Sadie Holloway is a workshop facilitator who teaches interpersonal communication skills to help people strengthen their relationships.
One of the most common excuses people make for not spending time with their best friends is that they are simply too busy. Work, kids, school, housekeeping, marriage...there are myriad things that can stand in the way of you and your best friend spending quality time together. But is that really true? If you can find time to maintain your home or look after your kids, then you can find time to spend with your best friend. After all, having close friendships with other people outside of the home can make it easier to face the stresses and strains that come with all that needs to be done inside the home.
Here are some fun ways to find more quality time with your best friend. (Hint: This list of fun activities for best friends also works for couples who want to spend more quality time together!)
Bring Your Best Friend to a Family Event
Remember when you were a kid and how much fun it was when your best friend got to stay over for dinner? When was the last time you brought your best friend out to an event with your extended family? From Sunday dinner to a scenic drive out to visit your grandma on her farm, inviting your best friend to join you and your family for a special occasion is a great way to squeeze in some more quality time together. Most parents and grandparents would be happy to meet the special people that you spend time with and who make you happy.
Surprise Your Friend With a Gourmet Lunch to Go at the Office
Does your bestie often tell you that she’s so busy at work, she never has time to take a proper lunch break? Swing by her office one day around noon and surprise her with a picnic lunch of yummy food from a local deli or sandwich shop. Tell her that you’d love to take her ‘out’ for lunch, even if that means eating together in the staff room or at a park bench near the office. If she is super-swamped that day and you know that even taking a quick lunch break will cause her to stress out, leave the goodies behind and encourage her to eat well, even if she is eating off the side of her desk. By bringing her a nourishing lunch, even one that you can’t eat together, you are letting her know how much you care.
Co-Host a Girl’s Night Out Party
Invite all your mutual friends over for a girl’s night. Your bestie can be your partner in crime as you plan a wild (or mild) night out on the town. Planning a party can be stressful but it can be a lot of fun too if you don’t take yourself too seriously. From brainstorming party themes to designing the event invitations to cooking the food and putting up decorations, there are plenty of opportunities for goofing off together, being silly and feeding each other’s imagination.
Play an Online Game Together
Are you and your best friend gaming nerds? These days, technology allows us to play video games with people half way around the world, so why not play an online game with your friend, even if she only lives on the other side of town. Depending on how tech savvy you are, you can set your computers or gaming consoles up so that your can see and hear each other while you play. And the great thing about spending time together this way is you can do it late at night after everyone’s gone to bed. It will be like staying up all night at a sleepover.
Meet for Breakfast
If you know how to set your alarm clock, then you already know how to find more time to spend with your best friend. Once a week, or at least once a month, get up an hour earlier than the rest of your family and sneak off with your best friend for breakfast together. Have tea and croissants at a swishy hotel or coffee and donuts at a vintage diner. Wherever you choose to dine, there is always something quite delicious about carving out extra time to chat and catch up on juicy tidbits with your best friend.
Help Your Best Friend With a Dreaded Household Chore (Or Ask Her to Help You With One of Yours)
Painting a fence by yourself isn't much fun, but painting a fence while you chat and laugh and giggle with your best friend sure is!
The bottom line is that best friends make your life happier and healthier. Spending time with besties relieves stress, helps put problems into perspective, improves your quality of life and fosters resiliency. When you know that you have a best friend riding alongside you, no matter what life throws your way, you won’t have to go it alone. Given the positive effect your closest friends have on your health and well-being, finding the time to enjoy each others’ company should be as vital as finding the time to eat, sleep, and exercise.
© 2017 Sadie Holloway