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10 Annoying Habits That Irritate Others

Audrey's desire to help others to respect and understand themselves led her to the study of psychology at UCLA.

The Word Annoy And It's Meaning

Looking up the word annoy in the dictionary this is what I found:

  • Irritate
  • Bother
  • Provoke
  • Harass
  • Weary
  • Exasperate
  • Displease
  • Trouble
  • Disturb

Now, who wants to be guilty of all the above and lose friends? (Family has to put up with you but friends do not.)

Are You Guilty Of These Annoying Habits?

How do we know if we annoy a person? We don't set out to provoke others. Well, having said that, I personally know of a family member who deliberately and with full intent does. For the rest of us the tips listed below may be helpful:

  • Don't interrupt. Allow the other person enough time to finish talking. Even when you feel the necessity to speak your point of view, hold your tongue until the other party is through talking.
  • Try to be less negative. Look at that proverbial half glass of water as half full instead of half empty. Having a negative attitude is draining on the other person. It tends to "suck" the energy right out of a person.
  • Be a good listener. Let the other person know you have heard what they have said.

(Another person) " I get so tired of screaming kids. I just go crazy."

(Your reply) " I hear you saying you would like some quiet time for yourself."

In this example, the listener avoids two important points:

1. Trying to fix the problem

2. Turning the conversation to himself.

  • Not allowing the other person to win an argument. One sure way of annoying another person is to defend your opinion when you think it's right. Are we so insecure we just have to be right all the time?
  • Use good old-fashioned manners. Remember "Thank you" and "Please." Such a small gesture but oh how powerful. And while I'm thinking about it add "excuse me" to the list.
  • Don't make everything about you. This can turn people off. Just listen instead. Avoid turning the conversation to yourself. The only time this is appropriate is when we're asked for advice.
  • Try to address behaviors that bother you as soon as they happen. Avoid letting things fester. Be nice about it. If you can add humor, even better.
  • Be genuine and be yourself. Then If people find you annoying, find other people.
  • Refrain from talking about people behind their backs. This is a sure way to lose the trust of others. Gossiping also shows a lack of high character.
  • Chewing food with the mouth open. This is one of the biggest bad habits that turn others off. Learn to eat with your mouth closed.
  • Avoid bragging about yourself. Remain humble. Humility means that we no longer need to feel more special than someone else to prove our value.
  • Constant complaining can drain energy from the listener. Complaining is the opposite of gratitude. When we show gratitude, we increase our ability to celebrate the success of others.
  • Road Rage. When we yell at other drivers does it help the situation? You know the answer to this. Never!
  • Posting Political Rants on Facebook. Have you unfriended someone because of a political post? 18 percent of adults said they had blocked, unfriended or hidden updates from a friend because of a political post.
  • Leaving Shopping Carts next to cars or where accidents can occur. Runaway shopping carts cause injuries and damage to innocent shoppers and their vehicles. Make it a habit to return your shopping cart to the proper place.
  • Popping your gum out loud. This annoying habit drives me up the wall.
  • Playing music too loud. Whether it's coming from your car, or from a near-by neighbor, have the decency to keep all music low enough in volume so as not too disturb others. Especially be concerned with those who need their sleep.

Be a Good Listener to Keep Friendships Alive and Well

To be a good listener you have to stop talking.

To be a good listener you have to stop talking.

The Time I Crossed the Line

We're all guilty of getting on someone's nerves at one time or the other. We don't set out to be annoying but still it happens. I'm sure there have been times when I have been annoying to others. It isn't my intention to upset anyone, none the less I know at one time or another I have been guilty of this crime.

Like the time my son brought his new girlfriend over to have dinner with us. Wanting to score some points for Randy, I opened my big mouth and served a few compliments about his good looks, talents and all that good stuff. He immediately bore his eyes into mine with daggers aimed directly at me. I stopped talking - period.

My son was annoyed with me and I was just trying to help. But what I did was embarrass him. Of course I now see the error of my ways.

The first step to stop yourself from annoying your friends (or your own son as in my case), is recognition. We aren't mind readers and most of the time we aren't even aware that we are annoying another person. But when we learn that we have "crossed the line" it's time to file your mistake in the proper place and never repeat the offense again.

Do Dogs Get Annoyed?

    "Not much annoys me"  ~  Clancey       ( address ~ doggie heaven )

"Not much annoys me" ~ Clancey ( address ~ doggie heaven )

Two Sounds That Annoy Yours Truly

If your friends begin to avoid you (and it isn't your bad breath) you had better start changing your ways. Not completely - just your annoying ways. An example might be:

  • Chewing gum - (my biggest pet peeve.) If you are a gum popper or cracker and can't control yourself then stop chewing gum when you're in public. Puhleeze! (Note: please is not misspelled. This spelling is my way of stressing my point.)
  • If your nasal passages need clearing out and you're in a restaurant, have the common courtesy to blow your nose outside the restaurant or in the bathroom. Many a good meal has gone to waste because of this most disgusting sound.

Note: Forgiveness is implied for anyone's feelings that have been ruffled.

When Not to Use Your Cell Phone

In most states using your cell phone is breaking the law.  This should also apply to: While eating, at the theater and while greeting a person.

In most states using your cell phone is breaking the law. This should also apply to: While eating, at the theater and while greeting a person.

Six Leading Annoying Habits

Clearly, there are habits that others have that are very annoying to someone else. Often times the transgressor has no idea that his actions are bringing a person to the boiling point. Here are six on the list of the worlds worst habits:

  1. Slurping food and other noises stemming from eating.
  2. Failing to turn off cell phones in a movie.
  3. Not picking up dog poop when walking the dog.
  4. Driving slow in the fast lane on the freeway.
  5. Using your cell phone at the dinner table.
  6. Clearing your throat in public.

What kinds of annoyances drive you up the wall?

6 Tips To Help An Annoying Person

The following 6 points will not only help you to stop being annoying to others but will open the door to more quality friendships:

1. Stay humble and teachable. No one likes bragging and arrogance. Check your ego by omitting the word "I" as much as possible especially when you should be listening to another person.

2. Watch your tone of voice. You don't want to come off as cranky or condescending. Keep your voice warm using medium tones. Avoid screeching and loud talking.

3. Avoid constant complaining. Everyone has problems of one kind or another. We benefit from friendships that lift us up not bring us down. Control your urge to complain. And put a lid on gossiping.

4. Be completely responsible for your actions. Stop blaming others for your behavior and circumstances. Be responsible and change your thinking as well as your attitude.

5. Exhibit Compassion and Sympathy. Show understanding and kindness. Learn to become a better listener to convey support.

6. You cannot change other people. Accept this fact in all relationships. They are what they are and you are what you are. If a person has a desire to change - they will without your help.

Enlightening With Humor

A Quick Review and Pep Talk

To all of you who were confident and secure that this article couldn't apply to you, but humored me anyhow by being here, I am most grateful. You have read and reached the conclusion for which I toast to you.

I suggest to all readers who earnestly have a desire to improve their relationships, to return and review the steps listed above. When you have given more to develop your character, you are able to give more to others.

It may be helpful to share your goal with a friend who will help you. No one achieves success alone. Even Columbus didn't discover the New World on his own. And Einstein didn't develop the theory of relativity in a vacuum.

Dawson Trotman, author, and founder of the Navigators has this to say about getting started. "The greatest time wasted is the time getting started."

Questions & Answers

Question: I’m annoying as in I joke around too much because I feel as if everyone’s having a good time, but there’s a point where I need to stop joking and be more serious. I often forget that point and continue joking around while my friends slowly start to get annoyed at me. How do I stop this?

Answer: You've answered your own question! Tone down the joking. You really don't need the extra attention which is why you overdo it.

Question: How do I get my friend to talk to me?

Answer: Give your friend time. If this person is truly a friend, he/she will eventually come around.

Question: I'm annoying because I'm mentally ill, how do I prevent my mental illness from getting in the way of day-to-day life?

Answer: Mental illness can make you feel like you’re losing control of you. You don’t know who you truly are because this disease controls you and takes over your emotions, therefore it's important to know how to care for all aspects of your life. Sharing your feelings, frustrations, and experiences with a qualified therapist can be helpful. Be patient with yourself, find an activity you really like, and surround yourself with loving people.

Question: I can be a bit impulsive sometimes and that causes me to speak my mind, but it comes out wrong and people get the wrong message. How do I fix my impulsive speech?

Answer: I commend you for sharing this question. There are many reasons that others may interpret what you say wrongly. Sometimes, others are simply distracted if their mind wanders. Here are possibly other reasons:

1. Make sure you have their complete attention before speaking.

2. Sometimes others are strong-willed and unable to be open to another viewpoint.

3. Maybe the person is fatigued, both mentally and physically.

4. They could be emotionally upset.

5. Try making eye contact.

6. Avoid interrupting.

7. Be a better listener.

Question: Everyone in my class calls me annoying. What shall I do?

Answer: Most of us can be annoying at one time or the other. Maybe it's time to self-evaluate. Try adjusting the way you interact with the people around you. Pay close attention to the way you speak to people. Be a good listener by listening more and talk less. I know you can make these changes and it will pay off!

Question: Is texting someone too much annoying?

Answer: It depends on the person as well as how many times you text this person. It also depends on plain good manners for texting. Words can be misinterpreted, messages can be incomplete and above all avoid being long-winded. You can also simply ask the person if you are overdoing it.

Question: I sometimes get too angry at little things and this is what annoys my friends. Is there a way I can calm myself down and not get frustrated easily?

Answer: This is a problem for many people, so you have plenty of company. However, anger can be controlled and when it is, we become free. I read a book years ago by Ruiz and learned something that literally changed my life. "Never take anything personally." If you work on this, you will live a happier existence. In the words of Don Miguel Ruiz, "“Nothing other people do is because of you. It’s because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. when we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, Keep calm by taking three deep breaths letting the air out slowly. Visualize yourself calm in a beautiful setting. Clear the inner dialogue in your head.

Question: How can I be cool without being annoying?

Answer: In my opinion, we are the coolest when we are ourselves. Being honest, kind and helpful to others is never annoying Always live in such a way that others will respect you. Do more listening and less talking.

Question: What do I do if my annoyance is a cause of something like Asperger’s syndrome?

Answer: Respecting yourself is the first order of business. The difficulty in expressing emotions in a way that people outside the autistic spectrum can understand isn't always easy and can lead to ongoing challenges in personal relationships, both big and small. Those that get annoyed with you, need to learn all they can about AS. They should become more informed about what a person with Asperger's is going through. Others may need to alter their own behavior. If they can't do this and they still get annoyed with you, look elsewhere for friends. There are plenty of loving, kind and understanding people who will not get annoyed.

© 2013 Audrey Hunt

Comments

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on July 05, 2020:

katherine

You've already taken the first step which is: You can't change what you don't acknowledge. The best thing to learn is to be a good listener and try not to interrupt. It takes practice, but its worth it. So work on this first. You're not an awful person or you wouldn't have the desire to change.

katherine on June 30, 2020:

sometimes I subconsciously change my voice (like in a weird way) don't listen to my friends, and I'm a little over impulsive and obnoxious, and when I try and comfort my friends it always comes out wrong - I just feel like an awful person and I wanna know how to stop - any tips?

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 28, 2017:

Yves

I'm with you, my friend, on the gum popping craze. Drives me up the wall. I've even moved to another seat in the movie theater because of this annoying sound.

Yves on April 26, 2017:

The gun-smacking thing drives me insane. I honestly cannot bear it. I've even tried to bring the subject up in a nice way to those who smack and pop their gum, but to no avail. They just give me the death stare and keep popping away.

I used to be the best listener in the world, but now I might have turned into a "me" person. Hmmm. I'll have to check with someone who has talent for constructive criticism.

Great job with this article.

Eddie on April 14, 2017:

I will agree that negative people are really annoying. My mom is the most negative person I have ever met. According to her 100% of the people out there are always out to get you, or anything anyone does it to screw your life up. She also tries to control everything that happens in my life and my sisters life, I am 25 and my sister is 27.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on November 14, 2014:

poetryman6969

Yes - our entire country would be better off starting with congress. :)

poetryman6969 on November 14, 2014:

Imagine if they taught this in school rather than trying to get kids to express the most perverse, provocative or selfish thing they can think of.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 21, 2013:

Gypsy Willow - My thoughts exactly. Thanks so much!

Gypsy Willow from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand on April 21, 2013:

Makes you stop and think and indulge in a little of examination. I shall try harder! Thanks

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 19, 2013:

janshares - Thank you so much for stopping by. I thank you and will check out your hub on annoying people. Thanks again!

Janis Leslie Evans from Washington, DC on April 19, 2013:

Great hub, good advice. I stopped by in celebration of your 400,000 views. Glad I did. I wrote a hub about annoying people, too. Up and useful.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 17, 2013:

Hello Bishop55 -

Thanks for reading my hub and taking the time to give me a positive comment.

Rebecca from USA on April 16, 2013:

Nice hub!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 16, 2013:

Hi Mekenzie -

I just love reading your comments. I guess what I've learned about my eagerness to "brag" about my son when he's with friends is that it's embarrassing for him. Well, I have learned a lesson and will be more careful in the future. :)

Thank you so very much for featuring this hub on your FB Writers Page and I'm so excited. Off to take a look at it right now. Thank you for the great votes! Hugs for you.

Susan Ream from Michigan on April 16, 2013:

Hi coach, This is an amazing hub. I think it's so funny how you tried to build your son up in front of his girl and ended up getting glared at. Who hasn't done something ... with the best intentions ... only to find out it annoyed the person you tried to help out?

The first clue for me that someone is being annoyed is when they look away, bore a hole into you with their eyes (your son) or stop listening. It's amazing to me how some people seem clueless and continue on talking endlessly about themselves etc. with no thought about how they are being perceived.

This is great information and if people take it to heart .. they can become better communicators and friends.

Voted Up +++ and will feature this hub on my FB Writers Page tomorrow (see fb icon on my profile page)

Hugs and Blessings!

Mekenzie

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 14, 2013:

KoffeeKlatch Gals -

Yes, indeed - annoying others is part of life. I've often asked myself how many times I've annoyed others without being aware of it. Food for thought.

Susan Hazelton from Sunny Florida on April 14, 2013:

I can't stand gum popping and slurping. Of course, I know I do things that annoys other people. Oh well, I guess that's life.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 06, 2013:

RavenBiker - Love your comments and laughed out loud as I read about "the slurper." And I totally agree with your thoughts about "double dipping." Ewww! Thanks!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 04, 2013:

torrilynn - You have a good point. It seems like I'm always working on stopping an annoying habit. Thanks for the vote up!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 04, 2013:

Barbara Kay - Thanks for enjoying my hub. You made my day!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

Cathleena - I laughed so hard at the "Let me call you sweetheart" while your kids are on the phone. Hahaha!

Being a good listener seems to be an ongoing progress. I have to remind myself to reflect back to the person talking to me what they have said before I chime in with my own wizardly comments. Thanks my friend.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

Hi fpherj48 - Well, I'm sitting here with a huge piece of Bazooka Bubble Gum in my mouth and blowing bubbles. And I have to tell you - I'm 20 years younger! Love and hugs!!!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

Hi Fossillady - Wonderful comments! It's not always easy to be considerate - especially when we are being annoyed. :) I, too have a few choice memories of my boys intentionally doing things to annoy me. Today, they are memories of joy. Thanks Kathy!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

vibesites - Great comments concerning raising the voice. This is one I worked on for a long time and I'm happy to say I've pretty much conquered. Thanks so much!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

Marcoujor - Yes, the gum thing really bothers me. You handle the situation so well. Thanks, Maria for the generous vote up and UABI. I know your year will be filled with happiness and love because that's what you are!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

"Hyphenbird - I love your comments! Your friend needs some lessons in "how to be a good listener." She most likely doesn't have a clue that she isn't fully listening to you. And thank you for liking my Clancey. Hugs to you, Brenda, my friend.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

teaches12345 - Thanks for being here and for your helpful comments. Really appreciate your support.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

ImKarn23 - Gee, thank you pretty one. I sometimes wonder about myself. How many annoying habits do I have that

I'm not even aware of??? And oh yes...I do remember the squeaky wheel thing :) You're kind to vote up across and sharing. Big hugs!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

mcbirdbks - Awwww - thanks Mike. Clancey was one of a kind. He taught me well :)

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 03, 2013:

cclitgirl - Hahahaha! Very amused at your EEWWWWW. Thanks so much!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 02, 2013:

Marcy - OMG - I know exactly what you mean! I went through that too (but not for long:) That kind of behavior literally makes me sick. Hello??

Thanks my friend!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 26, 2013:

Dear Amy ~ you are such a love. Like you said, we are all different. I for one am glad for that. I wish that nothing would bother me, but some things do annoy me...so....

But you, sweet Amy are a treasure to behold. And I love you too, my friend and thank you for always supporting me. Hugs

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 25, 2013:

Sunshine625 - Do you mean to tell me that Santa dropped Johnny off at YOUR house? Well! So much for being a good girl all last year. Humph!

Now what?

Oh - just got a good idea. Recycling is in right?

So when you're through with him...

And just so you know - Adding one more major annoyance. Ready? Ok.

When a friend (Sunshine625) steals JD, dream man, from vocaloach. Now, that's annoying!!!

RavenBiker from Pittsburgh, PA. on February 23, 2013:

Slurpping/ I HATE SLURPPING!

There's an old guy who comes into my favorite coffee shop and slurps his coffee ---slurp, slurp, slup! ---always in threes. I just wanna backand him in the mouth. Its only good about it that he drinks one mug of coffee and within five-ten minutes and leaves.

DOUBLE DIPPING when others are sharing a dip. A friend of mine was called out on it. He continues to do this thinking there's nothing wrong with it ----and he gets offended when others think it is! I just don't eat dip with him anymore.

Truth is, I know I can be annoying sometimes and would rather be told about it than not. But I have found pointing out others' annoying attributes is in itself annoying to them.

torrilynn on February 23, 2013:

vocalcoach, really nice hub that you have here about annoying friends. i guess realizing when your friend says don't do something and you keep doing it really will make someone annoyed of you and will always put that impression into their minds of how annoying you are. thanks. voted up.

Barbara Badder from USA on February 22, 2013:

Interesting writing, I enjoyed it. I caught a few faults that I might have. Thanks for the reminder. They are good habits if you'd like to get rid of someone to try too.

Marcy Goodfleisch from Planet Earth on February 22, 2013:

Oh, I wish I had had this a few years ago when someone tried to, um, become 'part of my life forever.' If you get my drift. The gum chewing was the least of it - spitting in public, snorting rather than blowing the nose, on and on. YUCK! And then they want to know what they did wrong. As though I didn't point it out to begin with.

Rosemary Sadler from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand on February 21, 2013:

This makes me think about what I do that must annoy others, I must admit that I do but-in. so often the person talking moves onto another subject without pause and the chance to say what I wanted to add is past, I hate that. Lol. But I will make a concerted effort from now on :))

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 07, 2013:

Oh, how I love your great comments. " Sometimes people just like to vent and all they need is a friend to listen." This is one of the best lessons we can learn. ( I'm constantly working on being a good listener.)

Our ego sometimes gets in the way and instead of hearing what the other person is saying, we rehearse our answer then blurt it out.

Thanks so much for your contribution!

DREAM ON on February 06, 2013:

Once I was so annoyed at a friend because of the things he did I went on and on telling my wife.My wife listened carefully and went to talk and I had more to say.Then she went to talk again and I continued on non stop.She said stop!You are doing the same thing that your friend did that annoyed you so much.I thought long and hard and she was right.Some how we want to hear ourself talk and don't stop to listen.So now I try to see how many other people annoy others and don't know it.My list is starting to look like the National Debt.When I want to say something I wait and say it to myself and then listen more and wait and wait.Then see if they ask me for any help.Sometimes people just like to vent and all they need is a friend to listen.(lol) Loved your hub.Very helpful and true.So I learned how to Zip it and listen.I find if I get annnoyed I look closely to make sure I am not looking in the mirror at me again.Have a great day.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 28, 2013:

tlpoague - Wonderful comments! I'm off to Lowe's to stock up on ductape :) Thanks kindly for sharing your thoughts. As for my date with the iron-clad monkey - I wrote a brief synopsis about it on my reply to drbj's comments. Check it out.

WillStarr - I'm still chuckling over your brilliant but very funny comments. Speaking of brilliant, just read your latest hub and loved the surprise ending! Thanks, my friend.

rajan - I have to agree with you. My biggest pet peeve is a poor listener. Especially when it's a close family member. Regardless of how many people try to hint to her that she could use a course in being a good listener - she just doesn't get it.

Thanks for being here and the generous votes and sharing!

DDE - Thank you for noticing - it took a long time for me to learn how important it is to keep the reader involved and stay with me as I write.

Your comment is a huge compliment and tells me I'm finally "getting it." Thanks so much for this!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 28, 2013:

drbj - Well you can forward this hub on to Congress if you like :) As for the tuxedo-clad monkey - A group of college students enrolled in my music theory class decided to play a practical joke on me.

They set me up with a blind date that to my knowledge was a movie star. I had a manicure, pedicure, my hair done and spent most of my vacation money on a dress and shoes with all the accessories.

The stretch limo pulled up to my front door and the driver led me to the back of the limo where my date along with the college students were waiting.

And there he was - eagerly waiting for me - my handsome blind date - a monkey dressed in tie and tails with a "high top satin hat."

The monkey sported a huge smile, gums and all, and handed me a bouquet of long stem velvet-like red roses along with a box of imported german chocolates.

The next morning the headlines were glowing, " College Teacher Dates Famous Monkey - (Time to Raise Teachers' Salary." :)

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 28, 2013:

ishwaryaa22 - Making a choice to drop those toxic people is the best thing to do. They "suck" the energy right out of you with negative thinking.

I'm so pleased that you liked my hub and appreciate the great votes and sharing. Have a wonderful day and here's a hug!

Dear Eddy ~ I love your sweet comments. This was a difficult hub to write as I am not one to get annoyed myself. It took some time-consuming research to locate these annoyance's. I kept asking myself, "Gee, do I do these things without realizing it?"

Thank you dear one for visiting and voting. Here's to another fabulous year on hubpages!

shiningirisheyes - Lawrence Welk music? HAHAHAHA!!! Wish I could have been there to see the look on your nephews face :) Fantastic move! (still laughing myself silly.) Love it - thanks for sharing!

Cathleena Beams from Tennessee on January 27, 2013:

This was fun to read - I know at times I have annoyed others without intending to. Of course, with my kids, at times as they were growing up I annoyed them because I wanted to. Just couldn't resist singing "Let me call you Sweetheart" while they were talking on the phone with their girlfriends. Interrupting is something that I have to be careful not to do - sometimes I catch myself doing this and stop myself mid-sentence to let the other person finish what they were saying first. I also am trying to be a better listener and give my full attention when someone is talking instead of trying to listen with just half an ear.

Suzie from Carson City on January 08, 2013:

C'mon ladies! Lighten up on the GUM issue! Maybe we musn't chomp in public....OK, I'll give you that!........But, wanna feel YOUNG? Just chew on a massive piece of BAZOOKA Bubble Gum and blow bubbles! It's fun. Gum is also good if you're kicking the smoking habit.....freshening one's mouth, exercising one's facial muscles, discussing "boys" with teenagers, and, playing the role of a tough city girl......Know what I mean? Relax....Have a piece of JUICY FRUIT! You must have seen, "Cuckoo's Nest!" Love, GABBY

Kathi from Saugatuck Michigan on January 08, 2013:

Audrey, you are such a sweetheart. I think you put the head on the nail when you mentioned being considerate of others!... Sometimes I think the relationship between sons and mothers bears annoyance in and of itself. When my oldest son was younger, he used to purposely do things just to annoy me and was glad to confess it! LOL! Pay backs can be so much fun as long as they are all in good fun!

vibesites from United States on January 08, 2013:

Sometimes it's really tempting to raise your voice and argue just to prove your point and making others in the wrong. I know all of us are guilty of that. But of course sometimes we should keep quiet and let others win, even if they're wrong. That's the mark of the mature person. Thanks for your tips. Voted up. :)

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on January 07, 2013:

Audrey,

This is wonderful... Seemingly simple guidelines, yet so often dismissed today in all generations. I have to admit I feel gum, for the most part, should be outlawed. I have actually handed interview candidates a tissue before I began and said "excuse me" as sweetly as possible.

Voted UP and UABI. Happy New Year. Love, Maria

Brenda Barnes from America-Broken But Still Beautiful on January 07, 2013:

You pretty much covered it all my friend. I truly strive to give grace to everyone. Sometimes though, people just need to learn some manners! I have a lovely friend that I love very much who annoys me. She constantly interrupts me when I talk asking any question that pops into her head. I think sometimes that she is not really listening. Also I get annoyed when someone is on the phone with me and hangs up to answer the other caller. Grrr....that just told me I am unimportant to them!

PS-I adore your beautiful Clancy.

Dianna Mendez on January 07, 2013:

Being yourself is important but also knowing what is proper manners in social settings helps. I like your suggestions to listen and to avoid negativity -- two things that are key when conversing with others.

Karen Silverman on January 07, 2013:

Adorable son, adorable dog - adorable hub!

Great advice on how to NOT be annoying..Personally, i found it to be a life lesson that takes a lifetime to perfect..lol..

remember - the squeaky wheel gets the oil...haha..

(squeak, squeak...hope i haven't 'crossed the line'..)

lol..

up, across and sharing forward...xx

mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on January 06, 2013:

Oy vey, do I have a lot of work to do. Such sound advice. Clancey is the cutest thing takes top prizes in doggie heaven for sure.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on January 06, 2013:

What a neat hub. I don't like the gum chewing thing, either. Ya know, I never thought much about the 'nasal passages' thing, but now that you mention it, EEWWWW! Hehe. Good points!

Amy Becherer from St. Louis, MO on January 06, 2013:

Your thoughtful response to me, vocalcoach, got me thinking again. Your provocative, diplomatic yet realistic article highlights an underpinning of the biggest problem I see in the world today, that being, the inability to accept each other's differences. We see it everyday at the top levels of leadership in this country. The most contentious argument of our days is broadcast on the news daily, our inability to compromise. I believe the points you outline here illustrate that we are our own worst enemy. I, myself, have the "annoying" propensity for being serious to a fault. My sense of humor needs an overhaul. I am continually struck by the fact that when my friend in N. Carolina and I talk daily, we can be having a heated discussion on the wrongs (as we see them) in the world when she says something on point, but hilarious. When I regain my composure from uncontrolled laughter, I feel a million times better, more balanced, cleaner. As I read the comments from each of your intelligent, lovely readers, I see many different personalities, each with something fresh to bring to the table. Thank you, vocalcoach, for making me take a good look at all the good in all our differences. What might seem annoying initially, can be a great blessing ultimately. You truly are brilliant, vocalcoach. I love you, my friend.

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on January 06, 2013:

I have a tendency to annoy and be annoyed. Yet, no one is perfect and the gift (or curse) of annoyance might come natural. I've learned to laugh it off.

By the way did Santa ever bring you Johnny Depp? Probably not because I got him. Unless he was cloned ;)

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 06, 2013:

Amazing how you can keep your reader going thanks for this hub, voted up!!

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on January 06, 2013:

Audrey, this is a very useful list of annoying things that are a put off for me. Braggarts, those who interrupt and bad listeners annoy me the most.

Voted this hub up/useful/interesting/awesome and sharing it and pinning too.

WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on January 05, 2013:

Great advice, however, I like to annoy, and I'm quite good at it.

On second thought, I used to have friends.

And family.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 05, 2013:

Good morning Amy! How's my favorite person on HP:) Thank you so much for your comments. This hub was challenging because I wanted to get my point across without stepping on any toes. But what is - is. I had to be truthful.

While reading your comments I found myself "lifted up" because you confirmed that my hub was helpful and beyond that, even brilliant. Wow. You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.

I especially like what you've said about this hub making you take a look at yourself introspectively rather than defensively. This is exactly what I was doing as I wrote this piece.

A million thanks dear Amy and I hope your New Year is everything you want it to be and more.

~ Audrey

Tammy from USA on January 05, 2013:

You have posted some wonderful and helpful tips here. At the moment all I can do is replay Gabby's comment in my head and think of a few others to add to it. I mean, what kind of a mother would I be if I didn't want to "help impress" my child's girl/boyfriend with a few of his/her wonderful traits? Ducktape is a wonderful thing to have. (Now I am going to be annoying...LOL!) My nephew was about 2 years old and loved to chat. He was chatting non-stop in Walmart one day when my hubby and I passed by some ducktape. The hubby needed it for something and had walked right by it. As I was pointing out where it was, my nephew, without pausing his chatter for a breath, said... "Ya ain't ducktaping my mouth shut." It just so happened that a little elderly lady was walking by. If she could have shot flames with her eyes, I would have been one fire. She didn't even stick around long enough for me to explain that it was my hubby that needed it for a project, not me muzzling the chatting kid. (I would love to read about your double date with a monkey.)

I agree with drbj, this hub needs to be front page news! Voted up and need to apply! Thanks!

drbj and sherry from south Florida on January 05, 2013:

These are wonderful, realistic tips, Audrey, to help folks stop annoying others. I vote for making this hub available to every youngster, teenager and member of Congress immediately.

Now I want to learn more about your double-date with a tuxedo-clad monkey. I sense an intriguing story there, m'dear.

Shining Irish Eyes from Upstate, New York on January 05, 2013:

Oh how funny! I so enjoyed this humorous write and my sympathies to your son (not really!)

My nephew asked me to give him and his friends a ride to the school dance. I borrowed one of Mom's Lawrence Welk CD's and once they all piled into my truck, I blasted the music. I though my nephew would die of embarrassment.

Eiddwen from Wales on January 05, 2013:

Oh yes Audrey a wonderful hub and I have to agree with Sunnie in that I am usually more critical of myself than others.

Maybe a little too critical at times.

This hub so interesting and also fun. Here's to so many more during this brand new year.

I vote up,across and share all around.

Eddy.

Ishwaryaa Dhandapani from Chennai, India on January 04, 2013:

An engaging hub with a list of helpful and valid points! I am not much annoying to my friends & their friends but I do have a few annoying former friends (so-called toxic friends) and I avoided them. I prefer to be surrounded by proper and positive friends. Once again, a sensible hub! Well-done!

Happy New Year to you & your loved ones!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Interesting. Voted up & shared

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 04, 2013:

Ohhhhhhhhhh Gabby - You've got to come and pick me up off the floor. I haven't laughed this much since I double dated with a monkey in a tux! True story. OMG as I read your timely advice " next time he brings a girl home, tell her about how he used to pull his diaper off in the front yard and water the shrubs!" I fell off my chair!

But when I came to the part about " Tell her to take some parenting classes asap. That's where they teach you how to use duct tape on your kids without leaving any marks." - I had to leave my computer and take a break!

You are marvelous. A natural. Why aren't you on television doing stand-up? I just realized why I like you so much. Humour is #1 on my list. All my friends are just a riot. But not one of them compare to you. I love it! You just keep on chewing and snaping that gum and while you do that, I'll hop on over to read something wonderful by you.

Suzie from Carson City on January 04, 2013:

Dear Audrey.......Paula's not here this evening. She's out annoying her friends. The woman is a pro!

I know it's annoying to read the emails of others, but I don't adhere to that damned political correctness. You are in luck. Not everyone gets unsolicited advice from the famous Gabby Van Gibberish!

As for your son.....now what the heck is his problem? A Mom has a right to brag about her perfect son. Tell you what, next time he brings a girl home, tell her about how he used to pull his diaper off in the front yard and water the shrubs! See how he likes that! Darn kids!

And about that Mom who gets so tired of screaming kids, she goes crazy! Ha!....She was crazy a long time ago, or she never would have had any noisy, brats!....Tell her to take some parenting classes asap. That's where they teach you how to use duct tape on your kids without leaving any marks.

BTW, I chew gum and snap it all the time. Most people are glad I do. At least when I'm chewing, I'm not talking!.....Have a nice day, dearie

Sincerely, GABBY

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 04, 2013:

Oh, Angela! I love, love, love your prayer. I'm still laughing so hard my tummy hurts:) From now on, this is my daily prayer as well. You're a clever gal and I'm hopping over to see what else you have to say by reading one of your hubs.

Stay close - Audrey

Amy Becherer from St. Louis, MO on January 04, 2013:

I sure know what annoys me about other people. This fantastic realistic article made me think about my own annoying habits. Thank you, vocalcoach, for broaching a touchy subject objectively and realistically to make me take a look at myself introspectively rather than defensively. Brilliantly done.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 04, 2013:

lovedoctor926 - What a good point you've made. I just never thought about it like this. (Makes me feel better.) This is one reason I like the comments section on hubpages. We can learn even more than we bargain for - like I have from you. A big thanks!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 04, 2013:

Bumpsysmum - Thanks for your comments. They add a nice touch to my hub. I'll come by and visit a hub or 2 of yours. :)

Good morning Sunnie - I enjoyed your comments very much. And yes, it's all fair game. Your children sound delightful. We can always count on them to "tell it like it is" :) I love it. Blessings to you dear Sunnie.

Bill - I have also dropped "friends" with the "all about me syndrome." I don't miss them at all. Like you, I have a close circle of friends that I wouldn't trade for a sack of gold. And my hubpage friends mean the world to me - you head the list. Hugs to you and Bev.

Angela Blair from Central Texas on January 04, 2013:

Excellent tips -- my daily prayer is: "Lord, on this beautiful day please put your arm around my shoulders and your hand over my big mouth." It's not the answer for all my mistakes but sure covers a lot of them! Totally enjoyable read -- well written. Best/Sis

lovedoctor926 on January 04, 2013:

Useful information and good tips.

It wouldn't have bothered me. You meant well. You are his mother, but you know how some women react and so your son probably felt not that your comment was inappropriate necessarily, but that it would probably bother his girlfriend.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 04, 2013:

I have actually dropped friends who suffered from the "it's all about me syndrome"....that's how much that one bothers me. Life is too short to surround myself with people who don't care about me from time to time, and it is too short to be surrounded by negative people too.

Now I have a close circle of friends who are truly friends, and what a joy that is.

Great hub my friend with some valuable lessons....have a wonderful weekend and thank you for your friendship.

bill

Sunnie Day on January 04, 2013:

Hello and good morning,

Wow...these were some great tips! I tend to be more critical of myself more than others...my children are pretty honest and when they start telling me..."mom...stop"...I kind of get the message what ever they are "moming" me about at the time...usually me telling old stories of when they were babies..haha since there is no longer girlfriends to impress but just wives...I think it is all fare game...:)

Have a blessed day, great hub!

Bumpsysmum from Cambridgeshire on January 04, 2013:

We all have quirks and foibles but some can be annoying. It only really becomes problematic when it's repeated over and over in a short space of time. A joke is funny but the same joke every morning for 10 years would be annoying.

Interesting Hub.