Description of what assertiveness is, explanation of how assertiveness is helpful, and examples of using "I" statements to improve assertiveness. Assertiveness tips are also included.
Have you felt it? The struggle to find the perfect thing to say at work, a party, or other social gathering? Me too. That's why I'm sharing my strategy for talking to just about anyone--stress free.
Have you been told that you are rude? There are things you can do to change that perception. Read on.
50 deep questions and my answers to them. Great for inspiration or conversation starting. Use them on first dates, for getting to know coworkers, family reunions, and writing.
We've all met them. Everyone I've talked to knows someone who seemed great to begin with but turned out to be a drain. You find that you spend time supporting them but they don't give any support back. You want to end a conversation so you can...
Interpersonal skills – also called people skills or social skills – are not just about communication skills, but also touch on our ability to make decisions, solve problems and manage stress.
Proper bathroom behavior at your home may be optional, but it should be mandatory in public. Learn all about how to respect your stallmates, clean up after yourself, be polite, and more!
Boundaries are safety zones we place around ourselves and family. They let us form healthy relationships and permit others to understand how they should behave.
Undermining can be very subtle and sometimes hard to spot at first, but if you are being targeted, you will soon start to see a pattern.
Conversation is one of the most underappreciated skills today. But with these 10 ways to have a better conversation, you'll be sure to make a good impression.
Are you searching for good comebacks and funny insults? If you are, then your search ends here! This list is all you need to roast anyone who's daring enough to clash words with you.
We may know the truth, but we need white lies to have something to live by, because without them life would just lose its meaning--- even that "meaning" being a part of that white lying.
If you're tired of using the expression 'good luck' to wish someone some luck and fortune, then this list is for you! Listed here are more than a hundred alternative ways to express it.
Shyness spoils many days that should be fun, exciting and/or romantic. If you’re a guy or girl whose life is spoiled by shyness, here's some of my 'shyness remedies' to help you.
If you start every sentence with "look," offer to "educate" someone, describe anything and everything as "amazing," and use "literally" when you mean "figuratively," you're getting under people's skin, but they're too polite to mention it. Find out what ubiquitous words are most annoying and why.
When faced with the challenge of new faces in a new place, new military folk can cope better by just talking it out for entertainment.
Happy people are capable of changing the world for better. If you are unhappy with the way things are going for you, read on for insights on how to experience fulfillment from being yourself.
Take some cues from Jane Austen on how to overcome a bad first impression to find true love (or something...)
Do you dread being at a party and not being able to get enough dip on your chips or veggies? Do you try to wait until no one is about to quickly sneak in a 'double-dip?' You are not alone: the solution is at hand!
Let me ask you some questions. What would you feel if you have a lover who is closer to another person than you?
Are you a woman who is struggling to befriend other women? I may know why. This article offers relationship advice to women who wonder why other women don't seem to like them.
A comprehensive list that includes hundreds of different ways to say thank you for a better appreciation message and to truly show someone how grateful you are. You can find everything from formal ways to say thank you in a business email to funny thank you messages to write in a card.
Humility is more powerful than it seems. Read on for tips on how you can use this virtue to be a better and more-appreciated person.
You know that you should be happy for your friend, because she's found someone that she is happy to be with. But, she won't shut up about him! Read on for some practical advice.
Respect for women, great conversation, clean humor are some of the traits which make a good man. This inscription is dedicated to the few good men who fit the description.
Learn the psychology of rude behavior and read about 25 of the top rudest behaviors in the United States.
After taking a summer break from writing, I've returned with some interesting lessons learned and a better understanding of who I am.
Hatred. Disappointment. Rejection. Sadness. Anger. Trauma. Distress. Envy. Weakness. Defeat. Giving up. Revenge. Depression. Let down. Annoyed. Are you dealing with any of these feelings and emotions simply because someone is talking behind you back? It is time you stop. Here's a very helpful and no-nonsense insight into why people talk behind your back and what you can do about it.
Want to make someone talk? Here's the skinny on how to get even the most secretive types to spill the beans. Here are the top methods used by commoners and super-spies alike- from sex to torture!
When others seem cold and distant, we automatically assume that they do not like us or are angry with us. This may not be the case. Check out these three things that could be issues.
People who are highly opinionated are difficult to get along with. Learn how to overcome the frustration of dealing with these folks.
First, each woman empowers herself then reaches out for association with like-minded friends. They establish a group image which highlights these six supportive habits including respect for womanhood.
We've all been there. There's that one person who just gets under your skin. They walk into the room and you internally cringe. Maybe it's their voice, their jokes, or their mannerisms—whatever it may be that sets you off, here are some tips on how to deal with people you don't like.
Learn 5 things you can do to help your high-functioning autistic friends or family members feel accepted rather than just tolerated. Learn how people with Aspergers must accommodate other people.
What is passive aggressive behavior and how does it manifest in relationships? Examples to help identify if your partner is PA and what might help if they are.
Are you tired of saying "goodbye" the usual way? Well, congratulations! You're in good hands! This list contains over a hundred of funny, cool, and smart ways to say "goodbye!"
How do we establish sanctions in our personal space? How do we use distance to make our relationships safe and comfortable? Here are five essential characteristics that hold answers to such questions.
Is your new date a stalker? Video and quiz on how to recognize stalking behavior, whether it's insidious or over the top. Learn how to protect yourself.
Trust is such a basic ingredient for any relationship to work. I believe that all of us come to earth with some lessons to learn. We pick the lessons, we pick the players and the universe delivers the scenes and situations. When we have our trust broken, we go through the agony, despair and oscillate between tears and anger, wondering how you will ever be able to forgive and trust that person again...and that may be the very lesson you came here to learn.
It takes more than two ears to really listen when a friend or relative comes to you with a problem. Follow these three steps and watch the speaker transform from panicked to peaceful.
Ever wanted to make people think you're terribly smart, but don't want to go through the long, drawn-out effort of actually working on yourself intellectually? Here is the solution to your problem.
In my days, I’ve encountered many selfish, passive-aggressive, I-Own-The-World ego maniacs. They’ve been my friends, my boyfriends, my colleagues, and at one point in my life, I was the jerk!
Your eyes say more than your mouth when you learn to really listen. A good listener can help someone find the source of their pain without resorting to quick-fixes and platitudes.
Whether you're born with citizenship or earn it after immigration, there's more to being a Good Citizen than just having that legal piece of paper. It's about how you conduct yourself as a person, how you interact with your community and society,...
Understanding how and when to lie is a frequently neglected aspect of communication. To help you improve your ability to lie effectively, here are 3 essential rules.
If you don’t feel comfortable with eye contact or get confused about the fine points, you aren’t alone. Many people, young and old, struggle with how much eye contact is enough, and when to use it. The good news is that we can learn how to improve our skills.
This post discuses steps you can take to get that guy to stop flirting with you without creating a big scene.
Does it bother you that you care so much about what people think of you? Is it holding you back from making some bold decisions in your life? Here is how to get rid of this mental block.
Weddings are a huge opportunity for couples to pull together an amazing celebration for all of their friends and family. They usually choose their favorite colors, favorite foods, and even favorite...
Relationships are hard. Learning to deal with a significant other's words properly can save you a lot of hurt at the end of the day.
Learn ways to overcome the painful effects of negative accusations or statements made by judgmental people, bullies, and others. An exercise included to help make you feel better.
People want to talk, but they want to be asked. People want to hear others talk, but they do not want to ask. Good questions in a good conversation can be the tools to keep the conversation going.
Instead of asking "How are you?" or "What's up?", why not get a little creative in asking how people are doing? Well, it's either you come up with your own greetings or you pick some from this list. Enjoy!
Boundaries are walls we put up not out of fear, but out of necessity. Boundaries help us take back control of our lives and find our own path to happiness. Learn how to set boundaries in your life.
Healthy relationships thrive on appropriate conversation types. From the casual conversation to the cuddly conversation between lovers, this conversation guide encourages respect at every level.
With an emphasis on looks and superficial attractiveness in our culture, people tend to forget all that lies within a person. What connects us to someone goes deeper than what meets the eye.
Scientists are proving that as we give to others we live longer. Just imagine, by doing a good deed often, our life can be extended. Reach out to someone in need. Follow these easy tips for giving.
All of us lie sometimes, but how many of us feel guilty or wonder whether we did the right thing? Overall, most people agree that lying is a bad thing, but then again, who even decided what lying is? A little white lie is supposed to be okay,...
Vampires are all too real, but they aren't what you would expect. Emotional vampires are those toxic people who drain you emotionally. Protecting yourself from their emotional abuse can be difficult.
Anger is a powerful emotion that, if uncontrolled, it could lead our lives and cause chaos and destruction in our relations with others. Learn to control it by following these tips.
Saying no doesn't mean you're bad or selfish. Here's how you can effectively say no to others without feeling guilty about it.
Don't know what to write on a card as a 'bon voyage' message for a friend going on a holiday, a colleague going on a business trip, or someone who is moving abroad? Look here for some suggestions.
The definition of a nerd is not completely set in stone, but, you may be surprised as to what it really means to be a nerd. Find out how to tell if someone is a nerd and see where you stand on the scale from dweeb to nerd.
Tips for writing the perfect thank you note including when to send a note, why it’s important, how to express your thanks, why you are thankful, and tips for sending your regards.
Looking for a cool nickname? You've come to the best place! Over 1000 awesome nickname ideas for you and your friends!
This article is a joyful bundle of warm wishes, motivational morning quotes and poems that are a perfect complement to a beautiful morning.
More often than we'd like, we find ourselves in situations that our primitive, non-speaking ancestors would not have been prepared for; we find ourselves needing to communicate with another individual via the spoken word. Now, if you're anything...
Women bullies use what's known as relational aggression. Learn how to spot this and what to do when it happens.
Remembering names is a an important social skill. But a lot of people are lousy at it. Luckily, you can learn how to remember names and make a good impression.
If you are looking for funny comebacks and sarcastic responses to "I'm sorry" and other apologies, then you're in the right place!
Scripture gives clear instruction about how we should respond so that we are not overwhelmed when people criticize us.
A problem arises when you put someone on a pedestal - they have a tendency to fall off! Putting someone on a pedestal is not to be mistaken for having a high regard for another or admiring another's skills, attributes or abilities. When you put someone on a pedestal you are denying both yourself and the other an honest and sincere experiencing of each other.
The advantages of and practical steps of how to make someone "dead to you" so you can get on with your life and be happy.
Whether you are at a party, boardroom meeting, school classrooms or your college campus, here are tips and non-offensive ways to get out of unwanted conversations.
Asking someone a strange, weird or unusual question is one of the best ways to strike up a conversation and can start some of the most interesting discussions you've ever had.
Learn how to recognize which life problems are yours and which belong to others so that you can keep the relationships you have.
How do you know if you annoy your friends? Check out these tips and strategies for learning the sounds and behaviors that bother others.
We live in an aching world. Your compassion can heal pain and wipe away tears. Read on to know how you can reach out to others at a deeper level.
How to hug a girl? For a guy who is shy or a complete introvert, the thought of hugging a girl can make him nervous. Even the most casual forms of physical intimacy can become awkward for someone who is not too comfortable with the opposite sex. From cute and friendly hugs to warm and romantic ones - this post gives tips on how a guy can ease himself into becoming comfortable with hugging a girl whether she is a friend, crush or his first girlfriend.
We've all been there--those situations when a silly argument turns into a full-bown battle of the sexes. But it doesn't have to be that way. Communication can be affected or hindered because of the different ways men and women...
Has anyone apologized to you by saying, "I'm sorry you got upset by what I did?" Did you feel less than satisfied with that apology as though you were being blamed rather than the speaker taking responsibility? The truth is most of us stink at saying "I'm sorry," but we can do a whole lot better!
Do you find it so difficult to keep secrets? Well, you are not alone but you can always learn how to. But first, you have to find out the importance of keeping secrets...
Spending time in someone else’s home may seem like a no-brainer, but you might be surprised at just what can turn the host or hostess off.
What does it mean to be a good listener? Do you struggle connecting truthfully and deeply with others? This article is all about how you can improve in these areas.
Women happily log in to their social media accounts only to find a tsunami of their girlfriends looking beautiful, having fun, saving the world, and making perfect meals.
Tips to make people understand what they may be doing that turns others off and gets in the way of having great relationships.
The unfriendly woman describes herself as "shy", "not talkative", or "busy" depending on the occasion. Husband defends her with “She’s real sweet when you get to know her.” Do we want to know her?
Improve your conversational skills by discovering ten important social tips while learning pitfalls to avoid!
Attitude. That's what it takes to stop people from taking advantage of you and it can also help you make changes to improve your life.
After you eagerly say hello, your neighbor, in return, ignores you and just keeps walking on. You are positive she saw you. There are many reasons why your neighbors don't say hello.
A guide to the appropriate and inappropriate etiquette and attire, guidelines for funerals, condolence calls, viewings, wakes, and family visitations.
What does it really mean to love? Read on to expand your perception about the single greatest phenomenon in the world.
A discussion of how people can be influenced by their peers to make decisions based on emotion rather than facts.
There are those in this world that would rather lie for some reason. I'll talk about some experiences I have had with liars.
Do you let people walk all over you because you don't set boundaries? Find out solid advice from experts on how to make changes in your life so you feel empowered and get the respect you deserve.
How to recognize a non-apology when you're offered one, why you shouldn't feel obligated to accept it, and why this concept isn't at odds with spirituality or necessary for your peace of mind.
Why hide emotions? Well, the answer is quite simple. There are situations when emotions and thoughts are best kept hidden than displayed in front of people who may ridicule, mock, make fun of or even take advantage of your feelings. As usual, let's stay away from cliché words of advice like controlling temper, laughing it out and staying calm. This article pinpoints the very acts and precise things you can do to hide and control your emotions. Don't let anyone know what you are thinking about.
Is there such a thing as being 'too honest?' We bring up our children to believe lying is wrong and we should always tell the truth, but in reality sometimes I believe we can be 'too honest. This article explains why sometimes lying is okay.
People ask for advice, but many ignore the suggestions. They don't listen because they really just want verification of their faults rather than positive guidance, as I discuss in this article.
Passive aggressive behavior has many signs that we usually don't easily recognize. But it is important to understand what the passive aggressive person is doing so you avoid the traps they set for you
Listening is a powerful tool in our work and personal lives. The author realized what a horrible listener she had become, how it was hurting her relationships, and took steps to change it.
No one enjoys going to funerals, those somber occasions that remind us of our own mortality and uncertainty about the future. However, such gatherings can be even more distressing for those who weren't close to the deceased, such as a new...
The steps to being popular as an adult are different than those for a teenager. Here are several simple ways to show people that you are the caring individual that they have always wanted to befriend.
Being a good neighbor helps develop a sense of community. A good neighbor helps others and is respectful, and good neighbors enrich our lives.
Advice for people who keep wondering why it is that when they need meaningful help, nobody is ever around to provide it. Gives clues as to what individuals may be doing to cause this problem for themselves with the hopes that they'll make changes so that they can get the help they need.
Looking for places to meet people? This list of top 29 places to meet people takes a look into the real world dating scene.
Jealousy is a natural human emotion. The trick is the recognize it, accept it, and then utilize it to your advantage. Here's how...
Not everyone wants to be social butterfly, but learning to talk to different people is an important milestone in personal and professional development. This article will give you some ideas of things you can try to start building your social skills.
There are many ways to escape stress. Some take the form of defense mechanisms. Others use sports, hobbies, travel, reading, movies and a host of other activities for short-term release.
A guide to help people understand what happens at a standard funeral and how they should comport themselves if they attend.
In modern society we are distracted every moment. How do we regain the ability among all these distractions to focus on the person in front of us? After all, they should be the most important person
Are you a show off? Your annoying habit of constantly talking about yourself is just one thing that could make you look like one of those people who keep bragging about themselves. Know the typical signs and personality traits of a person who is a total show off. Do a little introspection to see if you are a show off too.
© Adrienne Manson All rights reserved permission must be granted by the author before any part of this article can be reproduced. Links may be used to link back to the article. We’ve all had run-ins with bossy and controlling personalities that...
Did you know there's such a thing as over communicating? How about under communicating? It turns out that each communication style has symptoms and consequences and I'm here to help you identify them.
Active listening is listening purposefully with a focus on understanding what the speaker wants to communicate. If you make the effort to learn active listening, all your relationships will benefit.
Those who engage in mind games use popular social networks to target the unsuspecting. This article discusses common scenarios and how to spot if someone is trying to undermine you.
Are you socially awkward? Does being around other people make you feel shy and uncomfortable, and you don't know why? Let's get to the root of the problem and see where you can find some confidence.
A young woman wrote in: "This girl is jealous of me. What can I do?" How to deal with jealous women, being picked on, and envy
Facebook, Twitter, and/or Instagram allow people to connect with others. There will always be someone you don't like. Regardless of the reason, you can't seem to stop visiting their page. Why is that?
Have you ever been called condescending and are wondering what it means? Read on to find out the signs of condescension, why you should avoid it, and what you can do about it.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying alone time, but sometimes it can impede our ability to find like-minded souls. Here are some ways to get more involved socially and find your tribe.
Do you struggle with keeping up your end of a conversation? Or maybe you're really good at talking, and not as good at listening. Improve every relationship by practicing active listening!
Domestic violence often starts with emotional abuse or verbal violence. This article explains how abusive tendencies develop and what can help break the cycle.
Critical people always ask for too much & rarely give anything in return. They feed off people’s energy. No matter what you say, downers will give you opinion, not caring whether you asked for it.
Here are seven practices church attenders commonly engage in that actually discourage rather than encouraging their pastors.
Maybe you’re meeting your future spouse, or perhaps a future best friend — no matter what the case is, getting to know you questions are a great way to start the conversation with someone new!
Anyone who has ever shared a random act of kindness knows just how much they change not only the person form whom they are performed, but the person performing them as well. Are you ready to take the Random Acts of Kindness Challenge to reach out to those around you to show them a better world? Your submissions can change your community and the world at large!
I'm a girl - so I should get along better with girls, right? Nope. Here are my reasons why I think so.
Sometimes learning from the difficult people in your life, rather than letting them stress you out, is the key to happiness. We all have control over how we feel, how we handle different situations, and what we let bother us. Use some of these tips to learn how to let go.
"Dance like no one is watching. Because they're not. They're checking their phones." I found this on Pinterest under the Humor section, but it spoke to me personally.
Regularly practicing the tips given below will arm you with the wit, sarcasm and everything that else that you need to learn how to develop a good sense of humor and use it to make someone laugh.
“Closing a call” is not a skill limited to sales. Learn how to politely end phone calls with customers, long-winded friends, or annoying ex-boyfriends.
Proven techniques you can use to keep from being victimized by people who try to make you behave in ways that make you uncomfortable or cause you to make decisions you know are bad for you.
Assertive communication can revolutionize your interactions with others, help you set boundaries, and lower your stress levels. Communicating assertively takes understanding and practice. Examples of assertiveness follow.
How can you tell if that cute guy is flirting with you, or just being his usual friendly self? Learn about some of the most common signs that someone is flirting with you.
It's annoying when people read over your shoulder. Find out how to stop them in their tracks so you can finish that novel in peace!
Aggression is action motivated by angry emotions or hostile intentions, inflicting pain, intimidation, or emotional suffering on others. Acts of aggression intentionally cause pain or harm to others.
We all deal with mean people in our lives. No matter how thick-skinned or self-confident we are, sometimes it's difficult to not let it affect us. This article explains why people often are that way.
A Guilt trip is a form of psychological abuse. Some psychologists may call it emotional manipulation. I call it bullying. There are those who are first rate experts at laying guilt trips and know exactly what technique to use to get their own way....
Being assertive doesn't mean learning to say "no". It means learning how to have your own needs met without being aggressive.
To many people, etiquette is nothing more than the art of trying to catch someone using the incorrect fork at a dinner party. They are mistaken, however, as etiquette has served as a code of social behavior for centuries, and a very useful one, at...
Respect and tolerance is part of my picture of a perfect Gentleman. Let's explore how one should treat others, and hopefully we will inspire the same behaviour in return.
A toxic person can blight your life if you let them. Simply recognizing their negative traits can often be enough to neutralize their effect. Read on to discover the 10 toxic types to avoid.
Written for those with empathic tendencies - guidance on when to hold on, when to let go, and how to loosen your grip so that love can flourish.
Energy Suckers can be anyone in your life. Friends, family, coworkers. They are the people that drain your energy when you are around them.
Do you feel the need to be liked? Paralyzed by fear of rejection? What is your true motivation for perfection? How can you better manage disappointments, criticisms, and unmet expectations?
Every girl has had a boyfriend that has been flirted with by her friend or someone else and you wish that you could stop itfrom happening. Well... there is a way to do it!
How can you care for someone who is grieving a major loss, especially when you aren't far removed from feelings of grief yourself? Here is some helpful advice for when you don't quite know what to say.
People don't have noses that magically grow when they lie but there might be other signs you can watch for. Learn the common behaviors that interrogators watch for and look for them the next time you think someone is lying to you.
Oftentimes, the small talk gets to be a bit old when we're wanting to get to the core of a person right off the bat. Generic questions tend to lead to generic, predictable responses. Mix things up a bit with this list.
Self-centered people are easy to spot by the behaviors they exhibit. Whether they are complaining, speeding, criticizing, or talking about themselves, they never fail to annoy the people around them.
Learn how to show your appreciation to people in a way that suits the occasion and avoids awkward situations.
Have you ever been on the stairs, but felt you might get knocked over because of some rude person? You are not alone! I hope to change one reader at a time with some advice on proper stairs etiquette.
Good deeds are very powerful, not only for the giver and the recipient of the favor, but also for society as a whole. This list explains the many benefits of performing good deeds, random acts of kindness and other types of generous favors.
In this culture of instant everything, people are impatient! People get all upset when their calls and texts aren't answered instantly. Consider these reasons why!
Learning how to co-exist with someone you don't like brings as many benefits to you as it does to the other person. It gives you the power to take control and prevent negativity in your space.
They want something from you or they simply want you. Problem is, you want nothing to do with them. Learn how to avoid these types or repel them...fast.
Do you feel guilty when you say "No" to someone? Do you say "Yes" to things you don't want to do because you don't want to let someone down? These tips on saying "No" without feeling guilty can help.
A brief article on how I personally dealt with downgrading I received from some malicious family members.
By following some simple rules of hand-me-down etiquette, you can navigate the complicated situation of giving and receiving hand-me-downs.
Ever wonder why you are the one cleaning up the mess left by someone else? Ever wonder why you can't rely on your partner, friend, or coworker because they never seem to fulfill their promises?
There are few people who seek out friction with others. Most of us, on some level, want others to feel comfortable around us, and if they don't, we look for ways to ease the tension. This isn't true of everyone, of course. We've all had colleagues who seem to relish opportunities to make others squirm in discomfort; we've also worked with people who distance themselves from the group to the point where it becomes almost uncomfortable for everyone else.
Being a new employee on the job can be a somewhat intimidating experience. Management and co-workers can do a lot to make new employees feel like part of the team.
Collaboration and compromise can be used to resolve conflicts by working toward mutual understanding, brainstorming, ranking solutions, and negotiating a solution.
Remember when you were single and you wanted someone to care about? Someone whose opinion really mattered to you. Whose approval you craved? Well, continual arguments are proof that you got what you wanted.