How to Become a Popular Adult
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First Take Care of Yourself
Have you ever had someone who smiled, walked over to introduce himself to you, and then you caught a nose full of his bad breath? It didn't matter that he was incredibly nice, because all you could think about was getting away from the smell of his breath.
How you first present yourself to someone is incredibly important if you want to become popular. You need to keep up with your personal hygiene. Keep clean, your hair and clothes washed, avoid body odor, keep your teeth brushed, and carry breath mints with you at all times. It does not matter how friendly you are to other people if they find your bodily odor offensive.
Have you ever started to talk to someone and noticed that they were looking not at you but at something else in the room? How did that make you feel? Uncomfortable? Unimportant? Did you feel as though the other person wanted to be somewhere else?
Why put other people through that same, awful feeling? When you approach someone, make eye contact. Smile. When someone talks to you, look at them, and show them that you care about what they are saying.
So Happy to See You
Smile with your mouth and smile with your eyes. People want to be noticed and liked, the same as you do. When you meet someone for the first time or the hundredth time, always show them that you are genuinely happy to see them. Shake hands, give a gentle pat on the shoulder, and ask them how they are doing.
I Am Interested In What You Say
I made eye contact with you. I smiled, shook your hand, and introduced myself. Now I want to know more about you. How do you feel today? Are you enjoying yourself? I heard you just got back from vacation. Where did you go? Was it a fun stay? How are your children? Are they ready to go back to school after their summer vacation?
People love to talk about themselves, their family and children, and they want to share what they have experienced and learned. If you want to be popular, you will need to learn how to listen to people. Ask questions, don't interrupt a person while they are talking, and keep up the eye contact.
When you meet someone new, remember to ask their name and then repeat that name to yourself several more times until you have it memorized. Make certain to use that person's name at least once while talking to her or him. For example, you might say, "So, Mandy, how are you enjoying the picnic?"
Everyone wants to be remembered and it can be embarrassing to forget someone's name. If you do see someone whose name you can't remember, discretely ask another person for the name. If that's not possible, you can try listening to see if someone else addresses that person by her or his name. If worst comes to worst and you must address that person, bring up something you remember about that person, such as, "Hi! We spoke at the company picnic last week. I remember you telling me about your new puppy, but, for the life of me, I cannot remember your name at the moment." Apologize for your forgetfulness.
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Be Nice, No Gossip
Never partake in gossip. If someone begins to gossip to you, direct their attention to the present. An example of this would be to say: "I don't know anything about that, but I would love to find out what these flowers are. Do you know what kind of flowers these are?"
How Can I Help You
Popular people offer their help and are genuine with their offer. If you are invited to a party, offer to bring something. After having dinner at someone's home, help out with the cleanup. When someone is sick, bring them a container of homemade soup. Doing little things for a person goes a long way in showing them that you are a genuine and caring individual - all the traits of a person whom other people want to know.