5 Warning Signs That Fake Friends Are Ruining Your Life
Are your friends loyal and grateful? Can you rely on them? Do they support you? Do they make you feel good about yourself? How many real friends do you have?
If you think about it, you might realize that you have only a few real friends and you will be disappointed. It will hurt. A lot of them are wearing masks, but you should be insightful and recognize toxic people before they make you feel unhappy. There are five signs your fake friends are ruining your life.
1. Fake Friends Lower Your Self Esteem
When you are young, you are tolerant, friendly, and light-minded. The quantity of your friends is more important than the quality. You prefer the cheerful and the interesting friends who like going out. When you grow up, you become more aware of fake friends.
Fake friends insult and belittle you. They make you feel bad about yourself. They often criticize you and see only your faults. Why? They feel bad about themselves, and they attempt to make themselves seem better if they belittle you. Instead of being angry with them, you should avoid them. You are not guilty of their low self-confidence.
What’s more, they can’t accept themselves as they are deep inside. It is not surprising they can’t accept you either. They won’t be happy if you improve yourself. They will be jealous of you.
As a conclusion, you should ask yourself whether you need these fake friends in your life. Do you see how they make you feel unhappy? They are ruining your life. Surround yourself with better people who will help you improve yourself.
2. They Hold You Back From Achieving Your Goals
Real friends will advise you on how to reach your goals. They will be happy with your success. Your success will be their success, too. They will support you if you have problems as you move forward. They won’t discourage you. They won’t tell you you're not capable of reaching your goals.
Fake friends won’t help you achieve your goals. They won’t listen to you when you talk about your ambitions or they will try to discourage you. They won’t be happy with your success. Soon, you’ll stop sharing your accomplishments.
Do you realize that they are overly competitive with you? From tests to relationships to other aspects of your life, your fake friends will strive to outdo you.
In conclusion, if you want to succeed, you should avoid people who hold you back from achieving your goals. If you want to improve your life, you should surround yourself with the right people.
3. Fake Friends Gossip About You
When you are young, you see only the good in people. You believe everyone is as good as you are. You don't have big expectations from people. What’s more, you forgive them their small mistakes, because nobody is perfect.
On the other hand, you should recognize people who don’t love you and respect you. There is no excuse for disrespect.
If your friend never has anything good to say about the people around them, they won’t hesitate put you down behind your back. In some cases, they might even go out of their way to try to make you feel small to your face.
Maybe they will say bad things about you when you aren’t present. Someone may believe their lies about you and start avoiding you. To make matters worse, maybe they will ruin your romantic relationship or another friendship. You should get rid of your fake friends now.
“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”— Alexander Pope
4. They Make You Feel Guilty
Do you feel like your friends suck your energy? Do you know to recognize the guilt-trippers? Almost everyone has had to deal with a manipulative friend. These people pretend to have your best interest at heart, all the while using guilt to get what they want from you. They can play the victim, making you seem to be the one who caused a problem which they began. Manipulative people prey on your sensibilities, your emotional sensitivity, and especially your conscientiousness.
What is important is they don’t care about you. They care about what you can do for them. They feel like you owe them something. If you have a friend who is bringing up past events like helping you through a difficult time, it isn’t a real friendship.
“Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.”— Steve Maraboli
5. They Will Try to Ruin Your Relationships
Do you have a friend who usually criticizes your partner? Do you have a friend who doesn't listen to you when you talk about your romantic moments in a relationship? Do you feel your friendship starts to go downhill when you are happy?
Your fake friends are jealous of you, especially if you are much happier than them. They believe they deserve better than you. They will feel happy when you break up with your partner. Moreover, they will try to ruin your relationship. Will you let them ruin your life?
In conclusion, soon or later, you will realize life is not like a fairy-tale. If you treat other people well, it doesn’t mean they will treat you well too. You should accept people as they are because you can’t change anyone. It is hard enough to change yourself, so just imagine how hard it is to change someone else. Love is acceptance. If you can’t accept somebody, you should stop hanging out with her or him, especially if they are not trustworthy.
It is hard to find someone who will deserve your trust. You must be careful. Your life will be much happier if you avoid fake friends because they can ruin your life. You deserve happiness and peace.