How to Deal With Problems
There's something all of us have in abundance—problems. No matter how hard you try, you're never really getting rid of them. At all times, you'll have some problem to worry about. It's hard to break it out to you, but problems are inevitable in our lives. They are meant to be there as they are responsible for making us what we become. They are like the ingredients, which make us as extraordinary as we could become. Given their everpresent nature, it becomes very essential to deal with them effectively so that they don't start dominating your life and chain you down. With the right perspective and the right approach to problems, you can turn things around. Afterall, the most successful person you can think of has also had countless problems to rise through.
This article is designed to help you with forming the right perspective towards problems so that instead of drowning you, your problems help you rise above.
I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then the problems fix themselves.— Louise L. Hay
How Do You View Your Problems?
Does fear grip you when you view your problems? Is it regret? It is important to ask yourself how you view your problem because the way you view it makes a lot of difference.
When you view your problem fearfully or when you let your strong emotions drive you, your problem-solving abilities or your ability to understand the situation begins fogging up and you might end up making things difficult for yourself or even fail to see and consider possible solutions.
How do I view my problems? I view them with a very welcoming mindset. That doesn't mean that I create problems for myself or that I don't take measures to avoid them. It just means that If an inevitable problem presents itself, I do not try to run away from it or try to control it in any way. I also do not spend time going through it over and over again. Problems are opportunities in disguise and facing them makes you stronger or improves you in one way or the other. Thus, I do tend to welcome them. For me, an incoming problem is another opportunity to grow or improve myself in a particular direction. Having such a welcoming mindset towards your problem is an essential prerequisite to growing through it.
How are you viewing your problems right now?
Are your problems causing you to panic? Are you worried?
What Do You Do After Encountering a Problem?
All of us have an incredible problem-solving machine and if you don't use yours to solve the problem at hand then you become a part of the problem. That impressive machine, that we all harbour, encased in our skulls—the brain, craves to solve problems and when it has none, or if we run from the ones we have, it ends up creating more. This whole process results in mounting problems and ends up consuming the individual or driving him to turn to extreme solutions. The best use of this machine is to keep solving the problems, something which it also rewards you in its own biochemical ways. Problems are thus meant to be solved.
I've been using the term 'problems' throughout this article, which is rather a broader term to include all sorts of problems—family, business related, relationships, financial. No matter what kind of problem you have, the approach to solving it or growing out of it is the same—by focusing not on the problem but on the solution.
How to Focus on the Solution Instead of the Problem?
As stated earlier, it is essential to hold a welcoming mindset towards your problems and what that does is, makes the 'focusing-on-the-solution' part a lot easier than usual. It is important that you stay calm and maintain your composure while dealing with your problem. Of course, due to the nature of the problem, that could become quite challenging but the key here is to let go of what has happened.
When you are facing an issue, let me assume a trivial example that you have failed a test. Then the key here is to let go of everything. It means that you don't have to keep feeling bad about failing your test. You don't have to keep regretting your certain decisions which were responsible for your failure. You don't have to keep feeling bad about what has happened. When something has happened, go over that situation again, identify what went wrong and take the lesson it has to offer and after that's done, let it all go. Whatever that has happened, has happened. It is in past now. Continuously thinking about it won't change anything. You won't get any closer to a solution if you keep thinking about all the 'what-ifs'. What will that regret, feeling bad and all of that unnecessary thinking do? It won't help you with the solution, but it will definitely get you stressed and worked up. It will affect you negatively.
Instead of that, welcome your situation. Okay, you failed a test. Skip the 'thinking-about-the-problem' part and think about what you can do now to improve the situation. What can you do now? You can go over the questions you couldn't solve and practice them. You can also begin to study for the upcoming test. It's okay what has happened but it is not okay to let it happen again and do nothing about it. In this example, your failure at this test can drive you to excel at the next one.
Whenever you face a problem, and find yourself worried or stressed due to it, ask yourself this question: Will me worrying about it solve anything? If you answer in negative then ask yourself again: What should I do now to improve this situation?
It is okay if you can't think of any immediate action to improve your situation but it is better than affecting yourself due to it. If the problem is already worse then letting it affect you in the way it does makes it seem a several-fold worse than it already is. When that happens, you might fail to see possible ways out altogether and be consumed due to it.
All problems, regardless of their nature are temporary and their will, at some point in time, be a solution to it which you will only realise it sooner if you maintain your composure and don't fall apart due to your problem. So, if you don't see any way out right now, do not begin to worry about your problem and make it any worse but continue ahead and keep asking yourself: What can I do now to improve this situation?
Either you dominate your problems or let your problems dominate you.— Trihorus
Pause for a moment and think about your problem now.
What are you thinking?
How Does This Perspective Help You in the Long Run?
When you begin viewing your problems as opportunities for your own growth, that translates to you quickly dealing with your problems, one after the other. You begin to cultivate a positive mindset towards your problems, your life and amplify your personal strength. This mindset that you cultivate will make you more receptive to the learning that accompanies every problem which again results in more growth. This is the correct way of dealing with your problems because problems aren't there in your life to push you down or to discourage you, they are there to encourage you and to bring the best out of you. Let your problems shape you into a better and a more successful person than you already are.
© 2018 Trihorus