Who are the people you should stay away from? From the people who you can't trust to the ones who take you for granted and from the people who bully you to the ones who are rude and make fun of you.
Whether it is a friend, classmate, colleague, roommate or partner, having them in your life will only cause stress, hurt, pain, sorrow, sadness, depression and tension - There is no better time than right now to avoid and remove these 10 typical types of negative people from your life.
1) People who make fun of you and everything you do
These are the type of people who will always find a way to make fun of you regardless of time and place. Whether it is the car you drive, the way you speak, how your bum looks in a new dress or your latest project at school, these people will try to put you down in a maliciously aimed joke.
Stay away from people like these because they will utter the most senseless, rude and insulting one-liners at the expense of your humiliation. Even for a tiny moment they will not think twice about how the words coming out of their mouths can affect your emotional and mental state.
2) People who bully you or dominate over you
Real life bullying on school grounds, forced bullying in dorm rooms, online cyber bullying or passive bullying by friends who have dominating personalities, no form of bullying is acceptable. This sort of behavior has the potential to leave lifelong mental scars.
Do whatever you need to do to stay away from bullies, whether they are bullying you or someone else. Don't be involved in bullying yourself and be ready to offer emotional support to those who have been bullied.
3) People who take you for granted
Be it your classmate, colleague, dorm mate or friend, don't be around anyone who has a tendency to take you for granted. These people will take you and your niceness, your feelings, your money and your belongings for granted.
Stay away from these folks as their act of indifference towards you as an individual can dig a deep hole in your self esteem in the long run. Put them out of your lives before the damage is irreversible.
4) People who are always complaining about something
A friend who always complains about his father bought him a Mercedes instead of a Ferrari, a colleague who instead of being thankful complains about how tiny a raise she got or a classmate who always finds faults with the professor everyone likes – They are the classic examples of negative people who you should avoid being around.
They have a tendency to find faults in anything and everything that happens with them and around them whether it concerns them directly or not. Don't let their pessimism ruin your optimistic mindset.
5) People who have broken your heart
Whether it is your ex-girlfriend who double dated, ex-boyfriend who had a one night stand with someone else or your long time partner who started seeing someone while in a relationship with you - If a guy or girl has made you go through the pain of heartbreak, he/she deserves no place in your life.
Heartbreak brings back sorrows, bad memories, tears and many other depressing emotions. There is no need to be around or in touch with people who have broken your heart. Your love is pure, don't contaminate it by being around a heart breaker.
6) People who have lied to you, betrayed you or cheated you
From the girl who lied to you about your best friend to the buddy who made you buy something because he would get a fat commission, stay away from people who have been malicious towards you in any way.
The saying 'once a liar, always a liar' may not necessarily hold true for everyone, but do you really think your precious life is worth experimenting for people who are not honest with you? Avoid them and stay away from their malicious ways.
7) People who find faults in you all the time
Ever had a friend who always finds faults in the way you dress? Ever had a colleague who pins you down unnecessarily at the slightest of errors on the office floor? Ever had a classmate who criticized all your school projects regardless of how good they really were?
People who find faults in you all the time are doing nothing but trying to drag you down simply because they fear that you are rising way beyond their reach. If you find people criticizing you on your face or by talking behind your back, remind yourself that you must be doing something right to ignite pangs of jealousy in them.
8) People who constantly try to change you
From the friend who wants you to behave in a certain manner when you go out with her to the woman who wants you to dress in a certain way if you want to be invited to her parties, life isn't worth spending time with people who don't like you for who you are.
Surround yourself with people who like you, enjoy being with you and cherish the time they spend with you without any expectations of changing your personality or habits. No matter how normal or quirky you may be, be the way you are and stay away from people who expect you to change. They are simply not worth your time and effort.
9) People who you can't trust
Do you know that happens when you spend time and interact with people who you can't trust? Your mind goes into a whirlpool of nasty thoughts and a quick sand of suspicion. There is no way you are going to be able to enjoy the company of an untrustworthy friend, partner or colleague.
Spending a Friday night alone is much better than spending it with a guy who promises you the world just to get in your pants or a girl who says she enjoys your company but it is your wallet that she is really after. It is a different situation when you want to build your trust levels with someone, but in general, people who you can't trust have no place in your life.
10) People who have given you bad memories
This post has looked at heartbreak, lies, cheating, bullying and many other commonly known things that can cause fallouts in a relationship. Even besides these if there is anyone in your life who is the cause of bad and painful memories, remove them from your life.
Ignore everyone who is blocking you from blooming into someone who can make a difference in this world. Being around negative people will hold you back from being the unique, creative and beautiful individual that you are.
shreen on April 17, 2020:
this is really a very helpful and amazing list
Holly on April 01, 2020:
I know a toxic person that used to be my best friend that possesses every single one of these traits.
Maverick22 on February 12, 2020:
I have removed myself from negative people friends that cause drama.which my friend knows if there any of that around me I won’t hanging around her and her friends.She won’t stop hanging around those kind of people.
Lauren on August 16, 2018:
Yeah I know I've learned my lesson I had a friend who took me for granted and apparently he doesn't understand that no means no I ended the friendship with him because it was one sided and wasn't working for me he put his girlfriend first all the time not just most of the time but all the time he didn't make time for me yeah he texted me and supported me but I couldn't stay his friend anymore now he's getting so desperate he's listening to phone conversations between me and my friends and me and my boyfriend too and he started talking to all my friends
Michelle Dee from Charlotte, NC on April 01, 2013:
This is a great list. I would love to link this to one of my hubs about toxic people. Voted up and across.
H C Palting from East Coast on January 27, 2013:
I agree with Kosanya. I have been met with resistance by the offending parties after recommending a friend let go of their friendships. These types of people usually take the fun out of the smallest and biggest of things. This was a very useful hub.
kosanya on January 01, 2013:
I agree, this is so true. Some amount of negativity is called realism, too much of it is just annoying.
lanablackmoor from New England on November 14, 2012:
Great advice. There was a time a few years back when I was hanging out with someone who made tongue-in-cheek insulting remarks every chance she got. Wish I'd read this article THEN! Voted up! I really like your writing style.
Mary Gaines from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington on November 14, 2012:
This was very interesting...thanks for sharing and reminding us....cheers!
Funom Theophilus Makama from Europe on November 03, 2012:
Thanks a lot for this wonderful share. Definitely voted up.... Such people should be avoided, no doubt
Sommer Dalton on November 02, 2012:
What a true and to the point article! I wrote two hubs in the last month on topics like this:). I think its great to write things that everyone can and has related to!! Voted up plus 2
Robie Benve from Ohio on November 02, 2012:
Very wise advice princess. I think many of us keep up negative relationships because the alternative is loneliness, or so it seems.
Besides the old saying "better alone than in bad company", I truly believe that once you cut down the negative energy of those people, great things start happening and you meet worthier people.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 02, 2012:
People of this category have to be taught a lesson, but sometimes it can too late for their recovery raised in different ways does have everything to do with their rude behaviour.