deep.
The "I Kissed A Girl And Liked It" Lesbian
If you are just fed-up with guys who haven't treated you with care, moving your stuff into your lesbian friend's house and snuggling side by side does not make you a lesbian. It just means you're pissed at boys right now. Wait it out, if you're a hetero gal, that desire for boys will return in no time at all. Lesbians are more than willing to nurture you while you work through your "boy troubles" but, be very careful not to mislead us about your sexuality. If you're straight it's okay, we won't judge you for it. Just don't tell us you love us and that we are the love of your life, only to leave when the hot six-pack rippled dude next door tells you your eyes are sparkly. That's just not cool, and remains very UN-lesbian-like behavior!
The Lesbian Fluke
Keep in mind that just because you may have deep feelings of intimacy for one individual female doesn't mean you are a lesbian. You may simply have a unique connection for this person, while other females bring you zero sexual desire. This is the lesbian fluke. Should this relationship dissolve over time, another female mate will probably not suffice. The probability of finding another "unique" female for the lesbian fluke to connect with in such an intimate manner is almost zero. No matter how hard she may try.
4 Sure Signs That You Are A Lesbian
You Can Be Certain You Are A Lesbian When...
- The thought of holding hands, kissing, or being with another girl feels exciting and romantic, so much so that you want to do this all of the time. Women become irresistible to you.
- You seek out books, movies, and information about lesbians so you can learn more about the culture and community. Your desires are to be with other lesbians socially.
- Your sexual fantasies are centered strictly around women. The thought of making love with another woman is a strong frequent desire.
- The thought of sexual interaction with guys makes you feel awkward or repulsed.
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- PFLAG (Parents, Families, & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) - Support for LGBTQ families and those they love.
- UC Davis LGBT Resource Center
Who Are Lesbians
Finding The Lesbian In You
It pretty much boils down to this; if you dig chicks on a sexual level all of the time, then you can be pretty sure you are, in fact, a true lesbian. Bouncing back and fourth between guys and dolls means you are most likely a bisexual. Lesbians like other girls, and only other girls. Lesbians want to make love with other girls, and only other girls. Lesbians have guy friends, not boyfriends. Lesbians like feminine clothing, make-up, pretty shoes, great hair styles, and cute fluffy little kitty cats. But, lesbians also like plaid flannel shirts, big work boots, buzz cuts, tattoos, and ferocious big gnarly dogs. We have great careers, no careers, butch careers, and girly careers. So, when trying to discern if you are a lesbo or a hetero, there is only one way to know for sure. And that is; having sexual contact with other women gets your romantic girl motor running at full throttle! Anything less, and you should look for a more appropriate label.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.