What It Means to Be Compassionate

Updated on August 23, 2016

This is What Compassion Looks Like



Do you think compassion is underrated?

See results

Compassion is the empathy-filled concern for another. It is becoming rarer in a world where people are increasingly spending more time with electronic devices than other people.

There are things that can be done at a personal level to better reach out to those in need of attention.

Have a Positive View of Humanity

Despite all the chaos and general insanity and instability in the world, our planet remains a beautiful place in which to be. The Earth is blessed and given life by its inhabitants. People are beautiful. Humanity is a treasure trove of wonderful experiences. The human instinct to survive and prosper is something to be appreciated.

It's a Beautiful World!

The world is a large and beautiful place filled with people worthy of our love and attention.
The world is a large and beautiful place filled with people worthy of our love and attention. | Source

Love Multiplies When Shared

Love only serves its purpose when it is expended. Love cannot be locked up and preserved for posterity. Liberate thyself! Use your love muscle! Reach out to others. Make someone's day better.

Share the Love!

We are social beings. Love is meant to be shared.
We are social beings. Love is meant to be shared. | Source

Be Gentle on Yourself

How can you love others if you don't love yourself first? If you are unable to practice love on yourself, how can reach out to another? Be gentle on yourself. You are a wonderful person worthy of love and attention. Your needs deserve to be taken care of. You are a precious son / daughter to your parents. You are irreplaceable. You are the only person in the world capable of being you.

Thou Art Deserving of Love!

You are a worthy person.
You are a worthy person. | Source

Observe the People Around You

Be aware of your surroundings. Do not fall into a rhythm of living life on autopilot. Look at the people you see on your daily commute. Do not let your visual field to be centred on your mobile device all the time.

Being Compassionate is a Choice to Be Made

Loving and being available are conscious actions. They don't usually happen in everyday routine. Make the decision to be compassionate and make a difference, even if a small one, to the life experience of another.

Compassion is Free of Conditions

The one who reaches out to another must be effusive. The kind of love displayed by a truly well-meaning person is unconditional.

Empathize (Walk a Mile in the Shoes of the Other)

Try to imagine what another person is going through. Try to, in your mind's eye, visualize his or her experience.Try to feel his or her pain.

Being One with Another

Sharing in the experience of another is a way to display empathy.
Sharing in the experience of another is a way to display empathy. | Source

Don't Get Too Emotional (Sanity is Better than Sentimentality)

Only a well-grounded person can be truly compassionate and sustain his or her empathy for another. A person who is generally balanced is able to make the right decision as to which situation really deserves the exercise of gentleness. Sometimes, a rebuke is more apt than a hug.

Avoid Gender Bias

People who need to be helped are in need of help regardless of whether they are male or female. Some people tend to help only those belonging to the opposite sex. Certain others choose to avoid helping those who belong to the opposite sex. Gender bias must be avoided at all costs.

Help the Most Neglected Among People

In every society, there are always some people who slip through the cracks. The system is unable to reach them, and people in general don't seem to be too keen to empathize with them. Identify neglected people and give them priority. They are most in need of attention.

Smile at People

It won't cost you much to share a smile with someone and light up his or her day. Try it. Smiling almost always has a magical brightening, effect. It makes the clouds part, even if only for a while.

Spread the Cheer!

A smile is a lamp in the dark.
A smile is a lamp in the dark. | Source

Don't Judge People

Accept reality. Don't expect people to fit a certain standard of perfection. Know that perfection is itself a flawed concept. Avoid passing judgement on people. Doing so is a sign of a mind intending to isolate them from the general affection of others. Remember that no one likes to be judged (even you).

Don't Make Generalizations

Every person is unique. If someone belonging to a certain country, religion, or ethnicity does something unacceptable, don't stereotype every person belonging to that country, religion, or ethnicity. Only people lacking in maturity stereotype others.

Be Willing to Trust Others

You will not have an open heart and mind if you are unable to trust that reaching out to someone will have a meaningful outcome. Be willing to invest trust in people.

Know that Vulnerability can Be a Good Thing

Sometimes, the experience of reaching out to a hurting person places us in the line of their fire. This is a risk that an empathetic person can never quite be fully immune to. Be aware of this hazard. Exercise your best judgment when you feel you might be exposing yourself to nastiness when trying to help someone. Try to assess if you will be able to handle the challenge.

Vulnerability Fosters Closeness

Vulnerability can be a relationship-enhancing thing.
Vulnerability can be a relationship-enhancing thing. | Source


It takes maturity and a large heart to forgive. Exercising forgiveness is a way to show compassion. Forgiving helps one grow as a person. Develop this habit.

Wish the Best for Others

The success of anyone at a good pursuit is a success for humanity. Mentally and emotionally accept the successes of others. Appreciate their hard work and smartness when needed.

If You are Religious, Pray for Another

If you believe in a Higher Power, spend time in praying for the fulfillment of the needs of others. Pray for yourself as well.

Be Approachable

An approachable person has a positive attitude. He or she is not snobbish or patronizing. He or she is willing make time for little conversations. Being approachable is a first step in helping one form meaningful and lasting relationships.

Be Open to Communication

When people find you approachable, they will open up to you.
When people find you approachable, they will open up to you. | Source

Be Gentle in Conversation

Be aware of the kind of language you generally use. Avoid cuss words and an aggressive tone. It is generally no fun listening to someone talking harshly.

Maintain the Confidentiality of Personal Conversations

The person who is willing to share personal and often painful details with you deserves your trust. Trust once lost is hard to regain. Never gossip about others who have placed their trust in you.

Listen More Than You Talk

Listening is a rapidly disappearing skill. Its value is increasing by the day. Giving your ears to listen to someone is a very affirming act. Listen more than you talk. Your mere availability will make more of an impact than anything that is said verbally.

Listening: A Great Skill to Have

Listening to another affirms his or her value as a person.
Listening to another affirms his or her value as a person. | Source

Give People Opportunities to Right Their Wrongs

Don't cut out anyone from your field of attention the first time he or she falters behaviourally. Give him or her an opportunity (or opportunities) to set things right. For repeat offenders, exercise your best judgement.

Help an Overburdened Person with Work

Some people tend to take on more work than they can complete within the time given . Some people are bullied into doing more work than is possible for them. Reach out to these kinds of people. Help them with what needs to be done. Once the given tasks are complete, help them to be more assertive in the future.

Reach Out

Helping people with difficult tasks is a way to show you care.
Helping people with difficult tasks is a way to show you care. | Source

Stand Up for Others

When someone is being treated unfairly, stand up for him or her. Injustice should always be challenged, whether it is perpetrated against an individual or a group of people.

Be Generous in Giving

Have a mindset of sharing. Be generous in giving. At the same time, be pragmatic.

Sharing is Caring

True happiness lies in giving.
True happiness lies in giving. | Source

Be Humble

Do not help someone in order to boast about it later. Help someone because he or she needs your support. Advertizing one's own actions goes against the very purpose of reaching out.

From Time to Time, Make Sacrifices for Others

People are taken by surprise when sacrifices, no matter how small, are made for them. It restores their faith in humanity's capacity to do good. People who benefit from the sacrifices of others often pay it forward. This creates a chain of goodwill among individuals.

Hug When Required

More often than not, a hug is more powerful than a thousand consoling words. Energize a hurting or dejected person with a hug today! Bring compassion back into fashion!

Hugging is Underdone

Hugs are powerful.
Hugs are powerful. | Source


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • FlourishAnyway profile image


      3 years ago from USA

      In an age when cell phones and social media have replaced personal face-to-face conversation, it's export ant to practice the art of empathy and hone listening skills. people aren't as skilled as they used to be at these.

    • Laurinzo Scott profile image

      LJ Scott 

      3 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Great hub... and I think loving someone(especially someone unlovable) can have miraculous power to change the individual, and even the world


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, pairedlife.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://maven.io/company/pages/privacy

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)