What It Means to Be a Gentleman
Is being a gentleman overrated?
Gentleman have certain attributes and qualities that make them stand out wherever they are and in whatever they do.
They Hold Themselves Accountable to High Standards
Classy men expect themselves to behave in a certain, refined way. They do not try to please the majority sentiment on any account.
They Are Almost Always in Control of Their Temper
A classy man is always in control of his temper. He almost never blows his top. If and when he loses his temper, he remembers to apologize.
They Are Willing to Wait
Mature men are willing to wait for the good things in life. Often, they are prepared to wait for even the little things in life. Patience never did any man bad, and gentlemen know this all too well!
They Are Not Obsessed With Sex
A man of virtue is not obsessed with sex. Like others, he grapples with challenges of sexuality on an almost daily basis. However, he has principles by which he lives.
They Do Not Cheat the Gullible People Around Them
True gentlemen do not take advantage of gullible people. They are honest in how they earn their money and conduct their relationships.
They Think Independently
Truly wise men are not victim to groupthink or the herd mentality. They do not make decisions under duress.
They Do Not Indulge Self Pity
Gentlemen do not indulge self pity. They are able to look past their personal condition and at the people around them.
They Stand Up for Others
Gentlemen are not selfish. They are often quite selfless and do not hesitate to question any injustice that is done to others. They exemplify the human spirit of solidarity.
Men of substance are aware of the going ons in society and are sympathetic to the cause of the deprived.
They Acknowledge Their Mistakes and Faults
Classy men are always ready to take the blame and be held accountable for their words and actions. They do not hide behind silly excuses or justifications. They care more for being in the right than for looking good in the eyes of society.
They Do Not Patronize Women
Some Gentlemen from the Bible
Jesus Christ, who was always classy
Joseph, the father of Jesus Christ, who was always humble
John the Baptist, who had a vision for the future
Abel, who loved his hateful brother Cain
Zacchaeus the tax collector, who acknowledged his cheating of people and who made amends for all the looting he had done
Really good men know not to patronize women and not to behave as if women are perpetually in need of the assistance of a man.
A man of substance knows that every woman is as able as every man. He questions the feudal mentality of looking at women as secondary to men. He tries to set an example through his life on how to value women.
They Do Not Take Names Unnecessarily
Gentleman don't pretend to be chummy with important or famous people. They don't take names unless when doing so is absolutely inevitable.
They Don't Boast
Classy men do not boast, not even to impress girls / women. Gentlemen are humble people. They do not feel the need to show off. Showing off is, more-often-than-not, a trait of those who have an inferiority complex. Men of substance are self-assured.
They Don't Gossip
Polished men do not gossip about others. They do not indulge in character assassination.
They Are Not Vengeful
Gentlemen are never hellbent on revenge. Seeking vengeance is simply not a gentlemanly trait. Being forgiving is.
They Don't Talk Down to Others
It is wisdom not to condescend to those around oneself. Gentlemen do not talk down to others. They do not have a superiority complex.