The way I see it, if wearing lingerie is wrong for a guy, there are much worse things I could be doing.
I didn't know what I was getting into when I slipped on that first pair of panties years ago . . . and by that I mean, at that age, I couldn't fathom actually trying on other kinds of lingerie. But once I started looking at catalogues and seeing bras, hosiery, etc., I became curious to know how those other kinds of lingerie felt.
My First Bra
Sometime during high school, I finally got some panties after a long time of not having any—but I also got some bras. The panties ranged from cotton to nylon, from briefs to thongs. Then there were the bras.
The first bra I ever tried on was a silky black Victoria's Secret demi bra. To my surprise, I got lucky and the band fit me perfectly. I got it in an A cup, so even though I don't have anything there to support, the cups were at least small enough to conform to my "chest."
While wearing it, I felt just about the same as when I first slipped on panties. Speaking of panties, I had a pair on before I put on the bra, adding to the excitement and the experience. Some nights, I would sleep in just a bra and panties since they are very comfy and feel great. However, not long after this all started, I started having doubts as to if what I was doing was right.
I Struggled With My Conscience
I struggled with this issue as I'm sure a lot of guys that wear lingerie do. Being a teen and feeling like there was nobody I could go to for advice made things even worse. On one hand I thought, this isn't right. Lingerie is made for women. Guys don't wear feminine clothes. Guys that wear feminine clothes can't exactly be straight in any case.
On the other hand, I thought, what's so wrong about wearing lingerie? Sure I'm a guy, but it hasn't made me any less of the guy that I am (not saying or implying that gay or bi guys are lesser men that I am). I'm still interested in women. I just so happen to have a thing for women's lingerie. Each time I struggled with my conscience over this, I started to learn that I needed to make a choice on whether I'm going to stick with it or give it up.
Sometimes I Threw It Out
Having these struggles, I have thrown out lingerie a few times and—ridiculously enough—I have considered the money spent on the lingerie a punishment, as well as a loss. It sounds very stupid, and each time I threw out lingerie, I felt stupid. Although when I was throwing lingerie out, I thought I felt stupid for even having bought it and having this fetish for it. I looked back on each time and realized that I really should have found a place to donate the lingerie if I was going to throw it out. It would have at least gone to somebody who needed it. But what's done is done.
Pointless to Keep Fighting It
After each time I threw out lingerie, I would be good for a while without having it. Then one day I would see a Victoria's Secret commercial and I would start wanting to wear lingerie again. I could have looked away or walked out of the room, but I wanted to watch the commercial. Same goes for any other commercial that had lingerie in it. I may have thrown out lingerie but that doesn't mean I don't have a thing for it.
Not long ago, I decided that it was pointless to keep fighting it, since each time I went without it, I would find myself wanting to wear it again. The more I tried to suppress it, the more I wanted to wear it. In the end, I chose to stick with it and wear my lingerie. The way I see it, if wearing lingerie is wrong for a guy, there are much worse things I could be doing like drinking excessively and going absolutely nowhere with my life or getting myself into a mess I can't get myself out of.
That's pretty much been my experience so far as being a man who wears lingerie. There are other things I could add, but this article is long enough as it is. Once again I would love to see comments and thanks for reading again.
Sally Barton tv on August 30, 2020:
My nan dressed me as a girl when I was very young and I have been dressing up since
Iam 58 now
Dave 55 on August 24, 2020:
I'm a 55 year old straight guy and have always brought and worn male thongs, I wear them for my wife in the bedroom or at least that's what I tell myself , they make me to look and feel sexy and confident but lately I have been wearing them under my boxers in secret when I go to work and at home Today I have ordered male lace panties which I plan on wearing to work under my suit. I always like to see my wife in lingerie but that doesn't happen very often now . But all said we still have a great sex life and I always wear something sexy . I am now at the point where I don't want to hide what I'm doing from her but also don't want to hurt her. I find it so hard to talk about this kind of thing. During lock down I was furloughed and home for 3 months alone. With time to think I decided I would make a list of things that made me happy in life as life is too short not to be happy . Wiith my beautiful wife and soul mate top of the list feeling sexy wasn' t far below and wearing sexy underwear gives me a real buzz and makes me feel confident. Now back at work the pressure is on and I have decided to raise the stakes and wear lace So thank you for all your comments and helping me realise I need to be honest with myself and that this is not just a gay thing.
Danny on August 07, 2020:
Why do I get so turned on wearing lingerie it started when I took my sisters panties and bras and wore them as often as I could I tried to tell her but was so scared if she went mad but wanted her to know
Danny on August 07, 2020:
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I’m a straight guy but love wearing girls lingerie and it makes me feel guilty and ashamed but it makes me feel amazing is that ok
Clint on July 30, 2020:
I have worn bras and panties since ten years old now lam 59. I started wearing my sister's things what a turn on I thing l wore more of her things than she did. I never want to take them off. I have nice C cup breast forms l love them. My wife let's me wear what l want when l want oooooh that's so nice. I would also like to meet a guy that wears girls things.
Heter0flexman on June 24, 2020:
I love wearing panties. Started at the behest of a lady i was involved with, who decried that thongs and g strings wrre not comfy. She challenged me to wear her panties for a day and i accepted, and she handed me this teeny tiny thong. I put them on, and instantly, fely comfort i never experienced before in any mens undies. Minimal light fabric, good support, and they really made my butt look good. I have worn only thongs and g strings since. Have also had women dare me into cross dressing for halloween and parties, and always eagerly agree, as long as i get tonpick out the clothes, and i always go for the tightest, tiniest, skankiest sluttiest clothes when such happens. Talking my big round feminine shaped looking ass hanging halfway out from tiny shorts that cover less than most bikini bottoms, or those tiny micro minis that bsrely cover the naughty bits.
An ex-fiance had many transgender friends who taught me how to tuck, and everything. They all wish they had my ass and legs lol.
Let me put it this way, when i got out, i may be called a butter face, but many guys love rubbing up on me, and i cannot tell you how many times i have had random men at clubs, slap, grab, pinch, rib, even motor boat my ass within minutes. One dude paid me $200 to let him tongue my booty hole at a bar.... my girl smacked me and told me to be a good little slut. $200 and 3 minutes later, he was happy.
Colin on June 02, 2020:
Ive been wearing lingerie for as long as i can remember. All started looking in catalogues and getting off on pics. Looking for c thru and white lingerie.
More girly the better. So decided to aquire a pair of my mothers knickers.
Sexy ones of course. It felt so wrong but unbelievably sexy. Seeing my erection grow in her white knickers. I was sold.
I now have many colours of knickers,tights ( crotchless). Suspenders , stockings. And mini skirts.
My favourite of all time is bridal lingerie.
So sexy and all in white too. So horny
Nick on May 20, 2020:
I really enjoyed reading your article. I felt a little less alone. I can say that my experience has been almost a mirror of yours. My first outfit was a one-piece swimsuit when I was around 15. I was also unaware how relevant that moment was to me. I've been through all the stages that you described; Being able to afford buying my own lingerie? later feeling guilty, ashamed and may be afraid of being caught, throwing everything out, and then a few months or years later indulging in it again. I like the title of your article. That is something we deal with in our society. People see a man in lingerie and immediately think, gay, bi, queer, trans, really anything other than straight. It is unfortunate, since the more I have researched my phenomenon, I have found that most of the time, it involves straight men. I do not consider it cross-dressing or drag, but instead, a lingerie fetish. Also, I have been rarely interested in panties or bras, but more with stocking, garters, teddies, baby dolls, bodysuit, etc. It is probably because I do have the figure to pull them off (no pun intended). One of my concerns is how I am going to open about this with a partner? I have had a few girlfriends, but never let them in on my secret. I know if I plan to marry someday, I would like to be honest with her about it, though I would not want to risk the relationship. Or would I be risking the relationship by not telling her? Maybe she has a fetish for men in lingerie?
Patrick on April 16, 2020:
I became engaged to a wonderful female soulmate after a divorce from a very judgmental woman who never got the opportunity to know my secrets. Since my divorce, I have worn panties and wanted to be certain that my new fiance was aware, so I had panties on the first time we got naked together. Its never come up in discussion, but what do i need to say? Hey, I wear panties! I am open to discuss if she wants to and may bring up the subject to her to add a different dimension to our relationship. Also, I would like it if she bought me some panties as a gift. Men, if you haven't tried panties yet, don't be afraid of your own sexuality, they feel great and are available in many styles and embellishments if you prefer. You can even order them online and if you don't like them, you can toss them and no one will ever know that you explored the suitability of panties for you. Give it some time to get the sizes right and look for panties with some stretch to them. I am a size 38" waist and wear a size 8 in panties with some stretch and sometimes a size 9 is better depending on manufacturers and a term that you will hear called vanity sizing. Right now I am wearing EVERLIGHT panties from Fruit of the Loom in a comfortable size 8. Panties came in a box of 7 even though Amazon had them listed as a package of 6 for $20.00 and no shipping.
Daniel on April 06, 2020:
love to dress up and sexy push-up bras that clip in the front and stockings cheeky panties heels I have 10 and a half inch by 3 inch wide I put it up in a harness and put on a tight skirt and go out with my girlfriend
Bill on February 29, 2020:
I’m a 55 year old man that recently began wearing panties. I used to buy thongs and g-strings tailored for men but have since moved on to women’s panties. I went into a store for the first time a few weeks ago and bought my own panties. It was nerve wracking but exhilarating as well! I think I’m going to have quite an extensive collection. My wife is aware and has even bought me a gift certificate to VS (haven’t worked up the nerve to go into the store, yet).
You’re not alone on January 19, 2020:
When I was in high school I always wanted to wear women underwear I thought they look so sexy on women (victoria’s Secret) well going into the store was a bit of a thrill you always think about what well that people think about me well people might stare at you but really they don’t care they are just going to assume you’re buying for your girlfriend and every Victoria’s Secret employee is kind and helpful I read forms online that you can actually try on things even though you’re a guy they don’t care for the longest time it took me so much courage to finally go in and just buy some that’s the time I would go to the mall and just turn around ever hear the saying just grow a pair well you have a pair so just go in and buy some i’ve been wearing them for six years now and I’m straight every girl I dated I’ve openly told her about it most girls would be fine with it no one‘s going to judge you you wear what you want to wear if it makes you happy then do it now I don’t wear bras only bc well I don’t have Breasts there’s no point but if you want to do it most the time when I would buy new underwear I would say hey can I have a gift box or a gift receipt just so if my girlfriend didn’t like them she could return them Which after a while I’m going to buy them so
Often I don’t even bother with that One time I was shopping with my girlfriend and I handed her my underwear and she handed her her underwear and the sales person was like do you want separate bags now I was confused like why would I want to separate bags and she’s like oh well most people do right then and there she knew I was probably buying them for myself and as a sales person she wasn’t judging in any way Now over the years you’re gonna have people that will find out especially if you tell your high school girlfriends they’re going to tell your friends and sometimes they are going to show when you’ve been down people might judge you but after a little while I just forget about it and get over it also if you live with your parents your mom will probably find out the matter how hard you try to hide it now over the years you’re gonna have people that will find out especially if you tell your high school girlfriends they’re going to tell your friends and sometimes they are going to show when you’ve been down people might judge you but after a little while I just forget about it and get over it also if you live with your parents your mom will probably find out the matter how hard you try to hide it we might leave one way out or you’re in your room sleeping and she comes in and sees you wearing them big deal Personally I like the Victoria’s Secret logo thongs I wear them every day it’s just underwear just do you and do you want makes you happy
Kevin on January 18, 2020:
I have been wearing panties for most of my life. My preference for panties started when I was pretty young and found a pair of my sister's panties in the bathroom. I don't know what came over me but I had to try them on. They felt so soft and comfortable. From that point on I was hooked on panties. As I got older I started purchasing panties for myself. I never told the salesperson I was shopping for myself but I am sure they always knew. Over the years I have found I prefer nylon hi-cut panties as they seem to hold everything in place the best. Pink and white are my color of choice but I also have panties in black as well. My favorite panty is the Wacoal Bodysuede nylon hi-cut panty. It is so comfortable and the lace trim makes me feel so feminine. I also enjoy occasionally wearing a garter belt and sheer lace top stockings with my panties. There is nothing like the feeling of dressing up in panties, garters, and stockings under my clothes and then going out in public. I feel so feminine knowing I have such pretty things on under my cloths.
Kandy on January 17, 2020:
Hi Mark.....I feel the same as you and I wanna find a nice guy too
Alyssa on January 08, 2020:
Alyssa is my fem name. I wear everything fem and love it all.
Al on January 01, 2020:
I have been wearing ladies panties for a while now. Wife if ok with it.
Since, I have a wardrobe of cami and shorts sets, Lovely satin pj's
I also have camisole underwear that I wear under my cloths.
I think I was a woman before this life.
Understand on December 09, 2019:
My partner is a straight man who likes to wear ladies underwear. I think it’s cute when he shares it with me. I feel like I know him well, I know who he is. Whatever he wears or doesn’t wear has no bearing on how I feel about him. However advice for others I think this should be told to your partner when you do start to really know each other. I have a girlfriend in the same position and she didn’t take it well because she was surprised and is now trying to make up for that. Be gentle out there allow each other to ask questions and be honest. But also know that a little kink here or there is usually harmless.
ROCK on December 06, 2019:
I am straight guy, and as soon as i started towear panties, i fell in love with these. i have a drawer full of mens u/w, but now a days I am not touching them. The day I wore a panty I told my wife, she said go ahead, it should feel very comfortable and nice to you. And I so agree. I feel great and my junk enjoys the max out of these cotton panties. I feel as if my junk feel jumpy in the panties, when I am walking. I am happy. I dont know what to do with my U/W, which must be around 30, mant of these still unused.
Jon on November 30, 2019:
I’m not sure if this is a bad thing or a good thing.....I’m becoming obsessed with wearing women’s lingerie. I’m only doing panties right now and have been for 7-8 years. But I look at all different women’s clothing on line all the time and I want to wear more!! I’m happily married and I’m concerned that if I express myself by wearing more women’s clothing that it can or may cause a problem. My wife knows how I feel as I have made it pretty clear to her multiple times, she has never said anything to make me think she doesn’t approve, but I’m still a bit concerned. Anyway, like I said, I think about it all the time, and I want more! Is there something wrong with me?! I’m not gay, nor am I attracted to men in any way whatsoever. I LOVE and idolize women in every way! But I gotta be honest, I wish I had a body like a beautiful girl. I think that’s what draws me to wearing women’s lingerie, I fantasize and feel like I look like the gorgeous models that wear the stuff I wear and want to wear....Am I really as fucked up as I feel like I am? I’m so confused.
Loren on November 13, 2019:
I am a straight male like to wear panties and lingeries. My wife support me about wearing them. I have been wearing panties for a very long time
John on November 09, 2019:
I’ve always had a thing for panties. But sadly, I never was able to express my affection for them with anyone else. I am 51 years old and have been married to the greatest girl in the world for 5 years. We’ve been together for 16. I finally let her know how I felt about wearing panties about 6-7 years ago, mainly by wearing a couple pairs of hers that were nylon spandex blends that felt amazing! I think at first she may have thought it was a bit strange, but after a while it just became the norm and she enjoyed and appreciated how I look and how they make me feel. Now I wear them 24/7 and have been for years. We go shopping together for them and sometimes I go by myself. I can’t understand how any man would want to wear those cumbersome men’s briefs or boxers when the comfort and liberation of a cute pair of silky panties makes you feel like a sexy million bucks! I have buddies that joke around about how the older you get the lower your nuts hang down. I was always like, WHAT?! Not me! And they’d say, “wait it’ll happen” ....Well, there’s no way in hell its happening to me seeing as my scrotum has been so comfortably supported in snug fitting panties all these years. I don’t even know I’m wearing them 99% of the time, they’re so comfortable! I’ve tried some different cuts, but I think my favorite is just a bikini style panty, especially string bikinis. Vanity Fair illumination bikinis and Jockey has a style that are freaking amazing! So comfortable and silky smooth, I couldn’t imagine wearing anything else. ...For guys who have never given themselves the pleasure of trying on some panties, you will never know how sexy and comfortable they can make you feel. And if you are in your right mind, you will never wear a pair of nasty bunched up men’s drawers ever again! This is a great thread, thank you all! Gotta go, need to shave my body bare and slip into something cute and silky, I’m thinking pink with black polka dots today.
Bob on November 06, 2019:
Hello everyone. My name is Bob for privacy reasons. I just wanted to say to any guys out there that I wear women's panteis. I'm 54 years old, and I have worn women's panteis since I was out of diapers. The reason for this is that I grew up in a very large family of almost all girls. I'm the youngest of 12,so I often had to wear hand me downs that included my sister's panteis. So I have never had to wear boys underwear. For me panteis were the norm. My mother would always buy us new clothes for school pants shirts, and and yes panteis all around. Being a boy, and never wearing anything but panteis it didn't bother me. I went through school wearing only panteis. I changed in the locker room with the rest of the boys, and never had a problem with any of them calling me names or teasing me. Now I am 54,and I still love to wear panteis all different styles colors. I mostly wear French, and high cut panteis in nylon fabric, or any other type of fabric that is soft and silky on my skin. I have tried to wear men's underwear, and after wear panteis for so long I can honestly say that men's underwear suck, and I have never bought any since. I can honestly say If memory serves me that I wore the men's underwear for less than a week because they were so uncomfortable. So enough ramblings. All I can say is mom I love you, and that I wouldn't change a thing about the way I grew up. And mom I am happy that I had to wear panteis. Rip mom love you.
Bruce on October 31, 2019:
I'm a straight guy who wears women's panteis. Love them wear them 24/7. The first time I put on a panty was around 5 years ago. I fell in love with the way panteis felt on my skin, and just how comfortable they were. I personally like the nylon fabric in a French or high cut panty. They fit perfectly, and they have plenty of room for a man's part's. I struggled for a while with the idea of wearing them, but I am so comfortable in them that I soon got over my fear. Now I have no problem going out into public changing in front of people, or even lounging around the house with my friends in my panteis. Too me it's all about being comfortable, and by that I mean I'm comfortable in panteis with my friends, and with my family knowing that I wear them. I have even been to my Male doctor wearing panteis. He asked if they were comfortable enough to wear every day, and told me to do whatever makes me happy, and comfortable. I thought that was pretty cool to hear from a professional. I have even been brave enough to go into Macy's, and purchase my own panteis, and found that the women salespeople were very helpful, and supportive of me. They did everything they could to help me with getting the most comfortable panteis I have ever worn. I absolutely loved the experience, and will definitely do it again. Personally I think that women's panteis all around are just plain more comfortable than men's underwear that bunch up fall apart, and let your part's fall out. Not to mention that you only have two types to choose from boxers or briefs in cotton or cotton with dull boring colors. Panteis have so many different styles colors, and fabrics to choose from that for me it's a no brainer. So if you're a guy who wants to wear panteis I say go for it, and don't look back. I promise you won't regret it, and you will be twice as comfortable in panteis. Good luck and thank you for letting me tell you what I think about the subject.
Just a panty wearing man on October 29, 2019:
Thank you for your great support. I'm a straight guy, and I absolutely love to wear women's panteis. I also have no desire to dress completely as a woman, or even consider changing to be a woman. I just plain love panties. They are so darn comfortable, and they fit perfectly compared to men's. I love my beautiful wife she is my best friend, and she is my soulmate. She is so supportive of me that I would be lost with out her. She has purchased panteis for me, and now I buy my own as well. She just wants me to be happy, and comfortable with whatever I do. I wear mostly French, and high cut panteis. For me they are the most comfortable. I don't care for cotton. I prefer nylon, or any other type of fabric that is soft and silky on my skin. I'm proud to say that I wear panteis, and I don't care what people think or say I want to be happy, and comfortable. I am who I am, and that makes me feel good about myself. I don't try to hide that I wear panteis, but I also don't flaunt it either. I have been seen by several different people including my male doctor, and no one said anything about it. My daughter knows that I wear them, and she says to wear whatever makes me feel good. She is the best. After all panteis are just a piece of clothing, and as a guy I have found them to be the best most comfortable piece of clothing I've ever worn. So guys don't be afraid to wear panteis it's ok, and it's becoming more, and more the norm. I have been in to some retail stores to buy my own panteis. The sales staff were very professional, and they were very helpful in making sure that I had the right panteis that were comfortable. They were also very supportive, and kind. Too these ladies I say thank you for a truly wonderful experience. I also want to thank all of the ladies that support any guy for being themselves, and I personally thank you.
Passin on October 25, 2019:
Verry young the neighbor girls started dressing as one of them , as I got older my older sisters girlfriends continued but they dressed me and set me in the back seet with one on each side as we cruzed and it also got me layed younger than my guy friends .... by high school I had moved far past dressing " BUT " ... In my early 20s lingerie came back into my life when hiking in the woods found a bag full of lingerie , washed them and have enjoyed this closet fetish every sense ... Never shared this and now that i am single & in the over 50s age group I'd really like to meet an other man with he same fetish ... This lead me to " fetlife " & being straight I have learned that we are many who dress lingering while alone in the evenings watching cd hub ...
Neilski on October 03, 2019:
Spiderman on September 21, 2019:
I’ve love wearing panties they feel sexy. It’s been twenty years that I’ve worn panties I dated women who didn’t mine. They make me feel good about my self. There r times that I wear pantyhose
karl age 64 on September 18, 2019:
hi i have been wearing pantyhose all my life along with other ladies clothing. i do love wearing a bra as well as that is the first thing i put on every morning, it's just who i am. i love being a guy but love wearing ladies clothing every day i just finish chemo and the treatment and pills gave me 36 b boobs, now i enjoying wearing a bra and other ladies clothing even more, and shopping is always enjoyable my wife is my best friend and great supporter. karl
M on September 17, 2019:
Thanks for sharing this, I thought I'm the only person who likes lingerie even though I'm not gay.
Leann on September 16, 2019:
Give me a break you only live once and it's a very short life live it to the fullest do it ever makes you feel good screw anybody else do it you like
Henry on September 14, 2019:
I'm a 56 yeàr old straight man and move been wearing pañtys and cami's since the 80,s love the softness colors and how they keep me cool in the summer unlike men's underwear feels like I'm wearing a potatoe sack used to get severe heat rashes to with pantys havent had one since and my wife thinks I'm sexy in them as I do myself really like the Lacy cheeky kind but dont like things not even on my wife
Mika on September 14, 2019:
I wear matching bra and pantie sets every day have done for years with wifes knowledge.
Tenochtitlan on September 06, 2019:
Thanks for this.
Michelle on August 19, 2019:
I wear women's panties every day have done for years. Im straight
TJ on August 19, 2019:
I'm a straight man who has never had the slightest attraction to other men, and never had any desire (or even fantasy) to transition to be a woman. I've always been perfectly happy to be a man and have always been very attracted to women. So much so, that I think that's why I've always liked to wear lingerie. I do it because I love the feeling of something feminine next to and surrounding my body. Sounds kind of hetero-male, doesn't it? Really, think about it. As a straight man, I would (and do) love to have a beautiful woman wrapped around my naked body. A girly girl, feminine, soft, beautiful, and all woman as close to me as possible. The only thing better is to have the next most feminine (and most importantly concealable) things wrapped around me all day long. I wear lingerie because IT is feminine, not because I am. I wear it because it reminds me all day long of the soft, sensuous, femininity that I am so attracted to. It's like being able to walk around all day inside a 3D version of a Victoria's Secret catalog. Is it a fetish? Yes, I there is that aspect of it. It's exciting, and even sexually stimulating to wear something made for and intended for a woman's body. It's exciting to do something that is still so taboo, and still be able to walk undetected through a crowded room while doing it. I may look ridiculous in the morning putting on a bra and panties, or on those especially good days when I go with some stockings and a garter belt, or maybe a nice teddy, but man(!) it feels as sexy to wear as it does to see on a VS model. In the end, it's what feels nice, whatever the reason. Be the man you want to be, and if that's a straight, butch, masculine man, who also happens to like wearing lingerie, do it knowing that it makes perfect sense.
Jhon Carter on August 16, 2019:
Well, I love to wear lace underwear. I know lace underwear is a kind of women lingerie. But as you know, mens underwear industry enhances the there scale and make stylish underwear for men. I love to wear mens lace underwear because of its fabric softness and comfortableness. I bought from Skiviez and gifted to my friend, he really looks good in this and like the way it feels on his sexy body!
Chris on August 08, 2019:
Thank you! i am a heterosexual male just turned 30 and i bought my first pair of panties when i was 17. i had tried on random pairs from my sister in law that i would find to see what the hype was about. hers were cotton but not of comfortable material and it was very thick. i earned enough money with a job and went and bought my first pair of bra and panties from victorias secret. the cashier didnt even bat her eyes as well. it was a very exquisite pair. i bought one thong and one cheeky style. the thong i still have til this day as a reminder (althought i dont fit in it anymore - size small). im an extra large in male clothing but i wear size L for panties and occasionally 36d or 38c althought its a bit tight. i find myself wanted. i battle with depression and question my self worth. but wearing panties and bras i feel some worth. half of my underwear drawers are thongs with a few cheekys and hipsters. thongs are easy to hide under dress pants. ill wear hipsters with jeans. 99% of my lingerie are from victorias secret as i wait for great deals. i believe last time i checked i had over 100 panties with 60 of them thongs. i donated most of the ones that dont fit and briefs and most old bras. i have a maybe 7/8 bras left. i too fear that i may be discovered by my household but at this point f it. it makes me feel good and no one should tell me otherwise. it has brought me a great deal of appreciation for the female body and women in general. i have a great respect for them and it has given me a great sense of fashion. i ocasionally help my best friend pick out her underwear for her clothes (shes a 32B and an XS/S). we share a great bond and its something we keep amongst ourself, something her fiance doesnt know. idk if its right or not but we bond when we go lingerie shopping together. there is no sexual feelings between my friend and i. thank you for listening. i hope this helps someone else, it sure did help me put it in writing for the first time.
Life time panty wearer on August 06, 2019:
I have worn panties all accept for5years 2 months Air Force training nothing said in locker room in high school I am 68 now and still wearing
Hippie U on July 28, 2019:
I been wearing ladies lingerie for close to 40 years. I never hide the fact as a adult, but as a mirror child I did. Every girl I been with and my two wives. All know about me and lingerie. I was very open from the start.
I always figured why hide it. Once they meet my family. My family would rat me out anyways. Especially my little sister. She was the first one to catch me wearing and went around and told everyone. So from then on. I figure they had to know before my sister got to them.
Now I don't even think twice about wearing. I go to the gym, the pool or wherever. And change in the locker room like rest of the men.
Its about confidence and be happy in your clothes
Sam on July 21, 2019:
Hello, I will just go by Sam because I'd rather keep my name private. I am a heterosexual male in my late 20's who just started wearing women's panties just a few months ago. I have been interested in them for years. Seeing the stores as I walk through malls and when I am in stores looking for other clothes for myself. I was scared for a while of buying them myself. Thinking of what the cashiers would think or say when I am at the checkout. One day I got the courage to buy some in a department store. The female cashiers didn't bat and eye of me buying them and acted as I was buying anything else. Now I wear them almost everyday, my preferred is a hipster cotton style. I love the way they hug my body and I feel it has relieved some anxiety in my life just by that.
I have read many of these comments and I just feel like crying. I am happy that many others have felt a similar way and have no issue with men wearing women's panties. I hope someday I will find a woman who can accept me for wearing them and maybe it be a turn-on for her. No one but myself knows and sometimes with people in my household it is scary if they found out.It is hard to be thinking this way but I know now that I should have no shame. There is no reason to have shame for being myself and I thank you all who have commented on this post to help me realize that.
Also OP, thank you so very much for this post. The inside into your mind and how so many people are thinking the same way is so relieving. I hope someday society will be tons more accepting of the "weird" things people do.
Thank you ALL.
Jboogie on July 21, 2019:
Thank all u wonderful men for making me feel even more strong about my lingerie&heels,im soft sissy all over&i love wearing dressess lv u guys for us all making this a beautiful thing guys
Jboogie on July 20, 2019:
Im SOOOO!!!!HAPPY WITH TH WARM TINGLY FEELING I GET EVERY TIME I WEAR MY LINGERIE,I HAVE WORN LINGERIE SINCE I WAS A VERRY YOUNG BOY&I"M HAPPY&PROUD THAT I"M A MAN THAT WEARS LINGERIE&I ALSO SHAVE MY LEGS TO MAKE IT MUCH BETTER OF AH FEELING
Black dog on July 12, 2019:
I feel the same as you
Harry on July 01, 2019:
I told my wife about my underwear. It was uncomfortable. She wore mine for a day and I wore hers. She agreed mine were very uncomfotable. We went panty shopping as hers were comfotable!
A girl here! on June 22, 2019:
Hi! I'm your run of the mill female. I suppose I'm here to say it's ok! It's not weird or shameful and in fact many women find it a turn on but that's not why you should wear it. All that matters is If you feel good in it. I mean if you think it's weird there are way weirder things people do and it doesn't even fall on the weird list if that helps???? You're not any less of who you are and if other men or women have an issue it's not you. It's them. They're insecure. Maybe with who they are or with who they wish they could be or they have a homophobic streak or even an abusive streak but in any case they aren't worth your time. You should feel empowered in your skin and fuck anyone who says otherwise. You are you and you are beautiful, lace and all. You should celebrate it. You all should. I mean why care about what strangers have to say? Why care about what a toxic society of sexism and homophobia and raging abusive arrogance that is considered "normal masculinity" has to say? Why even be apart of that when you can enjoy your life with something that does no harm TO ANYONE? Live your life and let others live theirs. People are who they are, its not our job to make sense of it. We should just respect it. You go guys!
Mark on June 14, 2019:
My name is Mark and I love wearing lingerie beautiful satin dresses and wedding gowns beautiful wedding gowns I even pass as a woman in the daytime and nighttime and I'm always single and I'm just looking for another man I love wearing lingerie
Jet on April 15, 2019:
Hi from ireland
William on March 31, 2019:
I love wearing panties and p/hose. Of course I love shaving my bod to go along with them. I am as straight as they come. I thoroughly enjoy wearing the items. Wearing panty, hose and a cami now. Will sleep in the panties under a nylon short gown. Love this
B on March 27, 2019:
I’ve just started wearing panties, pink, lace, bows, etc. I’ve never felt so good wearing something in my life. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in my feelings.
Paul on March 20, 2019:
This is all well and good but through all the sites I've been on mand shared on, no women seem to comment except for the occasional wife and psychologist. Why is that. I'd like the the single dating womens take,opinion/suggestions on my panties. I'm really loving those new Everlights and Cotton Mesh panties from FotL
Pantyboy Michelle on March 15, 2019:
Please tell me that I can talk to other cross dresser's
My turn on March 10, 2019:
Thank you all for your courage. I am a TV anchor on a national news network. Every day I wear black leggings under my dress pants. I first wore tights when I was a child, and ever since I've appreciated and depended upon the confidence and comfort they provide. I'm heterosexual, married, and my supportive wife keeps my spandex supply stocked. I've worn black leggings while interviewing two U.S. Presidents. What I wear down there is nobody's business but mine.
Bob on March 09, 2019:
I enjoy wearing panties and bras along with pantyhoses and tights . I have a many colors and styles of bras and panties the feel of nylon and lace is so nice on my body . I also wear leggings in public with a bra and panties with a long shirt I also wear light color t-shirts with a dark color bra under them so people can see I am wearing a bra I feel good about myself and want everyone to see it .
Rob on March 09, 2019:
I have been wearing pantyhoses and panties for years I'm now wearing bras and panties to work I also wear leggings in public with panties under them it makes me feel wonderful and I don't care what people think men should wear what they want and what makes them feel good
B on February 11, 2019:
When I was a teen i thought of wearing panties and dressing in sexy lingerie. It was not untill my 30s that I was able to buy several outfits. Unfortunately when I got engaged I threw it all away. I now find myself 15 years later buying sexy panties and have told my wife. She purchased a pair for me as well. We have great sex when I wear my panties, but she still thinks it is weird. I hope she can move past it and come to embrace and have fun with it. Would love for her and I to go shopping together.
Pw on January 22, 2019:
Have recently started wearing women's knickers and I'm converted now I wear nothing else I don't even own any men's anymore. So much more comfortable
Rob on January 17, 2019:
Wearing red satin pantys and Red satin bra now would love to experience the whole cross dressing experiment but need help
John Moran on January 15, 2019:
I'm 73 and married. I have worn lingerie for many years. I love the feel of the silky nylon on my body. My favorite panties are full cut Olga Without A Stitch and Bali Skimp Skamps (nylon of course). I also sleep in a long nylon nightgown every night. I feel very comfortable wearing them. I have a large collection of lingerie in addition to panties and nightgowns. It includes bras, camis, slips, and nylons. I would also like to be able to go out in public wearing dresses, blouses, skirts, etc. However, because I am male, society looks down on cross dressers. I do wear women's jeans all the time. Most people don't even notice. I don't even have any more men's jeans.
Mike on January 12, 2019:
I love to wear nylon panties and nightgown to sleep it's the best sleep I get some days I will wear my panties all day love the feel of the nylon rubbing my skin
Dj on January 10, 2019:
I love to wear panties I love to wear bras nylons sometimes I love just to wear a bra and nothing else with an erection I love to be naked wearing women's clothes I enjoy them I get an erection wearing panties so I go down then masturbate an see the cum all over my panties makes me have a good erection tonight I went to sleep with a bra a 38c love that one I work all day yesterday and wear it at night and I like to touch my titsI'd like for a woman to send me some pictures and what it would be nice to wearI'm happy I started wearing bras girdles and everything else I enjoy the feel the comfort I even have a corset it is beautiful I have sent pictures do some women well I'm wearing a bra and panties nylons I got a hard-on I even got to masturbate
allan on December 28, 2018:
I wear panties 24/7 and have woar the most of my like . I woar them while I was in the army under my uniform at work. now that i'm retired I wear them all the time and sleep in nylon night growns. \\ I love it.
Jim on December 20, 2018:
I have had a thing for panties for as long as I can remember.I get aroused even touching them . now I wear a pink bra and pink panties.I am straight but love to wear lingerie.Also boxers are no where near as comfortable as panties.When I wear panties and bra I feel great.I love it.
Annie on November 23, 2018:
I am a man who likes to wear women's clothes as I feel so comfortable wearing them. In particular I love to wear women's microfibre panties and bras especially if they are tight fitting under my dresses or skirts and tops. They are so soft and comfortable.
I have read some of the comments and I believe if you have feelings that makes you dress in women's wear then I would say do it. Women's clothes feel some nice to wear.
Josh Lune on November 13, 2018:
I think nothing is wrong with it as long as you are not snatching women panties from your friend and family members. But your own and make sure it can hold your package. I find it arousing and it gives me much better orgasm. I think the main reason for some guys who are really attracted to women panties, it has to do with the fact women look extremely sexy in them. It’s arousing! And to my understanding and research, most beautiful lingerie are made by men. Because we can picture how female body can look in them (exteremly sexy). Honestly i think every guy in their life time may thought about trying them on or what would be like wearing one and the feel you get from it. Panties are the close part to women Vagina, and wearing panties gives this crazy feeling I can’t really explain. If you like women vagina and you eat your women out, you should have no fear to try a pair a panties on. Again make sure you buy your own and you get something that holds your package in place perfectly. I started to wear to work and daily. I take a break to keep it interesting and arousing. Obviously women do look a lot better in them and it’s made for their body. But nothing wrong with wearing it. I never got into the bra thing.. it has no feeling for me and I know most women hate to wear them. Because it makes them hot and it’s uncomfortable to wear daily and all time. Any case, hipster panties are the one I tend to fit in perfectly. I got a pair of exofficio hipster, very comfortable no extra pushing around your package, it’s very breathable and soft and smooth. Easily washable and drys very fast.
Now let’s turn the table a around a little.. did you guys know there are women out there who love to wear guys boxer. If you have time google it. It’s intersting. I think the society and norm and peer pressure has made it into a taboo and some guys and gals hate to talk about it, they are afraid to be labeled and called out, humiliated as well. Honestly who cares, there are no laws out there prohibiting you from that, also no religion book says you can’t do that. I do not like to cross dress, only panties and leggings, yoga pants are my thing.
Tom on November 08, 2018:
I love wearing a bra out in public. I wear a white 40 B cup Werner bra and it fits my somewhat enlarged breasts perfectly. I love wearing my bra under a thin white t-shirt. I love walking by women in a store and have them notice the bra under my t-shirt. However I’ve noticed that the majority don’t even notice.
John Moran on October 29, 2018:
Today, I'm wearing a lavender Olga bra and full cut lavender print nylon panties. So pretty.
Caleb on October 23, 2018:
I love to wear panties and bras and be the more feminine partner. Is this ok?
John Moran on October 17, 2018:
I feel very comfortable wearing lingerie and have done so for many many years. I am wearing a light turquoise bra, nylon full cut panties with an aqua and white pattern, and an aqua camisole.
anon on October 11, 2018:
i totally agree menswear is cotton and boring why should women just be able to wear nice sexy silky lingerie.... jst keep wearin if you like i do!!!!!
Robert on October 01, 2018:
I have been wearing woman's lingerie since I was 10 . I have settled on wearing a skirt and slip where ever i go in the warmer months . My wife doesn't mind and is very supportive. I love my nylon panties of all types and styles which I have hundreds . My real like is girdles and nylon garter stockings which have U a supply to last the rest of my life . I also love anything made of super slippery nylon .
Janel on September 26, 2018:
I too wear panties and bras I also like to wear dresses now. I remember as a child around 10 trying on my moms panties. I have been married 25 years and my wife knows about my fettish. The truth is I have always loved wearing women’s panties bras and slips. I find myself sitting up at night late just to play dress up. I really appreciate this site for all the help in coming out about this. I think men should wear what they want if it means ladies panties then do it. I prefer to wear my panties at night in the bedroom with my wife. I would love to go further with her on wearing dresses but don’t know what she would think I am scared to ask that she might push me away. I think it’s time to pursue it though? Any advise?
Stevie on September 17, 2018:
I am straight and enjoy wearing lingerie, it doesn't mean you are gay to want to wear pretty, feminine undies. I like soft unpadded bra with matching panties and stockings suspenders.
Dave67 on September 13, 2018:
Finally told my wife i like wearing womans knickers need to buy some more of my own.feels so great don't want to wear anything else.
teddy on September 08, 2018:
i dont see a problem wearing womens clothing or lingerie,im laying here in silky lace tiger print panties,pink lace bra,black panty-hos,long pink petty coat,long maxi skirt and white lace top,the 4 pair of black silk lace panties turned up in mail today with 2 new dresses,im proud to say i enjoy dressing up and have no intention of stopping
Danny on September 02, 2018:
My wife and I have a favorite wayside to try out the outfit we put together, she would dress me up then watch from a distance while I walked by the parked cars waiting for people to show up,one such outing Iwas followed down through a trail to the lake by the picnic tables, I placed my hand bag on the table and bent forward to adjust my heel strap and felt warm hands on my hips and a voice of man saying how sexy i looked walking down to the lake, at the time I was just getting used to heels, I was wearing a short black skirt matching top and red bra and panties
Will on August 28, 2018:
I have been wearing women's underwear for only a few years now but before that I would rip up and abuse men's underwear but now that its much easier to buy women's panties I can't help myself. It makes me very happy to see other straight guys posting about this topic ans knowing its not only me who does this.
Paul on August 20, 2018:
All material is gender free, until it is shaped into something else. Then, alas, most peoples brains are shaped along with it. Let everyone wear whatever they like, who cares? Men used to wear silks & heels, even make-up, women now wear trousers & suits. If people are uncomfortable with someone else's life choices, which obviously don't involve any harm to another person, then there's something wrong with them, not the person who chooses to be free. I really don't see the big deal allowing someone to wear whatever they like, and not doing so is just discrimination. Black, white, yellow, red, brown, straight, gay, bisexual, transgender, all accepted for who they are, as it should be, except for transvestite, so it seems, if that's really what they are. Material is gender free, remember? Your brains have been moulded, just like the materials that created the clothing. There's no male or female, it's just fabric.
Bound on August 15, 2018:
So what is normal and who cares? I have known my wife for 23 years and not disclosed my love of female attire. I feel like a caged animal so tightly bound to keep it under wraps. Lately I just want to tell her what I have desired since I was a young boy. I have always been fascinated by female fashion. They are so lucky that society accepts them wearing anything they want.
I just want to wear ladies lingerie and high heels all the time. Recently have been experimenting with makeup and find that liberating to. Started wearing foundation and penciling my eyebrows and eyes at work and that makes me feel great too.
panty man on June 29, 2018:
;I absolutely love wearing women's panties. They are so fantastic. I'm heterosexual but love the feel of the panties. Love them. I have probably 80 pair and more on the way.
Ned on June 26, 2018:
I have been wearing women's lingerie secretly for years. I love how it feels and how sensuous it makes me feel. I am completely straight, but my wife caught me once with a nightgown on and got mad and called me gay. I long for an opportunity to make love to a women with both of us wearing sexy lingerie, but don't think my wife will ever change her attitude about it. I do struggle sometimes with thinking there is something wrong with me for wanting to wear lingerie and throw everything I have away, but then the desire comes over me again and I go shopping or get into the wife's clothes. It is good to know there are other straight guys out there that feel the same as me.
lee on June 15, 2018:
I have gone back in forth wearing panties then throwing them out but in the past 5 years I have been wearing them 25/7 some of my g/f were ok with other not but now if they dont like I will not syop wearing them it is who I am
georgie3 on June 01, 2018:
im in the same boat as a lot of your wrighters. and just love wearing lovely nylon panties bras and most of all long nylon nighties . i love the feel i love pink slips to . im a straight guy , i would love to chat to a guy that does the same .
Frank on May 30, 2018:
I love wearing sexy lingerie and dressing up in women's clothing,One day my mates wife called in,my wife had gone shopping and i was sitting on lounge in women's lingerie and didn't know tara (not her real name)had come through the back door and was standing behind me,she coughed and i spun around and stood up she was staring at me,she said you look hot in women's lingerie does your wife know what you do i said no one knows she said she does now,she asked how long have you been crossdressing,,i replied that i only do it when I've had some meth she said how long before wife gets home i said about 3 hours she came over and kissed me and said she wanted her hubby to dress up in women's lingerie and clothing and he wouldn't be in it,she admitted that guy's in lingerie turn her on,while kissing i put hand up her dress then pulled it over her head i asked if i could take a few pictures of her she said yes then I set phone up to record and she took pictures of me,we had sex,she said tomorrow come to her shop before opening and she give me a few things,next day i went to her shop she told me to wait in change room an take clothing off so i did she came in with stockings suspenders panties bra's petticoat long skirt and blouse and said put them on so i did then put male clothing over what i was wearing,she kissed me and said we meet up at motel on weekend,i smiled and said ok
Rodney on May 26, 2018:
I love my nighties and panties. There so awesome. And my wife is ok with it. We have a great time shopping together something as a pair of panties makes me so happy. It's great
Eskimojoes on May 16, 2018:
I’m in the same boat, I’m still attracted to girls but wearing bras and panties just feels so great!
Alan on May 12, 2018:
I love lingerie , wearing it is amazing and I would love to connect with Kate 66 from Australia .
Mr. Keith on May 08, 2018:
Some years ago I happened upon a pair of microfiber panties that somehow ended up in our laundry and my wife insisted they must be mine so I put them on and I instantly felt them start to work! Panties just feel great.
Mark on April 24, 2018:
I too love wearing women’s lingerie, stockings and underwear. As I’m typing this comment I’m wearing stockings and a garter. My wife is ok with it sometimes but not always. I’m straight and just love the way it all feels when I wear it.
Nylon King on April 22, 2018:
I am a straight man aged 48, I have been married for twenty-four years and have over a hundred nylon slips and full petticoats. I wear them to sleep and to work. My wife has often caught me putting on pantyhose and thinks it’s a crazy idea. I know she just can’t understand why. I often dress fully in silk skirts, slips, panty and pantyhose and high heels when she is away. It’s a great feeling. Will not stop. I have recently purchased four pairs of stay-ups wow
Tyler on March 26, 2018:
I'm a guy who loved to wear women's bras and panties also they feel comfortable to me I'll probably wear just a bra and panties to bed then switch to my work clothes.
BobbyBP on March 25, 2018:
I am a member of the US military and I have worn only women's panties for several years now. My wife is ok with that part but when it comes to wearing full on lingerie she doesn't want to see me in it though she enjoys how turned on I get while wearing nighties or teddies as I am attacking her from behind... :D. I thoroughly enjoy buying and wearing all sorts of lingerie under my uniform.
James on March 16, 2018:
I too like the nightgowns and slips. Just feels good. Nothing wrong with this. Women wear men's clothes. Why can't we feel comfortable in lengerie
Straight guy who loves pantys on March 12, 2018:
Just bought two new maidenform panties and my first bra. my new love will enjoy seeing me for sure. Thanks Great blog to post your true confessions without being judged. Next temptation is taking photos and posting them.
Rich on February 25, 2018:
I love wearing what i buy for my wife and when she dresses up to its so intense. She loves to play with stockings on so do I
Big John on February 23, 2018:
Liked your experience the way u explained things I have 2 kids one mid thirtys the other ten . All my life I have never been interested or thought of wearing lingerie . One night, half drunk my other half and I fell out, Ps she got her own flat, any way. After storming out the door, I went to bed Well ., she left her under wear-lingerie drawer half open. Couldn't resist it. Tried every thing on. By FUCK. I was so horny. And that was the start 3 years ago. Will have to go to adjust my hot fishnets. I glad I told u. It feels better now
David on February 21, 2018:
I don't have much of a story. I'm in a committed lifelong partnership with a wonderful woman. My adventure began what's a pair of Iron Maiden cotton briefs for women. She bought them for her and they didn't fit. At that point they were put aside for several months and one day she pulled them out and asked me to try them on. And they fit like a glove. as a gesture that we have between each other she " squeaked ". I told her how great they felt and I really like them period after that it was a Snowball Effect she was picking out lingerie for me I was picking out lingerie for her to the point we're picking out matching lingerie. It is probably the most inspiring intriguing loving part of our lives that has grown us stronger as a couple. I don't wear bras she finally talked me into a pair of shoes heels. I wear camisole's silky robes, garters, stockings, fishnet we even have gotten into cosplay where I am the schoolgirl and she is the French maid. Mind you she is bisexual but we have never had a female in her life together. And that's not important what's important is what we are doing now constantly shopping for each other to where sexy beautiful amazing feeling undergarments. So for those men that want this in their life who have women and their lives that can't quite grasp it. Maybe she will be into it maybe she will not. Maybe I'm a select few then I'm lucky to have a woman in my life that enjoys me being happy wearing women's lingerie and again it was only because she wanted me to try on a pair of her underwear that didn't fit.
Petey Cream Puff on February 16, 2018:
I’ve been wearing bra/panty/slip/d cup breast forms for over 2 years to ged/around house alone when I’m off. Love love love it!!! Also started wearing dresses/women’s clothes/slacks/ankle/knee high boots with leggings/women’s turtleneck sweaters/blouses. At this point I don’t care as it’s who I am and become. My masseuse told me I have perfect bike and has taken pictures of me with her phone. She even bought me perfume and dress for my birthday. She said to accept who I am and become and not worry about her husband or care what anyone thinks.
PaulaPlaytex on February 14, 2018:
My Sister-in-Law gave me my first Bra...I have natural 46B/C Breasts. She said that I needed to wear a Bra. I now also wear Panties, Nylons and sleep in a Nightgown !!!
bhanumathi on February 05, 2018:
This is my fem names and I want to be female animal next birth quiz
Rusty on February 04, 2018:
I have souly worn panties for close to 40 Years . I am a panty-a-holic and without any question I have well and I do mean well! Over 400 pairs of panties.
Being from the bikini generation they are my daily wearers . I also like thongs and hiphuggers and cheekinis only nylon and satin no cotton. I do occasionally crossdress all the way.
I love my demi bras and either crotchless pantyhose or garterhose .
And I love sexy strappy open toe
Stilettoes which I have many pairs. I am as straight as straight can be. It has never crossed my mind to want to be with someone of my same sex. So all you narrow minded people and so called macho men out there who are clueless and like to point fingers. Get real you are the one who have the problems and insecurities .