Understanding Friends: A Quote About True Friends, Good Friends, Real Friends, and Fake Friends.
They’re there for you. They bring you lunch. They even scratch your back.
Everyone loves a good friend. But what makes a good friend?
Your Friend is Always There for You
Let’s be honest, good friends are awesome. Life isn’t the same without them. Coffee isn’t the same without them.
No matter what, friends are there for each other. Even on a bad day. Even to dumpster dive. You can depend on them.
Your Friend Cares
Your friends have issues. But they are still there for you.
Friends don’t let you give up without a fight. If you’re out of the fight in you, they fight too!
Friends get you out of holes. They help you up. If this sounds like someone you know, that’s a true friend!
I have met a lot of people. They came into my life at different times. They were interesting. They taught me a lot. I became friends with them.
I learned to be there for them. Treat them well, and they’ll be your ally. That’s the beauty of friendship.
When I was at my lows, these friends were there for me. Better yet, they brought their own shovels to dig me out.
Good friends make a high-quality life. You’re a team.
Friends struggle together. No matter the cause, within reason.
I’ve had friends that didn’t care about me. It happens. You can’t force these people to care about you. But you can still care for them in their times of need. This converts into friendships.
With that said, don’t be the center of attention. If you’re healthy and stable, help them. You’ll be surprised by the results.
It’s best to learn to give. When the time comes that you need to receive, they’ll know.
In the end, regardless of how it works, a good friend is always there for you.
You can never go wrong with a caring friend. Time is precious, and a friend that prioritizes you over other things is generous.
Your Friend is Unconditional
Unconditional people result in complete happiness – most of the time.
Being unconditional means having no expectations. You’re not expected to be a certain way. They generally don’t care what you do, within reason. They don’t mind you drunk. They’re your friend. They understand.
Your unconditional friend will stand by your side no matter what.
Your Friend Offers You Food to Eat When You Don't Have Money
Bottom line: pay for your own things. Don’t put yourself in a bad situation.
Shit happens. You couldn’t afford lunch.
Good thing you have good friends.
Good friends help their friends.
They help take care of each other in dire times, and one of the most delicious of occasions is when they pay for your food.
When your friend pays for your food, you know this person is a true friend. After all, your friend trusts you. You are trustworthy to this person.
Just don’t forget to pay this person back as soon as possible – or return the favor.
Good Friends Don’t Expect Repayment
Good friends don’t expect friends to pay back. They’re simply investing in the friendship.
They know you’re worth it. With that said, they have no short-term expectations.
It’s obvious this person values you. You’re both there for each other.
Make your appreciation for this kind of person known. Give back sometime.
Your Friend Listens to You
Some people talk all day. Others talk sparingly. Regardless, good friends listen attentively.
I have a few friends that never stop talking about video games. I listen. I’m not big on video games but I can recall 80% of what they’ve told me.
I’m an active listener. I’m a good friend. My friends tell me anything and I’ll remember.
Whichever your topic of interest, your good friend will listen.
These friends value change. They like trying new things. Even if they’re bad at something, they try.
Open-minded friends like a challenge. They climb over obstacles.
They love to try new things.
Bad friends Don’t Help
They won’t pay for you. They won’t help you. Even while it’s obvious you can pay them back; they won’t be there for you.
Perhaps they believe you aren’t responsible. Perhaps you aren’t. Or maybe you truly are.
Shit happens, and they should know that. However, a bad friend thinks otherwise.
Your Friend is Always Busy
Your friend is playing video games.
Common amongst guy friends. What a shame.
Your Friend is Constantly on the Phone
Am I boring? Are you talking to someone? Hey, I’m right in front of you! Hello?
Your Friend Scans the Area as You Talk
Guilt. Social anxiety. You’re embarrassing. You’re loud. Cares about public image.
Whether guilt or social anxiety, some friends just can’t stop doing this. What a 5-star listener!
With a conditional friend, conditions must be met.
Perhaps you’re a jock. Your friends are jocks. They like the image. One day, you decide to get fat. Now, they won’t talk to you anymore.
Perhaps you fix cars. You have a friend that keeps you around. You both work on his car. As soon as you stop fixing cars with him, the friendship is theoretically broken as well. And you notice it as he stopped hitting you up.
I used to be a band geek in high school. I had a lot of so-called friends. As soon as I quit the band my senior year, more than half of my friends were gone.
All these people are conditional friends. Conditions are preferred to be met in order to be interested in a friendship with you.
It’s easy to fall prey in trouble when it comes to conditional friends. They peer pressure you into not being yourself.
A Stubborn Friend
Being stubborn is a fool’s gambit. You give up too much value for little return.
Stubborn friends aren’t malleable. They don’t like to change. They don’t listen attentively. They have something against what you say.
Your Friend is a Cop
If you’ve lost friends before, this is for you.
Sometimes a friend is disinterested in continuing a friendship. Or, perhaps you feel backstabbed.
Your so-called friend has something against you. Your friend doesn’t like what you do. He doesn’t appreciate your humor. She doesn’t like your style. Your friend is a cop and isn’t afraid to confront you.
Instead of constructively criticizing you, they bash you.
If you smell bad, they tell you “you smell like shit” and walk away.
Honest friends are invaluable. It’s better hearing it from them than a potential mate. But, the method of delivery is also important.
A true friend isn’t trying to harm you. They’re trying to help you.
A true friend doesn’t let you make the same mistake twice. They know how much it could cost you. They’ll guide you to the right path in order to correct your ‘smelly mistakes’.
A good friend may recommend:
- Nail Salon
- Barber or Cosmetologist
A true friend wants to get you into the right hand or guide you to the right path.
Friends, No Matter What
With the right friends, it’s everlasting. Even if the terrains change, the wind blows you away, you change, they change, our lives change, or even circumstances of life change.
You’re in a mutually beneficial friendship.
Friends benefit from each other. They prep you for events such as:
- Job Interviews or Internships
- Your Next Date
- Other Events
Friends help beat on your craft. They help you become a better you.
Your friend is your friend.
They bring warmth. They light your candles when it’s dark. When times are rough, they help you. It isn’t so lonely anymore
When hungry, they’ll eat with you. Whether it’s 2 AM or everyone is asleep, they’ll join you.
You both embark on late-night adventures. Late-night munchies. You’re both prepared to feel sick afterward. And that’s okay because at least we’ll all feel sick together.
Are you an unconditional friend?
Are you a good friend?
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© 2017 Fernando Gonzalez