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How to Be a Gentleman

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A gentleman is a man who conducts himself in a befitting way. Every man is called to be a gentleman, although many men behave in a very ungentle way.

A gentleman is a man who conducts himself in a befitting way. Every man is called to be a gentleman, although many men behave in a very ungentle way.

What Does It Mean to Be a Gentleman?

Gentleman have certain attributes and qualities that make them stand out wherever they are and in whatever they do. They set the right kind of example and are noticed by truly mature people. Below, we'll explore some of the characteristics of a true gentleman.

They Hold Themselves Accountable to High Standards

Classy men expect themselves to behave in a certain, refined way. They do not try to please the majority sentiment on any account.

There's nothing cool about losing your temper. Stay in control of your emotions.

There's nothing cool about losing your temper. Stay in control of your emotions.

They Are Almost Always in Control of Their Temper

A classy man is always in control of his temper. He almost never blows his top. If and when he loses his temper, he remembers to apologize.

They Are Willing to Wait

Mature men are willing to wait for the good things in life. Often, they are prepared to wait for even the little things in life. Patience never did any man bad, and gentlemen know this all too well!

They Are Not Obsessed With Sex

A man of virtue is not obsessed with sex. Like others, he grapples with challenges of sexuality on an almost daily basis. However, he has principles by which he lives.

They Do Not Cheat the Gullible People Around Them

True gentlemen do not take advantage of gullible people. They are honest in how they earn their money and conduct their relationships.

A gentleman thinks for himself.

A gentleman thinks for himself.

They Think Independently

Truly wise men are not victim to groupthink or the herd mentality. They do not make decisions under duress.

They Do Not Indulge in Self-Pity

Gentlemen do not indulge in self-pity. They are able to look past their personal condition and at the people around them.

They Stand Up for Others

Gentlemen are not selfish. They are often quite selfless and do not hesitate to question any injustice that is done to others. They exemplify the human spirit of solidarity.

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Men of substance are aware of the going ons in society and are sympathetic to the cause of the deprived.

Gentlemen are emotionally present to those around them, even to animals.

Gentlemen are emotionally present to those around them, even to animals.

They Acknowledge Their Mistakes and Faults

Classy men are always ready to take the blame and be held accountable for their words and actions. They do not hide behind silly excuses or justifications. They care more for being in the right than for looking good in the eyes of society.

They Do Not Patronize Women

Really good men know not to patronize women and not to behave as if women are perpetually in need of the assistance of a man.

A man of substance knows that every woman is as able as every man. He questions the feudal mentality of looking at women as secondary to men. He tries to set an example through his life on how to value women.

They Do Not Take Names Unnecessarily

Gentleman don't pretend to be chummy with important or famous people. They don't take names unless when doing so is absolutely inevitable.

They Don't Boast

Classy men do not boast, not even to impress girls / women. Gentlemen are humble people. They do not feel the need to show off. Showing off is, more-often-than-not, a trait of those who have an inferiority complex. Men of substance are self-assured.

They Don't Gossip

Polished men do not gossip about others. They do not indulge in character assassination.

They Are Not Vengeful

Gentlemen are never hellbent on revenge. Seeking vengeance is simply not a gentlemanly trait. Being forgiving is.

Gentlemen do not speak condescendingly to others.

Gentlemen do not speak condescendingly to others.

They Don't Talk Down to Others

It is wisdom not to condescend to those around oneself. Gentlemen do not talk down to others. They do not have a superiority complex.

Examples of Gentlemen From the Bible

Jesus Christ, who was always classy

Joseph, the father of Jesus Christ, who was always humble

Abel, who loved his hateful brother Cain

Zacchaeus the tax collector, who acknowledged his cheating of people and who made amends for all the looting he had done

John the Baptist, who had a vision for the future

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