What's the Difference Between a Fake Friend and a True One

Updated on February 29, 2016

Finding a True Friend

A true friend is very difficult to find. Everybody can say that a person is their friend, but how can you really tell if a person is true or fake? In this article, I'm going to talk about fake friends, true friends, and the difference between both of them.

How to Spot a Fake Friend

1. Fake Friends Don't Make an Effort

Fake friends always expect someone to come visit, call, and see them, but they don't want to give the same effort. They think it's okay to not put effort into the relationship, which can be draining for the other person.

Whenever a person stops seeing or calling a fake friend, the fakes have the nerve to get mad and ask questions like, "Why aren't they calling and visiting me!"

Fake friends are never there when you need them the most. They always have themselves and other objectives on their minds and don't put any type of effort to see if you are okay, or to help you if you're down.

2. Fake Friends Are Negative

When you're with other people, fake friends say things like, "This is my friend! I really like him or her! This is my homeboy or homegirl! That's my boy, or that's my girl!" But their actions reveal something else: that they don't really want to be your friend.

They put you down in front of other people and laugh and talk about you in your face. This is a sign that these are fake friends. They also always have a negative, judgmental attitude. If you tell them about your dreams that you want to accomplish, they'll laugh and criticize you to your face saying, "You can't do that! That's impossible!" They're always trying to talk you out of their dreams.

Then, if the dream becomes reality, they'll be there again saying, "That's my boy! That's my friend! He did it! He's talented!" even though they didn't support you at all.

3. Fake Friends Don't Keep Secrets

This is one trait about fake friends I really can't stand. Fake friends are always telling everyone other people's business, but they don't want anyone to know their business. They are always going around and gossiping about other people's secrets!

Even if you make a fake friend promise they won't tell a soul about your secret, as soon as they leave your presence they're telling everyone! Then you get people coming up to you and saying, "I heard this about you. Is it true!? That's what I heard about you. Did that happen to you!? Do you have this? Are you this?"

Fake friends love telling other people about your secrets. They can't keep promises.

4. Fake Friends Don't Keep Their Word

Fake friends always leave people in the dark. They don't call to say that plans have changed, or that something's happened. This happens over and over again with fake friends.

A lot of them believe that even though they don't keep their word to other people, other people won't do the same for them. Then, when someone blows them off, they want to get mad about it! But I think that one gets what he or she deserves!

How to Deal with Fake Friends

I wanted to say this about fake friends, that they'll tell other people about your secrets and personal things. You let them in on who you are, and they abused being part of your inner-circle.

Try to forgive them if they want another chance, but be careful. Most likely, they will do it again. Now let's talk about true friends.

How to Spot a True Friend

1. A True Friend Can Be Trusted

A true friend won't tell your secrets and personal business to other people. They keep their promises, secrets, and personal information safe!

A true friend never judges you when you tell them something deep about yourself. They will always listen to what you have to say! The bond with a true friend is so strong that you don't abuse each other's trust.

2. A True Friend is There for You

A true friend is always there whenever you need them the most, especially during rough times. They always make the effort to call you and want to see if you are okay.

A true friend always shows that he or she cares about you and will sacrifice their own comfort for you.

3. A True Friend Wants to Help You

A true friend always wants to be a blessing in your life. They don't look to give you a hard time (unless they're teasing, but it's always done in good faith.) True friends are always looking for ways to bless you, just like you're doing for them.

Real friends are excited to see you and you guys enjoy hanging out together. True friends aren't a burden to each other.

4. A True Friend Believes in You

A true friend always believes in your dreams and talents and is excited when something good happens in your life. They want you to be successful and for the best to happen in your life, not the worst! They will always lift you up, not bring you down!

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      Anonymous 

      2 months ago

      Great, so my whole life is a lie, realizing that the friend you had for 12 years is a fake friend and betrayed you. And not just that one friend but the others just judge you and using you, they only ask you for help for homework but they ignore you when you speak, well this world is a wonderful place, and hope is for suckers, so screw this.

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      kahlia Anderson 

      2 months ago

      idk what to do

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      Noname 

      2 months ago

      Wow i dont have any true friends just fake how sad screw this world theres know one to trust anymore

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      Mlpstockmotion 

      3 months ago

      Ok thanks now I know who out of to of my friends is fake my bff is real and my friend is fake she never really helped me but my other friend did

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      Grace Turley 

      3 months ago

      My "best friends" left me to hangout with other people as they take group pictures in the bathroom and put them on their instagram

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      Anonymous 

      3 months ago

      I have a best friend who did so much for me especially around my birthdays did such meaningful things for me that always made me feel special but lately she has become so judgemental and inconsiderate of my feelings. I used to be 100% me around her but i don't even feel like i can be myself around her anymore. I used to think that this friendship would last a lifetime but now i feel like it won't even last past high school and the thought of losing her breaks my heart

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      Lauren 

      3 months ago

      Yup this article showed me that I did the right thing ending the friendship with Dominic he's changed so much he got a girlfriend and started acting so different he's become more irritated and mad like he wasn't there for me except maybe like two times in two years sure he texted me and supported me but he wasn't able to do anything that way except give me good advice oh and since he got a girlfriend his behavior changed he's gotten a little mean too and I told repeatedly that a good friend is always there for their friends his response was but she's my girlfriend he's also unreliable too very unreliable any advise would be appreciated

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      Lauren 

      4 months ago

      I just had to end the friendship with a guy I knew for fifteen years three weeks ago he's not not the guy I knew he's become angry and irritated ever since he started dating his girlfriend he's been acting really different he wasn't there for me when I had anxiety he wasn't there for me when I had Pneumonia until it got better he understood that I was sick and he was good at texting but he wasn't there in person which isn't a good thing I'm honestly afraid of who he is now and I don't trust him anymore not until he showed that I can

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      balaji 

      4 months ago

      All my friends are fake friends. Now I got to know that even i am fake to my friends after reading above stuff. fake whole square.

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      Lauren 

      4 months ago

      Let's just say I learned a lot from this article it helped me to realize that I did the right thing ending the friendship with this guy friend named Dominic he wasn't there for me when I had anxiety he made it seem like his girlfriend was more important than his friends which shouldn't be the case he's never acted like this before he was so nice and was always there for me before but then he got in a serious relationship and turned into the worlds worst friend he was still nice but didn't keep his word he wasn't there for me anymore

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      Lauren 

      6 months ago

      I have a true friend she's always there for me every time even if I'm sick once when I was sick she came over to my house and helped me then when I broke my arm she helped me again I've got more then one true friend a guy friend too he's such a sweet guy

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      Annonymous 

      6 months ago

      I think I have a true friend. We’ve been best friends for a few years. I tell them everything and they LISTEN. They don’t laugh at me.... only when I do some stupid shit, but I laugh too. They always help me through the times that I literally cannot handle everything anymore. They are always there for me. They never told anyone my secrets, unless I give them permission to do so. We aren’t always together every second of the day. We have our breaks. We sometimes think the same thing when something happens. We love all the same things, like music genres, bands, tv shows and movies. We go somewhere sometimes and have a lot of fun. We don’t care about popularity because that is all bullshit and causes a lot of drama. We stay in our own little group of friends. This friend cares for me and I care for them. We always help eachother out.

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      Madi 

      6 months ago

      Five words. I HAVE TWO FAKE FRIENDS.

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      Janiella 

      6 months ago

      I have three best friends. Two of them I have been best friends since 1st grade and I’m now on 4th grade. So my two best friends have friend and they asked if they can tell my secret and my other best friends secret. We said no but they still told her. Me and my best friend found and we were angry and felt betrayed. We haven’t talked since to them. Them one of my best friends, the one who betrayed me said that she wanted to meet up with me and my other best friend. So we said yes. When we met each other me and my best friend started to try to make her understand what she did was wrong. I even said how would feel I did the same thing. She said that wouldn’t really care. I just don’t know how I can make my best friends to understand what they did was wrong. And worst part is im not even friends with that person they told the secret to and neither is my other best friend. I just don’t understand how I can make them understand that they just tell their friends about my personal life. They knew that it was really hard for me to even tell them. I told them at least a thousand times that I wanted to keep it private. Should I keep them as my best friends or do I let them go?

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      Lmisha 

      7 months ago

      So I'm in 6th grade and I've had a pretty good year in school,but we actually have two more months left of school.So I have been really good friends with this girl and now this other girl is talking to her alot now.I actually found out hey were really good friends throughout the last year's but this is my first year here.So I also found out that the other girl has been talking about me behind my back,and I saw them and I actually confronted her she said she said nothing.LIKE BITCH STFU

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      Olivia 

      7 months ago

      I never had a true friend... all i have is only one friend in this entire world since my childhood... but she always hurts me no matter how good i m to her she keeps hurting me insulting me tell my secrets to others and laugh.... and now she tell about me to other in front of me coz she kno s i dont have any friend all i have is her, so she knows i wont go from her.. she hurts me so so much!... i need a true friend!...

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      Unknown 

      7 months ago

      I have two friends that are like friends but enemy’s, they talk behind each other’s back but when they are together they are besties, it’s so annoying, I am in grade 10 but they are always so childish, constantly!. It is so fustrating because all they want is attention. They aren’t both such big attention seekers. They always have to share there conversation or be dramatic, one of them is closer to me and She says she isn’t dramatic but SHE ISS, I have finally learnt to not care about them because they can bs rude to me, yesterday i saw with Some other people. If you feel anyone is pulling you swon, DITCH THEM cause trust me it will help I now the Future

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      Ughhhh 

      8 months ago

      So my bestie told me that her friend told her that shes been acting like a b i t c h since ive been around her. the girl that told her is mean to me she hits me im not even her friend

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      Mahnoor 

      9 months ago

      I HATE MY FRIENDS

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      Madelyn 

      9 months ago

      im in middle school and its my first year in 6th grade and i kinda have friends but they always do fun stuff together but dont tell me and leave me out. on my first day of PE everyone went and sat with all there friends and were talking and having fun but i wasnt. i was in the middle of the belachers and people were like makeing a curcle around me not on purpose but no one was sitting next to me or near me i felt so empty and sad and when ever i get on the bus i have no one to sit with and so i have to sit next to some random person everything i do is so embarissing. i have to go but i have alot more to say but i have to go bye.

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      Lozzybunny 

      9 months ago

      I have just yesterday been told by my who I thought was my best friend for 14 year's that: I am not better than her 4 year old kid and she CAN'T BE ASSED with me any more all because I did not ring her back for a week. Yeah I was pissed because she had cancelled on me for the 3ERD time this year, and I get that 2 time's was because of the snow (she drives a car) but if it did not happen nearly ever time we arrange to meet up she flakes out on me I would not be so ticked off, and anyway the real reason that I did not contact her strate away besides the fact that I was very irritated by an other flake out by her is I have a very debilitating skin disease called Hidronitis Supetativa. Which makes me brake out in painful cysts which open up into leaking holes and open wound in y skin that take a long time to heal in my down below area, under my armpits,under my chest and other fun places which mean I can't even turn in bed or walk comfortable without pop 6x Tramadol and paracetamol almost 80% of days but anyway I digress. Also I was a bit busy looking after my 68 year old at aunt who just recovering from bresy cancer and seeing my parents who live in Selby when I live in York and it was all done in the snow :D. So yeah sorry if my reply was not quick a nuff for you but I think you don't have the right to say I the same age as your infant kid when all you needed to do was have the balls to talk it out with me instead of letting your rage get in way of someone who is supposed to be a mature adult, but hay what dues a 4 year like me know ; p. So yeah all I say is watch your back's for back stabing best friend ay. :D

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      Amanda 

      9 months ago

      I had i friend would lie to my face.When she needed me i was their but one time i needed her and she left.Then she had the nerve to get mad at me because i was making new friends/

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      Bibi 

      9 months ago

      One of my friends recently got embarrassed at my behavior at a gig, got jealous when a guy showed interest in me and a few days later told me that she'd already been quite annoyed with my behavior for a while. She always moans about other people, has been fighting with all her former friends, won't accept any criticism from anyone and calls me an attention seeker. I accepted her flaws but she apparently can't accept mine. After 10 years this one evening seems to be enough for her to send me the nastiest mail ever. I didn't want her to post a private video on social media and then she accuses me that makes no sense because I'm seeing a lot of gigs? Done! Should've known better. But my lesson is learned :)

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      Adam 

      9 months ago

      I have a friend that is exactly like this. She is lazy, self centered and an attention seeking drama queen. She barely puts in any effort to hang out unless she needs a favor. However, if I can't do the said favor for her then she talk about how I never come to see her or call her or yada yada anymore.

      She literally doesn't ever wanna hang out or even call unless she needs something like helping her move or taking out her trash. Honestly, the more I talk about it the more I realize what a disgusting, lazy, selfish piece of trash she is. It's disgusting.

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      Scarlet T 

      10 months ago

      My friend can never keep her word and she is calling me a fake friend after she was lying to me about something that you should next lie about. she also gets rid of friends after they find out so she lost two friends in a couple minute. I still don't know why one of her other "friend" stays with her. she lies to him all the time. don't know but I am lucky to have a true friend who has been there through bad times.

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      El j 

      3 years ago

      My so called friend fabian cancels events w/o telling me ditched my when I was homeless stole 40 dollars used tickets I scored to a comedy show to take his girlfriend makes unbelievable excuses like kids n bills gtfoh everyone has kids n bills deuche ingnores txt calls and messages lies compusivley ext conclusion fuck him

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      lucy 

      4 years ago

      I think I have a fake friend she is really bitchy and always bitches about my best friend and criticises her and talks about her behind her back to me. There was an argument today and my best friend started crying and I realised that we don't need that other friend in our lives. But I'm a sucker for forgiving people easily and I don't like falling out even if she is a fake friend. I don't really know what to do. Obviously I'm gonna stick up for my best friend but I hate falling out so I'm pretty confused. I'd like it if you replied to this with advice. Thanks.

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      lola 

      4 years ago

      It’s unbelievable how fortunate I feel after finding your website. For the past 1 year, I have been so depressed after losing my husband to another woman. My money situation worsened so much that I thought I’d have to file for bankruptcy. I had a huge amount of debt and I didn’t know what to do. Out of complete and total desperation, I contacted many of those so-called individuals who promised powerful magic, witchcraft or black magic. None of them worked and none were as wonderful, affectionate and warm as Priest Grace has been. He is definitely different from the others and I felt immediate hope and strength from hearing about the promises he had to offer. He carries an air of purity and divine strength that is as pure as fresh snow on the ground. I requested Kofi’s most powerful spells and I was relieved right away that I had someone to solve my problems for me. His spells worked wonders and I am now back with my husband and my money troubles resolved itself after winning the lottery. Priest Grace I have no idea what I would have done without you being there to help me out. Here is his email:gracerelationshipspell@gmail.com

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      all alone 

      4 years ago

      All my so called friends were always insulting me and trying to bring me down. I never had a true friend or a real friend. I always was a good friend and never insulted anyone. I would be there for them whenever they needed me. I am so sad that I was treated badly and put up with it. It will never happen again.

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      Elisa smith 

      4 years ago

      Hello, I had a friend that wanted me to stay with her until her mother and child return from summer vacation. My trip was already plan for the next month, she wants me to rearrange my schedule for her needs and when I called her bluff nis everything is a problem she don't need because her family coming in now she don't need me cause the dog is going to a friends house. Now all of sudden she wants me to pay her rent while she is gone for the two weeks we are supposed to be in her house. This all came about because I couldn't stay for the time frame she needed me.

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      Rachel Bowskill 

      4 years ago

      Abusive so called friend of seven years talks behind my back and lies about me . steals from me and calls me names. she said im no good and am not wanted and im a bad mum and im selfish .

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      Ellen 

      4 years ago

      A fake friend is someone who is only there when he or she wants something from you without giving anything in return. I had a friend in grade school and high school. I made the mistake of joining her church because when I was in the confirmation class and later joined, all our friendship seemed to be about was her damn church. She figured that as long as she got me to go to her church, she could abandon me in more significant ways. I learned the hard way that where church is concerned, you pretty much do not have any REAL friends in church. So, it is clear that church was a filler so that she did not have to make any real effort.

      A real friend should compliment your good points and not find fault with every "bad" point. My friend was always criticizing me about my weight when she was really no better than I was. A real and true friend should accept you for who you are and not try to convert you for her interests or conveniences. Sure, everyone has differences from time to time, but sometimes those differences need to be set aside to save the friendship from unnecessary aggravation and hardship.

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      Anne 

      4 years ago

      Thank you...I had an argument recently coz my 'friend' decides to call me 'two faced' and I should come clean. she told this other person that I spoke behind her back which I did but my friend did it more. It wasn't only her but it was two other girls too, who I called 'sisters'. I always did and my 'best friend' decides to call me that. UNBELIEVABLE!!!! She's a fake and she doesn't even hang out with me who she calls a 'best friend'. Help?!

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      VeeEss 

      5 years ago

      Are friends who never go to your house and expect you to always go over to theirs, fake friends?

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      REEM 

      5 years ago

      I have friend but now i had a friend who was fake

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      Lover 

      5 years ago

      I love a girl but she don't know it and she think that im her best friend who tell him every think.. can someone help me and tell me what should i do ? and thank's !

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      Jackie Paulson 

      5 years ago from USA IL

      You can count your real friends on ONE HAND.

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      Mojo 

      5 years ago

      All my friends are fake shitbags. I need new friends.

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      Stellar Phoenix Reviews 

      5 years ago

      Hella great blog! Very helpful, very informative, and very well done. Extremely relative to my interests!

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      JaredRodriguez 

      5 years ago

      I have a few close friends but they never wanna hangout with me but yet whenever I need someone to tall to they're always there for me. it doesn't make sense.

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      Vilma Vitug 

      5 years ago

      I'm just learning to do what is the meaning of fake friends and true friends. I love reading this over and over again. Thanks for sharing.

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      vonda g nelson 

      6 years ago

      Hey Dreamer you hit the nail right on the head! Fake friends and their shenanighans.......but their everywhere, what's funny about everything that you mentioned is they don't try to hide their fakeness, they are extrememly facety, more power to them folk

      btw Random poster and James... get over it and get a life, so what the grammar is bad, who are you guys fake @ss editors. This isn't the new york times this is hubpages

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      K['L 

      6 years ago

      LIKE IT

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      6 years ago

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      Sad 

      6 years ago

      I always visit my friends but none of them make an effort to visit me. This hurts me because I feel like no one really cares about me. I try to be a good friend to people but it seems like I'm really not important to them at all.

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      James 

      6 years ago

      Seriously after the 10th grammatical error I am just refusing to read this poorly written blog article. This is more difficult to read than some of the stuff my 10 year old writes on homework assignments. Has the author even bothered READING this before submitting????

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      drew 

      6 years ago

      Thanks i am only 10 and my friend always gets me in to trouble and my mum is really annoyed with me cause my friend blames it on me can i have some more imfomation please

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      frank 

      6 years ago

      I love your work this is so true amd you know what i agree with because i never love friends who laugh in your back fake ass

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      hurt 

      6 years ago

      Thank you for pointing out what a fake friend is I just had one that got me to come out to visit only to leave me at the airport and had me stay in a hotel out side her town with no posiblities to run into her by myself on July 4th they day just before im sapose to come out makesup this wanna be elaborate story and total I just want to get home and forget I ever met this person me in the dark and hanging

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      Haily 

      6 years ago

      I have this "friend"

      She has no other friends at school but me, and I don't eather because I homeschool and people think I am weird. The other day I told her who I had a crush on and she said she would not tell. Well I as in the car the other day and my mom says" Sara said you liked this boy"!!!! I am SO MAD AT HER!!! Shoul I dump her? She is real -huggy- , a bit selfish and when ever she REALLY gets on my nerves I say Sara STOP IT, and she gets all "sad" and kinda acts like she's hurt. Should I dump her? Shes my only friend and I am hers. PLEASE HELP ME

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      jayq 

      6 years ago

      Yo email me at jimmycompans@gmail.com I really have some important stuff to share

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      Alexis Barbero 

      6 years ago

      Hi I just got out of treatment for cutting and suidcal. I have this friend who didn't care that I was in there. She said her mom dosen't wan't me going to her house cause of it. She always called me names and bring me down. When I talk to her she just keeps talking to her other friend. I have come to relize true and fake friends. My true friends came up to me and hugged me and asked me if I was ok. They said If I ever needed someone to talk to come to them. But my so called friend is lying about her boyfriend and saying that hes cuz with andy sixx and knows all of the black veil brides band and celbs. Thats such a fake lie. Im 13 and I'm emo/scene so I were my hair up once and kinda curly straght and wered preppy stuff,she said she was only my friend if im emo and she coulden't handel what I had to say or talk to her. Thank you for posting this :)

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      swapnil 

      6 years ago

      Vry helpful nd true buddy thnx fr this info its really awesomr nnd vry useful......... Thnq 1ce agn.......:-):-):-)

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      odecia 

      6 years ago

      i love the so much i real enjoy it

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      Alex 

      6 years ago

      That taught me a lot. This was the only website that actually gave me the information I needed. You Rock!!!!!

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      rahul 

      6 years ago

      i agree with this as fake friend a make a laugh but by giving them another chance they would say sorry!yaar i will not do it again but within 1 or 2 days he started saying what he says about him at the very first time.so we should really abuse such friends and knowing the fact that one who will make a laugh of his friend one day his life woula make on him/her.

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      Charmaine 

      6 years ago

      I can dig it! I agree. I was nieve and got fooled!

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      pipala 

      6 years ago

      i agree ,,,,,,,, coz i went through that same thing .... but true frend always blessing for that person

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      dreamer32 

      6 years ago from Mississippi

      dude, I agree because I went through that same thing! some people are down right takers, but not knowing that takers at the end will get back what they have done to others!

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      dreamer32 

      6 years ago from Mississippi

      You are so welcome!

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      dreamer32 

      6 years ago from Mississippi

      Pb200, no this person doesn't fall in the category of a real friend at all! This person qualifies in the category of an aquantanice! It's proven because this person's actions doesn't show no interest in developing a friendship with you! I say pursue other folks who might be intersted in wanting to start a true friendship!

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      dreamer32 

      6 years ago from Mississippi

      Hey Zack! I know that it's rough finding out folks who are your best friends and they turn out to be fakes! To me, I was hurt emotionally after so many cases, but it was a blessing because their true colors got revealed! and it taught me the next time I run into a person who wants to be my friend, it doesn't take as long to see!don't hate your life The thing

      for you! The thing that I can say that focus your mind on a true friend in life, and what you want that true friend to be like! I do this, even though it's not happened, but I have felt so much better!

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      linda 

      6 years ago

      Completely agree

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      realHABABABA 

      6 years ago

      thank you soo much! know i see that my best friend is not really my best friend at all!!!

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      nookgirl01 

      6 years ago

      I have a friend who just told me she likes a guy even tho she has liked him 4 a while nd i always said they should go out. I a the last 2 noe whn i update her weekly. Shes a hidden bych, but i not the only one to say it. She is one of my only friends left in this school. The rest are all around the US. The last thing that happened wuz that she said we were fighting so she didnt tell me even tho we werent fighting. Also she didnt want me to judge her. Then i said that y wuld i judge her? She apologized b4 i asked the question but what should i do?

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      Laura 

      6 years ago

      This has made me truly believe who my friends are and are not ! Thank u

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      Abdel 

      6 years ago

      Wonderful Article , I Feel I learned something today Thank you so much

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      Pb200 

      6 years ago

      Hi dreamer,

      Great statement, could u help me? I have a "friend" who always responds to my texts, but has lied to me about not being able to hang out with me, he is also never rude, though he nver wants to be my partner in class unless i ask him.

      Is he a real friend?

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      water coolers 

      6 years ago

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      me 

      6 years ago

      great story :)

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      kay.x 

      6 years ago

      Be careful who u trust. so many people will lead you to belive that your true friends. but in time their true colours will show. these situations you need to fuck up & den u realise who ur true friends are. true.

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      hilda 

      6 years ago

      its true dat nt ol ur frnds wil b true and even if there hapens u get fake ones who dnt appreciate who uv been in their lives let them b taught alesson by mother nature. let ur fake frnds knw dat u love n care 4them b4 breakng up wth them. i tld my fake frnds wat ido feel wen they treat me like adnt exist n i ws hoping they wil pologies bt no they didnt n dats hw i accept da fact dat they dnt av any concious at ol. am far africa in kenya n il b 26yrs on 31st dis mnth am lookng 4true frnds ready 2share wth me da meaning of atrue frndshp wth Gods love n pls no more fakE frnds. My number is +254734373707. thank u 4sharing ths article wth many.

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      hilda 

      6 years ago

      its true dat nt ol ur frnds wil b true and even if there hapens u get fake ones who dnt appreciate who uv been in their lives let them b taught alesson by mother nature. let ur fake frnds knw dat u love n care 4them b4 breakng up wth them. i tld my fake frnds wat ido feel wen they treat me like adnt exist n i ws hoping they wil pologies bt no they didnt n dats hw i accept da fact dat they dnt av any concious at ol. am far africa in kenya n il b 26yrs on 31st dis mnth am lookng 4true frnds ready 2share wth me da meaning of atrue frndshp wth Gods love n pls no more fakE frnds. My number is +254734373707. thank u 4sharing ths article wth many.

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      hellen morgan 

      6 years ago

      thanks for ever thing im 17 an most people treat me really bad im going to tell them that we cant be friends any more thanks this really worked

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      Truster 

      6 years ago

      Of all the things that I know.. I know bout frnds the most.. I've been hurt so many times that I learnt what true frnds r the hard way... I cannot agree more wid wt uve said

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      mega henson 

      6 years ago

      Thank you so much! i had a feind who is exacly what you said i am 13 and she blows me off all the time i am just gona say we shouldent be freinds anymore....thank again this really helped

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      niki-o 

      6 years ago

      @Shyann Holt

      hi, I think u should talk to her and ask her whats up and if she blows u off, Shes not a true friend.

      gud luck,

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      niki-o 

      6 years ago

      Thanks! i'm doing my assignment and this helped! plus I'm not afraid to call my bestie now! :)

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      Shyann Holt 

      6 years ago

      i have a so called friend ... we stayed together the whole summer && now we dont even talk no more ... over stuff in the streets she said she was droppin sum friends n that friend was me :( idk wat to do ... its killin me inside wat should i do ? ... i wanna kill myself !!!!!!!!!!! im only 15

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      Zack 

      6 years ago

      After reading this, I realized I don't have a single true friend. Even some of the people who I though were my best friends turned out to be fake. I'm starting to hate life. Society is screwed. And I'm being affected. And I'm only 14.

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      jess 

      6 years ago

      look i love what you're trying to say.... it is something that most people struggle with i am one who has been taken advantage of several times... but i think you're thinking rainbows too much... a true friend yes has some of those qualities but i disagree with some of your points.... a true friend will tell you the truth no matter what... they wont make you feel rainbow and sunshines all the time and make you feel great 247... i've had friends like that who ended up just being someone who was not true and hurt me.... yes friends dont spread gossip about you... yes a true friend is always there when you need them...yes a true friend wants to be a blessing in your life... but most of all they want to be family... sometimes we have to understand that people make mistakes... a true friend will above anything else will admit they were wrong when they hurt you and say they love you .... i think when they do it twice then they aren't but one who is willing to put their pride aside is one worth keeping...

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      mycah2002 

      6 years ago

      My friend well exfriend anyway was not true and never wiil be she hurt me she told my secrets,personal buisness and most hurtfull my crushes and fears she contacted me not to long ago but how can i forgive Her..........HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*sigh* great suggestions anyway

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      sanjaykumarsevda 

      6 years ago

      my grammer is bad. But i am reay want good girl friend.my nu.919680972830

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      Jeremy Sheer 

      6 years ago

      Your grammar is really bad. but goood points.

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      sanjaykumarsevda 

      6 years ago from jhunjhunu

      Yes I am really good girlfriend want .I am student.

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      onedayatatime63 

      6 years ago

      Dreamer32 the article has been very helpful. I have had a friend for over 30 years who we consider a BFF but there are times here lately I don't feel the closeness. Lately she does not call me and I don'[t call her.However she did call when she needed something we work very close together in the church. What is going on. Not sure if were to go with this several things have happened over the years and lately she has made it a point not too include me in a few social events. or respond whenever I text too see if she would like too do something. I have even approached her about something that made me feel hurt. HELP

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      Ashlley 

      6 years ago

      Hieeeee........actualy itz nt a comment m rly dispersed abt my frndships.......nd i don no wer 4m i wil get ne hlp....whenever i watch my school videos and photos automatically tears comes out from my eyes......my last 5 months in my school i spend alone without any friends..my friends whom i thought were my best friends they doubts on me after spending so many years they don't recognized me......

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      Baishali Baruah 

      6 years ago

      I agree with you. But now after having so much of fake friends I am really confuse what to do and how to do? To be honest i am tried now and I really miss my past days of my school.....they were my best days. And now in my class i came to that alwas fake. But its good that now I saw their reality. And by reading your thoughts in future I hope I will be able to recognized a true and fake friends.

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      opj 

      6 years ago

      it means, they need attention badly. nothing personal against you from him/her.

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      Clovely 

      6 years ago

      What does it say when your best friend moves 3 times without telling and it just slips out through random convo.

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      kulsoom 

      6 years ago

      I agree i make friends but they were nt stay with me they dnt understood me i feel lonely when nobody make me true friendship with me either girl or a boy i have a problem dat i make few friends as boy .can you suggest me what should i do

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      Jim Mauter 

      6 years ago

      Sometimes I find that I can be a real friend to a fake friend for years, and then suddenly realize that the fake friend is just a "taker". Then the friendship dies quickly.

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      Leo 

      7 years ago

      Recent events brings me to this article.

      I was going to graduate along with my friends,however,I failed an important module which cannot be pushed forward to make me graduate on time,thus,I have to graduate 1 semester after my friends.

      My friends wished me the best and says they will be visit me when they are free during my semester.

      Well,what happened was that,there was no visits,no calls or sms.Not even on graduation day in which the ceremony is held just 3 blocks away from my school.

      So much for their flamboyant words,just plain disappointment with the friends and classmates of a few years.

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      Bianca 

      7 years ago

      i guess my thought to be true friend is not... as she went and talked about me behind my back. and completely ignores me when i try and make an effort to make her happy... sorry Jacintha but i guess you are not my true friend but my fake.. : (

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      Dayya 

      7 years ago

      So i realized my best friend is a True Bestie , maybe im over sensitive about some things she jokes and say about me to other people in my face. only time will tell whats the truth

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      ajay 

      7 years ago

      Thank u sooooo much ....i realised after this that i cnsiderd a frnd who was fake all the tym

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      Dina 

      7 years ago

      thank you so much for visualisng my blind eye.Your a true blessing.

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      mariecris 

      7 years ago

      haha :) theres n rea fiends

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      dreamer32 

      7 years ago from Mississippi

      Hey Danny,

      I am sorry that I couldn't get with you on this comment! I really passionate about friendship myself! To answer your question, if you find yourself in a situation where he continues to lie on you, it's a great time to cut off that friendship. If he continues to lie in order to dodge you, it's an great indication that he doesn't want you at all, or don't want a close friendship! I really think that it's time to close that friendship, and find another friend who can treat you right and be more honest in the relationship! Also come visit my blog at self-help enrichment at http://enlightened32.blogspot.com/. I have a ton of information that can help you in aspects of relationship! Let's stay in contact there. Contact me on my blog! Thanks again for asking your question for concern!

      @ Amanda Thanks for comment so much

      @Pearlgulte thanks so much!

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      Danny 

      7 years ago

      I'm still not sure if my friend is fake or not. When i ask him to hang out he says he's always busy.He might be exited for something, for example watching a movie with his friends, but when he finds out i'm joining, he makes up lame excsuses like, "i don't like movies",or "this game represents hurt", or as usual, "i just remembered i have something to do". He will avoid anything that regards me. Also i think he talks bad behind my back. And when he hits me, he makes it look an accident when it really is not. Also i found out he was out with friends, and didn't bother to tell me anything. He even lied saying that he didn't. Also i don't trust him, his eyes have A sneaky look and they're untrustworthy. I also have the feeling that he tells my enemies stuff about me when he leaves after i give him a piece of information.That's the reason everything i tell him about me is a lie! What should i do?

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