Finding a True Friend
A true friend is very difficult to find. Everybody can say that a person is their friend, but how can you really tell if a person is true or fake? In this article, I'm going to talk about fake friends, true friends, and the difference between both of them.
1. Fake Friends Don't Make an Effort
Fake friends always expect someone to come visit, call, and see them, but they don't want to give the same effort. They think it's okay to not put effort into the relationship, which can be draining for the other person.
Whenever a person stops seeing or calling a fake friend, the fakes have the nerve to get mad and ask questions like, "Why aren't they calling and visiting me!"
Fake friends are never there when you need them the most. They always have themselves and other objectives on their minds and don't put any type of effort to see if you are okay, or to help you if you're down.
2. Fake Friends Are Negative
When you're with other people, fake friends say things like, "This is my friend! I really like him or her! This is my homeboy or homegirl! That's my boy, or that's my girl!" But their actions reveal something else: that they don't really want to be your friend.
They put you down in front of other people and laugh and talk about you in your face. This is a sign that these are fake friends. They also always have a negative, judgmental attitude. If you tell them about your dreams that you want to accomplish, they'll laugh and criticize you to your face saying, "You can't do that! That's impossible!" They're always trying to talk you out of their dreams.
Then, if the dream becomes reality, they'll be there again saying, "That's my boy! That's my friend! He did it! He's talented!" even though they didn't support you at all.
3. Fake Friends Don't Keep Secrets
This is one trait about fake friends I really can't stand. Fake friends are always telling everyone other people's business, but they don't want anyone to know their business. They are always going around and gossiping about other people's secrets!
Even if you make a fake friend promise they won't tell a soul about your secret, as soon as they leave your presence they're telling everyone! Then you get people coming up to you and saying, "I heard this about you. Is it true!? That's what I heard about you. Did that happen to you!? Do you have this? Are you this?"
Fake friends love telling other people about your secrets. They can't keep promises.
4. Fake Friends Don't Keep Their Word
Fake friends always leave people in the dark. They don't call to say that plans have changed, or that something's happened. This happens over and over again with fake friends.
A lot of them believe that even though they don't keep their word to other people, other people won't do the same for them. Then, when someone blows them off, they want to get mad about it! But I think that one gets what he or she deserves!
How to Deal With Fake Friends
I wanted to say this about fake friends, that they'll tell other people about your secrets and personal things. You let them in on who you are, and they abused being part of your inner circle.
Try to forgive them if they want another chance, but be careful. Most likely, they will do it again. Now let's talk about true friends.
1. A True Friend Can Be Trusted
A true friend won't tell your secrets and personal business to other people. They keep their promises, secrets, and personal information safe!
A true friend never judges you when you tell them something deep about yourself. They will always listen to what you have to say! The bond with a true friend is so strong that you don't abuse each other's trust.
2. A True Friend Is There for You
A true friend is always there whenever you need them the most, especially during rough times. They always make the effort to call you and want to see if you are okay.
A true friend always shows that he or she cares about you and will sacrifice their own comfort for you.
3. A True Friend Wants to Help You
A true friend always wants to be a blessing in your life. They don't look to give you a hard time (unless they're teasing, but it's always done in good faith.) True friends are always looking for ways to bless you, just like you're doing for them.
Real friends are excited to see you and you guys enjoy hanging out together. True friends aren't a burden to each other.
4. A True Friend Believes in You
A true friend always believes in your dreams and talents and is excited when something good happens in your life. They want you to be successful and for the best to happen in your life, not the worst! They will always lift you up, not bring you down!