How to Hide Your Emotions–Don't Let Others Know What You're Thinking

Updated on June 13, 2019
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This article will teach you all the tips and tricks you need to know in order to conceal your emotions.
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Why should you ever hide your emotions? Well, the answer is quite simple. There are situations when you'd rather keep your thoughts and feelings hidden than display them in front of people who may ridicule, mock, make fun of, or even take advantage of your feelings.

There are plenty of other reasons why you might want to hide your emotions, and doing so certainly has its benefits, but there are certain situations where it may not be healthy to do so. In this article, we'll go over ways to hide your feelings, when and why you should hide emotions, and when and why you shouldn't.

We'll stay away from cliché advice like "control your temper," "laugh it out," and "stay calm." This article pinpoints the very acts and precise things you can do to hide and control your emotions. Don't let anyone know what you are thinking.

How to Hide Your Emotions

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Don't move your eyebrows.
  3. Don't put up a fake smile.
  4. Relax your face.
  5. Don't support your head.
  6. Stop fidgeting and refrain from constantly adjusting yourself.
  7. Pause, think, and speak in a balanced tone.
  8. Disassociate yourself from the situation.
  9. Speak to yourself in your mind.

Disclaimer

It is important to understand that not all feelings should be contained. In some situations, it is much healthier to let your emotions out and deal with them, rather than repress them.

1. Take a deep breath.

Besides the obvious advantage of amplifying the supply of oxygen, taking a deep breath will allow you to recollect your composure and act calm and collected. Deep breathing stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which triggers a relaxation response. An important mindful living technique, deep breathing will give you more control over your body and your reactions and responses to outside stimuli.

2. Don't move your eyebrows.

Whether you like it or not, your eyes are the first escape route for your emotions. Your eyes may not be verbal, but they say a lot, and that's exactly where your eyebrows come in. Situations that make you feel angry, sad, excited, or nervous are often accompanied by specific eyebrow movements and positions. If you want to hide what you are feeling and thinking, stop moving your eyebrows and ease the tension from your forehead.

3. Don't put up a fake smile.

A smile is a great asset to carry but is not always beneficial. While a happy, bubbly look on your face may win you hearts and affection, it may not be the best look to wear in a serious meeting. You may think that with a fake smile you'll be able to hide feelings like sadness or anger. But we all know that a fake smile is, more often than not, easy to spot. So if you really want to hide your emotions, keep your mouth straight.

4. Relax your face.

There's a lot more to your facial expressions than just your eyes and lips. Relax your face and stay away from teeth-grinding, frowning, or displaying other typical emotion-bound expressions. No, this is not about always having a steely demeanor and acting like a tough guy; however, keeping a straight face when you need it the most is an important trick to keep in your arsenal.

5. Don’t support your head.

A droopy head held up by your hand or a sulky face buried into your palms can be a giveaway of a gloomy mood, depression, or sadness. The phrase "hold your head up high" is never better implemented than in a situation where you're trying to hide your feelings. Touching your face can also be an indicator of anxiety and restlessness. It's best to keep your hands away from your head in order to maintain a strong, composed demeanor.

6. Stop fidgeting and refrain from constantly adjusting yourself.

Sudden body movements and constant signs of physical discomfort are clear signs of nervousness or anxiety. Ease yourself and be comfortable. Emotions and feelings are hard to decipher when you maintain calm and relaxed body language.

Signs of Physical Discomfort

  • tapping your feet,
  • picking at your cuticles,
  • biting your nails,
  • cracking your knuckles,
  • or touching your face.

Avoiding these classic signs of boredom and discomfort will result in a calm demeanor, which not only gives you the appearance of being relaxed, but it also requires you to focus on something, which makes you more calm and collected.

7. Pause, think, and speak in a balanced tone.

The tone of your voice can immediately give away your thoughts. Frequent changes in your tone, speaking too fast, stuttering, and stammering are signals to the person listening to you indicating what's going on in your mind. Don't let that happen; speak properly. A slow speaking pace also gives your mind those critical few microseconds to think before you utter your next sentence.

In addition to this, try to think and speak in a logical manner. Focusing on logic is key to removing emotion from any situation. Just state the facts.

8. Disassociate yourself from the situation.

Detaching yourself from the situation is anything but easy, but it can be a necessity if you want to hide your emotions from onlookers. While it is not rocket science, it is also challenging.

The easiest way to go about is to think of happy thoughts or good memories. Think of a warm moment spent with a loved one or a moment of ecstasy. That will help you to mentally take yourself away from the frenzy and anxiety of your current situation, and makes it more challenging for others to read your thoughts.

9. Speak to yourself in your mind.

"Calm down, you can do this—just stay cool" is a line that even the most famous sportspersons and celebrities must have said to themselves during nerve-wracking moments. You should do that, too! If you think that you are letting your emotions get the better of you, simply tell your mind and ask it to think the way you want it to. All you need to do is ask!

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are the thoughts and feelings I'm experiencing rational?
  • What's the worst that could happen right now?
  • How likely is it that the worst-case scenario will happen?

Examining the situation with a calm, rational mind will allow you to de-stress and reevaluate your emotions.

Hiding your emotions isn't always the best way to respond to a situation.
Hiding your emotions isn't always the best way to respond to a situation. | Source

When You Should Hide Your Feelings

There are certain situations in which hiding your emotions can be advantageous. Maybe you've had a really bad day, but you have a job interview later and need to seem cheerful and friendly. Or maybe you're trying to work on a personal issue, such as frequently overreacting to emotional events or suffering from bouts of irrational anger.

Reasons You Might Need to Hide Your Feelings

  • You need to manage your anger.
  • You need to remain calm in a dangerous or upsetting situation.
  • You need to hide your feelings for someone.
  • You need to seem less depressed.
  • You need to appear courteous when you're shocked or confused.

Regulating your emotions alters others' perceptions of you and, for whatever reason, you want to learn how to control your emotional responses. Learning to regulate your responses is an important aspect of being a functioning adult.

Situations in Which You Might Need to Conceal Your Emotions

  • If the situation is inappropriate (i.e. feeling anger or sadness when you are about to go to a job interview, performance, etc.), you'll want to put those emotions on hold and deal with them when the time is right.
  • If the audience is inappropriate (i.e. dealing with feelings of rage over your pending divorce when your young children are around), it's best to find a time and place when you can process your feelings alone.

When You Shouldn't Hide Your Emotions

There are some situations where repressing your emotions can be unhealthy. Sometimes, expressing the way you feel, even though it may make you feel scared and vulnerable, is not the best course of action.

When You Are Rightfully Upset

Sometimes, people do things that are just plain wrong. If you see or experience injustice and it causes you to feel upset, expressing those feelings can not only be cathartic for you but may also be beneficial for others.

When You Love Someone

Feelings can be scary, especially when you're not sure if the object of your affection reciprocates. However, forever concealing the way you feel will prevent you from ever taking the risk of experiencing something great. Fear of rejection is not a good reason to hide your emotions.

When Someone Is Shaming You for the Way You Feel

Whether it's a parent, significant other, friend, or some other acquaintance, people can put you down when they're suffering from their own insecurities. Don't let other people try to invalidate your emotions just because they are unwilling to deal with their own negative behavior. If someone is making you feel bad, you have the right to express the way you feel, and you shouldn't repress your emotions just because you're afraid of losing them or hurting their feelings.

Concealing your feelings and emotions when you shouldn't can be damaging to your mental health and self-image. The most important thing you can do is to learn how to deal with your emotions in a positive, healing way.

Way to Deal With Your Emotions

  • looking inside yourself to understand the way you feel,
  • changing the things you can (such as incorporating new routines, getting more sleep, etc.),
  • and finding a good outlet for your emotions (i.e., exercise, mediation, or other stress-relieving tactics).

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      wolfiegirl_08 

      7 days ago

      this really helped because i was to expressive with my emotions and for a random reason i actually wanted to be cold and now i am so yeah #lifesucks

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      hidden behind the clouds 

      2 weeks ago

      i become numb and I dont know why but its almost a relief I feel nothing and I wish I could do it on command or take something to make it happen

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      Twilight 

      3 weeks ago

      I think this is really helpfull for me bc at times i feel really angry like so angry that i want to punch them in da face. This person keeps making fun of me bc i like a guy thats shorter than me and i dont want him to know that i like him. So I try to hide it. And other reasons like i try to hide the fact that im depressed.

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      Girl who’s scared of opening up lol 

      4 weeks ago

      I find it literally so easy to emotionally detach myself to a point that it really concerns people. Honestly it’s a pretty good thing (well it’s not but yeetus I can’t help it) I hate discussing my emotions with other people because I can’t open up to them because they would never understand and it’s hard to relate when you don’t understand so therefore showing no emotion is pretty useful. I get scared that they just won’t ever be able to understand and they might think I’m weird or something like that. I do have a lot of people who care about me but I just never feel comfortable talking to them about things (maybe I’m just insecure or something idk). I feel pretty alone at times lol. You're probably thinking I have like EDD or something - I don’t lmao. I’m actually really good with other people’s emotions and I’m extremely good at reading people and helping with their emotions, just not my own. Handling my own emotions is just something I can’t do because I often don’t know what’s causing them or what I’m even feeling at all, at times. I really do hate myself sometimes ooof I’m just a bit of a mess right now haha

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      a struggling choir girl 

      5 weeks ago

      thank you so much.

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      raymond 

      6 weeks ago

      thank you bc i did not know to hide my Emotions

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      Anonymous 

      7 weeks ago

      Thanks this helps a lot

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      pier 

      2 months ago

      it's very hard for me to hide my feelings, people can easily read on my face what i am thinking. I totally luck capacity to discern what i should keep to myself and what i should give out and this makes me socially emarginated especially at work. I hate this aspect of myself, and the more i try to fight it the more it shows. people read me and i am immediately put aside.

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      Emmanuel 

      3 months ago

      Thanks you

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      Scarlet Skye 

      3 months ago

      Thank you. Among all of the websites saying we should "be ourselves" and "stop hiding our true selves", you have offered helpful and honest information. I really needed this, and I'm grateful that you offered it.

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      Daughter in law 

      5 months ago

      Came here because me and my girl are currently living with her mother (my mother in law basically) who is a full blown narcissist. After times of my girl describing the abuse that shes been through, and now me experiencing it and it eacalating for the past 4 months, it is undeniable. We have plans to go no contact asap, but its not possible yet. I will start practicing these things and try to get my girl to do so as well. It could be dangerous though. My gf already has heart problems from holding in emotions from the constant abuse for 19 years, and anger problems (understandably so). I just cant wait for us to escape and start living our lives together in an actual healthy environment. I almost cant take it after just 4 months, i feel so bad that she has had to endure this at a worse degree for her whole life

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      Saffron Ridlington-white 

      6 months ago

      Hi this is really helpful one question I am about to go to school and I am really not wanting io go to school what causes that?

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      Hero 

      7 months ago

      This is nice it is really gonna help me a lot especially when it comes to my friends,parents, sibling and

      So on

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      Michael 

      7 months ago

      Thanks for your advise it really worked! My parents were mocking me and it helped me to not cry! Thanks again.

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      william 

      8 months ago

      thx for the advise it will healp me in high school alot and some other times

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      Fern 

      8 months ago

      Thanks will help me alot..

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      Ashlynn 

      8 months ago

      Thanks I need this because I always get hurt by everyone

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      Ellie 

      8 months ago

      Thanks for this, i really needed it. I get mad at a few people way to easy.

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      Lbear 

      11 months ago

      Thanks for this. Just as others said, I keep my emotions in and I'm like just now exploding and all anybody does is make it worse. This will definitely be super helpful.

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      Angel Deshotel 

      12 months ago

      I get mad easily. I break down crying way to easily. I guess it's because I keep everything in 24\7, which isn't good. I get bullied at school, so I searched this so here I am. My temper is easy to mess with...

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      vale 

      12 months ago

      I suffer from a low temper, the easiest things tick me off, affecting my affection and association with my family. My dad is always there wanting to know how I feel and sometimes I break down even though I don't want to tell him, so this would help hide how I'm feeling

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      Anger Management 

      14 months ago

      Thanks for this. I have serious anger management issues and so far, it's helped pretty well! A few weeks ago I had found out that someone that I had trusted had been spreading rumors about my friend and I blew up and started saying some disturbing things. I can only remember up until My friend was starting to take me to the wellbeing teacher but that's what my friends had told me.

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      123 

      19 months ago

      This is, honestly, what I needed. It's like I've been bottling up all of my emotions for so long that, I'm just now blowing up. I thought that my way was effective, to be fair I've probably been doing this for 5 years. And now that I exploded, people are offering me help, but I shouldn't need help, I didn't before, why now? Anyway, thanks for the article, I'm sure I speak for every one when I say, we all really needed that

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      KittyKat666 

      19 months ago

      I like it I might even try it

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      Rakesh sawane 

      21 months ago

      Nice

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      not so sure 

      2 years ago

      sometimes it is easier said then done

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      Steph 

      2 years ago

      Hay thank u for the advice it really helped me and hope it helps others in the same way x

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      passionatelearnr 

      3 years ago

      Useful advice and interesting read.

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      Susan Bailey 

      6 years ago from South Yorkshire, UK

      Voted up, useful and shared. I find it so hard to hide my emotions

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      Doug DeWalt 

      6 years ago from Ohio USA

      Projecting body language is very effective, just the way you stand can change the course of a conversation.

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      Lynsey Hart 

      6 years ago from Lanarkshire

      Voted up, useful and interesting. I have always hid my emotions well, and have been called heartless at times, but I would rather deal with things in my own time, rather than in public. Great hub!

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      Yves 

      6 years ago

      This is actually very practical advice. All your suggestion can work quite well in so many professional settings. The only thing I would add is that sometimes we can get so used to doing this, that we may come across as too aloof. My emotional pendulum has swung the other way now, and I'm more like my true, more emotional self.... but this hub is a good reminder for me of how important it is to match the face with the situation, and to try to maintain some balance. Voting up.

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      RTalloni 

      6 years ago

      These are good tips to think through for those times that it is important not to express feelings when interacting with other people.

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      April Olshavsky 

      6 years ago from Somewhere between California and nowhere

      Thank you for this! I thought I was the queen of dissociation, but now I am rethinking that. People are always asking me what's wrong, when really, I just prefer to sort things out myself before I burden someone else with my emotional baggage. I'm going to try a few of these tips. :-)

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      Grace-Wolf-30 

      6 years ago from England

      I understand why you have written this hub, but there are ways of expressing yourself without hurting other people. I agree that there are some people who you would not want to know how you are feeling, for example, somebody who wishes you harm, however, in day to day scenario's, if you don't express yourself your feelings get pent up and they can come out at a later date in the wrong way. I really like the tips you have given, and they are very relevant methods of calming down, but I think it is also important to return to a situation and speak your mind honestly and openly, and allow those who you are talking to speak their minds too. In this circumstance, you can use unconditional positive regard. This is listening to someone elses point of view without judging them. When you use unconditional positive regard, the people you are dealing with will feel more relaxed with you and will unconsciously use the same method with you. Open communication is nearly always the best way forward in resolving conflict and stress. When you communicate openly, but without high emotions, everyone knows where they stand with each other, and from this point you can plan positively for the future. Thank you for your hub, it is a useful read.

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      Marilyn L Davis 

      6 years ago from Georgia

      You are correct about the eyebrows. I opened and ran a women's recovery home and when doing groups, had to make sure that my facial expressions stayed neutral while someone was sharing, but the eyebrows seemed to have a will of their own; let me bangs grow to "hide them".

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      viveresperando 

      7 years ago from A Place Where Nothing Is Real

      As a person who has always been told I show my emotions on my sleeves..... lol. Found this very inciteful, thanks for the share.

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      meloncauli 

      7 years ago from UK

      Interesting hub. Thanks for sharing.

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      Dahlia Flower 

      7 years ago from Canada

      This is a good topic. There are situations in most of our lives that come up where we need to look composed. In situations such as poor or rude service, for instance, when we make the effort to compose ourselves into a peaceful space, we soon feel what we are trying to portray. Thanks for the good tips.

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      Neil Sperling 

      7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Great points. Self control is a skill anyone can develop - you laid out a nice ground work here. Great Job.

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      Tonette Fornillos 

      7 years ago from The City of Generals

      Thank you for this princess. I think keeping a straight face when you need it the most is most challenging. It would end me up talking to myself "I'm FUNNY!!" :-) Loved this hub. Interesting and voted up!

      Tonipet

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      Rob 

      7 years ago from Oviedo, FL

      Hi Princess; I'm an expert in this. These are good suggestions.

      Rob

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      FloraBreenRobison 

      7 years ago

      These are important things to remember. Thanks for these.

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      PhetsyDutchko 

      7 years ago from West Point, CA & Shelby, NC

      This would be a good article to give to college grads just starting in the professional workspace.

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      Tina Siuagan 

      7 years ago from Rizal, Philippines

      Thank you for sharing this. When I want to hide my emotions, I kind of talk to myself on doing it. It's like making the inner 'you' to cooperate and the rest follows. Then I can hide what my true emotion is, on a certain situation, and people will never find out... even until now. Hahaha!

      Beautiful hub. :D

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