Rohan believes that recognizing love when it happens will help you truly cherish the experience.
What Is Compassion?
Compassion is the empathy-filled concern for another. It is becoming rarer in a world where people are increasingly spending more time with electronic devices than other people.
There are things that can be done at a personal level to better reach out to those in need of attention. Below, we take a look at how you can become a more compassionate person.
Have a Positive View of Humanity
Despite all the chaos and general insanity and instability in the world, our planet remains a beautiful place in which to be. The Earth is blessed and given life by its inhabitants. People are beautiful. Humanity is a treasure trove of wonderful experiences. The human instinct to survive and prosper is something to be appreciated.
Share Your Love
Love only serves its purpose when it is expended. Love cannot be locked up and preserved for posterity. Liberate thyself! Use your love muscle! Reach out to others. Make someone's day better.
Be Gentle With Yourself
How can you love others if you don't love yourself first? If you are unable to practice love on yourself, how can reach out to another? Be gentle on yourself. You are a wonderful person worthy of love and attention. Your needs deserve to be taken care of. You are a precious son / daughter to your parents. You are irreplaceable. You are the only person in the world capable of being you.
Observe the People Around You
Be aware of your surroundings. Do not fall into a rhythm of living life on autopilot. Look at the people you see on your daily commute. Do not let your visual field to be centred on your mobile device all the time.
Choose to Be Compassionate
Loving and being available are conscious actions. They don't usually happen in everyday routine. Make the decision to be compassionate and make a difference, even if a small one, to the life experience of another.
Give Your Compassion Without Conditions
The one who reaches out to another must be effusive. The kind of love displayed by a truly well-meaning person is unconditional.
Empathize (Walk a Mile in Someone Else's Shoes)
Try to imagine what another person is going through. Try to, in your mind's eye, visualize his or her experience. Try to feel his or her pain.
Don't Get Too Emotional (Sanity Is Better Than Sentimentality)
Only a well-grounded person can be truly compassionate and sustain his or her empathy for another. A person who is generally balanced is able to make the right decision as to which situation really deserves the exercise of gentleness. Sometimes, a rebuke is more apt than a hug.
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Avoid Gender Bias
People who need to be helped are in need of help regardless of whether they are male or female. Some people tend to help only those belonging to the opposite sex. Certain others choose to avoid helping those who belong to the opposite sex. Gender bias must be avoided at all costs.
Help the Most Neglected Among People
In every society, there are always some people who slip through the cracks. The system is unable to reach them, and people in general don't seem to be too keen to empathize with them. Identify neglected people and give them priority. They are most in need of attention.
Smile at People
It won't cost you much to share a smile with someone and light up his or her day. Try it. Smiling almost always has a magical brightening, effect. It makes the clouds part, even if only for a while.
Don't Judge People
Accept reality. Don't expect people to fit a certain standard of perfection. Know that perfection is itself a flawed concept. Avoid passing judgement on people. Doing so is a sign of a mind intending to isolate them from the general affection of others. Remember that no one likes to be judged (even you).
Don't Make Generalizations
Every person is unique. If someone belonging to a certain country, religion, or ethnicity does something unacceptable, don't stereotype every person belonging to that country, religion, or ethnicity. Only people lacking in maturity stereotype others.
Be Willing to Trust Others
You will not have an open heart and mind if you are unable to trust that reaching out to someone will have a meaningful outcome. Be willing to invest trust in people.
Know That Vulnerability Can Be a Good Thing
Sometimes, the experience of reaching out to a hurting person places us in the line of their fire. This is a risk that an empathetic person can never quite be fully immune to. Be aware of this hazard. Exercise your best judgment when you feel you might be exposing yourself to nastiness when trying to help someone. Try to assess if you will be able to handle the challenge.
It takes maturity and a large heart to forgive. Exercising forgiveness is a way to show compassion. Forgiving helps one grow as a person. Develop this habit.
Wish the Best for Others
The success of anyone at a good pursuit is a success for humanity. Mentally and emotionally accept the successes of others. Appreciate their hard work and smartness when needed.
If You Are Religious, Pray for Others
If you believe in a Higher Power, spend time in praying for the fulfillment of the needs of others. Pray for yourself as well.
An approachable person has a positive attitude. He or she is not snobbish or patronizing. He or she is willing make time for little conversations. Being approachable is a first step in helping one form meaningful and lasting relationships.
Be Gentle in Conversation
Be aware of the kind of language you generally use. Avoid cuss words and an aggressive tone. It is generally no fun listening to someone talking harshly.
Maintain the Confidentiality of Personal Conversations
The person who is willing to share personal and often painful details with you deserves your trust. Trust once lost is hard to regain. Never gossip about others who have placed their trust in you.
Listen More Than You Talk
Listening is a rapidly disappearing skill. Its value is increasing by the day. Giving your ears to listen to someone is a very affirming act. Listen more than you talk. Your mere availability will make more of an impact than anything that is said verbally.
Give People Opportunities to Right Their Wrongs
Don't cut out anyone from your field of attention the first time he or she falters behaviourally. Give him or her an opportunity (or opportunities) to set things right. For repeat offenders, exercise your best judgement.
Help an Overburdened Person With Work
Some people tend to take on more work than they can complete within the time given. Some people are bullied into doing more work than is possible for them. Reach out to these kinds of people. Help them with what needs to be done. Once the given tasks are complete, help them to be more assertive in the future.
Stand Up for Others
When someone is being treated unfairly, stand up for him or her. Injustice should always be challenged, whether it is perpetrated against an individual or a group of people.
Be Generous in Giving
Have a mindset of sharing. Be generous in giving. At the same time, be pragmatic.
Do not help someone in order to boast about it later. Help someone because he or she needs your support. Advertizing one's own actions goes against the very purpose of reaching out.
Make Sacrifices for Others
People are taken by surprise when sacrifices, no matter how small, are made for them. It restores their faith in humanity's capacity to do good. People who benefit from the sacrifices of others often pay it forward. This creates a chain of goodwill among individuals.
Hug When Required
More often than not, a hug is more powerful than a thousand consoling words. Energize a hurting or dejected person with a hug today! Bring compassion back into fashion!
FlourishAnyway from USA on August 24, 2016:
In an age when cell phones and social media have replaced personal face-to-face conversation, it's export ant to practice the art of empathy and hone listening skills. people aren't as skilled as they used to be at these.
LJ Scott from Phoenix, Az. on August 24, 2016:
Great hub... and I think loving someone(especially someone unlovable) can have miraculous power to change the individual, and even the world